tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11917024796315340912024-03-28T20:28:01.409-07:00Sylvie's placeThis blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse, these are facts, Violence is not genetic, it’s learned.
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Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.comBlogger702125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-51610150298984591802024-03-27T16:21:00.000-07:002024-03-27T16:21:10.948-07:00Living with my Truth <p><span face=""Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;">“To live with one’s own truth is to be at home with oneself. That is the opposite of isolation. We only need confirmation when we are alienated from ourselves and in flight from the truth. All the friends and devoted admires in the world cannot make up for the loss.” I too like Alice, since feeling the almost unfathomable isolation of my childhood and youth, I no longer feel isolated.</span></p><p><span face=""Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Today, I feel like a child, but I think like a mature conscious adult and every day is an adventure for me. I remember when I was a little kid in the village, probably about 4, being so excited about being alive and I could not wait for the sun to come up in the morning so I could go into the woods and explore all the little things and be in awe with all the deferent life forms. And today I am the same way I am looking forward to getting up every morning.</span></p><p><span face=""Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/05/i-feel-like-child-but-i-think-like.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/05/i-feel-like-child-but-i-think-like.html?m=1</a></span></p><p><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/08/the-avoidance-of-truth-in-medicine-and.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/08/the-avoidance-of-truth-in-medicine-and.html?m=1</a></p><p><span face=""Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p><p><span face=""Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-14853955700532699952024-03-24T02:21:00.000-07:002024-03-24T02:21:14.274-07:00Seductive Stalking<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">"The period of influence consists in leading someone, without argument, to think, make decisions, and behave other than he would spontaneously on his own. During the "seductive stalking" period, the targeted is unable to freely consent a priori because his sensibilities and vulnerabilities are influenced and manipulated. As in any manipulative process, the victim must first be made to believe he is free, even when he is insidiously deprived of the freedom to act. There can be no question of a discussion between equals; the abuser must subtly impose himself while preventing the other from becoming aware of the process and from discussing or resisting it. The victim's ability to defend himself is withdrawn, and his judgment is negated, thereby eliminating any possibility of rebellion. We find here the types of situations in which one individual exerts undue and abusive influence over another without his knowledge. In daily life we constantly being manipulated, destabilized, and muddled, and every time it happens we are furious at the perpetrator but even more ashamed of ourselves." </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;">Except from the book Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and Erosion of Identity by Marie - France Herigoyen, page 90.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Stalking+&m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Stalking+&m=1</a></div></div><p></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-77125058868506126572024-03-22T18:40:00.000-07:002024-03-27T16:00:56.006-07:00What Is The End Game For A Narcissist's Spite?<p><br /></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/-iRM2bcMzCQ" width="320" youtube-src-id="-iRM2bcMzCQ"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="text-align: left;"><br /></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white; text-align: left;">Narcissists are</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; text-align: left;"> forever toddlers</span><span style="text-align: left;"> who don't know themselves and mimic or copy people around them. I have a niece who alternates between copying me and the master manipulator in my family. But saying no to her and refusing to go along with her and money are her big triggers that remove her masks and show her true colors...</span></span></div><p><span style="font-family: arial;">"Let Them Lose You</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">You need to let people lose you Let them go along with the crowd Let them believe what they want to believe</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Let them think they have better Let them sleep on your worth</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Because in due time they will realize the mistake they made. And it will be just enough time for you to accept that you're better off without them." Morgan Richard Ouvier</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/dFATTiNcSTU?si=ougKIjSdCwCpI9IM">https://youtube.com/shorts/dFATTiNcSTU?si=ougKIjSdCwCpI9IM</a></span></p><p><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/vHgMwDmYP-I?si=iZpu02Ej48_sEIrr">https://youtube.com/shorts/vHgMwDmYP-I?si=iZpu02Ej48_sEIrr</a></p><p><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/8OOsw17jaq4?si=-M17geV0ys4HA8xU">https://youtube.com/shorts/8OOsw17jaq4?si=-M17geV0ys4HA8xU</a></p><p><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/EhbxXHq3bVc?si=YQhovZr4AWfyZQsr">https://youtube.com/shorts/EhbxXHq3bVc?si=YQhovZr4AWfyZQsr</a></p><p><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/rXeVSS14d68?si=M7qWBtSjVYvyblUc">https://youtube.com/shorts/rXeVSS14d68?si=M7qWBtSjVYvyblUc</a></p><p></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-1102659659201040512024-03-21T21:31:00.000-07:002024-03-23T15:20:25.695-07:00Why a Narcissistic Can Stay Married for Decades <p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/Q0X9-EDrsJU" width="320" youtube-src-id="Q0X9-EDrsJU"></iframe></div><div><br /></div><span style="font-family: arial;">Nothing is more important to a narcissist than his or her image. </span><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;">They are forever toddlers in an adult body acting as if personality pretending to be adults. Endless reenacting their disastrous childhood dramas. </span><div><p></p><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">All of my life people tried to make me feel my perceptions were wrong and that I was crazy so they could go on with their illusions, as usual, to keep their own repression intact -- and I doubted myself most of my life -- But now I know my true myself and I no longer doubt myself. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I will not allow anyone to come to my life and change my perceptions and reality, so people can be comfortable and go on with their illusions as usual.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Narcissists are Stuck in the Diaper Stage -- chasing the pacifier of “money” to keep repressing childhood pain,</span><span style="font-family: arial;"> money alone without facing our childhood repression -- is just another illusion. We live in an</span><span style="font-family: arial;"> </span><a href="http://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/12/its-upside-down-world.html" style="color: #2288bb; font-family: arial; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">Upside Down World</a><span style="font-family: arial;"> </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">In most cases, rich and poor are different ends of the same stick. Fucked up people with money at one end and fucked up people with no money at the other end. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p></o:p></span></div><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129;">The words below by Alice Miller explain beautifully why so many "intelligent" and "talented" people fall for the games of narcissists, the capacity to resist a totalitarian state has nothing to do with intelligence, but with the degree of access to our true self.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129;" /><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129;">"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to</span><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"> protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"><br />Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;">Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;">Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;">Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;">Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;">This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"><br /></span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"></span><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: #f6f7f9;">From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence pages 42 and 43</span></span></span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13.2px;" /></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"></span></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/XdH38k0iUgI" width="320" youtube-src-id="XdH38k0iUgI"></iframe></span></span></div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"><br /><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: #f6f7f9;"><br /></span></span></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="text_exposed_show" face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1d2129; display: inline;"><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: #f6f7f9;"><br /></span></span></span></p></div></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-15238796814946124942024-03-20T20:25:00.000-07:002024-03-20T22:17:09.443-07:00How Narcissists React When they Leave you but you Refuse to Chase<p> </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/63ZdnDeuU7U" width="320" youtube-src-id="63ZdnDeuU7U"></iframe></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;">No, I don't chase after them.</span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><span style="font-family: arial;">Yes, <span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">holding information that can be helpful to others is a form of lying and is abuse. Being a passive liar is just as destructive as the people speaking out loud lies. </span></span><div><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Many people are hoards of money and information so they can feel superior and powerful. All they want is power over others. </span></span></div><div><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Holding+information+is+a+form+of+lying+"><span style="font-family: arial;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Holding+information+is+a+form+of+lying+</span></a></div><div><div><p></p><div><span style="background-color: white; color: #1c1e21; font-family: arial;">Most people's objective in life, no matter what race, is not freedom for themselves and others. Most people's objective is to one day own their own slaves. This is what most people, no matter of race, is fighting so hard for! Most people want to be on top, no matter what race, and they don't care who they step on to get to the top! </span></div></div></div><div><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #1c1e21; font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=slaves">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=slaves</a></span></span></div><div><span style="background-color: white;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;"><span style="color: #222222;">Addiction and greed are the same things. Greed or addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it. Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it. They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others even their own children. No wonder so many young people are so angry; for when we feel used and exploited we get angry. Only addicts will elect and support an addict to be our leader. This means there are a lot of addictive or greedy people in our society!!!</span></span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/04/addiction-and-greed-is-same-thing.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/04/addiction-and-greed-is-same-thing.html</a></span></div><div><br /></div><div>"If a man has an apartment stacked to the ceiling with newspapers, we call him crazy. If a woman has a trailer house full of cats, we call her nuts.</div><div><br /></div><div>But when people pathologically hoard so much cash that they impoverish the entire nation, we put them on the cover of Fortune magazine and pretend that they are role models." ~B. Lester</div><div><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial;">"The goal of an abusive individual is to gain or maintain power by whatever means possible or else to mask his own incompetence. </span></div><div><span style="background-color: white;"><p style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">In order to accomplish this, he must get rid of anyone who impedes his progress or sees through him." </span></p><p style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Stalking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and Erosion of Identity by Marie-France Hirigoyen page 71</span></p><p style="color: #222222;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/stalking-soul.html?m=1" style="color: #2288bb; text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="font-family: arial;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/stalking-soul.html?m=1</span></a></p><p style="color: #222222;"><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="font-size: 13.2px;"> </span><span style="font-family: arial;">How would you define abuse?</span></p><p style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Abuse means to me using a person for whatever I want from her, or him, without asking for their agreement, without respecting their will and their interests. With children, it is very easy to do so, because they are loving, they trust their parents and most adults, and they don’t realize that they were abused, that their love had been exploited. Especially if they were forced to ignore their emotions from the beginning, they might have lost their sensibility for the warning signals.</span></p><p style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">A small girl will follow to the cellar the neighbor who promised her chocolate, although she may feel uncomfortable. But if she learned from the beginning of her life that her feelings didn’t matter and that she should obey every adult person, even if she feels resistance, she will follow the neighbor. She will behave like the Little Red Riding-Hood in the fairytale. And she may later suffer in her relationship with men for her whole life if she didn’t work out this early experience in the cellar. However, if she does, she will no longer be in danger of becoming a victim of rape or any other kind of molestation.</span></p><p style="color: #222222;"><a href="https://www.alice-miller.com/en/how-to-combat-denial/" style="color: #2288bb; text-decoration-line: none;"><span style="font-family: arial;">https://www.alice-miller.com/en/how-to-combat-denial/</span></a></p><p style="color: #222222;"><br /></p></span></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-25946219820061318512024-03-18T20:49:00.000-07:002024-03-19T00:27:08.330-07:00George Carlin: pro-life, abortation & the sanctity of life...