Don't make the mistake of labeling people as good and bad

There's is no such thing as good and bad people.

There are unconscious or repressed people acting as if personality pretending to be good people, but are wolves in sheep's clothing, that can turn against you at any moment and doing their evil acts behind closed doors without witnesses.

And there are unconscious people that can't act or pretend and they do their evil acts in the open and usually get caught and end up in jail.

It's the level of repression that makes some people very dangerous! And some people are not as dangerously repressed.
And of course, there are a few of us that have taken responsibility for our own childhood repression and come from a place of honesty and authenticity.
Humanity is corrupted to the core everywhere! You can't escape corruption!

I will hold on to my little corner here for as long as I can! And enjoy my life NOW that my mind is free. Once a mind is truly free it can never be captured again.

Humanity at larger has passed the point of no return and this madness will only stop when humanity is wiped off from the face of the earth. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/11/psychological-warfare.html

OUT OF SHADOWS

I made a comment on the YouTube video OUT OF SHADOWS OFFICIAL https://youtu.be/MY8Nfzcn1qQ

And someone left a comment with the link below:
https://operationdisclosure1.blogspot.com/…/fall-cabal-vide…

If you want to understand the cult of trumpism you have to watch the videos. The brainwashing and mind control is so powerful! If I didn’t see things clearly I would have become a trumpist!

Here is the comment I left in my response to watching all the videos.

@rowingtothedream: I watched all the videos except number 5 because it has been removed by YouTube. It was very interesting to watch!

I know the words written by Vi king are true because since I published my memoir sharing my life experiences and psychological discoveries, I have been ostracized, harassed, persecuted and the target of psychological warfare. 

If I had written a book with same old recycled pretty lies and illusions passed down to us for millions of years, like many best-selling authors out there, that all they do is hide the real state of affairs. 

I would still be loved at my job of nine and half years and most likely promoted with a big raise – and maybe my book would have become a bestseller already. By the way, Oprah is the biggest charlatan promotor out there!

Charlatans all help each other and kiss each other's asses by promoting each other’s BS to exploit the emotionally blind public. Nothing ever is what it seems.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/…/communities-are-micros-o…

In our society, if you speak the naked truth and expose the real state of affairs of what really goes on behind closed doors, those with power, they will mobilize all the forces at their command to try to silence you.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/…/big-cover-up-by-sociopat…

When it comes to politics, the left, and the right, they are both just different ends of the same stick; they both are fighting for power and money. And, they both use half disconnected truths mixed with pretty lies, pretty illusions and catchy slogans for brainwashing and mind control to mobilize the masses to join their political cults and vote them into power. 

And if they feel threatened by a person that can expose their pretty lies and dirty games, they will join forces to destroy a person, a common enemy, they fear can expose their lies, illusions, and dirty games, like I was, they were people from the left and the right working together very hard with a very well-orchestrated psychological warfare to try to silence me and discredit me and my book, so they could go on with their lies and illusions as usual.

As long most people in our society are blind by the repressed emotions of the child they once were, always, will be just two choices to vote for, pure evil and the lesser evil. 

The fight we are witnessing in the stage of the world is not between good and evil, it’s between pure evil and the lesser evil, and they both are just driven by the repressed fears of the child they once were to gain as much power and money to escape from having to re-experience the powerless and the fears of the child they once were!

 Most people rather kill and be killed than face and feel their own childhood repression. We live in a world of puppets and puppeteers.
 https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/…/the-media-creates-false-…

The biggest threat to humanity -- is people's repressed emotions of the child they once were blinding them. If people were not emotionally blind, they would be able to see the lies, illusions, and all the traps society constantly putting in front of them. And yes, an emotionally blind humanity with the aid of technology will destroy itself much faster. As we are witnessing…

Don't Hold your Breath

M: I have to escape from Europe. It is the home of eugenicists who leaked to the other new continents conquered by them, USA and UK at its leadership. They continue to pose a serious danger to existence.

Sylvie: Humanity is corrupted to the core everywhere! You can't escape corruption! I will hold on to my little corner here for as long as I can! And enjoy my life NOW that my mind is free. Once a mind is truly free it can never be captured again. Humanity at larger has passed the point of no return and this madness will only stop when humanity is wiped off from the face of the earth.

M: Agree. Too many blind and corrupt. Some awakening is happening and I hope it reaches a critical mass before they wipe life off the planet.

Sylvie: Don't hold your breath -- there are very few people waking up -- some people are good at deceiving, pretending and appearing to be waking up, but it's not true. 

These words Alice Miller wrote to me, come truer every day! "I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats.

They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually, they use unconsciously other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves they can become very mean.
I can only urge you to trust your feelings and to NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most, of the cases, it is a lie. 

To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM, and to no longer use others to getting free from the accumulated rage.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/02/correspondence-with-alice-miller.html

Open Letter to the Media

Since writing the letter to the media below, a new wrinkle in my story unfolded last March 11, that by odd coincidence was my birthday, it came to my attention that my old boss, a branch manager for the security company that employed me, robbed a bank in Chandler and killed himself in a standoff with the local police. Here is proof I was dealing with sociopaths of the worse type! They treated me like a criminal, but look who are the criminals! And isn’t interesting that the media never revealed the bank robber’s name! I’m sure they are protecting the security company he worked for, it would not look good for a security company that one of his top managers was robbing banks on the side! Read more here

My name is Sylvie Imelda Shene and I think I have a story for you.

For nine and a half years, I worked as a gate attendant manager for a wealthy community in Scottsdale. I was a hard worker and an easygoing supervisor, and I always had a smile on my face. In fact, I got along so well with some of the residents that they often invited me to parties and hired me to watch their homes and pets whenever they went away, sometimes for six months at a time. I always handled myself with integrity and a great attitude, and it was greatly appreciated by many of the residents.

Last summer, I published a book about how to recover from childhood trauma, using my own experiences growing up poor in rural Portugal, working as a topless dancer, and discovering the groundbreaking works of psychologist Alice Miller. My book, A Dance to Freedom, is part memoir and a part self-help book and I’m proud to say that it’s touched many people around the world.

Working on this book was a labor of love for me. I’m not a wealthy person, but I managed to save and raise (through the crowdfunding site Indiegogo) the money I needed to get the book out into the world. It took me five years and four ghostwriters to get it right, but it’s all been worth it.

Many of the residents in the community where I worked supported me in this endeavor, and I’m sincerely grateful for their love and support. Others, however — including the property manager of the community and the security company that employed me — weren’t as enthusiastic about the project. They all started treating me differently after I published my book. They couldn’t stand the fact that someone who they considered inferior — a guard gate manager — could get a real book out into the world and understand the human condition so much that their own lies and illusions were exposed.

It was this combination of jealousy and fear that led a group of sociopaths to begin a campaign of emotional harassment against me. One resident returned the book she bought from me with toilet paper in it. The property manager started a campaign to get rid of me and, with the help of some board members, created a messy package receiving procedure they hoped would frustrate me into quitting. And a new employee who wanted my job called other guards at their homes to see if they had anything bad to say against me. The sociopathic behavior ramped up almost daily, and after six months they decided to fire me without cause.

It saddens me that someone can actually lose their job for exercising their right to freedom of speech. I think what my former employer and co-workers did was a disgrace, and I want as many people to know about it as possible.

If you think you can help me get my story told, I’d really appreciate it.

Thanks so much for your consideration.

Sincerely,

Sylvie Imelda Shene

Thank you, Jekaterina. Connected stories like mine need to be told, but sadly most people in the media are only interested in disconnected stories of victims without resolution they can exploit for pure sensationalism, they are like vultures. And they feel threatened by connected stories like mine, because stories like mine, makes people look in the mirror to question themselves, their own parents and people in power position standing in symbolizing their parents. AND WHO WANTS TO DO THAT? Most people are still scared little children afraid of being punished if they dare to speak the naked truth and expose the real state of affairs.

