Liberating the Child Within

The words written by Alice Miller in the answer below to one of her readers could not be truer! We can preach all we want about the dangers of child abuse, but until people liberate the child within of the strong repressed bitterness, the compulsion to repeat will continue in one form or another sooner or later. People that can't consciously feel the authentic repressed feelings of the child they once were, within the context of their own childhoods, are dangerous to themselves and others and can't be trusted, because sooner or later in one form or another will be driven by the repressed legitimate hate towards their parents or parents substitutes to use others as scapegoats or poisonous container to temporarily relieve repressed hatred. I rather be alone than being someone's scapegoat! 

"Yes, it would be wonderful if we could initiate a powerful movement towards more awareness. In fact, by understanding the emotional needs of children we would come to understand OURSELVES too, the basis of our existence, of our own Being as responsible adults. But this is impossible without liberating the strong bitterness of the abused child we hide deeply in our bodies because of the fears of our parents. Unfortunately, ALL religions FORBID this emotional liberation, they rather allow wars, some of them even consider wars as sacred because they have never understood that feeling the legitimate rage PROTECTS us from acting out in wars and criminality. The last are organized exactly by people who DON’T feel."
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The Past Always Catches up with Us

People that preach that focusing on the past is a waste of time and unhealthy and  we only need is to forgive and forget, they don’t realize that we can’t live in the present and look forward into the future without first looking into our past and face and feel the repressed feelings of the child we once were. As long the repressed feelings of our painful past remain repressed, we will be driven by them to unconsciously and compulsively reenact the painful dramas of the past. They are clueless that they have fallen into a trap that makes them feel better temporally and superficially and now unconsciously are alluring others into their traps, so they can feel superior and be in power over others to protect them from having to face and feel their painful past and they don't realize they are stuck in the past. This is how cult leaders are born. Until we face our past, the past will keep catching up with us in our relationship with others, especially with our children, if we have children.