<p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/K98TQJ5ldW0" width="320" youtube-src-id="K98TQJ5ldW0"></iframe></div><br /><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white;">George Carlin</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #0f0f0f; white-space-collapse: preserve;"> was a visionary.</span></span><div><span style="color: #0f0f0f; font-family: arial;"><span style="white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/T_L3mDG9r4I" width="320" youtube-src-id="T_L3mDG9r4I"></iframe></div><br /><div><br /></div><div><p></p><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #0f0f0f; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><br /></span></span></div></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-25603739285603975652024-03-15T16:30:00.000-07:002024-03-15T19:13:04.318-07:00Confronting the Internalized Parents <p><span style="font-family: arial;">We have to confront the internalized parents in ourselves if we don't want to become like them. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Marty, my boyfriend of 10 years triggered my internalized older sisters that raised me. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Growing up I had promised myself I would not become like them but all I had done until I met Marty was to repress them. Marty was the perfect trigger to bring them to the surface and I was becoming like my older sisters and hated myself and Marty for it. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">My older sisters used to stalk me and here I caught myself stalking Marty just like I was stalked when I was little. He forced me to confront my internalized older sisters and liberate myself to become a true mature conscious adult!</span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial;">Falling in love and sexual attraction means that we have found the perfect person to trigger us, rise to the surface, all that was repressed in us; no one can trigger in us what is not already in ourselves. Once we have faced our repression and felt the excruciating feelings of the child we once were in the right context. We don’t fall in love anymore and have sexual attraction. We are in love; and if we meet another person in love, and if we choose to stay together, then we'll be two people in love together. We find love when we are love. Falling in love is more dangerous than most people are willing to admit. If we knew falling in love meant going into all the dark chambers of the soul, none of us would risk it. To become a real lover in life involves opening up our whole being.</span></p><p><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2012/01/no-divorce-or-separation-cannot-make.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2012/01/no-divorce-or-separation-cannot-make.html</a></span></span></p><p>People need to heal their traumas by confronting their internalized parents with the help of a truly enlightened witness, to develop their inner child to truly grow and leave the parents and become autonomous independent adults. </p><p>Otherwise, it is just like leaving one cult to join another. How can I make it clear that until we feel the repressed emotions within the context of our own childhood, we will never leave the prison of our childhood, and it doesn't matter if we never talk to our family of origin again, because we just keep endless reenacting our childhood drama with substitute mothers and fathers’ figures in one form or another? </p><p><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/02/how-use-of-information-is-abused.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/02/how-use-of-information-is-abused.html?m=1</a></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Transference" target="_blank">Transference</a></span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">I seem to have the talent of triggering people’s repressed emotions of the child they once were, but handling people’s transference I am not as good as I like to be. It’s never comfortable when people project or transfer into me their repressed hatred of the child they once were at their parents. </span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">“Should we as adults be treated in the same way as our parents treated us as children, many of us - especially if we have been through therapy - can become aware of the cruelty endured before. But the knowledge of the whole amount of cruelty can still rest repressed because the terror happened when we had not yet a name for it. For this reason, we need what we call "the transference", </span><span style="font-weight: 600; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">hating, for instance, another person instead of our mother or father. </span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The transference is unavoidable if we were once abused, as children. </span><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">It can also be highly confusing. </span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-weight: 600;">But it can be liberating as well if we are ready to see it as a consequence of our early life.</span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"> If we have summoned the courage to look our outraged, hateful YOUNG parents in the eyes, </span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">and to feel the fear of the small child we once were, then the misleading, confusing, and defensive role of the transference disappears.</span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">We can then strive to feel the fear of the small baby, scared to death by the two big human beings holding our body and soul in their hands and doing or saying to us whatever they wanted, totally careless about our future, about what consequences their abuse might have on our lives.</span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: 17px;"> </span><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">They acted like robots, directed by their own childhoods, unable of any kind of reflection whatsoever. </span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: georgia, serif; text-align: justify;">If we don’t want to become like them we must strive to SEE them as exactly as possible. We can use in this way the transference as a means for discovering the feelings of the small child that we once were and to deepen our understanding for him or her. At this moment the transference becomes our guide that will enable the small child in us to BELIEVE what their body KNEW it’s whole life but his mind could never believe: that so much evil and hatred can be directed towards a small, innocent child only because the parents have endured the same and have never questioned this.</span><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">”</span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px;"><span face="Segoe UI Historic, Segoe UI, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="color: #050505;"><span style="letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><a href="http://www.alice-miller.com/en/about-transference/">http://www.alice-miller.com/en/about-transference/</a></span></span></p><p class="x1qodse3" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; line-height: 1.4118; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">Here is where most of humanity is stuck. unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats or poisonous containers to temporally alleviate their own childhood repression. Repeating exactly what their own parents did to them and this vicious circle goes on endlessly...</span></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-72436923296253885512024-03-14T18:24:00.000-07:002024-03-14T19:31:41.423-07:00Elon Musk is Reenacting his Childhood Drama on the Stage of the World <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/pgVZnVTKqMw" width="320" youtube-src-id="pgVZnVTKqMw"></iframe></div><p>Elon Musk is reenacting his childhood drama on the stage of the world unconsciously and compulsively, telling his true story by treating others the same way he was treated as a small child. He gives us evidence that money, success, and intelligence alone are not enough to liberate a person from his childhood emotional prison. </p><p>As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain. It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence alone is not enough; but it rather helps create seductive, rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. </p><p><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/05/education-alone-is-just-another-illusion.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/05/education-alone-is-just-another-illusion.html?m=1</a></p><p>"<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">"Only unflinching realization of one’s own past reality, of what really happened can break through the chain of abuse. If I know and can feel what my parents did to me when I was totally defenseless, I no longer need victims to befog my awareness. I no longer need to reenact what happened to me with the help of innocent people because now I KNOW what happened. And if I want to live my life consciously, without exploiting others, then I must actively accept that knowledge.</span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">..Am I saying that forgiveness for crimes done to a child is not only ineffective but actively harmful? Yes, that is precisely what I am saying. The body does not understand moral precepts. It fights against the denial of genuine emotions and for the admission of the truth to our conscious minds. This is something the child cannot afford to do, it has to deceive itself and turn a blind eye to the parents’ crimes in order to survive. Adults no longer need to do this, but if they do, the price they pay is high. Either they ruin their own health or they make others pay the price – their children, their patients, the people who work for them, etc." -- Alice Miller</span></p><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/11/dependency-breeds-hatred.html?m=1" style="color: #2288bb; text-decoration-line: none;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/11/dependency-breeds-hatred.html?m=1</a></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br style="font-size: 15.84px;" /></div><p><br /></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-66909062481690008462024-03-08T14:10:00.000-08:002024-03-11T02:19:36.919-07:00Why Narcissists Stumble When they Can't Control You <p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/MBVyUCtKCxY" width="320" youtube-src-id="MBVyUCtKCxY"></iframe></div><br />At my age I don't give people second chances anymore! <div><br /></div><div>If you try to make me your <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html?m=1" target="_blank">scapegoat or poison container </a>once, or try to control me or manipulate me in any way and it will be the last time, because I have learned to walk away, mourn my losses and move on. <p></p></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/6etgLRvRNfg" width="320" youtube-src-id="6etgLRvRNfg"></iframe></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/3mnVNoMFKtw" width="320" youtube-src-id="3mnVNoMFKtw"></iframe></div><div><br /></div><div><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/9QwzTbWp-O4?si=sRDB-aAJxUpxn5e9">https://youtube.com/shorts/9QwzTbWp-O4?si=sRDB-aAJxUpxn5e9</a></div><div><br /></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-79977247729375259672024-03-07T19:25:00.000-08:002024-03-08T10:01:47.680-08:00Cordiality<p><span style="font-family: arial;">Just because I'm cordial and I refused to be used by MC to join her unresolved repressed hatred to satisfy her thirst for revenge -- don't think NOW you can manipulate me -- to use me for what you want... </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">MC is too emotionally blinded by the unresolved repressed emotions to see that taking revenge, especially on <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html?m=1" target="_blank">scapegoats</a>, does nothing for us other than digging our graves. If she doesn't manage to stop her compulsion to want to take revenge all she is doing is digging her own grave.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html?m=1</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">I refuse to let myself be someone's <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/06/we-live-in-world-of-puppets-and.html?m=1" target="_blank">puppet</a> no matter how much charm and charisma they have, who they are and how much money they have.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/06/we-live-in-world-of-puppets-and.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/06/we-live-in-world-of-puppets-and.html?m=1</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">All the time MC spent with me was not to learn and grow into a mature conscious adult but to collect information she could use against other people, including me, to give her an advantage in the games people play. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=the+games+people+play+" target="_blank">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=the+games+people+play+</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">In 2020 I wrote her a letter to tell her that she has been at a crossroads for a long time and the time has come to choose what road she wanted to take -- <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/09/at-crossroads-pick-road-less-travelled.html?m=1" target="_blank">the road most traveled or the road less traveled</a> -- but she paid no attention to it -- and I just let her be -- but now life is forcing her to make a choice and unconsciously she is picking the road most traveled and taking the same road of her mother and of most people in our world that's why is the road most traveled! She thinks is better, superior, and on top of her game but you were once on top of your game too, the people going through insolvency that she makes a lot of money of, they too once thought, they were on top of their game. These are illusions that can end at any time! </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/09/at-crossroads-pick-road-less-travelled.html" target="_blank">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/09/at-crossroads-pick-road-less-travelled.html</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">MC or anyone can change roads at any time but have to find the courage to stand alone and walk alone.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"> <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=fears" target="_blank">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=fears</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">There is a saying here in the US that says: the chickens are coming home to roost and that's exactly what is happening NOW! "The idiom "chickens come home to roost" means that past actions or mistakes cause problems later. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">"...I had this hope 30 years ago when I wrote the Drama of the Gifted Child. I thought that showing the truth could change so much. Meanwhile, I became more skeptical or just more impatient after I discovered the fear of the beaten child in all of us that built up the omnipresent resistance against the truth." Alice Miller</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">(Me too like Alice Miller I had the hope that the writing of my book would help pass this knowledge to the masses, but like Alice Miller, I have become skeptical, and with the writing of my book, I too learned that people's repressed fears at the parents builds omnipresent resistance against the truth. People rather destroy others than face and consciously feel their repressed fears to see the truth. This is why I have been harassed, prosecuted, and ostracized in the workplace since I published my book <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-dance-to-freedom-book-reviews.html" target="_blank">A Dance to Freedom</a>. I understand people's fears of consciously feeling their childhood pain that they have been trying to keep repressed all of their lives, but it is still disappointing that pretty much everyone I meet doesn't dare to face their fears and become real and grow into a mature conscious adult) </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">"...It is impossible without liberating the strong bitterness of the abused child we hide deep in our bodies because of the fears of our parents. Unfortunately, ALL religions FORBID this emotional liberation, they rather allow wars, some of them even consider wars as sacred because they have never understood that feeling the legitimate rage PROTECTS us from acting out in wars and criminality. The last is organized exactly by people who DON’T feel."</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">The words below by Alice Miller articulate what MC is becoming if she doesn't manage to stop her compulsion for revenge.</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">"The unconscious compulsion to revenge repressed injuries is more powerful than reason. That is the lesson that all tyrants teach us. One should not expect judiciousness from a mad person motivated by compulsive panic. One should, however, protect oneself from such a person." Alice Miller -- Breaking Down the Wall of Silence page 82</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=protect+ourselves" target="_blank">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=protect+ourselves</a></span></p><p><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/Ii1GRDdsFcA?si=uZjqt241d61m4R-R">https://youtube.com/shorts/Ii1GRDdsFcA?si=uZjqt241d61m4R-R</a></p><p><br /></p><p><br /></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-50547608253904662802024-03-03T01:48:00.000-08:002024-03-03T10:22:27.356-08:009 benefits of living alone that society rarely talks about<p><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px;">"Living alone can feel like a big, intimidating leap into the unknown. It’s a journey that society often overlooks, focusing more on the value of companionship.</span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px;">What if I told you that living alone has its own unique benefits? Benefits that are rarely talked about, but can truly enhance your life.</span></p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">In this article, we’re going to dive into the incredible perks of solo living. Just you, your space, and the freedom to live exactly as you please.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">Join me as we explore 9 benefits of living alone that society rarely discusses. Benefits that might just make you reconsider the way you perceive solitude.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">1) Personal freedom</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">Living alone often means an unparalleled level of personal freedom.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">When you’re living solo, you’re the master of your own domain. No compromises on the thermostat, no debates over what to watch on TV, and certainly no judgment for eating cereal for dinner.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">This freedom is more than just about being able to do what you want when you want. It’s about being able to live your life on your terms, without having to answer to anyone else.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">You can create an environment that perfectly suits your tastes and needs. You can be messy or neat, loud or quiet, early bird or night owl – all without the worry of disturbing someone else.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">Living alone allows you to fully express yourself within your own space. And in a world where we often have to compromise and conform, this personal freedom is a luxury that’s rarely discussed.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">But it’s a precious benefit of living alone that we should truly appreciate. Because it’s not just about freedom from others – it’s about freedom for you."</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;">I totally agree with the author of this article. I love my freedom! Click on the link below to read all the 9 benefits of living alone.</p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;"><a href="https://geediting.com/9-benefits-of-living-alone-that-society-rarely-talks-about/">https://geediting.com/9-benefits-of-living-alone-that-society-rarely-talks-about/</a></p><p data-slot-rendered-content="true" style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;"><br /></p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; font-family: Charter; font-size: 20px; line-height: 1.6; margin-bottom: 20px !important; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 20px; padding: 0px;"><br /></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-91074118580080184272024-02-18T15:40:00.000-08:002024-02-18T15:52:06.139-08:00It's an Opportunity for Healing <p>Couldn't agree more with the statement in this youtube short vedio in the link below. </p><p>We have to face and feel our painful truths head-on.</p><div dir="auto">Many people would rather kill and be killed than face their own painful truths.</div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">We understand a lot about human motivation once we realize one thing: ninety-nine percent of humanity spends ninety-nine percent of their time trying to avoid facing and feeling painful truths.</div><div dir="auto"><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/H_CqnGKTyZQ?si=EZFa3DTED4-305JZ">https://youtube.com/shorts/H_CqnGKTyZQ?si=EZFa3DTED4-305JZ</a></div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">With my book I show people how to get through the pain and be free to live our authentic lives and develop two healthy legs to stand on our own two feet. </div><div dir="auto"><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Just like I wrote in my book on pages 129, 163, and 164:<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">“The key to effective therapy is learning how to use your present triggers productively. They can help us clarify, understand, and consciously feel our intense emotions within the context of our own childhoods without losing our adult consciousness. A good therapist can help us regain our adult consciousness if we lose it and encourage our autonomy, so we can deal with present issues from an adult perspective.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">…</span> <span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">Just remember this: If particular people or circumstances trigger excruciatingly intense feelings inside you, just keep telling yourself that these are the repressed feelings of the child you once were. Feelings don’t kill anyone no matter how intense they are. Only actions kill. So if you ride your intense feelings into shore, direct them at the real culprits</span> <span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 17.12px;">who hurt you when you were a defenseless child and avoid taking any actions you may regret later, you’ll be free and no one will get hurt. As an autonomous adult, you do have some control over the people you let into your inner circle, and you may have to make some relationship adjustments as you do your emotional work. I took a lot of extra time to be with myself in solitude because most of the people in my life just didn’t understand what I was going through. When you’re trying to resolve your repression, being around unconscious people who are doing everything they can to avoid their own truths puts you at risk of relapsing into playing your old roles.”</span></p></div><div dir="auto"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/01/putting-our-feelings-in-right-context.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/01/putting-our-feelings-in-right-context.html?m=1</a></div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">"...there is a difference between the powerless, legitimate rage of a desparate child that reacts to the cruelty of their parents and the rage of the adult who is attacking others out of denial of their history by immitating the behavior of own parents from the position of “power” (even grandiosity). The first rage (of the child) should be felt and expressed in therapy, it can be then RESOLVED. The second one (of the adult), directed toward scapegoats, can NEVER be resolved (see dictators). If therapists see it as an end point of their therapies and don't enable the patients to confront the early parents and the feelings of that time they do much HARM to them. Staying trapped in the hatred toward scapegoats can’t be the successful end of a therapy. I hope that you can continue your work if you have this difference in mind and can also explain it in your forum." Alice Miller </div><div dir="auto"><br /></div><div dir="auto">"<span face="arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-size: 15.84px;">Dictators and the dynamics of cruelty</span></div><div dir="auto"><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><b>Every dictator torments his people in the same way he was tormented as a child.</b> The humiliations inflicted on these dictators in adult life had nothing like the same influence on their actions as the emotional experiences they went through in their early years. </div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">Those years are “formative” in the truest sense: in this period the brain records or “encodes” emotions without (usually) being able to recall them at will. </div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">As almost every dictator denies his sufferings (his former total helplessness in the face of brutality) there is no way that he can truly come to terms with them. </div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><b>Instead, he will have a limitless craving for scapegoats on whom he can avenge himself for the fears and anxieties of childhood</b> <b>without having to re-experience those fears."</b></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><b><br /></b></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><b><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/02/the-root-cause-of-war.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/02/the-root-cause-of-war.html?m=1</a></b></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">"Only unflinching realization of one’s own past reality, of what really happened can break through the chain of abuse. If I know and can feel what my parents did to me when I was totally defenseless, I no longer need victims to befog my awareness. I no longer need to reenact what happened to me with the help of innocent people because now I KNOW what happened. And if I want to live my life consciously, without exploiting others, then I must actively accept that knowledge.</div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">..Am I saying that forgiveness for crimes done to a child is not only ineffective but actively harmful? Yes, that is precisely what I am saying. The body does not understand moral precepts. It fights against the denial of genuine emotions and for the admission of the truth to our conscious minds. This is something the child cannot afford to do, it has to deceive itself and turn a blind eye to the parents’ crimes in order to survive. Adults no longer need to do this, but if they do, the price they pay is high. Either they ruin their own health or they make others pay the price – their children, their patients, the people who work for them, etc." -- Alice Miller</div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/11/dependency-breeds-hatred.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/11/dependency-breeds-hatred.html?m=1</a></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">"Pain is the way to the truth. By denying that you were unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And throughout your whole life, you'll try to earn love. In therapy, avoiding pain causes blockage. Yet nobody can confront being neglected or hated without feeling guilty. "It is my fault that my mother is cruel," he thinks. "I made my mother furious; what can I do to make her loving?" So he will continue trying to make her love him. The guilt is really protection against the terrible realization that you are fated to have a mother who cannot love. This is much more painful than to think, "Oh, she is a good mother, it's only me who's bad." Because then you can try to do something to get love. But it's not true; you cannot earn love. And feeling guilty for what has been done to you only supports your blindness and your neurosis.</div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">I try to reach the child in the readers, allow them to feel. I see my style as ranking keys. Everybody can take one so that they can go open their own door to find something. Or they can say no, I don't want to go through this door; I will return the key. I try to evoke feelings, images. In this way, I offer keys to your own experience. You can then go look at your children and learn from them, not from me. Because only from your own experience can you really learn.</div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">In my first studies, I was very abstract; I wanted to understand the most abstract ideas -- of Kant, Hegel, or Marx. My dissertation in philosophy was very abstract. Now I see that each philosopher had to build a big, big building in order not to feel his pain. Even Freud.</div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;">If a child has been molested and the therapist doesn't deny this fact, many things can open up in the patient. The therapist must not preach forgiveness, or the patient will repress the pain. He won't change, and the repressed rage will look for a scapegoat."</div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/04/alice-miller-most-significant-thinker.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/04/alice-miller-most-significant-thinker.html</a></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div><div dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><br /></div></div><div dir="auto"><br style="color: white; font-family: sans-serif; font-size: large;" /></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-44294554044976097992024-02-16T18:01:00.000-08:002024-02-25T12:17:24.308-08:00We can Change our Destiny or Fate<p> <span style="font-family: arial;">Hi there...</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span>I resonate with what you wrote about
the new generations... I think, that they are way back to their truth is even
more blocked by all the technical/ digital "extensions" that they
used almost from the beginning... of course, this is not the root of destruction...
but it "helps" them, to be even more detached from themselves?</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I understand that these are deep
processes you are into, it is sad...<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span>Not much to say... </span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I do not know, if I ever will learn
to distinguish and then stay consequent, with whom I connect and where I should
stay away...<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span>I cannot sleep... so I write</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span>I added a photo, as an update...</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Have a good day<o:p></o:p></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span>J</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Hi J,</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Thank you for sending a picture of
yourself! Love putting a face to your understanding words. Looks very cold
there!</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Yes, the new generation with intellectual knowledge only and tech-savvy is much more dangerous because they can manipulate the masses and cause a lot more damage… with the aid of technology, they are
going to self-destruct much faster. Humanity doesn’t have much time left and don’t
matter how much money anyone collects is not going to save them. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Don’t take the blame for what is going
on in your family because we don’t have power in others’ lives. Each person is
on their own path for better or worse. We are born with a pre-written destiny
or fate and we can’t change anyone’s fate or destiny no matter what we do. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I
changed my fate or destiny but only I could have done that! We are only
responsible for ourselves. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">F wrote the last words below to me
but because I said I would not write anymore to her I didn’t reply to her. But
you can tell she is back paddling a little bit and probably realized she made a big mistake and let herself be used by MC and now is trying to be the bigger girl
by denying that she doesn't hate me but no denials can change the facts because only a person
with hatred could write to me what she wrote. If she was not emotionally blind she would not let herself become a puppet or flying monkey of MC and be used in this way. As long our childhood repression goes unresolved no matter how much intellectual knowledge we have in psychology we remain emotionally blind and vulnerable to manipulation by a malignant person. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I leave people alone but if they come after me and attack me -- I have the light -- so all I have to do is shine the light on them. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I don’t know what MC has shown her
but whatever it was, she did it maliciously, to poison her against me and to manipulate
her to join her hatred and attack me through her. Just because I said no to her, how dear of me to say no to Dr. MC, so now she is on a smear campaign against me and trying to recruit as many people as possible to join her hatred to hate me too.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">"Saying "no" can trigger a narcissist's rage. Narcissists are hypersensitive to anything that might undermine their grandiose self-image. They thrive on constant admiration and attention, so rejection can trigger feelings of inadequacy and provoke a rageful response."</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2024/01/comments-that-easily-trigger.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2024/01/comments-that-easily-trigger.html?m=1</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">She is too emotionally blind to see that all the hatred she sends to me will go back to her and she is the one to end up self-destructing just like the sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years did. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html?m=1</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Narcissistic Smear Campaigns</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;">1 PREEMPTIVELY starts smear campaign by planting seeds in the minds of others</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;">2 Begins the smear by painting himself or herself as the devoted, loving, innocent VICTIM of you</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;">3 Twist stories and tell lies about your character making sure to incorporate a GRAIN OF TRUTH</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/06/sociopaths-hate-us.html?m=1"><span style="font-family: arial;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/06/sociopaths-hate-us.html?m=1</span></a></p><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">"</span><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">ABUSE BY PROXY</span></span></p><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">is when the narcissist gets other people to abuse you. That way the narcissist gets to abuse you but indirectly through the flying monkeys who might reject you or make you feel not good enough.</span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Maybe they'll shame you or put you in a bad situation, maybe they'll extract information from you or maybe they'll even tell you that you're crazy. Abuse by proxy allows the narcissist to look clean, appearing to not be involved, when really they've orchestrated it all."</span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Yes, I have seen this play being played before. I know who the director is who orchestrated it all. <br /><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/cowards-always-get-others-to-do-dirty.html" style="color: #2288bb; text-decoration-line: none;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/cowards-always-get-others-to-do-dirty.html</a></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white;"><div style="color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="color: #404040;">All malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths love to play the victim card and make appear their real victims as the abusers, </span><b style="color: #404040;">but when their targets are able to see clearly the games they play and articulate the real situation of what really is taking place; the targets of the malignant narcissists cease of becoming a victim. </b></span></div><div><span face="Roboto, arial, sans-serif" style="color: #404040;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><b><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=abuse+by+proxy">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=abuse+by+proxy</a></b></span></span></div></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">MC accomplished exactly what she wanted from F! But it did me a
favor because after 20 years if F hadn’t been able to face and feel by now her emotions
in the context of her own childhood, is not going to happen, and is better we don’t
talk anymore and let everyone be to meet </span><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">their<span> </span><span>own future and destiny. </span></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=destiny">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=destiny</a></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">Her son can change his
destiny but has to find the courage to face and feel his personal truths and
now that he is an adult he is responsible for his actions and choices and not his mother. </span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">There is a saying here in the United
States that people who live in glass houses shouldn’t go around throwing stones at others. MC thinks she is perfect, smarter, superior, and on top of her game, but these are only illusions that can burst at any time</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">When I was young her mother hated me because she couldn't control me and now her daughter too hates me because can't control me either or have me under her thumb. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I should have been more careful with her because the red flags were all there and I was very conscious that the moment I said no to her or challenged her this would happen.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">She hates MI for manipulating money from her mother but she is no better, she uses her sex appeal to flirt with the judges to manipulate them to assign more insolvency cases to her, so she can make more money and get richer so REALLY she is not better than a prostitute. She deleted all the messages that she sent to me incriminating herself because she was afraid that I'd be like her and I would show the pictures to other people so she covered her tracks by deleting all of our conversations but she and the judges know the truth...</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/most-people-out-there-are-prostituting.html"><span style="font-family: arial;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/most-people-out-there-are-prostituting.html</span></a></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;">MC learned to apply dark psychology tricks to control and manipulate. </p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/06/dark-psychology-tricks.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/06/dark-psychology-tricks.html</a></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The truth is F and MC that are each
other’s mirrors, they are both lost in a house of mirrors. They both never said
nice things about each other and now get together both projecting themselves into me and seeing their own projections in me. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html?m=1</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">I don't need to talk to F to know what is going on with my sisters. I talk to them anytime I want and I see everyone very clearly so I know where is everyone's state of mind... </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/03/we-must-learn-to-stand-alone.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/03/we-must-learn-to-stand-alone.html</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Thank you for listening.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; line-height: normal; margin: 0px 0px 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Take good care,</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; line-height: normal; margin: 0px 0px 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; line-height: normal; margin: 0px 0px 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="background-color: white; line-height: normal; margin: 0px 0px 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Sylvie</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">“Thanks for the answer Imelda: didn’t
join anyone, you're wrong, I'm not even receiving money from anyone, but I saw my
messages that you sent to her. I'm glad it doesn't affect you that I lost trust
in you. As for my life, I know very well the mistakes I made, I know why and I also
know that everything that may happen to FA is my responsibility. As for my
personal life, K helps me share expenses and becomes easier for both of us. As
for the hate you say I feel projecting onto you, it's a lie, because I don't
feel hate towards you. In reality, I think that when you talk to me, since you
don't talk to MC now, it would only be to try to find out some things, that I
might eventually know about your sisters. Continue living your freedom. … By
saying that MC never said anything nice about me, you are being a mirror of
your niece when she showed me what you wrote to her about me. After all, it
really is time to say goodbye.”</span></p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><div><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><br /></span></div>Hi Sylvie.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">This all is heavy stuff. Puh... what I learned about my own narcissistic behavior is, that I am just starting to be alert if someone more conscious really confronts me and then I start to Step a little backward. But if I am not capable of taking responsibility then it doesn't change anything. This is what we see here...</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">You know here in Germany we have the same Movement as 1933... and it is run by People who are "fighting" for democracy and blaming anyone who has critical thoughts about the Government/ WHO/ the EU Parlament to be a Nazi. Journalists, Doctors, and lawyers are imprisoned, if they dare to publicly question f.i the money we sent to the war in Ukraine or about contra-productive laws to save the Climate or wokeism. We can see things differently but it is no way to incriminate anyone with a different opinion. We have the laws to prevent us from acting like this, but the judges just follow the Government. It is very scary and sad.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">I hope you understand what I mean. No offense to a certain attitude towards specific issues. It is a way of blaming others for their own blind spots if there is a conflict... as you have to Witness it.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">We have the same saying with the Glasshouse here in Germany.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">And it fits for me. I am a Prisoner as well... </span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">This is unfreedom and this is nazi... if One is not true to oneself because of fear... And it is not about "fighting" a political Party which I don't like, and for what you don't need the slightest bit of courage to show your Protest because anyone has the same opinion anyway...</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">Sorry, now I went far with my thoughts. But the underlying Mechanisms are all the same, right?</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><br /></span></span><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">We had a really cold winter period this year. Not very long but a little bit like I remember it from Childhood. Now it is starting to be warmer and more sunny... But I cannot cling to it. I am concerned, I am stuck and I am not hopeful, watching myself repeating the sick structures...</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">Puh. I Stop here for now.</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">Take care</span><br style="background-color: white; color: #222222;" /></span><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">J</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">Hi J</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;">.</span></span></p><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Yes, I understand what you mean. And I agree the underlying mechanisms are all the same in the games people play.</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-games-people-play.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/10/the-games-people-play.html</a></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white;"><br /></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white;"><span style="color: #222222; font-family: arial;">Authoritarian movements as of 1933 are going on everywhere not just in Germany. The woke mob with intellectual knowledge only and tech-savvy are very dangerous everywhere. </span></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">With the aid of technology, humanity will not survive another movement like in 1933. It will be the end of humanity.</span></div><div dir="ltr" style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I like to see Putin defeated though. He is a very cruel man...</span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Thank you for your understanding words</span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">You too take good care,</span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Sylvie</span></div><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: arial; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></p></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-46002713740792966162024-02-14T19:39:00.000-08:002024-02-14T22:21:43.782-08:00The Woke Mob<p><span style="font-family: arial;">Dear Sylvie...</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I haven’t been writing for so long... I am still in this confusion, AM is talking about. </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">I didn’t` t manage to improve my personal situation or the situation </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">For "my" cat. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">My autistic brother is taking care of her. He </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Loves her deeply... The second cat is still around...but not in a new home. </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">I cannot go there very often these days. I feel like a huge b</span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">etrayer... by being intrusive to the family after a long period of </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">absence then not taking the chance to connect, then leaving it all </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Behind. </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Now I feel that I cannot live with the guilt of my turn </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Arounds, my false proposals and not facing the consequences and stay </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Away... or say ok I am there. Always lingering in between. Same with </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Job. I have written the same for years... </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">But I wrote because of your letter on your website. It is so deep, so c</span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">andid, so unquestionable... it is a masterpiece- although it is all </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Very sad anyway...</span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Must have been an energy-consuming process to get through this </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">clarity in which the letter is written-- </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;"> Anyway most of us humans do not good for life... this is a pity. And </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Nature will solve the problem, as we will probably do so much damage on </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Earth, that our planet will react and do a cleansing process anyway... </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0.0001pt;"><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Sylvie. I wish you the very best </span><span style="font-family: arial; font-size: small;">Take care, </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">J</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif;">Dear J,</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">Thank you for writing and saying my
letter published on my blog is a masterpiece! There is more I like to add but I
haven’t had the disposition to write much lately.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">Yes, it’s all very sad but it is
what it is. Most people are living in a state of confusion lashing out at
<a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=scapegoats" target="_blank">scapegoats</a> just because somehow you reminded them of their childhood caregivers
and they can’t see that we are not the cause of their feelings of <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=hatred" target="_blank">hatred</a>.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">You have been in my thoughts lately
and was nice to hear from you.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">I’m glad to hear your cat is being
taken care of by your autistic brother who loves him so much. I’m also happy to
hear the other cat is still around.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">You feel <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=guilt" target="_blank">guilt</a> for your long periods
of absence. I wish I had stayed absent completely and not let anyone too close
to me, especially the new generation, all the time I spent with one of my
nieces and a niece-in-law was all wasted time. I wish I could get that wasted time
back.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Evil+is+born+anew+with+every+new+generation" target="_blank">Evil is born anew with every new generation</a>. Can you imagine if I had not left Portugal and had not liberated