David Lynch, thank you for your comment, but the reason people in the community read my book was that they all knew I used to be a topless dancer!!! They didn’t have a problem with that!!! They thought it was cool!!! Some used to be customers and they knew me from the club! I was treated like I was a star!!! I was very well known in this town! I had a good reputation for being honest and a clean dancer. They thought they were getting a disconnected story, like many out there, but my story is connected with true liberation at the end. My book is a mirror and they didn’t like their own reflections!!! They rather destroy me than face their own painful truths. They were uncomfortable with my knowledge and my understanding of the human mind that I could see through their masks and facades. Just like Donald Warner Parker wrote in his review of my book: “What more can you give a person and this world, for that matter, than sharing your own hard-earned wisdom, experience, and truth through telling your own story and holding up a mirror for others to capture their own reflection in it, while at the same time providing the vital information of Alice Miller’s body of work to free themselves from their denial and repression and the illusions that keep it intact. It is so true what you wrote in your Chapter False Hope on page 126, “Ultimately I realized that self-help books and 12-step programs offer a false hope at best. I’m convinced that people who put their faith in these types of things — or in psychologists, psychiatrists, or any other cult leader for that matter — are avoiding the real causes of their problems and are just masking their symptoms instead. The seductiveness of the quick fixes offered by traditional treatments and therapies is very powerful and even if they don’t work they offer at least temporary relief from the fear and pain of our abused younger selves.” You make it crystal clear in your book how Ed Sweet played such an important role in the development of it and how grateful you are to him. Once again my Best Wishes to you and Congratulations to you as well on the accomplishment of your passionate mission to get to people the vital and lifesaving information, guidance, and companionship they need to free themselves of lies and illusions.”

You are right they rather replace me with someone that is emotionally blind and mindless shill/crony they can feel superior to and they can fool.

David Lynch: Sylvie, you got set up to fail. This is a common tactic employed by power-hungry narcissists for getting rid of employees that they no longer want around by creating a “no-win situation” where everything you do right is ignored and minimized and everything you supposedly do wrong is magnified, exaggerated and maximized. You were unlucky enough to get targeted by a lying sociopath who saw an opportunity to get rid of you once he learned from your book that you had a history of working as a stripper. Armed with that knowledge it would then have been very easy for him to rally up an army of mindless supporters by telling lies that you were also involved in prostitution/porn etc. He character-assassinates you by painting you as a deadly threat to the morality and good name of their supposedly perfect little community and all his sheeple follow along like the mindless hypocrites that they are cos they want to please Big Daddy. He gets rid of you because you are independent and he has no control over you and replaces you with a mindless shill/crony who will be loyal to him and thereby increase his power-base. The moral is always be very careful about who you share your story with because there are vicious narcs everywhere just waiting for any opportunity they can get to do harm to other people. I don’t see your story getting any media attention though because it is so depressingly common. However, if you felt strongly enough about it then you could use (or misuse) social media to anonymously let the world know about what this man is really like.

Read David Lynch’s original comment here.

Also, read more comments here and here

Also, you might find interesting the letters I wrote to Bill Maher in the link below:

Free Speech in America is an Illusion

You also might like reading Open Letter to Jimmy Kimmel

And  Open Letter to Felicia Cabrita 

Coronavirus, Irrational Fears and Social Distancing

“It is not true that evil, destructiveness,

and perversion inevitably form part of

human existence, no matter how often this

is maintained. But it is true that we are

daily producing more evil and, with it, an

ocean of suffering for millions that is

absolutely avoidable. When one day the

ignorance arising from childhood

repression is eliminated and humanity

has awakened, an end can be put to the

production of evil.”

— Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, p. 143

Because of my dyslexia writing is one of the hardest things for me to do in life and because of - I kind of -- I have given up on humanity -- I don’t see the point of forcing myself to write anymore!

But I have to write about the present crises of the coronavirus.

