We Live in an Upside-Down World
We truly live in an upside-down world—a world where lies are mistaken for truth, truth is attacked as if it were a lie, and evil is often celebrated while goodness is mocked or punished. The emotionally blind rule the stage, and society rewards narcissists, sociopaths, and liars with attention, wealth, and power. Meanwhile, those who speak the truth—backed by facts, evidence, and lived experience—are ignored, shunned, or even destroyed.
I lived through this firsthand at my job of nine and a half years. When I dared to speak the truth and stand up against manipulation and cruelty, I became the target of a psychological lynching. The full story is here:
We glorify figures like Steve Jobs, but most people remain blind to his emotional pain and how it shaped his life and death. He was a man with a brilliant intellect who never connected his cancer to the trauma of being given away as an infant, or how he reenacted that pain by rejecting his own daughter. His story was a symbolic confession on the world stage, but the world chose to admire only his wealth and success.
Steve Jobs: The Adopted Orphan Who Built a Prison of Perfection
Worse still, groups like "pro-life" have exploited Steve Jobs's story to push their agenda—an agenda that ignores the suffering of born children and glorifies forced motherhood. To bring a child into the world without love, protection, and readiness is soul murder. These so-called "pro-lifers" support policies that create more unwanted children who often grow up to reenact their trauma on others.
Alice Miller wrote:
"In disbelief, one asks oneself: Is it possible that the people behind such actions really are so clueless? Do they not know that no less than one hundred percent of all seriously abused children are unwanted? ... Shouldn’t the authorities do everything in their power, in the light of this information, to see to it that the only children who are born are wanted, planned for, and loved?"
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Today, truth-tellers are treated like criminals, while abusers are celebrated. When I left my job, the manipulator who caused immense harm was honored with a farewell party, while I was pushed out for daring to speak the truth. It reminded me of what someone once said: "If you question the status quo for one minute, the majority will turn against you."
Things haven’t changed much since Galileo's time. He was forced to recant the truth that the Earth revolves around the sun. Now, we are forbidden to recognize that the roots of violence, addiction, and cruelty lie in childhood trauma. Society still protects abusers and blames victims, repeating the cycle of violence with every new generation.
As Alice Miller wrote:
"Whether we decide for truth or for illusion will have far more serious consequences for the survival of humanity... There has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable toll on society."
When children are beaten, shamed, humiliated, or neglected—without a witness to affirm their pain—they learn to disconnect from their feelings and idealize their abusers. These repressed emotions later manifest as violence, addiction, depression, and illness. If they become parents, they may unconsciously take revenge on their own children.
But there is hope. If even one person in a child’s life validates the truth of their experience, they have a chance to heal. That is why knowledge is so dangerous to those in power—and so necessary for humanity's survival.
We live in an upside-down world. But it doesn't have to stay that way. The more we speak, write, and shine a light on these truths, the more we crack the illusion. We must dare to see clearly, feel deeply, and choose to stop the cycle.
Real strength is not found in power, wealth, or status. It is found in the courage to face our past, speak the truth, and protect the innocent.
As Alice Miller reminds us:
"People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood... will take pleasure in life and will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others."
Let us be those people. Let us raise our voices and say, loudly and clearly: enough. We will no longer live by lies. We will no longer glorify abusers. We will protect life—the real, lived life of feeling, truth, and emotional freedom.
Because only then can we begin to turn this upside-down world right-side up.
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We Live in an Upside-Down World
January 11, 2013
We inhabit a world where lies masquerade as truth, and truth is dismissed as lies. Where evil is celebrated as good, and good is condemned as evil.
Liars, narcissists, and sociopaths are rewarded with attention and power, while those who speak evidence-based truth are ignored, punished, or destroyed. Why? Because too many are too afraid—emotionally blind—to stand up for what’s right.
I lived this reality at my job of nine-and-a-half years. Truth-tellers like me faced psychological lynching while abusers were shielded. My experience mirrors a societal sickness.
The Tragedy of Steve Jobs: A Cautionary Tale
Consider Steve Jobs: His biological mother carried him for nine months, gave birth, then gave him away "like a kitten or puppy." This primal betrayal shaped his life. Unconsciously, he reenacted his trauma—rejecting his own daughter, betraying relationships, and ultimately, betraying his body. His premature death was a grim echo of his infant abandonment.
The real tragedy? He never understood this cycle. And society missed the lesson entirely. We glorify his inventions and wealth but ignore his suffering. Even worse, “pro-lifers” exploit his story to push agendas while ignoring the core truth: Unwanted children often become traumatized adults.
This cartoon says it all.