myself? As a small child, I was everyone’s <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=scapegoat" target="_blank">scapegoat</a> and now if I was still
there I would have been the <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=scapegoat" target="_blank">scapegoat</a> of the new generation that is more
dangerous because they have intellectual knowledge that they use to go around
making a bunch of noise without resolving their own childhood repression first
– this new generation would eat me alive if they could!</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">For the last twenty years, that’s
what I have been witnessing a niece and a niece-in-law do, she has been going
around yelling at everyone, especially doctors but takes the medications they
give her and now I became her target also.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">This is what many call, the woke
mob, all they do is going around with intellectual knowledged only that they have not experienced themselves finding fault with everyone pointing fingers and
making a bunch of noise – they are very dangerous people. </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">I’m going to be 65 years old soon and
now I just want to be left alone to live the rest of my life in peace and
quiet.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">All the very best to you too,</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: 12pt;">Sylvie</span></p><p class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0in;"><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman",serif; font-size: 12pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";"> </span></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-37523159710401396912024-02-11T14:27:00.000-08:002024-02-11T14:27:06.092-08:00A child that is misunderstood and not protected can turn into a very bad adult<p><span style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: inherit; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; white-space-collapse: preserve;">Alice’s Words in the link below describe what I witness parents and educators do, everywhere I go, to children with behavior problems. Children with behavior problems, they don’t need more punishment, but understanding and someone on their side.</span></p><p class="jlfdnvsn" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">A child that is misunderstood and not protected can turn into a very bad adult. </span></p><p class="jlfdnvsn" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><span style="font-family: inherit; letter-spacing: -0.41px;">One reason I have very little hope for humanity is because of most people's idealization of one’s own parents and childhood as a major obstacle for parents and educators.</span></p><p class="jlfdnvsn" dir="auto" style="background-color: white; color: #050505; font-family: "Segoe UI Historic", "Segoe UI", Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; letter-spacing: -0.41px; margin: 16px 0px 0px; padding: 0px; white-space-collapse: preserve;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/02/most-people-idealization-of-ones-own.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/02/most-people-idealization-of-ones-own.html?m=1</a></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-56662771835643970412024-02-07T19:31:00.000-08:002024-02-27T19:07:50.869-08:00The Trash Taking Itself Out<p>I don't know if I've already shared it with you the link below. When I think of you, I feel feelings of sadness.</p><p><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/10/de-ultimate-question.html?m=1">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/10/de-ultimate-question.html?m=1</a></p><p><span style="background-color: #e4e6eb; color: #050505;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Hi F,</span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Thank you for
writing and finding the courage to drop your charming mask to show me your
unresolved repressed hatred NOW directed at me, trying to make me your
scapegoat. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I’m used to
people trying to make me their scapegoat since I was a small child. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I’m very aware
when people are not able to consciously feel their feelings in the context of
their own childhoods that will be a matter of time for them to try to make me
their scapegoat. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">It took you and
MC over 20 years! As a child, I didn’t
understand these psychological mechanisms, but as an autonomous free adult I do
and I don’t take in and feel responsible for other people’s unresolved hatred,
no matter what they say to me and how hard they try to transfer it into me. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/09/real-answers-and-keys-thats-key-for.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/09/real-answers-and-keys-thats-key-for.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/10/transference-is-unavoidable-stage.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/10/transference-is-unavoidable-stage.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/10/about-transference.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/10/about-transference.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">“But when you
talk about me to other people you use words like "you're all fucked
up"” <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Your words
above show me that you have joined your repressed unresolved hatred with MC’s
unresolved repressed hatred and NOW you both are together directing all your
hatred towards me and the words above are really what this person used to say
too. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">How do you
think I know that while your son was still a small child you rather go to Porto’s
night clubs chasing men to have sex with to run away from yourself than be
still to feel your pain and be present with your small child?<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">This is a pain
NOW for your adult child to feel if he wants to be free and stop the chains of
compulsion repetition that his mother is not capable of authentic love and all
the love he got from his mother was the illusion of love. It’s in his hands
now. If I were in your son’s shoes I would ask CA, the man who has been playing
the role of his father, for a DNA test to find out if he is his biological
father too. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/07/most-peoples-love-is-nothing-but-farce.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/07/most-peoples-love-is-nothing-but-farce.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The truth is
only fucked up people will chase after men and leaves their small baby with a
stranger and leans on a man she has no feelings for, has a child with him, and after
leaving him uses the welfare system to survive because of her unresolved
childhood repression can’t hold on to a job for very long. Most people in our world are fucked up and that's why humanity is doomed.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">“Also, send
messages that I wrote to other people, making me lose trust in you. When I
think about you I also feel feelings of sadness.”<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Show me proof
and evidence that I shared your messages. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Maybe I’m a
little guilty of sometimes sharing too much when talking but I only do it as
examples in hopes of inspiring people to stop their own compulsions and be
still to consciously feel their own pain and stop running from themselves and making
others their scapegoats. I don’t do it with malicious intent. And for that I'm sorry! But you can be assured without a doubt that if MC shows you anything I might have shared with her, she is
being malicious trying to manipulate you to act the part she wants you to act
in her twisted dramas. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Why do you think
she got mad at me?! Because I didn’t let her use me to join her hatred to satisfy her thirst for revenge and make MI her scapegoat. It’s easy to beat and step on someone when they are already down!
<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">When MI had
money everyone was around her trying to mooch of her and she helped pay for
the car of CA that you crashed! It might have been some of my money too,
because back then I was sending money to MI all the time and now I'm sure if you are leaning on MC is because she has money but it doesn't matter how much money she collects it will not save her, just like money didn't save her mother and her father. Money alone is a big illusion and saves no one. Actually, having too much money can create a lot of new problems.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">If you trust
me or not it doesn’t affect me. I trust myself and I don’t need other people to
trust me! What matters is that we trust ourselves to handle what life throws at
us and not become dependent on anyone or anything to cope with life. Just like
my older sisters, you are trusting the wrong person, but it's your problem, not
mine, my older sisters never trusted me either! Because they never trusted themselves
and they put all their trust in MI and look how that worked out for all of them?!</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><o:p></o:p></span></span><span style="color: #050505; font-family: arial;">The question you should ask yourself is whether you can trust yourself. You and MC don't trust yourselves to be alone for even one minute. You two deserve each other.</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">“And by the
way, I don't know if I've already shared it with you, but the cats you killed
when you didn't have money to feed them and the absurd words you said come to
mind countless times: they died happy because they knew me and my love.”<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Wow, your
words above show me that is really you who can’t be trusted and you are twisting
my words. I said that I rather die and euthanize my cats than ask ML and MC for
money. And yes, I do think it’s better
to humanely euthanize an animal than to live in crowded homes and in cages
suffering in horrible conditions. That’s no quality of life for the animals
and the humans. It’s better to live one day with authentic love than 100 years
with fake love or suffering scared on the streets and in horrible conditions.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/12/dangerous-no-kill-shelter-policies.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/12/dangerous-no-kill-shelter-policies.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I trust my
love. Tell me how many people and animals you have truly loved in your life? <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/07/only-love-and-truth-will-open_25.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/07/only-love-and-truth-will-open_25.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">“And also take
care of your childhood repression because when you feel all the repression the
feeling you will have for L and E would be compassion..."<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Yes, I have
taken responsibility for my own childhood repression and I feel sad for everyone
else, family or not, who is still stuck in the emotional prison of their own
childhoods, but I’m only responsible for myself, and is not healthy for me to
take in and let myself be used as poison container, it didn’t help them when
they made me their scapegoat or poison continuer when I was a small child --- and it will
not help them now either --- because hatred cannot ever be resolved by scapegoating. We
only can save ourselves!</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html" style="background-color: #e4e6eb; font-family: arial;">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html</a></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">“And not from
that petty enjoyment that you feel for what has happened and continues to
happen.”<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The words
above are just yours and MC's projections, because nothing makes MC happier than seeing others suffer, she only wants good things for herself and no one else. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I hope the
little crumbs you might get from her to buy you to use you to exploit your
unresolved repressed hatred to join her hatred towards me and other scapegoats
to temporally and superficially feel better are worth it to you.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/03/dont-let-others-exploit-your-repressed.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/03/dont-let-others-exploit-your-repressed.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;">"When you talk to me you think you are in a superior situation"</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">This is how
most like you and MC see yourselves, you feel superior or inferior depending
on who you are with, and is just a projection.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p><span style="font-family: arial;"> </span></o:p></span><span style="background-color: #e4e6eb; color: #050505; font-family: arial;">“you should
read the dunning-Kruger effect and you will see yourself in this complex
because as you started from a very young age hearing that you were a zero on
the left, that you were worthless, compounded by not being able to learn to
read, this left very deep feelings ingrained in you of inferiority and now that
you have learned things about psychology, you feel in a position of judge of
the total and absolute truth.”</span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;">I’m glad that
reading the theory above brought you comfort and gave you the information to
diagnose me. Yes, your words reminded me of the pain I went through, but is
just a reminder because I have already been through it, if I hadn’t the
sociopaths at my job of nine and half years</span> <span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;">would have succeeded in destroying me</span> <span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;">after I published my book with their mind
games and very <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=psychological+lynching+" target="_blank">well-orchestrated psychological warfare</a>, but instead was one
them to self-destruct. And by coming
after me, they exposed themselves and they showed their true colors, just like
you are doing right now.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/03/hard-evidence-of-my-ex-boss-being.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/03/hard-evidence-of-my-ex-boss-being.html</a></span></span><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">All of my life
people have tried to use me as a scapegoat or poison container like you are
trying to do NOW and the sociopaths at my job did also, you and MC joined
forces to do the same, so you and MC are not much different. Now, if I can
ever picture a person that if they were at my job of nine and a half years, they too, would have played a role in the campaign to destroy me I don’t
want to be associated with these types of cowardly people in any way, shape or
form. Thank you for giving me evidence
that you and MC are these type of of people.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Yes, many doctors are writing great theories and making great analyses. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Many
professionals out there, do great analyses and understand well the reasons for
mental illness, depression, addictions, and chronic illness, that are linked to
childhood loss and trauma, and I quote a few other professionals in my book to
prove that are out there, other professionals saying what Alice Miller says,
but how they go about to heal those traumas, they use the same old tools like
yoga, meditation, 12 steps, and controlled drugs, that all it does is
manipulate people's feelings, and repress their authentic feelings all over
again, and as long people go on repressing their authentic feelings, they will
be driven by them into the state of repetition compulsion of reenacting their
disastrous childhood dramas sooner or later in one form or another with anyone
they get involved with. It’s the repression of our authentic feelings that
causes us long-term harm and not the trauma itself.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/07/many-professionals-do-great-analyses.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/07/many-professionals-do-great-analyses.html</a><o:p></o:p></span></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the
chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone
articulates very nice ideas... <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The problem is
not a lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people
with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the
so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their
rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to
face and feel their own emotional pain.
It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence
alone is not enough; but it rather helps create seductive, rationalizations,
theories, illusions, and lies.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/05/education-alone-is-just-another-illusion.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/05/education-alone-is-just-another-illusion.html</a><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">The words
below Alice Miller wrote to me before she passed come truer every day: “I have
learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who
SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but
they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed
FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats.
They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and
even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually they use unconsciously
other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous
container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to
defend themselves they can become very mean. I can only urge you to trust your
feelings and to NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because
they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the
cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s
parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use
others to getting free from the accumulated rage.”<br />
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<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"> “Think about a really good guy to have sex
with, Imelda, that life is made up of many things and not just your morbid
interest in watching the circus burn down, in your family in Portugal, while
you're far away because that's easy.”<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I will do my
best not to think about you anymore. Yes, it makes it easy to detach from the
war at home with a continent and an ocean between us. Sometimes when people ask me why I left Portugal I tell them jokingly that I’m a refugee from Portugal and they look perplexed because Portugal is not involved in any wars, but I'm indeed a refugee from the war at home. </span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Dr. Julio Machado Vaz prescribed also sex in
my youth and it was not helpful at all. You have been using sex as an escape – how does
that work for you?! <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I am very
proud of the little girl I once was, in spite of her wounds and having a severe learning disability like dyslexia she was courageous enough to face the world
all by herself and fight for her freedom and autonomy and is not dependent on
others or drugs prescribed or not. I didn't believe what was said about me and I believed in myself, otherwise, I would never had developed the courage to leave home.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I’m free and I’m staying free! <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/05/open-letter-to-prestigious-dr-julio.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/05/open-letter-to-prestigious-dr-julio.html</a><o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">MC showed you
all the messages she wrote to me about you. She never said anything nice about
you and you never said anything nice about MC either. But show me screenshots. So it's MC and you who can't be trusted. I'm
just guilty of freely sharing with other people information that was useful to
me and now my work is done and what others do with this information it’s their responsibility.