So many voices out there that all they do is make noise -- but not one single voice out there –mentions the fact that all crises like the coronavirus are caused by people’s repressed emotions.  

As long childhood repression is a taboo in our society -- people will be driven by the dead hand of their own repression into the state of repetition compulsion -- to unconsciously and compulsively -- to create crises and pandemics like the coronavirus.
The coronavirus is trying to wake up society -- our collective body -- from our deep collective repression, but I don’t think nothing will wake humanity up and crises and pandemics will keep escalating until the end of humanity -- because most people would rather kill and be killed -- than face and resolved their own painful repression. Humans are the most dangerous and emotionally blind or dumbest species on the Planet

I learned this after I published my book and I became the target of a mob of sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years.

As I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions: 

“When you idealize your past, or ignore the painful truth by overachieving, hiding behind religious obedience or lashing out at scapegoats, you’re fighting a losing battle.

 What kind of life are you living? When you get addicted to the toxic cocktail created by pain, fear, shame, guilt, and repression — no matter how it manifests in your daily life — you’re living a futile existence indeed.

A life without freedom is ultimately a useless life because when you hide from the truth the body eventually rebels.

“Even if [the body] can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, nicotine or medicine, it usually has the last word, because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind, particularly if the mind has been trained to function as an alienated self,” Alice Miller writes.

“We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality.”55

These days, most of us are on a vain quest to improve ourselves. Self-help books and gurus are wildly popular.

We believe we can be saved by simple things such as affirmations and positive thinking, but to some degree, we end up like Lynne Rosen and John Littig, a husband-and-wife team of motivational talk-show hosts and life coaches who were found dead in their Brooklyn apartment after killing themselves with helium in June of 2013. Their own immersion in the positivity culture couldn’t save them.

Alice Miller started to understand why this is so, and we’re learning more all the time.

According to a Businessweek article that reported on the suicide of the positive pair I just mentioned, “A 2012 Canadian study, published in the Journal of Psychological Science, found a negative correlation between positive self-statements and mood in people with low self-esteem.

As lead researcher Joanne Wood of the University of Waterloo explained, those who try to pump themselves up with such phrases as ‘I accept myself completely’ end up feeling worse, in part, because affirmations conflict with their own view of themselves.

… As Dr. Wood and others have discovered in studying the psychology of self-esteem, what unhappy people need most is a chance to acknowledge their feelings of negativity.

”56 Alice Miller writes, “With all due respect for everything that has been said and written about the power of love, we should never forget that goodwill and devout wishing alone will not be enough to free a person to love if that person is in a state of unremitting internal war.

This desperate conflict would not be taking place if that person’s true self had not been suppressed in childhood.”57

Instead, too many of us think that simply praising ourselves or visualizing ourselves in perfect circumstances is all we need to do to change.

Even those who realize that real change is more difficult still take the easy way out and focus their energy on getting rid of symptoms, instead of searching out the root cause.

“There are plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous ‘treatments,’ ‘miracles,’ threats, cults, pedagogical indoctrination, and even blackmail,” Alice Miller says.

“They can all work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce the fear of resolving it.

 … A lot of money and fame comes from this business of repression because it satisfies the longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child.

 … In the long term, we have to pay a high price for this repression.”58

The typical methods people use to search for answers — which are really, ways to run away from the truth — are futile because our real, repressed story continues to attempt to make itself heard no matter what we do. Alice Miller believed that our true plight, the root cause of all our repeated problems, will keep trying to gain our attention in more extreme ways until we finally take notice.”

This virus is forcing people to social distancing to protect themselves from being infected and in order to resolve childhood repression – we also must practice social distance – to protect ourselves from other people’s psychological viruses – psychological viruses can be as contagious, if not more contagious and dangerous then chemical viruses.

 If people while quarantining themselves read my book together with Alice Miller’s books, it could help them understand their emotions and consciously feel them within the context of their own childhood and trigger real healing!  

