This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel, and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and everything that happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse. These are facts. Violence is not genetic; it’s learned.
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Friday, March 21, 2025
Why Narcissists Treat you so Badly
Narcissists often treat their targets badly due to a combination of factors, including a lack of empathy, a need for control, and a grandiose sense of self-importance, which leads to manipulation and devaluation of others.
Lack of Empathy:
People with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) struggle to understand or care about the feelings of others, making it difficult for them to see things from another's perspective.
Need for Control: Narcissists often crave control and dominance in relationships, using manipulation and abusive tactics to maintain power over their targets.
Grandiose Sense of Self: They have an inflated sense of their own importance and entitlement, believing they are superior to others, which leads to devaluation and disrespect.
Manipulation: Narcissists are skilled manipulators who use gaslighting, emotional blackmail, and other tactics to control their targets and make them feel dependent.
Seeking Attention and Admiration: They have an insatiable need for attention and admiration, and they may use their targets to fuel their ego and sense of importance.
Shifting Blame: Narcissists often avoid taking responsibility for their actions by shifting the blame onto the victim, a common control tactic in abusive relationships.
Sociopaths in mental health professions are the most damaging.
"Unfortunately, narcissists in positions of high visibility or power-particularly in the so-called helping professions (medicine, education, and the ministry) often do great harm to others."
No, it is not going to end well. Humanity is doomed. Evil is born anew with every new generation.
"Become aware of the fact that our obedience learned in childhood doesn’t allow us to think freely needs probably more than many hundred years. I am not sure if the tortured planet leaves us the necessary time to understand this fact, to protest against it, and to become a conscious, responsible member of the crew."
After my experience with the sociopaths at my job of nine and half years, I see very clearly how terrorism is the war of the poor and war is the terrorism of the rich. The true terrorists are in boardrooms around the world -- plotting and manipulating the poor to retaliate to their lies and injustices --- so they have a reason to pick up their guns and give the illusion that they have to fight in self-defense and to keep everyone safe from the terrorists and thugs like they like to call them. These words from the book Staking the Soul: Emotional Abuse and the Erosion of Identity by Marie-France Hirigoven come to mind: "...Physical violence can be testified to be outside evidence: eyewitness, police and medical reports. With emotional abuse, there is no proof. It's a clean violence. Nobody sees anything."
Violence is a trap and an illusion, and it is never the answer.
The words below by John Lennon could not be truer. The sociopaths at my job of nine and half years were hoping I would react to their lies, mind games, and smear campaign, and I would become violent in some form. The system is thirsty for blood, but I don't play their game.
"When it gets down to having to use violence, then you are playing the system's game. The establishment will irritate you - pull your beard, flick your face - to make you fight. Because once they've got you violent, then they know how to handle you. The only thing they don't know how to handle is non-violence and humor." John Lennon
"Children who are told the truth and are not brought up to tolerate lies and cruelty can develop as freely as a plant whose roots have not been attacked by pests (in our case, lies)" Alice Miller.
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