The Uncomfortable Truth About "Protecting Life"
"Is it possible those pushing forced birth are so clueless? 100% of abused children are unwanted. Mistreatment is revenge on children never desired. If we truly protected life, we’d ensure every child is wanted, planned, and loved. Forcing motherhood creates suffering that fuels society’s evil—including the wars waged by unwanted, abused children."
—Further reflection here
Weaponizing "pro-life" rhetoric ignores reality: It enables child abuse and societal harm. True compassion means protecting lived lives—not sacrificing them to dogma.
Sound Familiar? Galileo Knew.
"When Galileo proved Earth revolved around the sun, the Church called it 'false and absurd.' He was silenced, blinded by force. Today, we face a similar denial: Proof that childhood trauma drives society’s violence is ignored. Survival depends on ending this blindness."
—Alice Miller, For Your Own Good (Full text)
Like Galileo, truth-tellers are crushed to preserve comfortable illusions. Abusers retire with hero’s farewells; whistleblowers are treated as criminals. My former workplace? They threw parties for manipulators while shunning those with integrity.
Voices from Readers
Fred: "Sylvie, you’re a modern Joan of Arc. Your book made me rethink past hurts. Testosterone blinds men—but so does unhealed pain."
Monica: "It’s not just biology—it’s cultural and childhood trauma. Forgive yourself: You didn’t know then what you know now."
Me: "Thank you, Monica. Fred, your awareness honors me. And yes—like Joan, truth-speakers face modern witch hunts: not fire, but psychological lynching."
Bill: "Question the status quo? The majority turns on you. That’s how monsters like Jimmy Savile got away with it."
Me: "Exactly. Society protects famous abusers. Look at Dr. Julio Macado Vaz: 40 years of patient abuse, still unexposed."
The Way Forward
Until we confront how childhood trauma fuels societal brokenness, the cycle continues. As Alice Miller writes:
"Children whose integrity is protected become adults who need no wars. They defend—but do not attack—because respect is their first language."
We must choose: truth or illusion? Our survival depends on it.
The saddest thing about Steve Jobs is that he never understood himself and these psychological mechanisms and unconsciously and compulsively reenacted the trauma he suffered when he was just an infant and little boy until the very end of his life by betraying himself and his own body rejected him also, just like his mother did when he was a tiny little baby, causing him to die prematurely.
It’s very sad that society at large cannot connect the dots and learn from the story of this man who got on the stage of the world and told his true story unconsciously in a symbolic way. And what really is the saddest is that “pro-lifers” exploit his story to push their agenda. We really live in an upside-down society! Most people in our society are not interested in the true plight of Steve Jobs and how he suffered. They only admire his successes, his inventions, and all his money; that’s all they care about.
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"In disbelief, one asks oneself: Is it possible that the people behind such actions really are so clueless? Do they not know that no less than one hundred percent of all seriously abused children are unwanted? Do they not know what that can lead to? Do they not know that mistreatment is a parent’s way of taking revenge on the children they never wanted? Shouldn’t the authorities do everything in their power, in the light of this information, to see to it that the only children who are born are wanted, planned for, and loved? If they did, then we could put an end to the creation and continuation of evil in our world. To force the role of a mother on a woman who does not wish to be a mother is an offense not just against her, but against the whole human community, because the child she brings into the world is likely to take criminal revenge for its birth, as do the many (mis)leaders threatening our lives. All wars we ever had were the deeds of once unwanted, heinously mistreated children. It is the right to lived life that we must protect wherever and whenever it is threatened. And it should never be sacrificed to an abstract idea.
Fred: Sylvie....you are a modern day "Joan of Arc"....sigh...je t'aime. I read your book and cried ...very emotional...sigh
It made me rethink all the hurt that I caused to my early love interests...sigh
testosterone can destroy a man's perception of ...many things..where do you want to start?....sigh
Monica: It isn't testosterone alone; it is a cultural and childhood experience that formed you, but it looks like you have woken up for the good of others as well as yours. It is harder to forgive oneself, but you can start by thinking that you did not hurt 'consciously' and wouldn't do it today with the awareness you have now gained.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: That was very well said, Monica.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Fred, thank you for reading my book! I'm so glad it made you reflect on your own life. That was the whole purpose of my book! Thank you for the highest compliment ever! I have identified with Joan of Arc many times in my life!
It's sad, but people have not changed much since Joan of Arc's time; people now don't burn people alive! Now, they are more sophisticated; they resort to a psychological lynching to destroy those speaking the truth to cover up their lies and go on as usual. Just look what happened to me at my last job; they did everything in their power to murder my soul.
Bill: That's right, Sylvie - you go and question the status quo for one little minute and the majority turn against you - that is how George H W Bush, Sir Jimmy Savile, etc, etc, got away with it for so long!
