I saw a post on Facebook that her adopted son committed suicide. Just like I wrote in my e-mail to you in 2013. "Anyway I have seen all the red flags that this woman is very sick, I never tried to confront her directly before, but my posts must have made her feel uncomfortable and she unfriended me like a year or so ago, she adopted a child, he is now a teenager and I can see all the signs she having incestuous relationship with her son hiding behind the theory of “attachment parenting” if is not physical, is without a doubt emotional, and you can see this young man is confused beyond measure. Women that can’t have children usually are against abortion, is like they want other women to have the children they can’t for them to unconsciously use and exploit to satisfy their unconscious needs."
It's very hard to break free from the chains of compulsion repetition and he is leaving a baby behind that most like will continue reenacting this painful scenario and the chains of compulsion repetition will go on endless...
R just called me! But I didn’t take the call and he did not leave a message. I am not calling him back, because I know he is looking for a fight, so he can project his anger at me and have me express his disowned anger and then accuse me of being angry and then shame me for being angry so he can also transfer his repressed shame into me.
He thinks I am stupid, but I am not playing his game, I refuse to go there with him, I tried in 2008 and if he has not learned anything since 2008, he is not going to and I am moving on. All these years I kept a distance, because I felt something not right about him and never felt completely safe with him and now I got the proof that my gut feeling has been right all along!
Isn’t interesting that the best way to find out who your real friends are is when you are down or when you are about to create something great. R’s intense repressed jealousy being triggered is a sign that I ma about to do something great! And if he had the courage to face and feel his own repression he could be part of it, but instead he letting his unresolved repressed emotions sabotage it to keep his idealized mother and childhood intact, he rather be a sociopath and destroy me, so can feel superior over me. His jealousy being triggered like this is the best compliment he could give me! Because if it was bad he wouldn’t be this worried that my book might make it and to try to destroy me. He is showing all the signs of a sociopath/psychopath.
Sociopaths/psychopaths will go to any lengths to achieve what they want, if they have children they will even use their own children to achieve their means.
“While the average person spends a good portion of the day thinking about those she loves (children, husband, parents, friends), a sociopath doesn't have these emotional ties with anyone. Instead, she will spend all that time plotting to take you down and destroy you either literally or figuratively. Even removing yourself from the sphere of the sociopath's influence may only work for a while. You must remain consistent. Do not let the sociopath fool you a second time with his or her charm. Do not believe the person has changed. Most therapists agree that sociopaths cannot be treated effectively. Instead, take steps to protect yourself and your family. Consider drastic solutions like moving, changing jobs and making new friends. Remember that it is all a game to the sociopath. She or he does not care if you're hurt. The only goal they have is winning. The only way you can beat a sociopath is to get away from a sociopath. Accept the harsh reality. Sociopaths do not change. Perhaps you've come to the conclusion that you are dealing with a sociopath. You've read the key symptoms and they describe this person perfectly. You've read the True Lovefraud stories, and you recognize the behaviors. So what do you do now? Accept the reality that a sociopath will never change.”
I have seen the worst cases of child abuse by parents that home school their children. Anyway I have seen all the red flags that this women is very sick, I never tried to confront her directly before, but my posts must have made her feel uncomfortable and she unfriended me like a year or so ago, she adopted a child, he is now a teenager and I can see all the signs she having incestuous relationship with her son hiding behind the theory of “attachment parenting” if is not physical, is without a doubt emotional, and you can see this young man is confused beyond measure. Women that can’t have children usually are against abortion is like they want other women to have the children they can’t for them to unconsciously use and exploit to satisfy their unconscious needs.
I don’t know if I share with you the comments I made while back in W’s post. This LC is the author of the book I of M and P, I bought her book when I just met her on facebook three years ago, but I did not finished reading it and I threw it in the garbage. She preaching home schooling as the answer to protecting children and I am sure home school might be the best course for some children, if their parents are healthy and balances the child life with social activities with other children, but when parents are unhealthy a child going to school might be the only break from parents’ insanity and the chance to explore other ways of being.
Anyway here are my comments in reaction to her comments in W'’s post:
: I have tried to stay out of discussions and commenting on other people’s posts, because I have a tendency to trigger people’s repressed anger and then they delete me in anger, but I can’t help myself and have to make this comment. I don’t consider myself a feminist per se, but I am for women’s rights, children rights and men’s rights, I am for every breathing living beings' rights. I know a lot of feminists are too afraid to go to the roots why some men and women try so hard to repress them, but I am grateful for a lot of the accomplishments some feminists were able to do before me and I have come to enjoy thanks to their hard work. Even though I wished the feminists had the courage to go deeper, because as long we refuse to go to the roots causes, will always going to be oppressors trying to repress us.
I totally understand their fears. L accuses the feminists being a hate group, but I see L’s anger very clear being transferred at the feminists groups also. Until people really consciously feel the fears and anger of the child they once were within the context of their own childhood, they will unconsciously and compulsively look for a scapegoat to relieve pen up anger and it seems the feminists have come to be the perfect scapegoat for L.
These words below Alice Miller wrote to me before she passed come truer every day: “AM: I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats. They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually they use unconsciously other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves they can become very mean. I can only urge you to trust your feelings and to NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the cases it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use others to getting free from the accumulated rage.”
: What makes me the saddest is when women masquerading with their illusion of love for men and even unborn children oppress or stand in the way of other women’s body autonomy and freedom.
Even though I understand why some women hate women and want to take revenge on other women for the wrongs done to them when they were defenseless little children by their own mothers or other woman caregivers in their lives, my biggest oppressors in my childhood were also women, but directing this latent hate at other women makes them no different of the men that take revenge on other women for what their mothers did to them when were defenseless little boys.
Hate will always be insatiable and until is understood and felt within the context of our childhood will endless look for new victims to take revenge for the wrongs done to them when they were little, because hate cannot ever be resolved by scapegoating, but only when is seen and consciously felt and understood within the context our own childhood.
Until women are free to make their own choices without external pressures, they will sadly oppress others overtly or covertly, under the mask of the illusion of love, especially their children.
These words by Alice Miller just came to mind: ““We cannot really love if we are forbidden to know our truth, the truth about our parents and caregivers as well as about ourselves. We can only try to behave as if we were loving, but this hypocritical behavior is the opposite of love. It is confusing and deceptive, and it produces much helpless rage in the deceived person. This rage must be repressed in the presence of the pretended “love,” especially if one is dependent, as a child is, on the person who is masquerading in this illusion of love.” (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The search for the True Self) Page 23
So if we really like and care about men and children, we have to do what we can to aid women’s liberation, so they can carry pregnancies to term and give birth to children by choice and love and raise children in freedom. And not by external manipulations and coerced to carry pregnancies to term and give birth to new beings by force, because anything done by force or manipulations never has a good outcome.
Until women are truly free to make their own decisions, no one around them will be truly free either, especially their children, raising a new generation of oppressors continuing the vicious circle endless.
Alice Miller says best: “It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn't help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable”