tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post2926782926870436322..comments2023-05-04T05:35:55.910-07:00Comments on Sylvie's place: my e-mail to CNNSylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-39898583466842230382011-02-15T09:00:53.843-08:002011-02-15T09:00:53.843-08:00ssrr88, thank you for your comment, I agree with e...ssrr88, thank you for your comment, I agree with everything you wrote, I just wish I could articulate it as beautifully as you do! And I too hope one day Alice Miller’s books get the attention they deserve, you can be sure I will be doing everything I can to shine light in her very important work.Sylviehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-28978524975519181122011-01-20T18:16:43.947-08:002011-01-20T18:16:43.947-08:00I read that article on the Tiger Mom on various we...I read that article on the Tiger Mom on various websites and was shocked and disgusted. She rejected birthday cards, threatened to break toys if piano lessons weren't perfect, and disallowed sleepovers and playdates. I'm not afraid to admit that I was abused as a child, but even I was allowed to attend sleepovers and my cards weren't rejected nor my things weren't threatened if my instrument playing wasn't perfect.<br /><br />Another thing that shocked and disgusted me was that I came across some comments in support of this twisted and sick way to raise children. One person said that the West should emulate this because children and young adults in the West are supposedly spoiled and all are labeled disrespectful. What about respect for youngsters and each other? Why is bad behavior from adults more tolerable than bad behavior from children? If young people are disrespectful, it's because they learn it from adults that model that and demand respect from their children. (Talk about hypocrisy.) That makes it appear as if all children and young adults come from homes without parental attention. (Homes where children are treated with empathy are actually rare and are labeled as "lenient" and "permissive" by blind authoritarians.) I'm in my early twenties, and my childhood was far from being "spoiled" (whatever that means) and I was treated with lots of disrespect which included being hit, yelled at, and grounded. (I don't even remember most of what I was punished for. The "crimes" that I do remember being punished for included procrastination (which I still struggle with) and for not listening in church. (I'm now an atheist. I guess the punishments didn't work after all.) My preteen nephews are harshly punished by my brother and I noticed much disrespect from caretakers almost every day back when I worked at a fast food restaurant. Parents/caretakers would punish over petty things from not eating to being upset about something.<br /><br /><br />Another commenter said that because of "lenient parenting", 12-year-old girls are becoming pregnant and children are joining gangs. It really gets me when someone makes ridiculous claims without proof. What's the connection between pregnant youngsters and gangs and "lenient parenting"? If people did their research, they would find many studies that show that young girls become pregnant and children join gangs as a result of dysfunctional homes.<br /><br /><br />Sorry that this is long-winded, but I needed to release my thoughts about this.<br /><br />PS: It's so sad that the truth about childhood is suppressed. This is why Alice Miller is still little known. I hope one day she gets the attention she deserves. I'm determined to read all of her books. (I'm currently reading "Banished Knowledge". It's over 20 years old, but rings oh so true.)ssrr88https://www.blogger.com/profile/16673934927353073344noreply@blogger.com