Saturday, December 16, 2017

The psychology of narcissism:

Great video!  It does help me see the difference between a narcissist and a sociopath! 




I have a tendency to put them all in the category of sociopaths. I guess it's really not fair to call a narcissist a sociopath.  This video states what's a narcissist is. A sociopath and a psychopath are much more dangerous! 



Emotional Abuse and Sociopaths


In the beginning, a sociopath can gauge what matters to us. They fulfill that. As the weeks go by, they discern what we won’t tolerate or forgive, what will keep us trusting, even when they become neglectful or mean. They innately know the little tricks and which treatment will bend us to their will most effectively.
We’ve been kidnapped without realizing it. We’re not with a normal person, sociopaths have abnormal brains. As a sociopath goes about their day in the world they present a false self, even the barista or car wash attendant aren’t seeing a real person. The sociopath is constantly putting on a fake-frontWe try to keep things harmonious – humans need harmony within their lives and relationships. If both people were normal, both people would contribute to harmony within the relationship… this is not the case with a sociopath.  Read more HERE
"In professional environments, they want you to blow up so that coworkers and superiors see you as unstable. In romantic settings, they want you to lash out so that they can use your “hysterical” reactions to show potential partners and exes how crazy you’ve become. Until we understand this, we’ll continue to fall into their trap." Read more HERE

1. Emotional manipulator

Playing on sympathy is a favorite weapon of choice for psychopaths.
While they are confident, outgoing and mentally resilient and rarely feel sorry for themselves, they are master manipulators are extremely proficient at eliciting pity and compassion.
Poor performers with psychopathic tendencies may frequently appeal to extenuating circumstances and pleas for support and understanding in order to shift the focus from their own behavior.

2. Control freak

If you feel like you are being micro-managed, you probably are!

Moving people around, making them jump for the sake of it, unnecessary rearrangements of workspaces, the sudden imposition of unsocial working hours, monitoring toilet breaks, the promise of favors in return for ratting out your colleagues are just a few psychopathic favorites.

3. Charming

Psychopaths are past masters at making brilliant first impressions and charming your socks off.  They know only too well the value of turning on the charm early in a relationship and then slowly turning it off to make you start doubting yourself and feeling less worthy.
If you have been swept off your feet and made to feel like you are the only person in the room, if you have felt that someone is speaking just to you, only to be left feeling confused and insecure afterward, then you may have been faced to face with a corporate Psychopath!

4. Bloodsucker

Psychopaths are corporate vampires who take you into their confidence only to suck out all the valuable new ideas that may have been weeks and months in the planning.
A typical approach is to use reciprocity, a potent influencing tool.  A Psychopath might ‘confide’ in you about some ordinary idea of his/her own in the hope you then offer one of your own that is better.
Before you know it, your idea has become theirs” and they are getting the credit for it.

5. Liar Liar

If your relationship with your boss has been plagued by ‘false starts’, ‘misunderstandings’ and ‘wrong assumptions’ then you may have a Psychopath on your hands.
A tendency to misrepresent the facts while appearing plausible and reasonable, along with a lack of guilt or anxiety over telling lies is another hallmark of psychopathic behavior.

But they are hard to spot because the lies often contain just enough truth that a spurious cover story can be concocted if they are scrutinized too closely. Read more HERE

An Educated Empath Is a Sociopath’s Worst Nightmare



Yes. I'm the sociopaths worse nightmare! 

"I want to debunk the misconception that sociopaths and narcissists are smarter than empaths. To many people’s surprise, empaths are absolutely intellectually superior to sociopaths and narcissists. Empaths are grounded in reality, capable of abstract thought, and they are creative.
Narcissists and sociopaths lack all three of these traits. Empaths have the intellect and the creativity to manipulate and even exploit the narcissist 1000 times worse than they could ever imagine. Just because targets don’t exploit does not mean they can’t, or that they couldn’t, do an even better job than the sociopath.
Empaths don’t exploit narcissists or sociopaths because we have morals and values. And moreover, empaths are not in the business of hurting people.
I certainly don’t want targets to abuse their abuser, but I do want to encourage targets to start engaging in self-protection by utilizing their creativity to come up with nonviolent strategies to counter manipulate narcissists into staying away from them. Counter manipulation is used by targets to STOP the abuser from manipulating them. This is not something to feel guilty about, but it is, in fact, a very healthy behavior called self-care.
If you are a target, please remember, you are smarter than the narcissist, because you are grounded in reality, and that in itself is a huge intellectual advantage.

I personally pity the fool who tries to mess with an enlightened empath full of self-knowledge!" Read more HERE
To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge