Sylvie's place: Narcissists feel empty on the inside

It doesn't matter because it is what it is. But I added to my blog I'm NOT a Therapist that the people going around saying I was playing therapist. I never chased anyone, they were the ones chasing me and following me around that I could not have a minute to myself. I couldn't wait to come back to the United States so I could have time for myself again.

One was always dropping her 3-year-old son with me because she couldn't handle taking care of her own child.

Now I realize they were not following me around because they wanted to learn from me and grow as human beings but were just using me. And to collect data they could use one day as tools of manipulation and control to give them an advantage in the games people play.

I told them many times that I was allowing them to use me to distract themselves from themselves but one day I would not let them use me anymore. That day has arrived and now they are mad at me and doing everything to discredit me so they can pretend to be superior walking around wearing my skin to fool people but time always reveals who is real and who is fake pretending to be someone they are not.

I saved her 3-year-old son's psyche enough for now as an adult to make threats against me to suppress the truth, facts, and evidence from himself and others. His mother who abandoned him physically and emotionally when he was a defenseless little child is protected from his unresolved repressed hatred and is directing his hatred towards me instead. It's sad but it is what it is.

https://www.alice-miller.com/en/what-is-hatred/

They say, "Misery loves Company" Well I say, "Narcissists love to bring happy people down." What BETTER type of power trip to a narcissist's ego than to take a naturally happy person and by their own "amazing abilities" turn them into a shell of their former selves while walking off "wearing their skin"? You know that they WANT to see you laying on the sidewalk, crying out in pain because you're "nothing" without them; just as they told you (or insinuated many times). ~ANA (After Narcissistic Abuse)

Narcissists use guilt to control you, especially when you finally take care of yourself or assert your needs. They make you feel guilty for putting yourself first, expecting their respect, or valuing yourself and even blame you for abandoning them. They have abandoned you emotionally, mentally, and physically for most of the relationship. They have treated you poorly throughout, and then, somehow find a way to blame you. Don't fall for it. This is just another gaslighting technique.

Narcissists feel empty on the inside and try to fill that emptiness with stuff. Psychologists say that narcissists like nice things for appearance's sake, but the need is deeper than that. People who have a robust sense of self should be less likely to be materialistic or hoarding.

Narcissists can feel empty by themselves:

Lack of self-awareness

Narcissists may not have a sense of self or self-awareness and may feel like they need constant mirroring from others.

Childhood exploitation

Narcissists may have been treated as an objects in childhood, which can lead to a disconnect from emotional authenticity.

Self-hatred

Research suggests that narcissists may not love themselves, but rather may be driven by self-hatred.

Here are some other things to know about narcissists:

Grandiose sense of self

Narcissists may believe they are unique or special, and may only want to associate with other high-status people.

Defenses

Narcissists may use defenses like repression, denial, distortion, rationalization, and lies to discharge painful feelings.