Why Narcissists Resist the Truth

“We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist” - James Baldwin

Yes, that's very true. They want revenge at any cost, and they never give up trying to get revenge. Be careful because they have a hard time letting go and moving on. 

Yes, they are liars by omission. I know someone who tells you that she doesn't lie, but she is just as much of a liar as the people she accuses of lying.

Yes, they plan it from the very beginning. Refrain from wasting your time and love with these vampires. Walk away. 

Yes, they recruit others to do their dirty work. Walk away from them all. 

Yes, once a person has grown into a full-blown malignant narcissist unconditional love just enables them. Only children need unconditional love. Loving unconditionally a narcissist is to be endlessly used and exploited by them.

"Relationships with narcissists only last for as long as you're willing to put yourself last."

Only children need and must have unconditional love and protection no matter what, it’s their birthright and the parents’ obligation to love and protect them. But adults can never be loved unconditionally. You would not love a rapist or dictator. The love between adults needs to be earned. 

“As adults, we don’t need unconditional love, not even from our therapist. This is a childhood need, that can never be fulfilled later in life, and we are playing with illusions if we have never mourned this lost opportunity. But there are other things we can get from a good therapist: reliability, honesty, respect, trust, empathy, understanding, and an ability to clarify their emotions so that they need not bother us with them. If a therapist promises unconditional love, we must protect ourselves from him, from his hypocrisy and lack of awareness” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 45

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I must be doing something right because since I published my book the devil is constantly after me. 

Have you ever realized that:

Sometimes, people make you out to be the villain just to avoid feeling guilty about how they treated you and the choices they made. By shifting the blame, they protect themselves from facing their own truth. But their need to justify their harmful behavior doesn't change the fact that their actions are a reflection of them, not you.

I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain. JAMES BALDWIN

Some people are like unpaid therapy.

They come, they shine, make us smile

and never ask for anything in return.

Those are important people.

Sometimes, holding on to someone hurts more, so it's better to let them go and allow your wounds to heal.