It's time to say goodbye. This is the last message I write to you.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">When somebody
hands you the scissors to cut them off, it's like the trash taking itself out. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">I thank MC for
removing herself and F from my life. It’s so freeing!<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">Since I
published my book <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-dance-to-freedom-book-reviews.html" target="_blank">A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions </a>many have been trying to pull me back into their emotional prisons. If
they can't be free, they don't want me to be free either! But once a mind is
truly free cannot ever be captured again! What I have NOW cannot be bought with
money and cannot be stolen! And this is why I’m hated so much!<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">With my book
and all my writings, I give people a map, and the keys, to liberate themselves,
if they ever find the courage to leave the emotional prison of their childhood,
as the quote below says this journey is theirs to take. <o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">"You
can't heal the people you love. You can't make choices for them. You can't
rescue them.<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;">You can
promise that they won't journey alone. You can loan them your map. But this trip
is theirs." Laura Jean Truman<o:p></o:p></span></span></p>
<p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=birthday">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=birthday</a>+</span><span face=""Segoe UI Historic", sans-serif" style="font-size: 11.5pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background: rgb(228, 230, 235); color: #050505; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/bC3U5O_PAP8?si=g01IwhrzKHCSs_vL">https://youtube.com/shorts/bC3U5O_PAP8?si=g01IwhrzKHCSs_vL</a></span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="background-color: #e4e6eb;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/02/happy-valentines-day.html?m=0">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/02/happy-valentines-day.html?m=0</a></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/rfrDTETdOiU?si=EllHUQj_tk1CqWGj">https://youtube.com/shorts/rfrDTETdOiU?si=EllHUQj_tk1CqWGj</a></p><p class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/M5Svsobmz2s?si=HqcNNVdNGYpNx_XY">https://youtube.com/shorts/M5Svsobmz2s?si=HqcNNVdNGYpNx_XY</a></p><p class="MsoNormal"><a href="https://youtube.com/shorts/W67jquTD3tY?si=nJhgP12oCweEwHBC">https://youtube.com/shorts/W67jquTD3tY?si=nJhgP12oCweEwHBC</a></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-24830857024540554312024-02-02T17:23:00.000-08:002024-02-02T17:23:39.345-08:00From ‘Sopranos’ to Super Bowl: Edie Falco Takes a Stand for Mother Cows in PETA PSA<p> This is why I stopped eating dairy products.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/dhC90abWnOY" width="320" youtube-src-id="dhC90abWnOY"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"> <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/eDV2tSFappI" width="320" youtube-src-id="eDV2tSFappI"></iframe></div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: justify;"><span style="text-align: left;">"</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: left;">Kidnapping and violence may be everyday things for fictional mob wife Carmela Soprano, but did you know that they’re horrifyingly real for mother cows? This year marks the 25</span><span style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 0; position: relative; text-align: left; top: -0.5em; vertical-align: baseline;">th</span><span style="background-color: white; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: left;"> anniversary of the TV series </span><em style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: inherit; text-align: left;">The Sopranos</em><span style="background-color: white; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: left;">, and PETA Honorary Director Edie Falco, famous for her role as Carmela Soprano, stars in our 2024 Super Bowl ad portraying the daily nightmare inflicted on mother cows in the name of cheese. The new ad was directed by DeMane Davis of Boston-based production company, Sweet Rickey; post-production was by EDITBAR, with Chris Carl as creative director.</span></div><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; text-align: left;">Cows produce milk for the same reason humans do: to nourish their young. Like humans, cows form strong maternal bonds with their babies and go to great lengths to protect them. On dairy farms, workers forcibly impregnate cows so they’ll produce milk, only to take their calves away from them—typically just hours after birth—so that humans can drink their milk instead. Mother cows often call out for their calves for days after these traumatic separations.</span></p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;">If someone doesn’t immediately slaughter the calves, the females are doomed to the same miserable fate as their mothers and the males are sold into the veal industry, condemned to be chained up and malnourished for the remainder of their short, miserable lives.</p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;">The dairy industry runs on cruelty. After stealing their calves, farmers hook mother cows up to milking machines at least twice daily so that they can steal their milk, too. They exploit cows’ reproductive systems through genetic selection, despite the negative effects on the animals’ health. They use artificial insemination, milking regimens, and sometimes drugs to force them to produce an unnatural amount of milk—today, the average cow produces more than four times as much milk as she would have in 1950.</p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"><a href="https://investigations.peta.org/reitz-dairy-farm-neglect/?en_txn7=blog::Edie-Falco-super-bowl" rel="noopener" style="background-color: transparent; box-sizing: inherit; color: #0d548f; cursor: pointer; hyphens: auto; line-height: inherit; text-decoration-line: none; word-break: break-word;" target="_blank">PETA’s investigations</a> into dairy facilities revealed that workers electroshock cows in the face, hit them with poles and canes, and abuse them in other ways. Once their bodies wear out from repeated pregnancies, they’re sent to slaughter.</p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;">PETA’s ad will run the Saturday before the Super Bowl on CBS during <em style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Late News</em> in northern New Jersey, where <em style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">The Sopranos</em> was set. It will also air live on YouTube TV, delivering more than 5 million impressions to people watching instant replays, game highlights, and other Super Bowl– and sports-related content.</p><h2 style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #254d68; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 1.5rem; line-height: 1.125; margin: 0px 0px 0.5rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"><span style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Those Who Want Respect, Give Respect</span></h2><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"><em style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">Whaddya hear? Whaddya say?</em> You can live without cheese—but calves <em style="box-sizing: inherit; line-height: inherit;">need</em> their mother’s milk. The surest way to respect cows and spare them pain and misery is to stop buying cheese and other dairy items and go vegan today. When you choose vegan cheese, you use your power as a consumer to show that you won’t support this horrific cycle of pain."</p><p style="background-color: white; box-sizing: inherit; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0px 0px 1rem; padding: 0px; text-rendering: optimizelegibility;"><span style="color: #4f606c; font-family: proxima-nova, sans-serif;"><a href="https://www.peta.org/blog/edie-falco-super-bowl-ad/?utm_source=peta::e-mail&utm_medium=alert&utm_campaign=0124::veg::peta::e-mail::289473::petas-super-bowl-ad-exposes-dairy-industrys-dark-secret::::aa-em">https://www.peta.org/blog/edie-falco-super-bowl-ad/?utm_source=peta::e-mail&utm_medium=alert&utm_campaign=0124::veg::peta::e-mail::289473::petas-super-bowl-ad-exposes-dairy-industrys-dark-secret::::aa-em</a></span></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-77356723214312803462024-01-27T13:51:00.000-08:002024-01-27T13:51:27.472-08:00Democracy <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/T351HLKLeqc" width="320" youtube-src-id="T351HLKLeqc"></iframe></div>Some thing to learn from the Constitution of Brazil 🇧🇷 <div><br /></div><div>A constitution is a set of rules that establishes the fundamental principles of a state or organization. It defines the relationship between the state's institutions, such as the legislature, executive, and judiciary. It also establishes the powers and duties of the government and guarantees certain rights to the people. </div><div><br /></div><div>Constitutions also define the various institutions of government, their composition, powers, and functions. Almost all constitutions establish legislative, executive, and judicial branches of government. </div><div><br /></div><div>The United States' first constitution was the Articles of Confederation and Perpetual Union.</div><div><br /></div><div> The Constitution has been amended 27 times since its ratification, with the process for making amendments being quite onerous to prevent arbitrary changes. </div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-55848519772292282872024-01-24T19:42:00.000-08:002024-01-25T10:24:23.194-08:00Martin Miller is a Double-edged Sword<p><span style="font-family: arial;">Have no doubt that Alice Miller's son Martin Miller was a trigger for all of Alice Miller's books. And if he had not been born we would not have had Alice Miller's enlightened books to help us liberate ourselves from the emotional prison of our own childhoods. And I would probably be dead NOW or still living in an emotional prison. He is just like a double-edged sword.</span></p><span style="font-family: arial;">Martin Miller's book is nothing but <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=smoke+and+mirrors" target="_blank">smoke and mirrors</a>. It is very sad to witness <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Martin+Miller" target="_blank">Martin Miller</a> get together with the people who betrayed his mother while she was still alive. All they accuse Alice Miller of, that's exactly what they themselves are doing. They don't take responsibility for their own unresolved childhood repression and have mastered the art of projection and transference to perfection.</span><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">I feel Alice Miller’s experience is very similar to mine. My love for my ex and my desire to help him made me look for help so we could save our relationship and in the process I freed myself.</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">Alice Miller too saw that her son had problems, and how ironic they both have the same name, my ex’s name is also Martin! </span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif"><br /></span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">Alice Miller, like me, started lifting every stone to look for clues to help her son and in the process resolved her own repression and freed herself, just like me, that I went out looking for clues on how to help my Ex and I ended up liberating myself in the process.</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">In the end, I had to let my ex go, and Alice too had to let her son go because once a person is an adult, no one, not even the mother, can make up for what we need as children and we didn’t get.</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">Once we are adults, only we can save ourselves and anyone who tells us otherwise is fooling us with false hopes and promises.</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">Alice Miller was driven to write her books to warn society of the <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/07/the-conversation-about-effects-of.html" target="_blank">dangers of childhood repression</a> to save the children of the future and help us face and resolve our own repression.</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">This is why it’s so important for people to face their own repression before having children or at least become aware of their own childhood repression before their children become teenagers and adults because<b> it’s not the trauma itself that causes long-term damage, but the repressed emotions caused by trauma that causes long term damage</b> and if parents became aware of the damage done before their children became teenagers or adults, then they can help their children express their true feelings of anger, fear and hurt because the children are still emotionally dependent on their parents, but once the children become teenagers or adults the defense mechanisms and walls have been built and it’s out of the parents' hands, they can become the most conscious parents, but it will be too late because they can’t force the teenagers and adult children remove the walls to face and feel their childhood repression if they don’t wish to do so. </span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif"><br /></span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">To warn us, Alice Miller made herself very vulnerable to all the full-blown <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=malignant+narcissists" target="_blank">malignant narcissists</a>, <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=sociopaths" target="_blank">sociopaths</a>,<a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=+bad+players" target="_blank"> bad players</a>, <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=psychopaths" target="_blank">psychopaths</a>, <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=assholes" target="_blank">assholes</a>, or whatever you like to call NOW these very<a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=+evil+" target="_blank"> evil </a>or <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=dangerously+repressed" target="_blank">dangerously repressed</a> people in the world -- <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=her+courage+is+astonishing" target="_blank">her courage is astonishing</a>!