"I believe that the idealization of one's own parents and childhood is a major obstacle to the betterment of our whole society. since so many people believe that their parents are always right, it's much easier for them to follow other people in power positions, who cast themselves as mother or father figures disguised as educators, healers, cult leaders, therapists, gurus and government officials.
We become extremely vulnerable when we refuse to face the truth about the people who raised us. Someone with a false self is an easy target for exploitation, which can threaten not only individuals, but also society as a whole. The only thing that can save us is to make sure that more people are true to themselves. We need more people who can fight the power, starting in their own homes. Alice Miller describes these people individuals as people who have had the good fortune of being sure of their parent's love even if they had to disappoint certain parental expectations. Or people who, although they did not have this good fortune to begin with, learned later -- for example, in analysis -- to risk the loss of love in order to regain their lost self. According to Alice Miller, these people so appreciate their freedom from trauma and tyranny "that they will not be willing to relinguish it again for any price in the world."
When we idealize our childhoods we become just like our childhood abusers and the vicious cycle continues. And we keep holding on to the false hope of eventually gaining love and acceptance from our parents, or from those who stand in to symbolize our parents.
Idealizing the people who raised us puts us in danger, physically and emotionally. Alice Miller believes, that the body knows our traumatic history and remembers the cruelty we had to endure as children without being able to really feel it, process it and move beyond it in a healthy way. "... As long as we are compelled to protect our parents we pay our loyalty with our depressions," she writes. But "...by discovering and understanding the pain of the former neglected child you start to love and cherish him, perhaps for the first time in your life."
She expands on the idea in For Your Own Good: *"if the tragedy of a well-meaning person's childhood remains hidden behind idealizations, the unconscious knowledge of the actual state of affairs will have to assert itself by an indirect route. This occurs with the aid of the repetition compulsion. Over and over again, for reasons they don't understand, people create situations and establish relationships in which they are tormenting or are tormented by their partners, or both. Since tormenting one's children is a legitimate part of child-rearing, this provides the most obvious outlet for bottled up aggression." This is how the vicious cycle of repetition compulsion has been going on since the beginning of human history." -- Sylvie Imelda Shene
Above excerpt from the book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions by Sylvie Imelda Shene
from the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence by Alice Miller (right here from Project NoSpank in it's entirety here
Alice Miller Index
You can read my e-mail to the residents at the bottom. And they sent an e-mail to all residents saying I was the liar, so few weeks ago while going through all the e-mails I came across the e-mail a few residents had shared with me from the board of directors calling me a liar and I got tempted and sent to the property manager the email below.
If a small community of 160 homes, the leaders lie to their residents like this! Just imagine the lies and conspiracies the governments of countries, especially of a big country like the United States of America tell their people to keep them in the dark and gain control over them.
I was treated like a criminal by not even being allowed into the gate to retrieve my personal belongs, but they are the criminals' ones and they have hired a new guy to take my place that is not honest. In the 9 and half years that I worked there, I never had anything disappear from the gate house, but since the new guy M B started working there add things started to happen, like the camera would not be on when I arrived in the morning and the computer with the residents personal information, would not be connected to the internet, so when the residents entered new guests to their admit list for the day, would not show up at my end and when their guests arrived, I had to call the resident and the resident would informed me that they had entered the guest themselves into their admit list, so I would have to spent about an hour in the morning trying to figure out why it was not showing up on my end and i would find the cable cords disconnected. I believe M B was sabotaging me by disconnecting the cables on the computers. And the cordless mouse from the new camera disappeared from the gate house and the mouse they are using now is my personal mouse that I like to get back. Also the cable extension to plug in the water cooler and the new unnecessary computer that Mr. K bought to log in packages is also mine and I also like to get it back.
I am a stable person and I will not use my access to residents’ information to do harm, but the next person the Security company and Sxxxxxxxx board fires unjustly might not be as stable as me and retaliate by deleting all the residents information, that by the way, data I entered into the computer, because as some of you know, when I started working there that gate house was still in the past century with a Rolodex.
A security company that is not protecting the client at all, but actually putting their client in danger by firing honest people and hiring dishonest people.
The local office of the security company is being run by crooks, so be aware.
The media and most journalists are blocking the real truth from the public and most only report, seductive lies or misleading information, half disconnected truths or disconnected stories for propaganda and pure sensationalism to manipulate the masses and keep them distracted from the real truth and facts, nothing ever is what it seems!!! The audio below of an ex-journalist confessing his lies is in its original language, English.
“The characteristic subjective experience of narcissistic individuals is a sense of inner emptiness and meaninglessness that requires recurrent infusions of external confirmation of their importance and value. . . . When the environment fails to provide such evidence, narcissistic individuals feel depressed, ashamed, and envious of those who succeed in attaining the supplies that they lack.”
Yes, they are still living the lie and they will try to destroy anyone that tells the truth and tries to expose the facts and evidence. Yes, I am staying free!!!
Totally! This is exactly what happened with some people at my last job of nine and half years. I was aware of what they were doing the whole time!!! They didn't fool me, they were only fooling themselves!!!