Wednesday, March 27, 2013

Driven by the dead hand of their own repression to create stupid laws

It’s very sad when politicians unconsciously and compulsively are driven blindly by the dead hand of their own repression to create destructive laws to keep the public repressed and obedient.
People that idealize their childhoods and parents will keep having a limitless craving for scapegoats on whom they can avenge themselves for the fears and anxieties of childhood without having to re-experience those fears. 
Because of society's stigma on abortion, pregnant poor vulnerable women seeking an abortion make the perfect scapegoats to take revenge for the wrongs done to them by their own mothers or caregivers when they were defenseless little children. 
Pro-life people suffer and secretly enjoy seeing others suffer too, they want others to have the same fate as them. We need people with the courage to stand up to stupid laws politicians unconsciously create -- hiding behind their illusion of love for the unborn --  to suppress and be cruel to people already born -- the same way their own parents or caregivers were cruel to them when they were defenseless little children. 
It is NOT PRO-LIFE when people defend zygotes, not even a fetus, and despise women who decide in favor of abortion, whereas the same "pro-lifers" have no problem with spanking children or abusing them in any possible physical or psychological way AFTER birth, as many of them come from a religious/Christian background with, as we know, often brings on the weirdest kind of fanatic ideology. Indoctrination is child abuse. What we need are more laws to protect BORN LIFE, such as finally banning paddling and other awful, "legal" ways of child abuse from schools and homes and more money to support women who like to carry their pregnancies to term an give birth to new beings, instead of hypocrisy and moralism.
Pro-lifers want to protect unborn life, but discard the ones already born. The pro-lifers hypocrisy is epic and knows no bounds. Pro-lifers say having an abortion is murder and mutilates our soul, I see it the other way around: carrying a pregnancy to term and giving birth to a new being that we are not able to take care of and protect, THAT, is soul mutilating and soul-murdering, and robs poor vulnerable women the chance at freedom and I talk from experience, knowledge is experience, everything else is just information and my experience has taught me that most information out there is misleading information and lies. I know without a doubt if I had carried a pregnancy to term when I was not ready, my soul would have been mutilated and would have been soul murder by bringing a new being into an abusive vicious circle and my soul would not have become whole and free like it is today.  I was able to liberate a soul instead of contributing two more mutilated lost and confused souls into this world and continue the painful vicious circle. Pro-lifers fight so hard for the unborn beings because unconsciously and compulsively they want an endless supply of innocent powerless beings to use, exploit and project their disowned parts. Carrying a pregnancy to term and giving birth to new being we are not ready to nurture, take care of and protect, THAT, is soul murdering and contributes to the destruction of the world. Pro-lifers are soul murders disguised as pro-lifers and destroyers of life that is already born.
I completely agree with the words As Alice Miller wrote in her book “Breaking Down the Walls of Silence” she says:
"It is, in fact, not surprising to find that those who are both victims and apologist for the use of violence and severity against children are often those who most passionately proclaim their love of the unborn child, i.e., the kernel of life.  Abortion can, indeed, be seen as the most powerful symbol of the psychic annihilation and mutilation practiced since time immemorial on children.  But to combat this evil merely at the symbolic level deflects us from the reality we should not evade for a moment longer:  the reality of the abused and humiliated child, which, as a result of its disavowed and unresolved injuries, will insidiously become, either openly or aided by hypocrisy, a danger to society. 

It is above all the children already born that have a right to life - a right to coexistence with adults in a world in which, with or without the help of the church, violence against children has been unequivocally outlawed.  Until such legislation exists, talk of “the right to life” remains not only a mockery of humanity but a contribution to its destruction."

