Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Another shooting

Another shooting happened again and no one in the media is able to ask the real questions: why is this young man so angry? And at whom is he really angry at? Because he was not allowed to freely express his anger at the people he is real angry at, probably his parents, he unconsciously took revenge on scapegoats by killing other people that had nothing to do with the causes of his rage. I don’t know if this young man was on medication, but does anyone remember the Virginia tech shooter, he had seen doctors and was taking medication, but the medication did not help him and his repressed rage eventually erupted like a volcano and killed other young people that had nothing to do with the roots of his rage. The doctors instead of giving him medication needed to help the young man put and feel his feelings in the right context, but to protect the parents from his rage other people had to die. Repressed rage cannot stay repressed forever, if it does not find expression in this generation, it will find it in the next generation. The question is who will be killed, the self, others or both. This flyer below by Alice Miller articulates beautifully where the roots of violence take place.
Another shooting! Someone that didn't understand his triggered repressed emotions, most likely triggered by a present betrayal in the work place, and was driven by the repressed emotions to hurt himself and others. Our society is in desperate need of enlightened witnesses, but the media is run by weasels, like my friend’s neighbor at FOX news that blocks enlightened witnesses that can help the public see. The media’s objective is not to enlightening the public, but to keep it blind, so they can manipulate the public in any direction they want and exploit these senseless acts of violence for pure sensationalism and ratings, so they can gain more power over others and make more money for themselves. The media says that was not a terrorist attack, but don’t be fool. The psychological dynamics of terrorists are the same of this shooter. This shooter let his unresolved repression turn him into a terrorist.
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The Roots of Violence are NOT Unknown
The misled brain and the banned emotions
The Facts:
1. The development of the human brain is use-dependent. The brain develops its structure in the first four years of life, depending on the experiences the environment offers the child. The brain of a child who has mostly loving experiences will develop differently from the brain of a child who has been treated cruelly.
2. Almost all children on our planet are beaten in the first years of their lives. They learn from the start violence, and this lesson is wired into their developing brains. No child is ever born violent. Violence is NOT genetic, it exists because beaten children use, in their adult lives, the lesson that their brains have learned.
3. As beaten children are not allowed to defend themselves, they must suppress their anger and rage against their parents who have humiliated them, killed their inborn empathy, and insulted their dignity. They will take out this rage later, as adults, on scapegoats, mostly on their own children. Deprived of empathy, some of them will direct their anger against themselves (in eating disorders, drug addiction, depression etc.), or against other adults (in wars, terrorism, delinquency etc.)
Questions and Answers:
Q: Parents beat their children without a second thought, to make them obedient. Nobody, except a very small minority, protests against this dangerous habit. Why is the logical sequence (from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator) totally ignored world-wide? Why have even the Popes, responsible for the moral behaviour of many millions of believers, until now never informed them that beating children is a crime?
A: Because almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.
Q: Can we free ourselves from the emotional blindness we developed in childhood?
A: We can - at least to some degree - liberate ourselves from this blindness by daring to feel our repressed emotions, including our fear and forbidden rage against our parents who had often scared us to death for periods of many years, which should have been the most beautiful years of our lives. We can't retrieve those years. But thanks to facing our truth we can transform ourselves from the children who still live in us full of fear and denial into responsible, well informed adults who regained their empathy, so early stolen from them. By becoming feeling persons we can no longer deny that beating children is a criminal act that should be forbidden on the whole planet.
Conclusion:
Caring for the emotional needs of our children means more than giving them a happy childhood. It means to enable the brains of the future adults to function in a healthy, rational way, free from perversion and madness. Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence.
http://www.alice-miller.com/flyers_en.php

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Whitney Houston told her true story by reenacting it in the stage of the world

Whitney Houston, one more person in the stage of the world told her true story unconsciously and compulsively how she was abused as a small child by continuing abusing herself and finished the job her childhood abusers started… very sad she never made this connection and as an adult, she was not able to save herself from the emotional prison she was born into. She gives evidence that no matter how gifted a person is and how much money people have, being gifted and money alone does not save anyone, can make our journey more comfortable, but if we don’t find the courage to face and feel our painful truths, being gifted and money can make it worse, because it can be used to escape or avoid from facing and feeling our painful truths.
  It confirms how true Alices’s words below are:

The greatest cruelty that can be inflicted on children is to refuse to let them express their anger and suffering except at the risk of losing their parents' love and affection. The anger stemming from early childhood is stored up in the unconscious, and since it basically represents a healthy, vital source of energy, an equal amount of energy must be expended in order to repress it. An upbringing that succeeds in sparing the parents at the expense of the child's vitality sometimes leads to suicide or extreme drug addiction, which is a form of suicide. If drugs succeed in covering up the emptiness caused by repressed feelings and self-alienation, then the process of withdrawal brings this void back into view. When withdrawal is not accompanied by restoration of vitality, then the cure is sure to be temporary. Christiane F., subject of an international bestseller and film, paints a devastatingly vivid picture of a tragedy of this nature.

Cruelty can take a thousand forms, and it goes undetected even today, because the damage it does to the child and the ensuing consequences are still so little known. This section of the book is devoted to these consequences.

The individual psychological stages in the lives of most people are:

1.      To be hurt as a small child without anyone recognizing the situation as such

2.      To fail to react to the resulting suffering with anger

3.      To show gratitude for what are supposed to be good intentions

4.      To forget everything

5.      To discharge the stored-up anger onto others in adulthood or to direct it against oneself “