Society, our collective body, could come out of this pandemic as a changing society and save humanity from self-destructing, but I don’t hold my breath. And every one that dies will die in vain.

Everyone living in bubbles and with illusions --- the Coronavirus came to burst everyone's bubbles and illusions -- nature is demanding respect -- and for us to stop messing with it. But once this threat is over - humanity will go back to business as usual until a new threat arrives and this will go on until the end of humanity -- but nature will have the last word.

Hearing Dr. Phil on TV saying that people that are hoarding toilet paper and taking more than what they need are having irrational fears. Yes, but what are the causes of irrational fears?!

Irrational fears are caused by the unresolved repressed fears that now are being triggered by the present threat -- the Coronavirus.

It’s sad in our world repressed emotions are a complete taboo and no one wants to talk about it.

If people were able to understand these fears and consciously feel them within the context of their own childhood -- then they would be able to deal with the present fears caused by present threat rationally -- and take the precautions to take care of themselves -- and would not have irrational fears driving them to buy more then what they need -- they would not become hoarders of anything, EVER!

The fears caused by the present threat together with the triggered unresolved repressed fears that’s what causes irrational fears or panic attacks!

And that’s why people buy things like toilet paper compulsively to help them manage their overwhelming fears.

" Doctors have an unconscious fear of uncovering their own childhood hurts which keeps them from being as useful to their patients as they could be." Alice Miller 
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10151452109828922&id=723458921

As I wrote in my book: “Most people who search for answers never actually find them, because people suffering with their own repression are the ones who practice traditional therapies. 

Since the beginning of human history, priests, teachers, gurus, psychics, doctors, philosophers, and psychologists have all duped people into thinking they could provide real assistance, when it was never possible because the healers were also victims of their own childhoods.

Alice Miller saw the promise of psychotherapy to help people understand why they behave like helpless victims as adults and also to help them take responsibility for their actions. But she was disillusioned when she realized that practitioners couldn’t treat patients effectively as long as they failed to deal with their own repression.”

I have been practicing social distance most of my life, so it's really easy for me!

I practiced social distance all of my life because I’m mostly concerned about people’s unresolved childhood repression or we could say psychological viruses than any other viruses.

Childhood repression or psychological viruses are the roots of all societies’ maladies.

The great malady of our society, implicated in all our troubles and affecting us individually and socially, is the denial of childhood suffering.

When childhood suffering is denied, it does not go away.

It appears symptomatically in obsessions, addictions, violence, greed, deceit, and loss of meaning. Our temptation is to isolate these symptoms or try to eradicate them one by one, but the root problem is the denial of childhood suffering. 

The author in the article in the link below thinks the coronavirus should be a wake-up call for humanity, but I think nothing will ever wake humanity up from its deep repression. I have given up on humanity.

"The coronavirus did not manifest from nowhere. Our sadistic treatment and manipulation of animals for centuries have come back to haunt us. It is time for humanity to absorb the lessons of the animal world."

https://thehill.com/changing-america/opinion/488295-coronavirus-should-be-a-wake-up-call-to-our-treatment-of-the-animal

As you can see in the articles in the links below the coronavirus did more to temporally change human behavior and help the environment than Greta ever did with her preaching --- preaching never works.

https://www.greenmatters.com/p/venice-canals-coronavirus?gm

As Italy quarantines over coronavirus, swans appear in Venice canals, dolphins swim up playfully

“Nature just hit the reset button” in the suddenly clear waters of Venice canals and off the coast of a locked-down Italy.

https://thehill.com/changing-america/sustainability/environment/488286-italys-coronavirus-lockdown-shows-what-nature?fbclid=IwAR2Dm9u_WsLfpaAmhQ4PoMMbafabH3KCnJ_NFQK93oBUAdhoMMvTtX9DXlE

But it's only a temporary change - once the coronavirus is no longer a threat people will go back to business as usual.

