Narcissistic mothers are characterized by a set of psychological traits that can include a lack of empathy, self-importance, and a need for admiration. They may also have narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) Some signs of NPD include arrogance, grandiosity, and an inability to understand how their actions affect others
Here are some other traits that narcissistic mothers may have:
Manipulation
They may use tactics like gaslighting and guilt-tripping to control their children.
Emotional abuse
They may constantly criticize, belittle, and demean their children. They may also shame their children's emotions, and switch from loving to hating them when they feel frustrated or disappointed.
Exploitation
They may use their children to achieve their own goals, even at the expense of their children's needs. They may also hold their children's basic needs over their heads, making them feel like they are indebted to their mother.
Poor boundaries
They may invade their children's privacy and autonomy, and play favorites.
Entitlement
They may believe they are above others and deserve special treatment. They may also have poor object constancy, which means they may have difficulty remembering positive aspects of people they care about when they are feeling negative towards them.
Are Women Less Aggressive than Men?
In my view, women are by no means less aggressive than men. Of course, they are victimized and disadvantaged by men avenging themselves for the beating they received from their mothers. But women avenge themselves for such victimization and physical cruelty by taking it out on their little children, thus breeding new generations of avengers who consciously love and honor their parents.
I see no real difference between the cruelty of women and that of men, because both sexes have learned such sadism at the hands of their parents and caregivers at the time when their brains were still in the process of formation. As children, they were subjected to cruelty and even perversion, but they were not allowed to defend themselves. So later, they take out their repressed anger on other defenseless people, frequently in the same way their parents treated them when they were small. Women frequently vent this acquired sadism on their children. While men also give free rein to it by victimizing employees at work or lower military ranks, or else participating in orgies of violence like genocide or terrorist attacks. The causes invariable lie in the repressed and totally denied suffering of their childhood (though most of them will insist that they had wonderful parents). People who were not humiliated, tormented, or beaten in their early years are incapable of sadism.
Women can live out all kinds of covert perversion on their children and torment them with impunity as long as they call this behavior “good parenting.” Society idealizes mothers because people have never consciously realized that their own mothers treated them cruelly when they were small. Accordingly, women normally enjoy total immunity.
I see no sex-specific differences in the suicide bombers. I understand terrorism as an attempt to compensate for the humiliations these people were subjected to, but have never consciously perceived it as such, by means of a “magnificent deed” (such as sacrificing their own lives for the sake of a group).
Though it is not difficult to understand this dynamic, there are not many people who would allow themselves to give up their denial and look the truth in the face. The fear felt by the tormented children they once were can prevent this all their lives.
From the book “Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs” By Alice Miller Page 140
No, they can't! They want to be in control and the attention on them all the time!
Yep! They all kiss each other's butts.