</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">As Alice Miller wrote in the answers below to one of her readers:</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">"I am also glad that you have the hope that we can pass on our knowledge to the masses. I had this hope 30 years ago when I wrote the Drama. I thought that showing the truth could change so much. Meanwhile, I became more skeptical or just more impatient after I discovered the fear of the beaten child in all of us that built up the omnipresent resistance against the truth." Alice Miller</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;" /><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif">(Me too I had the hope that the writing of my book would help pass this knowledge to the masses, but like Alice Miller, I have become skeptical</span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><span face="Lato, "Helvetica Neue", Helvetica, sans-serif"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/08/martin-miller-son-of-alice-miller-is.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/08/martin-miller-son-of-alice-miller-is.html</a></span></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><br /></span></div><div><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/the-son-of-alice-miller-should-have.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/the-son-of-alice-miller-should-have.html</a></span></div><div><br /></div><div>I published this review on Amazon and they rejected it saying: </div><div><br /></div><div><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;">We couldn't post your review of The True “Drama of the G</span><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;">ifted Child”: The Phantom Alice Miller — The Real Person</span></div><div><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;"><br /></span></div><div><span face="Ember, "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #0f1111; font-size: 15px;">We couldn't post your review because it doesn't meet our guidelines for one or more of these reasons:</span><br style="background-color: white; border-spacing: 0px; color: #0f1111; font-family: Ember, "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><br style="background-color: white; border-spacing: 0px; color: #0f1111; font-family: Ember, "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin: 0px; padding: 0px;" /><ul style="background-color: white; border-spacing: 0px; color: #0f1111; font-family: Ember, "Amazon Ember", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 32px !important; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 32px; padding: 0px;"><li style="border-spacing: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">Profanity</li><li style="border-spacing: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">Harassment</li><li style="border-spacing: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">Hate speech</li><li style="border-spacing: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">Sexual content</li><li style="border-spacing: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">Illegal activity</li><li style="border-spacing: 0px; margin: 0px 0px 0px 15px; padding: 0px;">Private information</li></ul></div><div><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;">Good Reads didn't have a problem with my review and I got an e-mail from them saying someone liked my review and this email is what triggered this blog. Amazon censorship is sickening..,</span></div><div><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;"><br /></span></div><div><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #1f1f1f; font-variant-ligatures: no-contextual;">Sylvie (The United States)’s review of The True “Drama of the Gifted Child”: The Phantom Alice Miller — The Real Person</span></div><div><a data-saferedirecturl="https://www.google.com/url?q=https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4930536449&source=gmail&ust=1706241214033000&usg=AOvVaw0oC6-ItcTNkmMbZMQ5mpC2" href="https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/4930536449" style="background-color: white; color: #1155cc; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: small; outline: 0px;" target="_blank">https://www.goodreads.com/<wbr></wbr>review/show/4930536449</a></div><div><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjopfIYd30CINMh0lcR4ycvckKpknYRw3C3U8UoyUJ7NjbYad8L0m3pjnN5fo1V6_-qaVkqM3PPdBZA6k9bCq8tkGiAQ3dyPLgiacrE_w_jMNB5VWWR9mf7oJI_Dvw8snLSABioAXu9RlJP3X5AWIZPNCRRa_rsvnbR6FYNDl5XvXK39ygleASHGq6m3oo/s2340/Screenshot_20240124_204934_Yahoo%20Mail.jpg" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2340" data-original-width="1080" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjopfIYd30CINMh0lcR4ycvckKpknYRw3C3U8UoyUJ7NjbYad8L0m3pjnN5fo1V6_-qaVkqM3PPdBZA6k9bCq8tkGiAQ3dyPLgiacrE_w_jMNB5VWWR9mf7oJI_Dvw8snLSABioAXu9RlJP3X5AWIZPNCRRa_rsvnbR6FYNDl5XvXK39ygleASHGq6m3oo/s320/Screenshot_20240124_204934_Yahoo%20Mail.jpg" width="148" /></a></div><div><br /></div><div>Amazon also deleted many good reviews of my book. They must fear me if they try so hard to repress my book.</div><div><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/11/amazon-deleted-some-of-my-book-reviews.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/11/amazon-deleted-some-of-my-book-reviews.html</a></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-10313742272780605992024-01-23T20:08:00.000-08:002024-01-23T20:12:03.129-08:00Comments that Easily Trigger the Narcissist's Rage<p><mark class="QVRyCf" style="font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px;">saying "no" can trigger a narcissist's rage</mark><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 18px;">.</span><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 18px;"> </span><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 18px;">Narcissists are hypersensitive to anything that might undermine their grandiose self-image.</span><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 18px;"> </span><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 18px;">They thrive on constant admiration and attention, so rejection can trigger feelings of inadequacy and provoke a rageful response.</span><span class="UV3uM" face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 18px; text-wrap: nowrap;"> </span></p><p><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold; letter-spacing: 0.2px;">Other things that can anger a narcissist include:</span></p><div class="WaaZC Zh8Myb" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px;"><ul data-hveid="CAUQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwic9ZnXkfWDAxXWKEQIHZAGCRAQm_YKegQIBRAA" jsaction="jZtoLb:SaHfyb" jscontroller="M2ABbc" style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px; margin: 20px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 24px;"><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">When people see the blueprint pattern of their behaviors and try to figure them out</li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">When people set boundaries with them</li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">When they are called out and held accountable for their actions </li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><b>When someone starts to become independent from them<span class="UV3uM" style="text-wrap: nowrap;"> </span></b></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">Some other comments that can trigger a narcissist's rage include:</li></ul></div><div class="WaaZC Zh8Myb" style="background-color: white; color: #001d35; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif;"><ul data-hveid="CAkQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwic9ZnXkfWDAxXWKEQIHZAGCRAQm_YKegQICRAA" jsaction="jZtoLb:SaHfyb" jscontroller="M2ABbc" style="font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px; margin: 20px 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 24px;"><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">"I see through you"</li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">"You're not as special as you think you are"</li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">"You're not as great as you think you are"</li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;">"You always blame other people except yourself why is it that it's someone else's fault"<span class="UV3uM" style="text-wrap: nowrap;"> </span></li></ul><div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/62vX1hSQ7_U" width="320" youtube-src-id="62vX1hSQ7_U"></iframe></div><br /><span style="text-wrap: nowrap;"><br /></span></div></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><p></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-58054822723673984012024-01-23T19:57:00.000-08:002024-01-23T20:25:43.815-08:00Sadistic Narcissist<p> <span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: #28292a; color: #eef0ff; font-size: 18px; max-height: 999999px;">A sadistic narcissist is <mark class="QVRyCf" style="max-height: 999999px;">someone who enjoys causing physical or psychological pain to others</mark>. </span><span face=""Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif" style="background-color: #28292a; color: #eef0ff; font-size: 18px; max-height: 999999px;">They may be charming and charismatic, making them difficult to identify.<span class="UV3uM" style="max-height: 999999px; text-wrap: nowrap;"> </span></span></p><div class="WaaZC" style="background-color: #28292a; color: #eef0ff; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; max-height: 999999px;"><div class="rPeykc uP58nb eUu65e PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEParagraphFeedback" data-hveid="CAQQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwjZqvS0i-mDAxUzhu4BHcKxD8gQo_EKegQIBBAA" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: 16px; font-weight: bold; letter-spacing: 0.2px; line-height: 22px; margin: 20px 0px; max-height: 999999px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;"><span aria-level="2" role="heading" style="max-height: 999999px;">Here are some signs of a sadistic narcissist:</span><span class="UV3uM" style="max-height: 999999px; text-wrap: nowrap;"> <div class="NPrrbc" data-bt="1" data-cid="_NDqqZdnABLOMur8PwuO-wAw_6" style="display: inline-flex; margin-right: 6px; max-height: 999999px; vertical-align: middle;"><div aria-label="Expand" class="BMebGe k0Jjg fCrZyc LwdV0e FR7ZSc OJeuxf PrjL8c" data-hveid="CAUQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwjZqvS0i-mDAxUzhu4BHcKxD8gQ3fYKegQIBRAA" jsaction="click:trigger.km1vMe;" jsname="HtgYJd" role="button" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); display: inline-block; max-height: 999999px; outline: 0px; transition: color 0.25s linear 0s; vertical-align: middle;" tabindex="0"><div class="niO4u iCQO5d" style="-webkit-box-align: center; -webkit-box-pack: center; align-items: center; background-color: transparent; border-radius: 9999px; border: 1px solid rgb(68, 71, 70); box-sizing: border-box; color: #a8c7fa; cursor: pointer; display: inline-block; height: 20px; justify-content: center; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; max-height: 999999px; position: relative; text-align: center; transition: background-color 0.25s linear 0s; width: 28px;"><div class="kHtcsd DopHqc" style="-webkit-box-align: center; -webkit-box-pack: center; align-items: center; border-radius: inherit; border: none; display: flex; height: 18.5778px; justify-content: center; max-height: 999999px; width: 26.5778px;"><span class="d3o3Ad Hkv2Pe" style="-webkit-box-align: center; align-items: center; background: unset; color: #b1c5ff; display: flex; height: 18px; max-height: 999999px;"><span class="z1asCe bjaP2b" style="display: inline-block; fill: currentcolor; height: 18px; line-height: 18px; max-height: 999999px; position: relative; width: 18px;"><svg focusable="false" viewbox="0 0 24 24" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><path d="M7.41 8.59L12 13.17l4.59-4.58L18 10l-6 6-6-6 1.41-1.41z"></path></svg></span></span></div></div></div></div></span></span></div></div><div class="WaaZC" style="background-color: #28292a; color: #eef0ff; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; max-height: 999999px;"><ul data-hveid="CAYQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwjZqvS0i-mDAxUzhu4BHcKxD8gQm_YKegQIBhAA" jsaction="jZtoLb:SaHfyb" jscontroller="M2ABbc" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px; margin: 20px 0px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 24px;"><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Lack of empathy: </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may feel pleasure from causing harm to others.</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Inflated sense of self-importance: </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may have a need for constant admiration and attention.</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Manipulative: </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may exploit others for their own gain.</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Emotional sadism: </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may enjoy hurting someone by manipulating their emotions until they feel broken.</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Punishment: </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may act sadistically when behaving this way generates or yields narcissistic supply. </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may also punish sources of narcissistic supply who are perceived by the narcissist to be intentionally frustrating and withholding.</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Paranoia: </span><span style="max-height: 999999px;">They may operate with a great deal of paranoia and can't trust.</span></li></ul></div><div class="WaaZC" style="background-color: #28292a; color: #eef0ff; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; max-height: 999999px;"><div class="rPeykc uP58nb eUu65e MNX06c PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEParagraphFeedback" data-hveid="CAcQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwjZqvS0i-mDAxUzhu4BHcKxD8gQo_EKegQIBxAA" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); line-height: 24px; margin: 20px 0px; max-height: 999999px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;"><span aria-level="2" role="heading" style="max-height: 999999px;">Some environmental causes that can contribute to the development of malignant narcissism include:</span><span class="UV3uM" style="max-height: 999999px; text-wrap: nowrap;"> </span></span></div></div><div class="WaaZC" style="background-color: #28292a; color: #eef0ff; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, "Helvetica Neue", Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 18px; max-height: 999999px;"><ul data-hveid="CAkQAA" data-ved="2ahUKEwjZqvS0i-mDAxUzhu4BHcKxD8gQm_YKegQICRAA" jsaction="jZtoLb:SaHfyb" jscontroller="M2ABbc" style="-webkit-tap-highlight-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-size: 16px; line-height: 22px; margin: 20px 0px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 24px;"><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Childhood neglect or inconsistent care</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px 0px 8px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Childhood trauma or abuse</span></li><li class="PZPZlf" data-attrid="SGEListItem" style="margin: 0px; max-height: 999999px; padding: 0px 0px 0px 4px;"><span style="max-height: 999999px;">Sexual trauma</span></li></ul></div>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-74473147396357389122024-01-23T19:52:00.000-08:002024-01-23T19:52:26.831-08:00"Narcissism in the Therapist<p> I can testify to being abused by therapists. </p><p><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Julio+Machado+Vaz">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Julio+Machado+Vaz</a></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: "Google Sans", Roboto, RobotoDraft, Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: small;">"Unfortunately, narcissists in positions of high visibility or power-particularly in the so-called helping professions (medicine, education, and the ministry) -often do great harm to others." </span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; color: #262626; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13px;">I get it! And understand! Why I have so many malignant narcissists and sociopaths targeting me since I published my book <a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/08/a-dance-to-freedom-book-reviews.html" target="_blank">A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions</a>. Who I’m I?! An ex-topless dancer and a gate attendant who never went to college could possibly know more about the human mind than those who went to college and have spent all of their lives working so hard and studying -- memorizing knowledge --- which they use like robots or parrots to fool others and manipulate them to act exactly the part they want you to act in their twisted drama.</span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; font-size: 13px;"><span style="color: #262626; font-family: Roboto, arial, sans-serif;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/04/most-therapists-keep-themselves-others.html">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/04/most-therapists-keep-themselves-others.html</a></span></span></p><p>"Narcissism in the therapist</p><p>Therapists need to recognize and own the personal experience of healthy or negative narcissism in their personalities and its effect upon all aspects of their own lives and clients’ lives.</p><p><b>The therapist does have power in the therapy room</b> and integrity is needed to acknowledge the reactions and responses of the client projecting the authority figure onto them, and the reactions and responses of the therapist themselves. <b>Therapists know that a narcissist’s striving for power stems from a deep sense of humiliation suffered as a child.</b> If a power struggle emerges between a therapist and client then it is imperative for the therapist to reflect on their own degree of narcissism, as any supervisor would recommend. <b>In fact, wherever power struggles emerge in life in relationships, families, groups, committees, organizations, and businesses it seems this is a useful reflection for healing.</b></p><p>There are narcissistic snares within a psychotherapist’s career that show themselves as personal, unrealistic expectations and aspirations for caregiving.<b> One is falling under the narcissistic snare of omnipotence, heal all, know all, and love all. It is an unrealistic</b>, but understandable aspiration, in which the less experienced therapist may land up in trouble by taking on clients whose problems are well beyond their experience. Intuition and empathy are in a therapist’s point of reference but need to be used wisely with where the reality is, and not where the therapist thinks the client is." </p><p>-- Shirley A Ward Med DipEd</p><p>above excerpt from the article Narcissism: Humanity’s Secret Weapon of Mass Destruction by Shirley A Ward Med DipEd</p><p>www.shirleyward.org/narcissism.html</p><p>Shirley Ward's website www.shirleyward.org</p><p>AMETHYST Resource for Human Development Reading Room www.holistic.ie/amethyst/documents/readinglist.htm</p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-53269499719609548242024-01-21T22:12:00.000-08:002024-01-21T22:12:43.652-08:00Traveling Through Europe <p>I love traveling and hanging out with Louise and Emily... </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/FHE8aa6aSEg" width="320" youtube-src-id="FHE8aa6aSEg"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/ziAyvxzPUj4" width="320" youtube-src-id="ziAyvxzPUj4"></iframe></div><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/u4ADmx4euGY" width="320" youtube-src-id="u4ADmx4euGY"></iframe></div><br /><p><br /></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-80751073591293374222024-01-20T21:09:00.000-08:002024-01-23T23:51:02.931-08:00I love Arizona <p>I really love my life here! I flew here in a direct flight with British Airways from London to Phoenix on March 11, 1984, that by coincidence was my birthday. I stayed here for a few weeks and then I had to go to Rhode Island for one year. Rhode Island is a beautiful State with beautiful beaches but I couldn't wait to get back to Arizona.</p><p>In the spring of 1985 came back to Arizona and I have been here ever since!</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/sQDOPB2a2TI" width="320" youtube-src-id="sQDOPB2a2TI"></iframe></div><p>I specifically love my City of Scottsdale. I live in old Town or the heart of Scottsdale. </p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/TIiqeGm1vqk" width="320" youtube-src-id="TIiqeGm1vqk"></iframe></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/JbCEG5YIbTs" width="320" youtube-src-id="JbCEG5YIbTs"></iframe></div><br /><p><br /></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1191702479631534091.post-76345708618178504772024-01-15T16:31:00.000-08:002024-01-26T18:40:15.176-08:00How to Achieve Martin Luther King's Dream<p><span style="font-family: arial;"><span style="background-color: white;">This morning watching the morning news on YouTube the journalist was discussing with a guest about violence and oppression and how it persists in our society and then asked how we achieve Martin Luther King's dream? And the guest replied with education. Then I made the comment below that I think is no longer there because those with the power to inform the public are not one bit interested in informing the public of the real facts. </span></span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;"><span face="Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif" style="color: #222222;">The biggest threat to humanity -- is people's repressed emotions of the child they once were -- and as long as people's repressed emotions are unresolved, they will be blinded by them and driven by them into the state of compulsion repetition to hurt and exploit others the same way they were hurt and exploited as defenseless little children. </span></span></p><p><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;"></span></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13.2px;"><b><span class="fwn fcg" style="font-weight: 400;"><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: #f6f7f9; color: #1d2129; line-height: 16.08px;"><span data-ft="{"tn":"K"}"><b>The conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in</b></span></span></span><b style="background-color: #f6f7f9; color: #1d2129; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;"> </b><b style="background-color: #f6f7f9; color: #1d2129; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">the stage of the world</b><span class="fwn fcg" style="font-weight: 400;"><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: #f6f7f9; color: #1d2129; line-height: 16.08px;"><span data-ft="{"tn":"K"}"><b>, sooner rather than later, </b></span></span></span><b style="background-color: #f6f7f9; color: #1d2129; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif;">if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide.</b><span face=""helvetica" , "arial" , sans-serif" style="background-color: #f6f7f9; color: #1d2129; font-weight: 400;"> </span></b></p><p style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif; font-size: 13.2px;"><span face="helvetica, arial, sans-serif" style="color: #1d2129; font-size: 15.84px;">As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- </span><b style="color: #1d2129; font-family: helvetica, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2012/07/education-alone-doesnt-save-people-from.html" style="color: #2288bb; text-decoration-line: none;" target="_blank">they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition </a></b><span face="helvetica, arial, sans-serif" style="color: #1d2129; font-size: 15.84px;">-- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... </span><b style="font-family: arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif; font-size: 15.84px;"><span face="arial, sans-serif" style="color: #555555; line-height: 14.5667px;">The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain. It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence alone is not enough; but it rather helps create seductive, rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. </span></b></p><p style="background-color: white;"><span face="arial, sans-serif" style="font-size: 15.84px; line-height: 14.5667px;"><span face="arial, tahoma, helvetica, freesans, sans-serif" style="color: #555555;"><b><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=lack+of+educated+people">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=lack+of+educated+people</a></b></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">The Roots of Violence are NOT Unknown</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span><span><span><span>The misled brain and the banned emotions</span></span></span></span><br />
<span><span><span><span>The Facts:</span></span></span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">1. The development of the human brain is use-dependent. The brain develops its structure in the first four years of life, depending on the experiences the environment offers the child. The brain of a child who has mostly loving experiences will develop differently from the brain of a child who has been treated cruelly.</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">2. Almost all children on our planet are beaten in the first years of their lives. They learn from the start violence, and this lesson is wired into their developing brains. No child is ever born violent. Violence is NOT genetic, it exists because beaten children use, in their adult lives, the lesson that their brains have learned.</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span style="background-color: white;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><span><span><span><span>3. As beaten children are not allowed to defend themselves, they must suppress their anger and rage against their parents who have humiliated them, killed their inborn empathy, and insulted their dignity. They will take out this rage later, as adults, on scapegoats, mostly on their own children. Deprived of empathy, some of them will direct their anger against themselves (in eating disorders, drug addiction, depression etc.), or against other adults (in wars, terrorism, delinquency etc.)</span></span></span></span><br />
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<span><span><span><span>Questions and Answers:</span></span></span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">Q: Parents beat their children without a second thought, to make them obedient. Nobody, except a very small minority, protests against this dangerous habit. Why is the logical sequence (from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator) totally ignored world-wide? Why have even the Popes, responsible for the moral behaviour of many millions of believers, until now never informed them that beating children is a crime?</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">A: Because almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">Q: Can we free ourselves from the emotional blindness we developed in childhood?</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">A: We can - at least to some degree - liberate ourselves from this blindness by daring to feel our repressed emotions, including our fear and forbidden rage against our parents who had often scared us to death for periods of many years, which should have been the most beautiful years of our lives. We can't retrieve those years. But thanks to facing our truth we can transform ourselves from the children who still live in us full of fear and denial into responsible, well informed adults who regained their empathy, so early stolen from them. By becoming feeling persons we can no longer deny that beating children is a criminal act that should be forbidden on the whole planet.</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">Conclusion:</span></span></span></span></p>
<p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;">Caring for the emotional needs of our children means more than giving them a happy childhood. It means to enable the brains of the future adults to function in a healthy, rational way, free from perversion and madness. Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence. Alice Miller</span></span></span></span></span></span></p><p dir="ltr"><span><span><span><span><span><span style="background-color: white; font-family: arial;"><a href="https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=The+Roots+of+Violence+are+NOT+Unknown">https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=The+Roots+of+Violence+are+NOT+Unknown</a></span></span></span></span></span></span></p>Sylviehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10224889765738451170noreply@blogger.com0