Sunday, September 27, 2015

The World is in a Real Serious Trouble


via Mario G. Rivera
A most renowned expert on Federal Reserve and the New World Order will share how the super Rich of the World have organized to create a New World Order that they will control. reality zone
Super rich are in a conspiracy to rule the world - G. Edward Griffin - 2007

Donald Warner Parker The Quigley Formula - G. Edward Griffin lecture 

Sylvie Imelda Shene The world is in a real serious trouble!

Donald Warner Parker That is right and you explain exactly why very well in your book: 

"I believe that the idealization of one's own parents and childhood is a major obstacle to the betterment of our whole society. since so many people believe that their parents are always right, it's much easier for them to follow other people in power positions, who cast themselves as mother or father figures disguised as educators, healers, cult leaders, therapists, gurus and government officials.

We become extremely vulnerable when we refuse to face the truth about the people who raised us. Someone with a false self is an easy target for exploitation, which can threaten not only individuals but also society as a whole. The only thing that can save us is to make sure that more people are true to themselves. We need more people who can fight the power, starting in their own homes. Alice Miller describes these people as individuals as people who have had the good fortune of being sure of their parent's love even if they had to disappoint certain parental expectations. Or people who, although they did not have this good fortune to begin with, learned later -- for example, in analysis -- to risk the loss of love in order to regain their lost self. According to Alice Miller, these people so appreciate their freedom from trauma and tyranny "that they will not be willing to relinquish it again for any price in the world."

When we idealize our childhoods we become just like our childhood abusers and the vicious cycle continues. And we keep holding on to the false hope of eventually gaining love and acceptance from our parents, or from those who stand in to symbolize our parents. 

Idealizing the people who raised us puts us in danger, physically and emotionally. Alice Miller believes, that the body knows our traumatic history and remembers the cruelty we had to endure as children without being able to really feel it, process it and move beyond it in a healthy way. "... As long as we are compelled to protect our parents we pay our loyalty with our depressions," she writes. But "...by discovering and understanding the pain of the former neglected child you start to love and cherish him, perhaps for the first time in your life."

She expands on the idea in For Your Own Good: *"if the tragedy of a well-meaning person's childhood remains hidden behind idealizations, the unconscious knowledge of the actual state of affairs will have to assert itself by an indirect route. This occurs with the aid of the repetition compulsion. Over and over again, for reasons they don't understand, people create situations and establish relationships in which they are tormenting or are tormented by their partners or both. Since tormenting one's children is a legitimate part of child-rearing, this provides the most obvious outlet for bottled up aggression." This is how the vicious cycle of repetition compulsion has been going on since the beginning of human history." -- Sylvie Imelda Shene 

Above excerpt from the book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions by Sylvie Imelda Shene

*Unlived Anger 
from the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence by Alice Miller (right here from Project NoSpank  in its entirety here 

Alice Miller Index  

Sylvie Imelda Shene Thank you Donald. And this is why I lost my job; because the people in power position felt threaten by the truths I wrote in my book. I think what the property manager feared the most was that her two adults children find out about my book and read it! And that was one of the reasons, she started methodically orchestrating the psychological lynching to stop me on my tracks, so her children never find out about my book and they never see how evil their own mother is. And this is why a lot of people are trying to repress me and my book because most people are abusers acting as if personality pretending to be good people, but are wolves in sheep's clothing and all feel threaten by my book and they hope it never sees the day of light! They will try to destroy anyone that might expose their wicked games and conspiracies.

The other day I was going through all the e-mails exchanged with residents from my last job while I was going through their attempt of a psychological lynching to destroy me.

They treated me like I was a criminal hoping I would act like a criminal.  I was not even allowed to go to work to pick up my personal laptop, but they didn’t remove me from their computer system as an administrator, so I was not allowed to go my place of work, but I still had access to their computer system from anywhere in the world and I could have caused a lot of damage if I wanted to. 

The reason I found out I still had access to their computer system was because I needed a cell phone number for a homeowner that I didn’t have their e-mail address on my e-mailing list, I take care of their home, because they are never there and I needed to let him know what had happened, so I tried to use my administrator  password  to retrieve the home owner's cell phone number and voila I got in with no trouble!  But I tried it again a week later and I was still able to get inside the system. I wanted to be removed from being an administrator just in case someone did something wrong and then I could be blamed for it, so I decided to let all the residents in my e-mailing list know about it, how the Security Company, the property manager and board of directors had comprised their personal information. 

 You can read my e-mail to the residents at the bottom. And they sent an e-mail to all residents saying I was the liar, so a few weeks ago while going through all the e-mails I came across the e-mail a few residents had shared with me from the board of directors calling me a liar and I got tempted and sent to the property manager the email below. 

If a small community of 160 homes, the leaders lie to their residents like this! Just imagine the lies and conspiracies the governments of countries, especially of a big country like the United States of America tell their people to keep them in the dark and gain control over them.  

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Sylvie Shene <@.com>
Date: Mon, Sep 14, 2015 at 2:45 PM
Subject: Fwd: Sxxxxxxxx eMail Bulletin
To: Pxx Pxxx <azsxxxxxxxx3@.com>

 I just to let you know that the only people lying was you and Sxxxxxxxx board. The only person you are fooling is yourself. And for your information I never trusted you from day one, I have learned never to trust a person that childhood is a big taboo for them. I always knew you would stab me in the back at your first opportunity. Mr. J. K.  gave you the card you needed to start your smear campaign. Cowards always get others to do the Dirty Work for Them.

 At least you all could have spelled my name right!!!

The attached quotes describe you so well! Just like I wrote in my blog on Tuesday, March 17, 2015, about Narcissists "Reading the quote above, the property manager at the community where I worked comes to mind. She was very jealous of me and she and the board manipulated by her came up with a messy packages abusive procedure, but then I came up with a package procedure that was really efficient and she comes up to me saying: "I heard you created a very efficient package procedure" and I just ignored her, because I knew she was full of it and then she says: "I am trying to give you a compliment!" She was trying to give me a compliment my ass, she was seeing what else she could come up with to bring me down. She has everyone fooled, but she never had me fooled from day one, I knew I could not trust her.

A Message from the Board
 February 24, 2015
 We understand you may have received an unsolicited, defamatory email from Sylvie Sheen making various false accusations against the Board, Pxx Pxxx, and others. As we previously informed you, Security Company, which has the contract to provide security services to the Association, exercised its contractual rights to replace Ms. Sheen. No one mentioned in Ms. Sheen’s false accusations was involved with the Security Company’s decision, and none of the accusations Ms. Sheen makes against them are true. We find it unfortunate that Ms. Sheen is sending such emails, but we believed it prudent to respond and let you know that the accusations are false and to further advise you that Security Company has assured the Board that all your personal information is secure.
Sxxxxxxxx HOA Board of Directors

From: Sylvie Shene <xxxxxxxxxxxx@xxxxxl.com>
Date: Mon, Feb 23, 2015 at 11:32 AM
Subject: Important information you all should know

Hi everyone,

I like to make aware some of you that Pxx Pxxx, the present board, and the Security company put all of your personal information at risk of being stolen.  And this is grounds to fire the Security company, Pxx Pxxx and to force the present board to resign. 

I was treated like a criminal by not even being allowed into the gate to retrieve my personal belongs, but they are the criminals' ones and they have hired a new guy to take my place that is not honest. In the 9 and half years that I worked there, I never had anything disappear from the gatehouse, but since the new guy M B started working there add things started to happen, like the camera would not be on when I arrived in the morning and the computer with the residents personal information, would not be connected to the internet, so when the residents entered new guests to their admit list for the day, would not show up at my end and when their guests arrived, I had to call the resident and the resident would inform me that they had entered the guest themselves into their admit list, so I would have to spent about an hour in the morning trying to figure out why it was not showing up on my end and I would find the cable cords disconnected.  I believe M B was sabotaging me by disconnecting the cables on the computers.  And the cordless mouse from the new camera disappeared from the gatehouse and the mouse they are using now is my personal mouse that I like to get back. Also, the cable extension to plug in the water cooler and the new unnecessary computer that Mr. K bought to log in packages is also mine and I also like to get it back.

Anyway, the reason I am really writing is that your personal information has been put at risk. Physically I am not allowed in the gatehouse, but if I wanted to hurt people I could do it remotely from my own computer because the Security company and this board didn’t take me off as the administrator and I can still access all residents personal information from any computer in the world. 

I am a stable person and I will not use my access to residents’ information to do harm, but the next person the Security company and Sxxxxxxxx board fires unjustly might not be as stable as me and retaliate by deleting all the residents information, that by the way, data I entered into the computer, because as some of you know, when I started working there that gatehouse was still in the past century with a Rolodex

Pxx Pxxx, the security company, and this board’s actions are careless and dangerous because this injustice done to the wrong person could have put all of your data in danger by having your information deleted from the gatehouse computer or worse sold to a third party causing you all much harm.  

A security company that is not protecting the client at all, but actually putting their client in danger by firing honest people and hiring dishonest people. 

They are threatened by authentic, honest people and feel more comfortable with crooks like them.  

The local office of the security company is being run by crooks, so be aware.

I thought you all should know this important information,

Sylvie

P.S I only shared this information with the residents on my e-mailing list, but feel free to share it with other residents at Sxxxxxxxx, because they all should be aware that their personal information has been compromised by the careless people that were driven by the dead hand of their own repression to make me their scapegoat and could have put all of your data in harm’s way, because the next person they harm might not be as understanding why people do what they do and retaliate.

The media and most journalists are blocking the real truth from the public and most only report, seductive lies or misleading information, half disconnected truths or disconnected stories for propaganda and pure sensationalism to manipulate the masses and keep them distracted from the real truth and facts, nothing ever is what it seems!!! The audio below of an ex-journalist confessing his lies is in its original language, English.



She recruited a team of flying monkeys taking turns doing her dirty work and she got the new guy and the security company to finish the job she started, this is how cowards work! We all know who the real culprit is!? The property manager!!!
Yes, she wanted to discredit me and reduce me to an inferior being to less than nothing.
The quote above also describes the property manager at my last job to a tooth! She didn't like it that I stood up to her. She accused me of things that she had been doing in the 30 plus years she has been working there. Totally okay for her to do, but how dear of me to do it too. Her hypocrisy was epic.
Yep! This was one of the big reasons I was targeted by the sociopath that was the property manager at my last job because I am a truly happy and free person, but she was not able to destroy me and she didn't walk away wearing my skin. But instead, her true self was revealed.

Reading the words in the article What Really Makes Narcissists Tickthe property manager at my last job come to mind, she got so jealous and envious of my success of publishing my book, that she had to do everything in her power to try to destroy me to transfer her bad feelings into me, so she could feel better and superior again, but she was not able to and I'm sure she is suffering from depression like never before and probably taking medication. 

“The characteristic subjective experience of narcissistic individuals is a sense of inner emptiness and meaninglessness that requires recurrent infusions of external confirmation of their importance and value. . . . When the environment fails to provide such evidence, narcissistic individuals feel depressed, ashamed, and envious of those who succeed in attaining the supplies that they lack.”
Yes, they are still living the lie and they will try to destroy anyone that tells the truth and tries to expose the facts and evidence. Yes, I am staying free!!!
Totally! This is exactly what happened with some people at my last job of nine and half years. I was aware of what they were doing the whole time!!! They didn't fool me, they were only fooling themselves!!!


To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge  

Monday, September 7, 2015

Most People out there are Prostituting Themselves Everyday

Yes, most people out there are prostituting themselves every day and this is why, they are unhappy and suffering from depression and are self-medicating with all kind of things like religious cults or any other type of cults, food, sex, and codependent in unhealthy relationships or dependent on antidepressants. It’s a tragedy! I wish I had included the very truthful quote of Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross below in my book; for sure I will include it in my next book!