Read more here

"The Only Moral Abortion is My Abortion"
 When 1 in 3 women have abortions, it means a lot of women that proclaim to be pro-life had abortions themselves. Hypocrisy is so sad.
"The Only Moral Abortion is My Abortion"
“Abortion is a highly personal decision that many women are sure they'll never have to think about until they're suddenly faced with an unexpected pregnancy. But this can happen to anyone, including women who are strongly anti-choice. So what does an anti-choice woman do when she experiences an unwanted pregnancy herself? Often, she will grin and bear it, so to speak, but frequently, she opts for the solution she would deny to other women -- abortion.
In the spring of 2000, I collected the following anecdotes directly from abortion doctors and other clinic staff in North America, Australia, and Europe. The stories are presented in the providers' own words, with minor editing for grammar, clarity, and brevity. Names have been omitted to protect privacy.
"I have done several abortions on women who have regularly picketed my clinics, including a 16-year-old schoolgirl who came back to picket the day after her abortion, about three years ago. During her whole stay at the clinic, we felt that she was not quite right, but there were no real warning bells. She insisted that the abortion was her idea and assured us that all was OK. She went through the procedure very smoothly and was discharged with no problems. A quite routine operation. Next morning she was with her mother and several school mates in front of the clinic with the usual anti posters and chants. It appears that she got the abortion she needed and still displayed the appropriate anti views expected of her by her parents, teachers, and peers." (Physician, Australia)
"I've had several cases over the years in which the anti-abortion patient had rationalized in one way or another that her case was the only exception, but the one that really made an impression was the college senior who was the president of her campus Right-to-Life organization, meaning that she had worked very hard in that organization for several years. As I was completing her procedure, I asked what she planned to do about her high office in the RTL organization. Her response was a wide-eyed, 'You're not going to tell them, are you!?' When assured that I was not, she breathed a sigh of relief, explaining how important that position was to her and how she wouldn't want this to interfere with it." (Physician, Texas)”
"Most pro-life women oppose abortion with four exceptions: rape, incest, the life of the mother, and me."

Yes, let that sink in. But most of these debates about abortion are like a broken record, they keep repeating the same old lingo with misinformation and lies and no one ever asks the real questions of where this hatred for women comes from and why?

Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Cult leaders are so annoying

I want to scream when people come to my blog defending and saying that their cult leader is the next level of Alice Miller. No, your cult leader hijacked and memorized like parrots the knowledge Alice Miller acquired through many years of research and hard work, and she personally genuinely experienced in her life and shared it in her books with the rest of the world. 

Your cult leader with this memorized knowledge that they have not experienced themselves, they twist it around to manipulate their emotionally blind followers and lie to them that they are Alice Miller next level and create a smoke screen by saying Alice Miller was abusive, because she stood up to their deceiving tactics and in this way manipulate people not to read her books themselves and join their cults instead. These people are very sick and don’t realize that they are unconsciously and compulsively reenacting theirs and their followers' childhood drama keeping everyone endless stuck in their childhood emotional prison, the cult leaders playing the role of the father/mother figure and the followers playing the role of the child. It’s so sad.   

It’s so annoying is when the followers of cult leaders anonymously make comments defending their cult leader like a little child would defend their parents, cowards, at least they could show their true identity -- calling people abusive for standing up to their cult leaders’ lies.

These words Alice Miller wrote to me come truer every day: “I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats. They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually they use unconsciously other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves they can become very mean. I can only urge you to trust your feelings and to NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use others to getting free from the accumulated rage.”

Also, read the article “Gurus and Cults Leaders How They Function” 

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Two Wounded Families Cladding Together

In the summer of 1973, while my sister Laura was planning her wedding, a man that was from a nearby village of my parents stopped by our house in Porto to ask permission to build a house in our land, next to my parents' house in the village, for him and his three children. The oldest girl was in her late teens or early twenties and the youngest girl was a few years younger than me and the boy was closer to my age. I remember very well being in my room and listen to my older sisters talking and Laura saying --- how would be good for our aging parents to have neighbors, he is a hardworking man Laura said, that has work very hard in Germany and now is coming back to Portugal, trying to be a father to his children. 

To my older sisters being a hard worker was the best quality a person could possess and eclipsed all bad character defects a person might have, no matter how bad and now they are paying the price for their emotional blindness. 

I remember very well thinking to myself: this is not a good idea, but I didn’t dare to express my opinion, because I knew I didn't have a voice in my family and I was a nobody to them -- I had heard enough times -- from Isabel that my opinion didn’t count, so why bother saying anything. 

But I was right! This family was more wounded than my family and two wounded families cladding together is like two trains traveling at high-speed cladding with each other, very destructive.  

Most summers when I would go visit my parents in the village I would whiteness this man bully my aging parents and he stealing and use more land than he had been giving permission to use and was sad for me to witness my mother and father suffer by the abuse of this man, once this man even poisoned my mother’s chickens! 

I especially was very sad when they removed a cherry tree my father had planted that gave the best white cherries I ever tasted. 

I witnessed my mother many times crying and yelling at this man that he was stealing our land and she saying to him: I never gave you permission to use this part of the land, but my sisters were too busy in the city with work and obsessing about me and following their cult leaders to notice what was happening to our aging parents and our land. You would think all the psychic people they were visiting for guidance in their lives; if they were true psychics would have warned them about the dangers of this very wounded family. 

While visiting my parents I became friends with this man’s two daughters, they had two more sisters, but they chose to stay with an aunt in a nearby village, they were still mad at their father. 

The oldest girl was playing the role of the “wife” and “mother” took care of all the house duties like cleaning and cooking, etc. while the brother and younger sister went to school. I once asked them what had happened to their mother and they told me, that their mother had run away to France from their father and that she went to the extreme to bleach her face and change her identity, so her father could not recognize her, because she was very afraid of their father finding her, of course, she was afraid of their father he was a bully. 

And now his son is a bully just like his father was and has become a high official in law enforcement. 

And from this position of power is trying to legalize and put in his name the land his father stole from my parents by falsifying documents and lying, like saying their house was built before 1951 because they build their house without a license and after 1951, no one could build without a permit. 

I was born in 1959 and I guaranty you their house was not built until I was a teenager, in the seventies, but because he is in power position is able to bribe people in the courts and get people in the village to lie for him, even the village priest! 

My older sister have been fighting their lies and falsified papers for at least 8 years, what should have been so easy to take care of, because the land was in my parents name and they never had any of the land on their names, they just had a house build in our land and that does not give them ownership of the land, they own the house, but not the land. 

In a corrupted country like Portugal people in power position can use and bully those below them and do whatever they want without fear, because in Portugal people in power protect each other no matter how big of a crime they commit against innocent people. 

My family should have learned their lesson, because when I was around 4 years old, they had also allowed a man from a nearby village to build a mill in our land, because our land was so central by the bus stop that connected to all the nearby villages and it would be handy for his clients to drop their wheat and rye to be milled and he too tried to still our land, but was not difficult to prove that it was our land and when the mill got too old my parents didn’t allow him to rebuild and eventually he left, and this man was not only a land thief he was also a child molester, because he tried to molest me once, that after that I made sure I never was alone with him. 

But now this man from a place of power in law enforcement is able to bribe the officials in the courts to do whatever he wants and the fight goes on forever. In general, people that were extremely wounded in their childhood choose professions that require violence like law enforcement or the army to unconsciously satisfy the fantasies of revenge of the child they once were on innocent people and be awarded for it instead of getting in trouble. 

They want to be in power position over others, so they can use and bully those in our society that are weaker and powerless like they once were when they were defenseless little children. 

This wound of having been abandoned by their own mother that run away to France and left them with an abusive father and then the father leaving for Germany when they were little children to be raised by aunts had to be for them completely psychic murdering and my family made the perfect scapegoats for them to pay the price for their psychic being murdered by the people that brought them into this world. “…The mother, to be sure, has her own sphere of authority in the household, where she rules over the children when the father is not at home; this means that she can to some extent take out on those weaker than herself the humiliation she has suffered. In the totalitarian state, a similar function is assigned to the security police. They are the overseers of the slaves, although they are slaves themselves, carrying out the dictator’s wishes, serving as his deputies in his absence, instilling fear in his name, meting out punishment, assuming the guise of the rulers of the oppressed.” Alice Miller “For Your Own Good” page 146 and 147 

“I designate as pessimistic the thought that we are far more dependent than our pride would like to admit on individual human beings (and not only on institutions), for a single person can gain control over the masses if he learns to use to his own advantage the system under which they were raised. People who have been “pedagogically” manipulated as children are not aware as adults of all that can be done to them. Like the individual authoritarian father, leader figures, in whom the masses see their own father, actually embody the avenging child who needs the masses for his own purposes (of revenge). And this second form of dependence---the dependence of the “great leader” on his childhood, on the unpredictable nature of the unintegrated, enormous potential for hatred within him---is decidedly a very great danger.” Alice Miller “For Your Own Good” Page 243 

“Statistical studies are hardly the thing to make disinterested jurists into empathic and perceptive human beings. And yet every crime, by virtue of being an enactment of childhood drama, cries out for understanding. The newspapers carry these stories every day, but unfortunately usually report only the last act. Can knowledge of the underlying causes of a crime bring about a change in the way justice is administered? Not as long as the primary concerns are to assign guilt and impose punishment. But someday it may be possible to gain an understanding for the fact that emerges so clearly in the case Jurgen Bartsch: the accused never bears all the guilt by himself but is a victim of a tragic chain of circumstances. Even so, a prison sentence is unavoidable if society is to be protected. But there is a difference between prison being used to punish a dangerous criminal according to the principles of “poisonous pedagogy” and human tragedy being perceived, therapy during confinement. ” Alice Miller “For Your Own Good” page 199 and 200