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Sadly, we live in a society where most abusers are protected and narcissism is enabled and glorified, especially if they are famous and rich. And this is also why the famous, prestigious Dr. Julio Macado Vaz in Portugal has been able for 4 decades to sexually abuse his patients, and no one has exposed him yet.
Truth or Illusion?
"When Galileo Galilei in 1613 presented mathematical proof for the Copernican theory that the earth revolved around the sun and not the opposite, it was labeled "false and absurd" by the Church. Galileo was forced to recant and subsequently became blind. Not until three hundred years later did the Church finally decide to give up its illusion and remove his writings from the Index. Now we find ourselves in a situation similar to that of the Church in Galileo's time, but for us today much more hangs in the balance. Whether we decide for truth or for illusion will have far more serious consequences for the survival of humanity than was the case in the seventeenth century. For some years now, there has been proof that the devastating effects of the traumatization of children take their inevitable toll on society – a fact that we are still forbidden to recognize. This knowledge concerns every single one of us, and – if disseminated widely enough – should lead to fundamental changes in society; above all, to a halt in the blind escalation of violence. The following points are intended to amplify my meaning:
- All children are born to grow, to develop, to live, to love, and to articulate their needs and feelings for their self-protection.
- For their development, children need the respect and protection of adults who take them seriously, love them, and honestly help them to become oriented in the world.
- When these vital needs are frustrated and children are, instead, abused for the sake of adults' needs by being exploited, beaten, punished, taken advantage of, manipulated, neglected, or deceived without the intervention of any witness, then their integrity will be lastingly impaired.
- The normal reactions to such injury should be anger and pain. Since children in this hurtful kind of environment are forbidden to express their anger, however, and since it would be unbearable to experience their pain all alone, they are compelled to suppress their feelings, repress all memory of the trauma, and idealize those guilty of the abuse. Later they will have no memory of what was done to them.
- Disassociated from the original cause, their feelings of anger, helplessness, despair, longing, anxiety, and pain will find expression in destructive acts against others (criminal behavior, mass murder) or against themselves (drug addiction, alcoholism, prostitution, psychic disorders, suicide).
- If these people become parents, they will then often direct acts of revenge for their mistreatment in childhood against their own children, whom they use as scapegoats. Child abuse is still sanctioned – indeed, held in high regard – in our society as long as it is defined as child-rearing. It is a tragic fact that parents beat their children in order to escape the emotions stemming from how they were treated by their own parents.
- If mistreated children are not to become criminals or mentally ill, it is essential that at least once in their life they come in contact with a person who knows without any doubt that the environment, not the helpless, battered child, is at fault. In this regard, knowledge or ignorance on the part of society can be instrumental in either saving or destroying a life. Here lies the great opportunity for relatives, social workers, therapists, teachers, doctors, psychiatrists, officials, and nurses to support the child and to believe her or him.
- Till now, society has protected the adult and blamed the victim. It has been abetted in its blindness by theories, still in keeping with the pedagogical principles of our great-grandparents, according to which children are viewed as crafty creatures, dominated by wicked drives, who invent stories and attack their innocent parents or desire them sexually. In reality, children tend to blame themselves for their parents' cruelty and to absolve the parents, whom they invariably love, of all responsibility.
- For some years now, it has been possible to prove, through new therapeutic methods, that repressed traumatic experiences of childhood are stored up in the body and, though unconscious, exert an influence even in adulthood. In addition, electronic testing of the fetus has revealed a fact previously unknown to most adults – that a child responds to and learns both tenderness and cruelty from the very beginning.
- In the light of this new knowledge, even the most absurd behavior reveals its formerly hidden logic once the traumatic experiences of childhood need no longer remain shrouded in darkness.
- Our sensitization to the cruelty with which children are treated, until now commonly denied, and to the consequences of such treatment will as a matter of course bring to an end the perpetuation of violence from generation to generation.
- People whose integrity has not been damaged in childhood, who were protected, respected, and treated with honesty by their parents, will be – both in their youth and in adulthood – intelligent, responsive, empathetic, and highly sensitive. They will take pleasure in life and will not feel any need to kill or even hurt others or themselves. They will use their power to defend themselves, not to attack others. They will not be able to do otherwise than respect and protect those weaker than themselves, including their children, because this is what they have learned from their own experience, and because it is this knowledge (and not the experience of cruelty) that has been stored up inside them from the beginning. It will be inconceivable to such people that earlier generations had to build up a gigantic war industry in order to feel comfortable and safe in this world. Since it will not be their unconscious drive in life to ward off intimidation experienced at a very early age, they will be able to deal with attempts at intimidation in their adult life more rationally and more creatively."
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