"Any human being that was born into a family that loves "if", will have problems in life, horrible problems, because they all become prostitutes. You will prostitute yourself with good behavior. Do you understand the word prostitution, what sense I mean that? You will believe that you can buy love with good grades, that you can buy love with good behavior, that you can buy love if you look pretty, and your need for approval will always be insatiable and you will always be unhappy for the rest of your life."
 -- Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross excerpt from the video Understanding death & suicide - part 2 

"Pain is the way to the truth. By denying that you were unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And throughout your whole life, you'll try to earn love. In therapy, avoiding pain causes a blockage. Yet nobody can confront being neglected or hated without feeling guilty. "It is my fault that my mother is cruel," he thinks. "I made my mother furious; what can I do to make her loving?" So he will continue trying to make her love him. The guilt is really protection against the terrible realization that you are fated to have a mother who cannot love. This is much more painful than to think "Oh, she is a good mother, it's only me who's bad." Because then you can try to do something to get love. But it's not true; you cannot earn love. And feeling guilty for what has been done to you only supports your blindness and your neurosis." -- Alice Miller

above excerpt from ALICE MILLER: The feeling child 

Interviewed March 1987 by Diane Connors

Comments from the sharing of this post on Facebook

Monica Chelagat Saw the video and there are many more. Yes, the "if" I hear it so often around.

Sylvie Imelda Shene I know Monica, I grew up with it. My sister being rewarded and adored for her good behavior and good grades, and me being rejected and punished for not behaving to their liking and my bad grades. I grew up fantasizing about suicide every day, but now she's an unhappy adult with major problems and i am happy! And this is why so many hate me, especially the property manager at my last job because I'm truly happy and free. Misery loves company! Adulthood is a lot longer than childhood! So I am happy the worst is over! 
Now i just thought of President Bush's slogan "they hate us for our freedom" it's true people hate and are jealous of happy and free people, but President Bush's freedom is just an illusion of freedom.

Yep! This was one of the big reasons I was targeted by the sociopath that was the property manager at my last job because I am a truly happy and free person, but she was not able to destroy me and she didn't walk away wearing my skin. But instead, her true self was revealed.

To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge  

Friday, September 4, 2015

The son of Alice Miller should have given the title to his book - The Drama of the gifted child - the tragedy of my life

P: I just read the first article and I think the whole debate whether she failed on her son is absurd because when he was small his mother was not fully aware of how abusive education can be. She was a traditional mother as anybody else, and as a therapist she followed the traditional Freudian psychoanalysis of her time....only when she found out that this type of therapy does not really solve the problem but intensifies it, she started developing her own, very different theory....but by that was not until the 1970, resulting in her first book, the drama, in 1979...by that time her son was about 30 years old, so how could she protect him from a violent father??? So this criticism is bloody BS!!”

Hi P,
Thank you for writing. I completely agree with everything you wrote. This comment made by Makus Roth on the article you sent me, says also almost the something you just said above: “Alice Miller's life cycle is comparable to the conversion of Sau to Paul, from the unconscious to the conscious mother. when she wrote the first of her 13 books (drama dbk= Das Drama de begabten Kiindes, The drama of the gifted child), 1979, when her son was already 29 years old and she kept on developing every time clearer and clearer. Already years ago she apologized to her son for her misbehavior in his childhood, whereas her son had and still has trouble with it.” Makus Roth

I feel Alice Miller’s experience is very similar to mine. My love for my ex and my desire to help him made me look for help so we could save our relationship and in the process I freed myself. Alice Miller too saw that her son had problems, and how ironic they both have the same first name, my ex’s first name is also Martin! Alice Miller like me started lifting every stone to look for clues to help her son and in the process resolved her own repression and freed herself, just like me that I went out looking for clues how to help my Ex and I end up liberating myself in the process. And at the end, I had to let my ex-go, and Alice too had to let her son go because once a person is an adult, no one, not even the mother, can make up for what we need as children and we didn’t get. Once we are adults only we can save ourselves and anyone that tells us otherwise are fooling us with false hopes and promises.

