Thursday, June 30, 2016

The Roots of Sexism and the Hate for Women

Comments on Lawrence R. Gelber facebook post

Lawrence R. Gelber If you have negative feelings about Mrs. Clinton based on Benghazi, you have allowed yourself to be manipulated by a concerted political effort (at YOUR financial expense if you are an American taxpayer) to manipulate your thinking. Congratulations.

Carol Kay Mazerolle My negative feelings about her are unrelated to Benghazi. Are they permissible?

Larry D. Epstein Carol Kay Mazerolle Kay beat me to that comment.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Most people negative feelings towards Hillary come from the unresolved repressed feelings of the child they once were towards their own mothers, NOW, transferred into other women in power positions symbolizing their own mothers. Here are the roots of sexism and hate for women in our society start.

Carol Kay Mazerolle So what are the people who like HRC repressing?

Sylvie Imelda Shene Maybe the people that like Hillary had an understanding, caring, loving and protective mother and don't feel threatened by women in general.

Lawrence R. Gelber Carol Kay Mazerolle Everybody is free to like or dislike whomever they please. And of course, we can like or dislike whomever we please for any or no reason. However, if someone premises a like or dislike based upon a particular fact and that fact is shown to be inaccurate, it serves everyone to have it pointed out.

Carol Kay Mazerolle I just disagree with the implication that only those who dislike her are being manipulated as well as acting out repressed feelings. We are all manipulated in one way or another and to some extent, we all have repressed feelings that influence our behavior. My sister and I have the same mother. My sister is an enthusiastic HRC supporter and I do not care for her. We also both adore Bernie and dislike Trump intensely. I don't place much credence in psychoanalyzing strangers based on their political inclinations toward just one candidate ... especially in a race that pits two candidates with such high negativity ratings.

Lawrence R. Gelber Of course. The question always exists as to why negativity ratings are there. The Benghazi investigation was a complete sham, particularly in light of all the embassy and consulate deaths ( a far far far far greater number) under the Bush administration that did not raise one congressional eyebrow. Many people dislike Hillary just because of Benghazi. I certainly do not agree with all her policies, and I especially hate her (and Obama's) embrace of fracking. But voting is a strategic game. The GOP played Benghazi very well and to great advantage. But it was a sham.

Sylvie Imelda Shene I feel the repressed hate coming from Carol! Maybe you liked Bernie, because you're unconsciously looking for a father figure to finally save you. Because there is no much difference between Hillary and Bernie! 

Carol Kay Mazerolle There is a huge difference between HRC and Sanders.

Sylvie Imelda Shene He has a dick and she doesn't...

Carol Kay Mazerolle You are very offensive.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Yes, i have learned the truth in our society is offensive...

Lawrence R. Gelber Not really; the difference is more in spin than anything else. Jill Stein recently took one of those online quizzes that test your political convergence with the various candidates. She was 99% aligned with Bernie and 91% aligned with Hillary. Not a vast difference at all. If you look at Bernie's voting record, while it is true he voted not to give leeway to George Bush in Iraq, he in fact previously voted twice for Iraqi regime change. And if you read Hil's speech when she, as a freshman senator joined 71 others to in fact give Bush that leeway, she was very clear that she was opposed to war, trusted Bush (big mistake) [or believed he was entitled to the benefit of the doubt] and thought that the vote would provide room for a diplomatic resolution. The only difference between Bernie and Hillary on Syria is her preference for a no fly zone. Bernie is against fracking; she is not. Bernie, however, is FOR drones bombing and has been lobbying Saudi Arabia to step up its bombing of ISIS positions.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Thank you, Lawrence! For the detailed comment illustrating that there's no much difference between Hillary and Bernie. I personally find Bernie a weak person and Hillary a much stronger person --- making her more qualified to be president.

Lawrence R. Gelber Sylvie Imelda Shene Hillary is far more qualified. Bernie has become adept at inspiring rhetoric - Hillary is a policy wonk. But she clearly demonstrated her courage, balance, intelligence and presidential demeanor when she submitted to the marathon Benghazi deposition. When she spoke of women's right's as human rights in Beijing in 1995, she demonstrated for the world how inspiring she could actually be. In fact, some of her speeches after the recent primaries were also quite inspiring. It's kind of "cool" to jump on the "she's not likable" bandwagon, but the fact is, she is quite likable. She's a politician, so that carries its own negativity, but that's not a substantive reason to like or dislike her candidacy, because once you run for office, you are a politician too. Bernie's "revolution now" is far more exciting in a certain way than Hillary's "incremental change". But the former is not realistic and the latter is not only realistic but in the hands of an experienced leader, doable. Importantly, Hillary is donating to down-ballot candidates and her coattail will be much longer than Bernie's ever will.

Sylvie Imelda Shene I agree with every word you wrote, Lawrence

Lawrence R. Gelber You're kind. Thank you Sylvie.

Larry D. Epstein Carol Kay Mazerolle whom I know and love as Kay, you simply cannot compete with Sylvie Imelda Shene in knowledge. You are ONLY a retired government lawyer. She is an author and a former veteran of a different trade. I got this from an Italian site promoting her book. "As a topless dancer, Sylvie Imelda Shene was the consummate professional. She was in it for the money and the fitness benefits and had one important rule - never date the customers. Life was great until she succumbed to the charms of a man she couldn't resist." I'm searching near and far to uncover her credentials as a psychologist. So far, I haven't. It seems that the source of her infinite knowledge is her affiliation with Alice Miller, Ph.D., a Swiss Psychologist. Kay, you better repress that hate "camping" (?) from you and quit seeking a father figure. That attack on you was vicious, unwarranted, and unknowledgeable.

Teresa Spoone Larry D. Epstein - again I must call foul. You of ALL people should not be castigating anyone for "vicious, unwarranted, and unknowledgeable " attacks. You specialize in several of those particular categories and take great delight in making attacks like those you disclaim on a daily basis. My only beef here is with your feigned sense of offense. Now I will return my nose to my own business.

Lawrence R. Gelber It's fascinating to me that you are willing to lacerate people for their lesser evolved pasts, but not willing to give any credit for overcoming obstacles and correcting their path. How does lifting yourself up deserve mockery?

Larry D. Epstein Teresa Spoone I was defending a dear friend honorably retired from the practice of Law against "vicious, unwarranted, and unknowledgeable" attacks by a woman with very light credentials if any at all. That's just a fact. I admit to making vicious attacks on my own behalf and on behalf of my dearest friends. I contend that my attacks are never "unwarranted" and are rarely "unknowledgeable."

Larry D. Epstein Lawrence R. Gelber Are you blind? That woman was playing psychologist giving her unsolicited opinion of what's wrong with Kay Mazerolle's ideas. Believe it or not, if some lunatic came after you without justification and without proper credentials, Iwould kick some ass on your behalf. The only person you ever discipline on your timeline is me. That author needed to be put in her place. And, don't even try to call that a sexist remark!

Larry D. Epstein Furthermore, you had a responsibility to defend Kay who was so shocked that she could only retort "You are offensive."


Cynthia Backlund Alice Miller's work and writings have helped to change millions of lives for the better. I, for one, will always be grateful for her insights. How sad it is here, for one who cultivates no kindness from strangers, and who does not appear to value self-reflection or restraint. How lonely it must be where he is.

Larry D. Epstein Cynthia Backlund, you are not a careful reader. I was not bashing Alice Miller. And, madame, I am not a lonely man. My brilliance draws big crowds.

Teresa Spoone Larry D. Epstein while I admire your loyalty to our friend - I'm not sure your trotting out personal information you glean from your researching of others is warranted. Kay is brilliant and does a mighty fine job of defending her OWN positions. Contrary to what you and I both (have a tendency in deluding ourselves to) believe, we are not the gatekeepers to the fount of wisdom.

Cynthia Backlund I read every word of yours with utmost care. I am always hoping there might be even one small indication of kindness.

Teresa Spoone Kay Mazerolle is a brilliant woman who (although she may appreciate the intentions) doesn't NEED you Larry D. Epstein,Lawrence R. Gelber, or anyone ELSE to "defend" her. When it comes to intellect she could probably teach ALL of us a thing or two.

Lawrence R. Gelber Larry D. Epstein please do not ever act on my behalf or kick some ass on my behalf. You can agree with me or disagree with me, but like Kay, I can take care of myself.

Sylvie Imelda Shene I’m used to people trying to put me in my place! First of all, I’m not ashamed of my past. I was an honest and a clean dancer. I enjoyed dancing, having a fit body from all the dancing and of course enjoyed the extra money! If dancing was still clean like it was in the mid-80s and 90s and I was still young! I would be doing it right NOW! I was a lot safer working as a dancer than I was in my so-called “real” job of nine and half years. While I was a dancer, I never was emotionally harassed by a mob of sociopaths like I was in my so-called “real” job!

My credentials are from my personal experiences and not from memorized abstract information from a university. Education alone is just another illusion. Just like Alice Miller, my enlightened witness, wrote to one of her readers: “I think that if you want to help children you need to work with parents on THEIR HISTORIES and to help them to find out what hinders them to be the parents their children need so that they could feel protected, respected, and loved. To do this work with a clear knowledge of your own history could help you more than a university degree.”

If a degree from a university freed people from their own emotional prisons, then Larry would be happy joyous and free and not dependent on substances like nicotine. He is unconsciously and compulsively showing us how he was treated as a child. Just like Petra Helm wrote in the foreword of my book: “Sylvie Imelda Shene can see what happened to people as small children. She can also predict their futures. She’s not psychic or clairvoyant, but she knows that people unconsciously and compulsively tell the true and traumatic stories of their childhoods by repeating, reenacting and recreating them in the present moment.

Sylvie realized this was happening to her, and to everyone around her when she became a devotee of Alice Miller in the year 2000 at the age of 41. Miller, a Swiss psychologist, achieved worldwide renown in the 1980s and 1990s for her books about how the repressed emotions of childhood traumas can have a huge influence on the course of our lives, forcing people into a state of compulsive repetition that keeps them stuck in childhood without knowing it.

Miller’s writings intrigued Sylvie from the day she started reading them. And ultimately, Miller’s work became the only thing that could free Sylvie from her emotional prison and save her from an abusive relationship with a man named Marty. Marty was a Leonardo DiCaprio lookalike who Sylvie met when she was a topless dancer in the 1990s — a job she turned into a lucrative career that spanned nearly 18 years.

Unlike the typical guy who approached Sylvie at the strip club where she worked, Marty forced Sylvie to break all her rules. And he triggered all the painful feelings from her early years of being unwanted, emotionally abandoned and neglected by the people closest to her.

Sylvie did everything she could to win Marty’s love and affection, from forgiving his affairs and feeding his drug habits to buying him a $7,000 Honda VFR750F sport touring motorcycle. She knew she was in a sick place, but Marty had gained complete control over her.

Sylvie turned to self-help books and a 12-step program for guidance, hoping to become the loving person who could get Marty to change. It was a reference in a book Sylvie was reading — Codependents’ Guide to the 12 Steps by Melody Beattie — that led Sylvie to Alice Miller’s Thou Shalt Not Be Aware: Society’s Betrayal of the Child. Sylvie knew just from the subtitle that she had found something important. Sylvie read the book and liked it, but set it aside because she was hoping to get a quick fix from her Al-Anon group.

Four or five years later, when Sylvie and Marty’s relationship was at its worst, Sylvie was brought to her knees — not to be taken to God as her 12-step program prescribed, but to finally confront the reality of the repressed child she once was. Sylvie returned to the works of Alice Miller, refusing to be distracted by groups that only gave the illusion of love and an empty promise of salvation. She read Thou Shalt Not Be Aware again, along with all of Alice Miller’s other books.

This time, Sylvie realized how she was unconsciously and compulsively reenacting her childhood drama — not only with Marty but also with members of her 12-step group and just about everyone else she had relationships with. Alice Miller became Sylvie’s “enlightened witness,” — in the sense of truly knowing how to heal — and helped Sylvie truly feel the intense feelings of the repressed child she once was for the first time in her life.”


Cynthia Backlund Sylvie Imelda Shene I thank you for your honesty and courage.

Also, read my blog  The Roots of Most People's Hate for Hillary Clinton 

If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge 

Monday, June 20, 2016

Repercussions of Abortion

A Jewish “Crisis Pregnancy” Group Follows Its Anti-Choice Christian Cousins

Nothing pisses me off more than lies and misleading information. The only repercussions of abortion are the ones people create in their own heads, but the repercussions of bringing new beings into this world that we are not in a position to take care of physically, emotionally and psychologically are massive. 

Schiavonne words are so true: “When it comes to protesting abortion, I notice that anti-abortionists usually have pictures of fully developed babies. That is very inaccurate since abortions usually involve zygotes, embryos, and fetuses. Besides, they are potentials, not actual people. To say that abortion is human murder is like saying that eating scrambled eggs is chick murder. (No offense to vegetarians/vegans who are against eating egg products.)

I also see the hypocrisy when it comes to conservative Christians and Catholics. Since they believe that people are born evil, it's funny how they called potential people "innocent", but once they are born, they are suddenly labeled "evil" and are punished in horrible ways to have this "innate evil" driven out of them and these poor children grow up to do the same to their own offspring or other scapegoats. This is one of the reasons why I left religion four years ago and lost belief in God in general. A god who bribes you with heaven and punishes you with hell and who basically is a ripoff of older outdated deities is not a god worth believing in.

A few years ago, I thought I would feel guilty if I had an abortion. Now I would feel guilty if I brought a child into the world and couldn't meet his/her needs. I'm relieved that so-called pro-life organizations like this are exposed for their truly harmful agendas."
Posted by Schiavonne on Saturday, June 19, 2010 - 5:06 PM 

Schiavonne, thank you for writing, your observations are so truthful and you articulate it so beautifully. I always enjoy reading your comments. You’re a breath of fresh air. Congratulations on giving up the illusion of religion, morality and god.

As Alice Miller says: “…Morality and performance of duty are artificial measures that become necessary when something essential is lacking. The more successfully a person was denied access to his or her feelings in childhood, the larger the arsenal of intellectual weapons and the supply of moral prostheses has to be, because morality and a sense of duty are not sources of strength or fruitful soil for genuine affection. Blood does not flow in artificial limbs; they are for sale and can serve many masters… …The artificial nature of moral laws and rules of behavior is most clearly discernible in a situation in which lies and deception are powerless, i,e., in the mother-child relationship. A sense of duty may not be fruitful soil for love but it undoubtedly is for mutual guilt feelings, and the child will forever be bound to the mother by crippling feelings of guilt and gratitude…” 
WHERE THERE IS NO LOVE - THERE MUST BE LAWS AND RULES 

Also, these words by Alice Miller to one of her readers are so true: “unwanted children are usually mistreated. But there exist as a rule also a huge amount of people who were "wanted" indeed, but only for playing the role of the victims that their parents needed to be able to take revenge on. They were wanted to give their parents what the parents never had gotten from their own parents: love, adoration, attention and so many other things. Otherwise, why would so many people have five or more children when they have no time for them? Why do they adopt children if their body refuses to give them what they apparently "want?"
The never acknowledged, never felt pain of their childhood calls for being avenged. They go to church, they pray, they honor their parents, forgive them everything – and they mistreat their children at home, often in a very cruel way, AS IF THIS WERE THE MOST NATURAL THING, because they learned this so early. Their children learn this perverted behavior, also very early, and will later do the same; and so this perverse behavior continues for millennia. Unless people are willing to SEE the perversion of their parents and are ready to consciously refuse to imitate it.
You are not being "sickeningly sarcastic," you only dared to speak out the truth that most people are afraid of seeing or talking about."

I could not agree more! “Someone asked me what I thought about men's reproductive rights and if I was "pro-choice for men" as well as for women. Answer: Yes, I am pro-choice for all humans. And as far as men's reproductive rights go, here's a handy-dandy guide to how males reproduce and what men can do to exercise their reproductive rights.

The thing some men (not all, of course) fail to understand, is that men already have complete control over their own bodies on a legal and social level. Is that to say men are never abused? Not all. But if one is willing to look at the facts and admit male privilege exists, it is clear that women are systematically controlled by legal and social spheres, and are still fighting for their autonomy and their right to decide what happens to their own damn bodies.

Do we, as a society, attempt to control what men do with their sperm through legislation? No. Why should society and the government control what women do with their uteri?
~OK”

Anja Gustafsson Yes, I've always said this myself, that long before the invention of birth-control, MEN were the ones that decided how many babies would be born in a family. He had the full control, since he could control his ejaculation. In families where the men didn't want so many children, women did not have to bear them, in families where the men wanted many children, women had to bear many children. And nobody EVER talks about how men always have had the opportunity to abort their children, even after they're born. My father aborted me for example, I never heard peep from him in all my life. To him I don't exist. My mother didn't have THAT choice, since she couldn't deny my existence.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Anja, You are a 100% correct! I am sorry your biological father never acknowledged you. Some men unconsciously and compulsively take revenge on women for the wrongs done to them when they were defenseless little infants and children and unconsciously contribute to the creation of new beings to have the same fate as them.

Anja Gustafsson That was actually very close to a feminist suggestion I heard, I don't remember if it was serious or if it was some kind of satire, but it was that what if every 15-16 year old young man were to leave a couple of sperm samples and then got mandatory vasectomies? Nobody could then father children by mistake and no woman could be fooled by men who claim they've had vasectomies but lie to avoid condoms. And since the sperm is at its best quality around that age anyway... 
Sylvie Imelda Shene François, you made some very good points and I have been saying this all of my life, that women and men are in the same boat, we come from the same place, one is not better than the other, we might react differently and express our pain differently, but the pain is the same for both sexes. My only issue is: why are men allowed to enjoy sex freely and are allowed to live unconsciously in our society, but women are not allowed to enjoy sex freely and society go after women with a vengeance, the double standards drive me up the wall, why men are allowed to throw away their live sperm, but oh my goodness if a woman gets rid of her fertilized egg, she is called every name in the book! Also, it’s the same with some heterosexual people that think are superior and better than homosexuals and go after them with a vengeance and discriminate against them, one is not better than the other, just like men are not better than women. It makes my blood boil when I hear people that are against abortion, tell women to keep their legs closed and my answer is: why can’t men keep their penises in their pants, for the same reason: women like sex as much as men. Let’s have the same demands for everyone! Just like Alice said to one of her readers: AM: Why do people expect and demand more from homosexuals than from heterosexuals? Why do the latter ones have the right to live unconsciously (with the image of their happy childhood and a wonderful mother) more than the first ones? Homosexuals do even less harm to society because they don't produce children to exploit them, abuse them, and teach them violence. Of course, they CAN abuse children and do much harm when they force them to keep silent. But many heterosexuals do the same, too, even if they are parents of own children. So what is the matter with our demands? Do we question why millions of religious people say that beating children is right because of Salomon's wisdom? No, we don't do anything and see this as normal. Do we ask why millions of women let their daughters become sexually mutilated? No, we think that their religion is demanding that. But even the Koran does not demand this at all. It MAY be (I don't know it for sure) that the repressed rage of some men who were beaten as children by their mothers or sisters unconsciously wants to take revenge when they are adults for what they had to endure in childhood. They honor their mothers and punish their daughters instead. So they feel good with this tradition and support it with their whole might. But be careful and don't give such information to anybody who does not ask you for. They would kill you rather than accept the truth that they suffered abuse in childhood. You know how much time it takes to confront oneself with one's own childhood. So don't try to be a healer in telling people what they definitely don't want to know. You can only heal yourself, and this is much, very much.”

Sylvie Imelda Shene Anja, here is the article you were talking about earlier, I used Google translate and saved it in my blog.

Sylvie Imelda Shene I am Sorry Anja, most of us are here because our parents were unconscious and now it’s in our hands to become conscious and take responsibility for our childhood wounds. I usually tell people we either find the courage to face and feel our repression or continue unconsciously and compulsively to pass it down into the next generation like a psychological virus. “We never know how a child will and must react to the injustice he or she has suffered,” Alice Miller writes. And because of this, we should do all we can to prevent bringing more traumatized children into the world in the first place, because trauma is so hard to heal, especially once a person has become a teenager or an adult and the powerful enablers in our society don’t help. And this is why I want to do all I can to remove the stigma from abortion so I can prevent from more traumatized new beings from being born in the first place and if a women wake up pregnant and know in her heart she is in no position to bring a child into the world, I want her to know it’s nothing wrong with abortion, but bringing a child into the world we are not in place to take care of and protect the repercussions are massive.
Why someone didn’t choose abortion can be so many, maybe the young woman never felt loved by anyone and fall into the illusion having a baby will guaranty she will have someone, at last, that will love her once and for all or the pressure of family, society, and religion or the unconscious desire to create a new being to use as scapegoat or poisonous container for repress effect. This quote by Alice Miller comes to mind: “The need to split off the disquieting parts of the inner self and project them onto an available object. The child’s great plasticity flexibility, defenselessness, and availability made it the ideal object for this projection. The enemy within can, at last, be hunted down on the outside. Peace advocates are becoming increasingly aware of the role played by these mechanisms, but until it is clearly recognized that they can be traced back to methods of child raising, little can be done to oppose them. For children who have grown up being assailed for qualities, the parents hate in themselves can hardly wait to assign these qualities to someone else so they can once again regard themselves as good, “moral,” noble, and altruistic. Such projections can easily become part of any Weltanschauung.” Alice Miller

Feeling the repressed anger of the child we once were at our mother is the most difficult anger to feel, because we are high wired to love our mothers no matter what and feeling our anger towards our mothers causes us to feel guilty and the pressures of society that idealizes mothers don’t help either and most men unconscious take revenge on all women for the wounds suffered when they were defenseless little children at the hands of their own mothers and women unconsciously hate all other men and most women and men are stuck in their hate and don’t realize that are making each other scapegoats. Anger can never be resolved when directed at scapegoats, it only can be resolved when felt and understood within the context of our own childhood. 

These words by Alice come to mind also: “...It is only in the child that traumas are bound to lead to psychic wounds because they damage the organism in its growth process. These injuries can heal if one dares to see them, or they can remain unhealed if one is forced to go on ignoring them. The feminist movement will forfeit none of its strength if it finally admits that mothers also abuse their children. Only the truth, even the most uncomfortable, endows a movement with the strength to change society, not the denial of the truth. When men abuse their women and the women put up with it, both the violence of the men and the tolerance of the women are consequences of early child abuse. Hence young children, male as well as female, can become victims of adults of either sex. When sensitive, nonbrutal women (and men) are incapable of protecting their children from the brutality of their partner, one must attribute this inability to the blinding process and the intimidation experienced in their own childhood. That is the simple truth. Only when these roots of all violence are exposed is it possible to examine the phenomena without retouching or embellishing them. When a female therapist has been taught that men are solely to blame for all evil in the world, she will, of course, be able to support her female patients when they eventually discover that they have been sexually abused by their fathers, grandfathers, or brothers: Unlike the followers of the drive theory, she will not talk them out of this truth. But as long the truth about the mother who allowed the abuse to happen, who failed to protect the child and ignored her distress, is kept out of sight, the full reality is not allowed to be either perceived or acknowledged. And as long as the child’s feelings cannot be experienced, the rage against men---a rage she can already experience---remain impotent: it can even remain coupled with the undissolved loyalty and devotion toward the father or other abusive men. When mothers are defended as pathetic victims, the female patient will not discover that with a loving, protective, perceptive, and courageous mother she could never have been abused by her father or brother. A daughter who has learned from her mother that she is worth protecting will find protection among strangers too and will be able to defend herself. When she has learned what love is, she will not succumb to simulated love. But a child who was merely pushed aside and disciplined, who never experienced soothing caresses, is not aware that anything like nonexploitive caresses can exist. She has no choice but to accept any closeness she is offered rather than be destroyed. Under certain circumstances, she will even accept sexual abuse for the sake of finding at least some affection rather than freezing up entirely. When, as an adult woman, she comes to realize that she was cheated out of love, she may be ashamed of her former need and hence feel guilty. She will blame herself because she dare not blame her mother, who failed to satisfy the child’s need or perhaps even condemned it. Psychoanalysts protect the father and embroider the sexual abuse of the child with the Oedipus, or Electra, complex, while some feminist therapist idealizes the mother, thus hindering access to the child’s first traumatic experience with the mother. Both approaches can lead to a dead end, since the dissolved of pain and fear is not possible until the full truth of facts can be seen and accepted.” Alice Miller “Banished Knowledge” page 1, 2, 78 and 79

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Tuesday, June 14, 2016

For a sociopath, winning is all

“A sociopath has no conscience, no emotional attachment to others, and no ability to love. For a sociopath, Stout says, “life is reduced to a contest, and other human beings seem to be nothing more than game pieces, to be moved about, used as shields or ejected.”
So what does a sociopath want? According to Stout, a sociopath wants only to win.” Read more here

When I found out about my ex-boss was robbing banks on the side and shot himself in a police standoff on  March 11, that by odd coincidence was my birthday, unconsciously he gave me a little justice on my birthday! 

I sent the e-mail published on my blog Hornets’ Nest of Corruption to some of the residents in my emailing list to inform them that I had been treated like a criminal, but NOW there was proof that they were the criminals' ones, but instead of hiding in shame, the sociopaths came after me viciously. 

The security community that employed me sent me a Cease and Desist letter trying to intimidate me and silence me and the sociopaths at the community started sending the letter below to my friends in the community telling them lies accusing me of doing what they themselves do. My friends in the community and a few others were grateful I shared with them this information, but the sociopaths in the community became even more fired up.

My ex-boss, a middle-aged white man, and an ex-sheriff! They treated me like a criminal and they accused me of making threats, but look who was the criminal and going around making threats to kill people if they didn't comply with his commands! 

If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book --and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. 

And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their games and traps so clearly. I was their target to destroy, but when was one of them to self-destruct, all became silent and no one cares that these criminals with their projections and lies -- I lost my job and more than half of my income  -- AND they could have destroyed my life completely. 

There is no humanity! Most people are all fake and pretenders -- acting as if personality pretending to be good people -- but are wolves in sheep's clothing. I'm done with humanity! Humanity is on the path to self-destruct and with the aid of technology is going to happen much faster! 

And there is nothing I can do besides smile and wave at those that pass by me following leaders and charlatans taking them to an abyss. 

I will keep sharing my experiences and psychological discoveries with anyone that listens, but who wants to listen to someone that once made a living as a topless dancer and now as a gate attendant to upscale gated communities that in most people's eyes are nobodies and could not possibly have anything of importance to tell anyone! So I just smile and wave! AND enjoy my newfound freedom. Sad for them, but happy for me!
Cease and desist letters are sometimes used to intimidate recipients and can be "an effective tool used by corporations to chill the critical speech of gripe sites operators."[3] A company owning a trademark may send such letter to a gripe site operator alleging a trademark infringement, although the actual use of the trademark by the gripe site operator may fall under a fair use exception (in compliance with, in the U.S., the protection of free speech under the First Amendment).[3]”

" When Exposing a Crime is Treated as Committing a Crime, You Are Ruled By Criminals."  Yes, I was ruled by criminals! And even faced with this evidence  I'm still the one being treated like I'm the criminal and the real criminals are being protected! 
The quote above could not be truer!

“MESA, AZ (KPHO/KTVK) -A Chandler bank robber shot and killed himself inside his vehicle Friday morning after he pulled into a gas station several miles away in Mesa, police said.
SWAT officers from Mesa Police took over during negotiations while the suspect sat in his car with a gun in his hand. At one point, the suspect exited the car, but then he got back in the vehicle.
Officers were seen with guns drawn crouching behind their police unit.
A gunshot was soon heard coming from the suspect's car. There was never any exchange of gunfire.” Read more HERE 

Today, 3-5-22 I noticed that AZFAMILY. COM  link above no longer exists, most likely the Security company asked them to delete it because they don't want people to be making the connection that this story is true and real. But I just googled it and abc15 still has the story available in the link below.


Isn’t interesting that the media never revealed the bank robber’s name! I’m sure they are protecting the security company he worked for, it would not look good for a security company that one of his top managers was robbing banks on the side! After finding out my ex-boss was the bank robber I contacted the media again, but once again the media remains silent, they are protecting the sociopaths! I wonder what will take to get the media's attention. Make the connection here



At least the security company signed their letter.

 As you see the sociopaths in the gated community didn't sign their letters to my friends in the community, because they know, they are lying and they don't want to put a face to their letters, they are a bunch of cowards, they wish I confronted them in an intimidating manner, they would love to have something on me to pin me down with! But all they have is their lies!!!

Yes, they have mastered the art of projection to perfection. 

Yes, I danced with Lucifer. If I truly had not resolved my repression I would not have seen clearly the evil games the sociopaths at my job of nine and half years were playing -- trying to get me to self-destruct -- very few people will ever know what feels like having a mob of sociopaths conspiring together to try to get you to act against yourself! They literally wanted me dead, in Jail or mental hospital. After this experience, I will never again look at another human being in the same way. I danced with Lucifer! Not once, but twice! The first time was just one, but this last time was a mob of evil people. If I had not truly resolved my repression -- I would probably be dead right now.

The words below from the article "20 Diversion Tactics Highly Manipulative Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Psychopaths Use to Silence Youcould not be truer: "Toxic people will gossip behind your back (and in front of your face), slander you to your loved ones or their loved ones, create stories that depict you as the aggressor while they play the victim, and claim that you engaged in the same behaviors that they are afraid you will accuse them of engaging in. They will also methodically, covertly, and deliberately abuse you so they can use your reactions as a way to prove that they are the so-called “victims” of your abuse." 

This blog was triggered by Marianne Krivan's Facebook post: "I'm starting to wonder about the policies and procedures with the FBI. New stories emerge about the shooter. His elementary schoolmates remember him as someone who threatened to bring a gun to school and kill his classmates. He had many confrontations with his teachers. In high school, he actually cheered while 9/11 was happening. The FBI never uncovered this information?"

Sylvie Imelda Shene: I have worked with troubled people and I too quit or lost the job for reporting it.
Last March my ex-boss robbed a bank and shot himself in a police standoff. Security business attracts a lot of troubled people like this shooter.
Now tell me why the media never revealed his name? Who are they protecting?!
Marianne Krivan: Sylvie ...this is crazy!

Sylvie Imelda Shene I know Marianne! It's very crazy! We live in an upside-down world! In the workplace, sociopaths are protected and honest and authentic people are the ones that lose the job if they dare to report it. Even with evidence that one of the sociopaths harassing me was a true criminal, they still treated me like I am the criminal.
Lourdes Pertierra:  It's crazy

https://www.facebook.com/marianne.krivan/posts/10209763821230871?comment_id=10209768971199617&notif_t=like&notif_id=1465961843706328

"Sociopaths hate us. All sociopaths know in their “heart-of-hearts” (so to speak) that we are the ones with the real power. We have the advantage of being real people who can love and feel. We are flexible, reasonable. We have wisdom mingled in compassion. A potent elixir for the ills and sorrows of life; the stuff human kindness is made of. Sociopaths hate us – they are loveless, and without conscience. – They also know while they hate us and use us – we can ruin them by exposure. This evokes rage.
When individuals operate without a conscience they are able to do horrible things we would never dream of doing – and there is no moral compass or guilt feelings to stop them. ~ Dr. Deborah Ettel, PhD. Psychology
Sociopaths are limited. Sociopaths are reactionary, defensive, and grasping for what they perceive as power in money, and position. Whatever ‘status’ they seem to hold is always fake. They have nothing without hijacking other people’s lives. This can be on a grand scale involving millions of dollars, or at a low economic level for basic needs: housing, food, internet, clothes, a phone – and all else in between. They crave a good reputation. Sometimes in the heat of being discovered, or in fear of losing a gain, they’ll take unplanned, improvised actions that may even cause themselves harm directly or indirectly in over-the-top criminality. Their weakness is a constant fear of being unmasked. This and their limited minds makes them predictable. This leaves gaps and leverage for our escape from these monsters." Read more  here

Mass Shootings: We are all responsible
"We have reached no definitive conclusions,” Obama said at a news conference, adding: “What is clear is that he was a person filled with hate.”
How come no one ever asks the question where this hate comes from and why?! The shooter seeing two men kissing is just the trigger of his intense hate and not the cause, gay people are just the shooter's scapegoats.
There are a lot of people walking around with time bombs in their brains -- until the bombs explode.


They don't like it that I call them sociopaths, but if you go out of your way to destroy a life, just because you don't like the truth, I'm sorry, but that makes you a sociopath!



These words by John Lennon could not be truer. The sociopaths at my job of nine and half years were hoping I would react to their lies, mind games, and smear campaign and I would become violent in some form. The system is thirsty for blood, but I don't play their game. "When it gets down to having to use violence, then you are playing the system's game. The establishment will irritate you - pull your beard, flick your face - to make you fight. Because once they've got you violent, then they know how to handle you. The only thing they don't know how to handle is non-violence and humor." John Lennon

To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge  


Very good question, Christa Van Vuuren. At my job of nine and a half years. I too was treated like a criminal and my locker was broken into in search of anything they could pin me down with. They destroyed all the evidence I had collected of their emotional harassment. But when one of them exactly a year later got caught committing a crime and killed himself in a police standoff, an ex-sheriff and a middle-aged White man -- now they all became silent and is a big cover-up by the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media, but if it was me, the little woman to committed a crime, my face and name would have been splashed all over the news stations everywhere.