Bill Maher posted on Facebook the words below, but he's another charlatan, like many out there, that say disconnect truths but is not one bit interested in connecting the dots and in true healing. "What if this virus - and others to come - is somehow connected to how much we've ratfucked the environment? 

When we upset one thing in nature, it tends to have repercussions down the line. One long fire season here in Cali then became the new normal. Is anything worth living like this? If - a hypothetical - they found that what went into making smartphones was part of the problem, would you give up your phone to be able to go to a bar? If you have to think about that, you've already lost your humanity. You're already a droid."

And I answered him @BillMaher The human mind is very sick and with the aid of technology we are going to destroy ourselves much faster. 

Did you ever receive my book A Dance to Freedom that I sent to you in 2015? My book can help heal the human mind. The coronavirus forcing people to stay home and while practicing social distance, if they read my book together with Alice Miller's books -- it could trigger true healing and save humanity from self-destructing. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/03/free-speech-in-america-is-illusion.html

Using Childhood Traumas as an Excuse to Abuse and Manipulate Others

The exchange of words below explaining some people's bad behaviors and why they can be dangerous -- by using -- unresolved childhood traumas -- as an excuse -- for one's own bad behavior -- and to manipulate others.

Most people are unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats to take revenge for the wrongs were done to them when they were defenseless little children and infants by their own parents or childhood caretakers.

This is why NOW I'm so careful with people that have unresolved strong repressed emotions.

Many people out there are dangerously repressed with time bombs in their brains that can go off at any moment.

"A nonabusive person doesn't use his past as an excuse to mistreat anybody. Feeling sorry for the abuser can be a trap, making you feel guilty for standing up to his abusiveness.

I have sometimes said to a client: 'If you are so much in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood then you should know what abuse feels like. You should be able to remember how miserable it was to be put down to nothing, to be put in fear, to be told that the abuse is your own fault. You should be LESS likely to abuse anybody, not more so, from having been through it.'

Once I make this point, the abuser generally stops mentioning his terrible childhood; he only wants to draw attention to it if it's an excuse to stay the same, not if it's a reason to change."

The words below Alice Miller wrote in her book For Your Own Good” page 199 and 200 come to mind:

“Statistical studies are hardly the thing to make disinterested jurists into empathic and perceptive human beings. And yet every crime, by virtue of being an enactment of childhood drama, cries out for understanding. 

The newspapers carry these stories every day, but unfortunately, they usually, report only the last act.

Can knowledge of the underlying causes of a crime being about a change in the way justice is administered? 

Not as long as the primary concerns are to assign guilt and impose punishment. 

But someday it may be possible to gain an understanding of the fact that emerges so clearly in the case Jurgen Bartsch: the accused never bears all the guilt by himself but is a victim of a tragic chain of circumstances. 

Even so, a prison sentence is unavoidable if society is to be protected. 

But there is a difference between prison being used to punish a dangerous criminal according to the principles of “poisonous pedagogy” and human tragedy being perceived, therapy during confinement.” 

And like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusion   page 172, 173 and 174 

"The people who try to use and manipulate me usually realize their mistake pretty quickly, and either apologize or head for the hills.

My liberation has definitely given me added protection against sociopaths!

Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were.

Once you’re free, your whole outlook on life is going to change. This quote, from a patient of Alice Miller’s, expresses what happens perfectly: “The world has not changed. There is so much evil and meanness all around me, and I see it even more clearly than before.

However, for the first time, I find life really worth living. Perhaps this is because, for the first time, I have the feeling that I am really living my own life.

And that is an exciting adventure. On the other hand, I can understand my suicidal ideas better now, especially those I had in my youth -- when it seemed pointless to carry on — because in a way I had always been living a life that wasn’t mine, that I didn’t want, and that I was ready to throw away.”80

I’ve removed all the barriers of false morality and am totally free to experience all my feelings, take them seriously and decide whom, if anyone, to share them with.

I’ve faced my past and can deal with my present circumstances in the context of growing awareness instead of childhood fears.

These words by Alice Miller express how I exactly feel: “If I allow myself to feel what pains or gladdens me, what annoys or enrages me, and why this is the case, if I know what I need and what I do not want at all costs, I will know myself well enough to love my life and find it interesting, regardless of age or social status. … I will know that I have lived my own, true life.”81

It really is a powerful feeling, and you’re likely to find yourself possessing a power that will be threatening to a lot of people. Society is on the side of the status quo, so be prepared.

As Alice Miller writes in Free from Lies, going against the parents “is a source of major alarm for others … They will sometimes mobilize all the forces at their command to discredit the former victim and thus keep their own repression intact.”82

But thanks to Alice Miller, I’m content to be who I am regardless of what other people think.

This passage, from Breaking Down the Wall of Silence, sums it up so well: “To live with one’s own truth is to be at home with oneself. That is the opposite of isolation. We only need confirmation when we are alienated from ourselves and in flight from the truth.

All the friends and devoted admirers in the world cannot make up for the loss.”83

When I die I will not be sad because I have truly lived and will die in freedom, no longer scared and no longer a captive of the emotional prison into which I was born.

What fulfills me now is my mission to bring this valuable information to other people, so they too can have a chance to liberate themselves. I also enjoy sharing my life with others who have the courage to open their eyes and who are able to really see and feel.

I want to make it clear that I’m not telling my story to get sympathy from the world. I’m purely doing it to introduce Alice Miller’s books to others, and to show how her books helped me break free.

I decided to go public with my story so others wouldn’t feel alone like I once did and to hopefully inspire people to gather the courage and strength to achieve their own freedom.

I constantly witness many people going public with their sad, tragic stories in an effort to manipulate people into feeling sorry for them and feeding their adult compulsions and perversions.

They don’t want the truth. They only wish to avoid their own pain. These people are exploiting the wounded children they once were, just like their parents or parent-substitutes exploited them when they were defenseless little children.

They keep themselves and others endlessly stuck in their childhood dramas, where they play either the role of the victim or the perpetrator.

Alice Miller has proven that we can unlock the emotional doors that hold us and start a glorious dance to freedom.

Knowing your own truth and living with it is the best gift you can give to yourself and to future generations.

The more healed, or free, you become, the less dependent you’ll be. And because people will sense that you’re not needy, the more people will be attracted to you. It’s kind of ironic, but autonomy is very attractive!

I hope you’ll take the challenge to free yourself at last. I hope you’ll end your own repetition compulsion naturally — without endlessly staying dependent on crutches like yoga, meditation, religion, 12-step programs, or other pain-numbing addictions. Starting today, right now, you

can use any trigger — a smell, a person, a situation, a touch, a place, a word or anything else that pushes your buttons — as an opportunity to be free.

You no longer have to give in to the part of yourself that wants to blame the triggers or hide behind quick fixes.

You now have all the tools you need to connect to something deep within you that needs to be confronted, no matter how tempting it is to find a scapegoat or run away.

I’m so grateful to Alice Miller for helping me free myself from my repressed childhood emotions that I’ve dedicated my life to offering emotional support to others.

I’m determined to help you get the information you need to free yourself from lies and illusions, so I’ll start you on your journey with these words from the woman who became my enlightened witness through her writings: “It is only after it is liberated that the self begins to articulate, to grow, and to develop its creativity.

Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fantasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is not a homecoming since this home has never before existed. It is the creation of a home.”84 I believe in you, and I hope you’ll share your story with me.

The wall of silence in the Media is Deafening

The wall of silence in our society is very hard to break through, especially in the media!

In the year 2003, I traveled to Portugal and tried to contact the media there. I wanted to go public with my experiences and to bring awareness about all forms of child abuse, dyslexia, and the untreated professional. I never got a response. Portugal is a very secretive country, and the media is afraid to talk about secrets, especially if it involves a famous doctor. The media in Portugal protects people in power. As Alice Miller in her book Breaking Down the Walls of Silence: The Liberating Experience of Facing Painful Truth says: “… Rather than take the risk, they prefer to forgo information that might be of life-death importance for coming generations. So in order not to have to call their own parents into question for a single moment, they cling to outdated, destructive opinions. …Clearly, the prospect of confronting one’s own personal history, in this case, is an alarming experience. And, as always, the fear of facts is stilled by a fascination with intellectual terms and abstractions aimed at concealing and masking the truth—the truth of facts that appear so threatening… At every attempt to share the new discoveries I made with the public, I ran up against the most determined resistance on the part of the media. It is true I can go on publishing these discoveries in my books, because my publishers are already aware of the growing interest in this topic. But there are other people who have important things to say, and they are dependent on the press. They and their readers rely on essential information not being torpedoed. All too often, however, the media buttress the wall of silence against which all those who have begun to confront their own childhood rebound.”

In 1998 through 2000 I tried to help by volunteering at the Perryville Women’s Prison in Goodyear, AZ, visiting inmates in prison for alcohol and drug violations. As Alice Miller said in her book The Truth Will Set You Free: Overcoming Emotional Blindness and Finding Your True Adult Self, “Every criminal was humiliated, neglected, or abused in childhood, but few of them can admit to it.”

I have also been a sponsor for a Twelve Step meeting for teens. I was forced to quit because of the other sponsor, who was very controlling and domineering. Being with this sponsor was just like being with my family of origin. I was there really trying to be helpful to the teens.

The other sponsor had a hidden agenda, which seemed to be all about wanting to make herself look good. She had also a teen daughter who went to these meetings. She was there to see what her daughter had to say and what she would share at the meetings. Interestingly enough, her daughter would only share in the meetings if her mother for some reason could not attend. One of the reasons for two sponsors was in case one sponsor couldn’t attend, the teens would still have a meeting.

One day after I shared some of my experiences about being a teen, a teen in the group identified with me and started to open up. The other sponsor interrupted him because he broke the rule that, we were supposed to go around and wait for our turn to share, I said, “it's okay, let him share,” but she insisted on following the rules. I let it go. Of course, when the turn came for him to be able to share, he passed.

After the meeting I talked to the other sponsor and let her know that by enforcing the rules by interrupting the teen when he was sharing, she blocked that teen’s expression of his feelings, only resulting in him being more repressed. I explained that rules are created to help create order when there is chaos and that is important to know when it’s okay and even important to break the rules. Otherwise, the rules created to help us will keep us, prisoners. I also told her that probably we should look for another sponsor to take her place because the Twelve Steps Program suggests that mother and daughter should not attend the same meeting. She said that a Twelve Steps meeting is just a program of suggestions.

At this, I pointed out that when it’s convenient to her, she says it’s a program of suggestions; but when she wants to be controlling, she calls it rules. In the next meeting, she came with some of her friends from the program to give her support against me. I felt alone like I used to feel in my family of origin.

In the next meeting, I let everyone know that because of personal reasons I no longer was going to be a Twelve Steps teen sponsor. I also communicated that if any teen wanted to talk to me they could call me at home. Some of them did call and told me the only reason they were going to our meeting was because of me and said they no longer were going to the meeting. I heard that soon after I left, the meeting died.

That’s the last time I went to Twelve Steps meetings. The Twelve Steps refuse to look at the real causes, putting only focus on changing people's behavior and what I have witnessed in Twelve Steps meetings is that People change one addiction for another. Just as C.G. JUNG and ALICE MILLER say:

“Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering.” – C.G. JUNG

“Problems cannot be solved with words, but only through experience, not merely corrective experience, but through a reliving of early fear (sadness, anger).” – ALICE MILLER

This article by Dr. Alice Miller “The Longest Journey” articulates very well the traps of Spirituality/Religion/Morality. My experience it has been the same as Dr. Alice Miller’s, it has been a very long journey, it has taken me also all of my life to finally free myself of all the crutches and get two healthy legs to stand on.

If we want to free ourselves we have to face, acknowledge, articulate and feel our painful truth.