Alice Miller was driven to write her books to warn society of the dangers of childhood repression to save the children of the future and help us to face and resolve our own repression. This is why it’s so important for people to face their own repression before having children or at least become aware of their own childhood repression before their children become teenagers and adults, because it’s not the trauma itself that causes long-term damage, but the repressed emotions that causes long-term damage and if parents become aware of the damage done before their children become teenagers or adults they can help their children express their true feelings of anger, fear and hurt, because the children are still emotionally dependent on their parents, but once the children become teenagers or adults the defense mechanisms and walls have been built and it’s out of the parents hands, they can become the most conscious parents, but it will be too late, because they can’t force the teenagers and adult children remove the walls to face and feel their childhood repression, if they don’t wish to do so. 

Alice Miller made herself very vulnerable to all the psychopaths in the world to warn us, her courage is astonishing. Psychopaths always feed on people's weakness to advance themselves and don’t care who they hurt, step on or destroy in the process as long they get what they want. In the interview Martin Miller is giving in the link you sent me, he is speaking in German and of course I don’t understand what he is saying, but the body never lies and the language of the body is universal, his body is telling his truth and you can see how this man has been repressing all of his life with the aid of food and probably also with all kinds of medications, and never allowed himself to consciously feel the full range of the repressed feelings of the child he once was within the context of his own childhood. And as long we go on repressing our feelings the compulsion to abuse ourselves, others or both will go on endless overtly or covertly and you can see he has been abusing himself by overeating to numb his feelings when present triggers trigger him because he is extremely overweight.  

The title of his book is “The true drama of the gifted child- the tragedy of Alice Miller” but the title of his book should have been: “The Drama of the gifted child - the tragedy of my life” because his life is the real tragedy and sad beyond words, because he still stuck in his childhood and probably will never break free, because he is already 63 and the older we get the harder it gets to resolve our repression. Alice Millers’ life is not a tragedy, because she broke free and died free, the beginning of her life was a tragedy, but not the end of her life, she became honest with herself and others and that is the most important achievement anyone can reach in this lifetime, not like most people in our society that are stuck in their childhood pretending and acting as if personality their whole lives, fooling themselves and others.

As Alice says in her book The Body Never Lies, page, 86: ““… For how can I prove to someone that freedom is within reach, if all his life he has clung to the constraints that were necessary for his survival, and if he cannot imagine life without those constraints? I can say that I myself have achieved such freedom by getting to the bottom of my own story, but I have to admit that I am not a good example. After all, it took me over forty years to arrive at the stage I have reached now. But there are others. I know people who have succeeded in unearthing their memories in a much shorter space of time, and the discovery of their own truth has enabled them to emerge from the autistic hiding place that used to be their only refuge. In my case, the reason the journey took so long was that I was on my own for most of it.”


Me too just like Alice Miller it took me over forty years to break free because I was alone in my journey most of it. 


Hi P,
Have you seen this? It’s in German! You don’t have to use Google translate like I had to, I am jealous you can read German because you lose a lot in translation, but I think it was enough for me to see where Martin Miller comes from.  I guess Martin Miller has finished his book! I feel so sad that this 63 years old man still stuck in his childhood and never found his own way in the world and got trapped in the labyrinth of psychoanalysis. It took his mother most of her adult life to free herself from the labyrinth of psychoanalysis. Just as his mother wrote below. With his book he is transferring his childhood confusion into many people that still, like him, are stuck in the confusion of their own childhood and they too, like him, have fell victims of the labyrinth or traps of many seductive therapies that keep them stuck endless reenacting their own childhood dramas, where they either play the active role of mother/father to others or are endless stuck in the role of the child.

“, is not an accusation. But an attempt to understand deep-seated trauma.” I have learned that when people deny something that’s exactly what they are.

The fact he is saying is not an accusation that’s exactly what it is, disguised of wanting to understand deep-seated trauma. Anyone that has read all his mother’s books and work through their own repression understands deep-seated trauma and how hard it is to resolve it. He is being a great example of how difficult it is to resolve deep-seated trauma. He is still stuck in his childhood fighting and competing with his mother to make a name for himself by unconsciously attempting to destroy the great discovers and accomplishments his mother made late in life by stepping on his mother’s head to satisfies his own childhood narcissists needs and letting the unresolved repressed emotions of the child he once was, take revenge on his mother for the wrongs she did to him when he was a small child by attempting to kill his mother in a symbolic way in the public arena with his book, creating a smokescreen confusing many people already confused looking for a way out of their own labyrinths.


He mentions that his mother’s first three books are the most value, of course, he likes his mother’s first books, because when his mother wrote her first books, she had not broken free completely from the labyrinth psychoanalysis, a labyrinth he still trapped in. Alice’s first books she was still writing with the precepts of the labyrinth of psychoanalysis and still had hopes or the illusion psychoanalysis could help people break free. His mother’s last books are much clear and are the books that helped me understand and feel my own feelings within the context of my own childhood and finally break free from my emotional prison no longer be lost in projections reenacting my childhood drama with people symbolizing my parents or my parents substitutes, in my own case my older sisters, and prevented me from being trapped in the labyrinth of many seductive therapies out there.


As Alice Miller said: “…On the other hand, what has radically changed is my hopeful attitude towards psychoanalysis, from which, in 1988, I officially broke away by resigning from the Swiss as well as the International Psychoanalytical Association. I was forced to take this step when I realized that psychoanalytical theory and practice obscure—i.e., render unrecognizable—the cause and consequences of child abuse, by (among other things) labeling facts as fantasies, and furthermore, that such treatments can be dangerous, as in my own case, [and obviously in the case of her own son] because they cement the confusion deriving from childhood instead of resolving it. Ten years ago I was not yet so clear about this, my study of philosophy as well as my training in and practice of psychoanalysis having long prevented me from recognizing many facts. Only when I was prepared to end my repression, to liberate my childhood from the prison of pedagogic notions and psychoanalytical theories; when I reject the ideology of forgetting and forgiving, allied myself with the abused child, and, thanks to my therapy, learned to feel: only then did I gradually discover my hitherto concealed history.” From the book Banished Knowledge, from the edition 1990, vintage point

“This book [the drama] was written sixteen years ago in keeping with the precepts of psychoanalysis, precepts that I have long since moved beyond and today regarded as misleading. I, therefore, have had to revise the text thoroughly, salvaging those parts I still regard as valid and useful while clarifying certain points more than I was able to in 1978” From the Drama of the Gifted Child, edition 1994, introduction, page 1

Comments from the blog The Pain of a Mother

Liliane: I totally agree with your words and I feel sad that her excellent and very important work is brought into discredit by people like DM, BR, and MM. In their writings and words, you can read how they idealize, devalue and show signs of grandiosity. As you can read in the interview with Die Welt-15.10. MM says that it was thanks to his therapeutic work and with his book that the theory of his mother survives! However, it is clear to me that they are stuck in their repressed feelings of their childhood and that brings others in confusion and pain.

Sylvie: I am glad to see that are other people out there that can see it too. Sometimes I feel alone in my perceptions, how BR, DM, and MM are twisting Alice Miller’s work to manipulate the perceptions of others and deceive them. It’s very clear to me too that they are stuck in their repressed feelings and suffer from grandiosity. And they allow the fantasies of revenge of the child they once were into actions that bring others confusion and pain. It’s sad beyond words.


Also, read my blogs in the links below:
Then Pain of a Mother


Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Sadly the World is Full of Charlatans that Keep us Distracted and Numb

Self-help guru Wayne W. Dyer dies at 75

"He was born Wayne Walter Dyer in Detroit and grew up in a series of foster care homes. His father was an alcoholic who left the family when Dyer was 3.” Quote from the article in the link above.

I didn’t know much about his childhood, but I am not one bit surprised to learn he was abandoned as a child, he escaped his pain with the aid of his sharp intellect to recycle and package the same old seductive lies and disconnected half-truths that have been passed down from generation to generation since the beginning of time, to numb his childhood pain, it helped him survive in his emotional prison for 75 years without becoming a violent criminal and with his books numbed also millions of people from their own pain, helped people survive in their emotional prisons, but didn’t free them. I too for years was distracted from feeling my own childhood pain with his books and Deepak’s books. I remember going to listen to him and Deepak in the nineties when they would come to Phoenix, Arizona and totally felt hi from listening to their seductive feel-good speeches; it was like taking a drug! I wasted so many years with these charlatans and the 12 steps! Sorry if charlatan is too hard of a word but that’s exactly what they are. He was a cult leader and the world are full of cult leaders like him that keep people numb and distracted from their own painful truths. They pass on to others their own unresolved childhood repression under the illusion of love.

Just I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom, page 126 and 127 “Ultimately, I realized that self-help books and 12-step programs offer a false hope at best. I’m convinced that people who put their faith in these types of things — or in psychologists, psychiatrists or any cult leader for that matter — are avoiding the real causes of their problems and are just masking their symptoms instead. The seductiveness of the quick fixes offered by traditional treatments and therapies is very powerful, and even if they don’t work they offer at least temporary relief from the fear and pain of our abused younger selves. In the best of cases, groups like Al-Anon can momentarily help people cope with unhealthy situations and survive another day inside their emotional prisons, but they can’t resolve people’s problems. Everyone I encountered in Al-Anon was just reenacting his or her childhood drama like everyone else. The unhealthy, cult-like devotion they invested in the group was actually getting in the way of their true happiness because the group was just filling in for their parents and keeping them blind to the truth. In an email to a reader, Alice Miller writes that “even smart people become stuck in confusion for years if the ‘healers’ demand from them the same as the parents did from the child: to stay blind, to forgive, to make amends, not to make troubles. The fear of the parents, stored up in the body, can make a person obedient and sick forever. I hope that you can overcome this fear by seeing through the hypocrisy of your helpers.”62 “It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion,” Alice Miller writes in The Drama of the Gifted Child. “If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn’t help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable.”63


The question to Alice Miller and her answer below came to mind:

Borut Petrovic Jesenovec: Human blindness to abuse can be astonishing. Even when confronted with their own obvious abuse, people still believe in the myth of being loved, and keep abusing their children (and children of others). How would you most effectively "open their eyes" to what they are doing? Is this possible at all?

Alice Miller: I can’t open the eyes of others; they will quickly close them again, and they don’t want to see – or they are afraid to see – the truth because they expect to be punished by their parents or by God who represents them. I can only open my own eyes and say what I am seeing. And sometimes people feel encouraged to open one eye or even both. They are then surprised that they were not punished, that they feel even relief since they have stopped betraying themselves.

Above excerpt from How to combat denial

Interview given by Alice Miller to Borut Petrovic Jesenovec in July 2005

Monica's facebook comment Cannot, not agree with you. I would like to think he is different from Deepak and Osho type of illusionists i.e. he was genuine and believed what he 'prescribed' in his books to help people even though they were 'aspirins' not 'antibiotics' unlike money making machines like Osho, Tony Robins, Deepak's who exploit desperate human beings.

Sylvie Imelda Shene They used to be my favorite charlatans! I loved listening to them both! They were my medication for many years!!! They are both the same, selling an illusion, maybe just packaged differently and you just liked his package better.

Monica Chelagat If he sold his product knowing they are illusions that is charlatanism and is unforgivable.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Even if he believes his own illusions and seductive lies, they still are illusions and a charlatan, just because people believe their own seductive lies. it doesn't make them less of a fraud.


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Donald Warner Parker "Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were." --Sylvie Imelda Shene quote from her book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions page 172

Sylvie Imelda Shene Yes Donald, resolving our childhood repression is the vaccine against the lies of the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the child they once were.
I have no doubt if I ha
d not resolved my childhood repression, I would not have survived the mob of psychopaths at my last job attacking me with their lies and methodical orchestrated smear campaign to destroy me, so they could go on as usual with their pretty facades that hide their true evil self. I can only imagine how many souls they have destroyed murdered in their lifetime. I’m probably the only one they set out to destroy and they were not able to. I guess they didn’t believe what I wrote in my book and they were confident they could destroy me like all the people they have destroyed in their past that had confronted and challenged them.


Also, read  Gurus and Cults Leaders How They Function

To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge