Money Issues

Thank you for writing.

I hope you are able to let go of the people around you and just focus on developing two healthy legs to stand on. The reality of life is that we must learn to be alone. Leave M alone, she is obsessed with the illusion of money. Money alone is one of the greatest illusions of all time. Money is to serve us and not be a slave to money... right now it seems M is a slave to money... 

Good evening! Thank you very much for the message. It's so real and in fact, the money "blinds" some people to the point of going crazy. In fact, there are people we really need to get away from... They hurt us so badly, they hurt a lot.

I'm so sorry to hear about your difficulties. I'm also sorry you don't have a stable family to give you assistance.

I hope you can find professional assistance to help you...

Yes, it's very important to get away from toxic people family or not family...

It's very sad that M all the time she spent with me and all the enlightened information I shared with her, she didn't apply it to help herself and help her grow into a mature conscious adult.

And find the courage to stand on her own two feet to free herself from the emotional prison she was born in.

But instead uses the enlightened information she got from me to have an advantage in the games people play to feel superior to others and powerful --- and plays mind games with those stuck in an emotional prison with her...

It’s very sad she doesn't find the courage to free herself but instead tries to control everything and everyone around her -- holding tight -- like a drowning person -- not seeing that sooner or later in one form or another, they will all drown together and no amount of money will save them.

Money alone saves no one! We have to find the courage to let go and learn to stand alone on our own two feet...

Glad to hear that in spite of your difficulties, you find the will to live.

Hello, First of all, I am very grateful for the wise words and advice she gave me, as well as the clarifications.  I don't know how or why, but all of a sudden she distorted everything for a long time. And yes, you're right, she plays... I also helped her by giving her advice and strength but that's okay, it's no use…

I’m glad to hear M give you some useful advice. She gathered a lot of intellectual knowledge from me. It's just a shame she has not been able to apply it in her own life when she is triggered. M distorted everything because she is still blind by the unresolved repressed emotions of the child she once was and is not able to consciously feel and understand her emotions within the context of her childhood.

But instead is lost in projections and transferring her emotions into scapegoats like me, MI, and MI's daughter.  Money is M’s biggest trigger because she finds herself entitled to her mother’s money just like MI does.  She is not much different than MI that just wants money! MI, we don’t know what she does with so much money and M just wants to hoard a lot of money in the bank but both have money issues nevertheless! They all have money issues! L included! No matter how much money they have it’s never enough and they always want more like an addict is addicted to heroin, always wants more, never satisfied! 

M if she wanted to be free, she needed to let go of her mother and her money…

Let go of those around you and focus on developing two healthy legs to stand alone…

You might like reading my blogs on how to use our triggers productively!

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/10/using-our-triggers-constructively.html

These words Alice Miller wrote to me come truer every day: “Thank you for your thoughtful letter I agree with you that there is a difference between the powerless, legitimate rage of a desperate child that reacts to the cruelty of their parents and the rage of the adult who is attacking others out of denial of their history by imitating the behavior of own parents from the position of "power" (even grandiosity). The first rage (of the child) should be felt and expressed in therapy, it can be then RESOLVED. The second one (of the adult), directed toward scapegoats, can NEVER be resolved (see dictators). If therapists see it as an endpoint of their therapies and don’t enable the patients to confront the early parents and the feelings of that time they do much HARM to them. Staying trapped in the hatred toward scapegoats can't be the successful end of a therapy. I hope that you can continue your work if you have this difference in mind and can also explain it in your forum.”

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html

Addiction and greed are the same things.  Greed or addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it.  Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it.  They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others even their own children.  No wonder so many young people are so angry; for when we feel used and exploited we get angry.

What is addiction really?

“Recovery From Self-Betrayal: What is addiction really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be understood.

 The drug business would not flourish if there were not so many people who, in refusing to acknowledge their wounds, are in a permanent state of self-betrayal.

Thus, people work to get rid of symptoms instead of searching out the cause.

There are plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous "treatments," "miracles," threats, cults, pedagogical indoctrination, and even blackmail.

They can all work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce the fear of resolving it.

However, many people who become abstinent this way are driven into another addiction because the real reasons for becoming addicted must be kept hidden.

A lot of money and fame comes from this business of repression because it satisfies the longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child (I am blind as you want me to be. I am ready to forget all your cruelty, even at the cost of my life. Can you love me now?).

In the long term, we have to pay a high price for this repression. The repressed story continues to try, again and again, to be heard at long last. Thus your plight will look for other symptoms, another language, until it is taken seriously enough. An addiction is an attempt by a person in despair, who is not allowed to be in despair, to get rid of his or her memory, to forget his or her plight.

Of course, this "solution" is no longer needed if the goal is exactly the opposite, if you want to remember, if you want to feel your plight and to understand its reasons, if you slowly become aware of why you were so afraid of acknowledging the reasons.

This can happen once you decide to stop running away, to stop betraying yourself, to allow the truth to enter your consciousness.

You decide to do so because you finally understand that everything else is useless and because you no longer want to watch your life go by before having even begun to live. You decide to stop betraying yourself because you understand that only you can give yourself the love and care you never received and that you can't do that as long as you deny the truth.” Breaking Down The Wall Of Silence: The Liberating Experience Of Facing Painful Truth by Alice Miller, page 126

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/04/addiction-and-greed-is-same-thing.html

Very good text, I thank you very much for sharing. In fact, I don't think they have a cure. It's been many years. I've always believed in M well but it's not really worth it. On top of that, they're hurting others and anyone who helps is still seen as the bad guy and "the crazy ones", there is, the scapegoat

Wishing you peace and serenity and of course, most importantly good health

Yes, they don't have a cure because they lack courage and, therefore, are in constant need of scapegoats to transfer their unresolved repressed emotions to temporarily and superficially alleviate their own childhood repression...Here are a couple of good blogs about transference.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/07/someone-reenacted-his-childhood-drama.html

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html

Glad you understand this psychological mechanism... I agree our physical and mental health is the most important. Take good care of yourself

Prince Harry is Very Charming

Prince Harry is very charming just like his mother! 

What happened in prince Harry's family. It happens in most families around the world without the press, of course. 

It sure happened in my family too. And I too escaped to America from Portugal! 

I also wrote my memoir A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions that I published in 2014. I wish Stephen Colbert give me the same opportunity he is giving to Prince Harry and invite me to the show and help me reach more people that are still in an emotional prison like I once was...  

Most people in our world are stuck in the emotional prison of their childhood without realizing it,  endlessly suffering and making others suffer too.

What happens in families, it happens in the countries, what happens in the countries, it happens in the stage of the world.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/11/narcissism-is-epidemic.html?m=1

Technocratic Tyranny

 2020-2030 a decade of technocratic tyranny.

"..."Well, that didn’t take long. You’ll recall that it was mere weeks ago that I predicted that the trend of 2020 would be “The End of the Internet (as we’ve known it),” and, sadly, before 2019 was even finished a steady stream of stories flooded the newswires to prove me correct.

Morocco has sentenced a YouTuber to four years in prison for daring to insult the king.

The Singaporean government has forced Facebook to publish a “correction” on a post that they deemed to contain “fake news.”

Four townships in northern Myanmar remain under one of the longest internet blackouts in the world for daring to assert a desire for ethnic self-determination.

And Russia and China have teamed up on a new convention that will empower the UN to convene a panel of “international experts” to determine how best to combat online thought crime.

And all of that was just in the past few weeks. Imagine what we have to look forward to throughout the rest of 2020. Not pleasant, is it?

Now imagine what we’ll have to look forward to through the 2020s. Even worse, huh?

Yes, as bleak as things seem at the moment, there are any number of reasons to believe that things are going to be that much worse a decade from now. And I’m not just talking about internet censorship here, either. After all, as dedicated Corbett Reporteers will already know, the technocrats are all on board for Agenda 2030.

So buckle in, folks. Let’s take a ride through the next ten years of technocratic tyranny . . . and see if there’s a way we can derail this agenda before we arrive at its final destination."  JamesCorbett--The CorbettReport "

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Sherry Amanpour

Criminals Work Well Together

Hello Sylvie. 

I am currently dealing with a nightmare. I don’t want to bring up any past issues that may cause you any discomfort by bringing up old stuff. I ran across your post while I was trying to find out as much information about K W.  I know some things ( or at least have been told some things about him but after doing some of my own investigations I have found out so much more. He was not the man he appeared to be. I was wondering if you share with me what you know about KW if you are willing and I’d understand if you do not. Thanks hope to hear from you either way.

Hello M,

Sorry to hear you are going through a nightmare. Kyle Wilson was my boss for many years -- he obviously was a very disturbed man -- and when he joined in on the plot to destroy me, and let himself be a puppet of the sociopaths at my job for nine and a half years to do their dirty work-- it threw him over the edge! Puppets never have good ends! 

I was the target to be destroyed but when it was Kyle Wilson to lose his mind and self-destruct everyone involved became silent and is now a big cover-up. 

But If it was me, the little woman to commit a crime my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book --and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, Kyle Wilson was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/04/the-silence-from-media-is-deafening.html

I published in my blog about my experience with the mob of sociopaths at my job of nine and half years if you like to read more about it. The workplace is a very dangerous place to be in because it's full of sociopaths in power positions. 

I would have stayed under the radar of the sociopaths, malignant narcissists, assholes, or whatever you like to call these very sick people if I had not published my book sharing my life experiences and phycological discoveries.

Sociopaths usually don't target you if they don't feel threatened by you and as long they think you don't know the truth about them, but after they read my book, they knew I knew and once they know that you know -- that's when they want you gone and destroyed -- so they can go on with their fake facades, lies, schemes, and illusions as usual. 

And if they think they have a chance to destroy you without getting in trouble themselves that's when they start the psychological warfare against you, they wanted me dead, in jail, or in a mental hospital. What Kyle Wilson did that's what they were hoping I would do, but when Kelly Wilson was the one to lose his mind and self-destruct everyone involve became silent, and is now a big cover-up that involves the media, the FBI, and the US Marshals.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

I guess they didn't believe what I wrote in my book that I had liberated myself from the emotional prison of my childhood and they were confident that they could destroy me, but once a person's mind is truly free cannot ever be messed with again and can never be captured again!  Underestimating me has always been people's biggest mistake! What I have now can't be stolen and can't be bought with money! That's why they became very envious of me and it's another reason they wanted me destroyed! So I would be soulless like them! It's so true misery loves company! 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/stalking-soul.html

After this experience, I will never look at another human being in the same way and pretty much consider myself divorced from humanity. I keep bridges with everyone I meet and with some people very long bridges and some bridges I will never cross!

Humanity everywhere is corrupted to the core.

Feel free to share with me the nightmare you are going through and what you know about Kyle Wilson if you like.

Hang in there,

Sylvie

Thanks for responding, much appreciated. 

So to start I’m not very good with electronics and technology, grammar punctuation ECT….so please bear with me. I know you don’t know me but I ran across your post about 3 1/2 years ago. My soon-to-be ex-wife was Kyles's wife at the time he committed suicide. Kyle was a lying, deceitful man. My wife believes he was/is the best person ever. She said he treated her so well and she learned what real love really felt like by the way he treated and acted toward her. 

It blows me away that she can’t see that it was all an illusion. He lied to her and stole from her l have had an inclination that he was unfaithful to her and he even denied her as his wife. After his suicide she went to his office to get his belongings they asked who she was and they said they never knew he was even married.  If that’s not a red flag 🚩 I don’t know what is. 

She idolizes him and has throughout our marriage. She posts every important date they ever had. The day they met on their first date the day they got married the day he died his birthday it’s just overwhelming. 

It has put a wedge in our marriage. Which is a larger part of our demise. I let her know it was hurtful and she said it would never change her friends and family have mentioned it to her and that it was disrespectful and hurtful yet never changed. I just don’t understand her mentality where all the evidence points out that he wasn’t a great guy. He was a horrible man!

Her own children believe she was part of the bank robberies. Her daughter said she was crying early in the morning before they even knew what happened. She saw her mom crying, saying Kyle should’ve been home by now! Apparently, she was under investigation by the FBI but it was dropped. I did find out that he was a Sergeant in Washington state but lost his job after 19 years for having pornography on his computer.  

I realize nothing about what I’m doing or researching will change anything. Just thought I’d try to find out what Kyle was all about. If you can add any more light or experiences I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts. 

Thanks 

M

Hi M,

Don’t worry about your English and grammar. I’m dyslexic and I have a lot of difficulties with languages. I just focus on trying to understand the message.  

I’m glad her children see that she most luckily was part of the bank robberies. Sociopaths usually married each other and protect each other.  

It’s very interesting but I just went through a similar experience again at my last job of almost 8 years. It’s so crazy!  My last boss worked with Kyle Wilson at Securitas and he too used to be in law enforcement! He is just like Kyle -- a lying and deceitful man. Actually, I think my last boss is even worse than Kyle Wilson and much more arrogant! He knew what had happened with Kyle Wilson, but he thought was a much more talented sociopath and assure of himself that he would be the one to get me to self-destruct! Some sociopaths love a challenge! These people are predators and I was his ultimate prey! His grand prize! 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/02/sociopaths-love-challenge.html

Once these sociopaths learn you are an authentic person they will start a campaign to try to get rid of you so they can replace you with a crony like them. I have learned criminals work well together! 

Take good care and thank you for writing,

Sylvie

The HR Ladies at My Last Job Should Have Read These Articles

 Very true most people don't leave their jobs, they leave bad bosses and management because of their emotional blindness --  they lost a good employee -- I loved my job! Management that sucked! Quitting was the best thing I did for myself in a very long time! I'm so much better off and not just financially!

 Remove these 10 toxic phrases from your vocabulary, say career experts: They’re ‘cold and belittling’

"You Don't Owe Them Loyalty": This Gen X CEO Shared Her 3 Big Career Lessons, And As A Millennial, I Approve

3. People Leave Bad Bosses, so Don't Be One [well, they can't help but be who they are. It's people that need to open their eyes to see them for who they really are and not put them in a power position over others]

Denise's third lesson is one that managers everywhere can use. She says, "People don't leave jobs. They leave bosses — specifically, they leave two types of bosses. First type of boss is a toxic boss, a bad boss, somebody who harasses you, micromanages you, maybe ignores you, and gives you the silent treatment.

"The second type of boss, though, that people leave more often than not is a boss that fails to see you. That's a boss who doesn't give you credit, doesn't think about your growth, doesn't think about your development, and doesn't come through with the raise or promotion that they promise over and over again. Those bosses get left all the time. Don't be one of those types of bosses." 

 7. ”[X person] didn’t mean what they said.”

This essentially translates to: “I hear your complaint, but I am protecting the other person and discrediting you.” Rather than providing support or validating vulnerability, you are gaslighting with the “good guy” defense.  [This is exactly what the ladies in HR did. They gaslight me with the "good guy" defense. But the truth will come to the surface sooner or later in one form or another. But in the meantime, they will lose a lot of business and gain a bad reputation.]

https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/04/remove-these-toxic-phrases-from-your-vocabulary-say-career-experts-what-to-say-instead.html

[my last boss was one of the most toxic bosses I ever had! Yes, he ignored me, gave me the silent treatment, and never gave me credit for my hard good work. He was even worse than my boss the bank robber! The first time I saw him I knew right away that he was bad news and I should have left right there and then but I stuck around for 4 years working with a target on my back! He knew I knew who he really is and he felt threatened by me so he wanted me out!]

How to Outsmart a Narcissist

For whatever reason, and bless their little pointed heads, narcissists use bullshit to bulldoze everyone out of their way. Bullshit in the technical sense: Claiming to speak the truth without caring what’s true. Narcissists don’t care what they say. Their words are territorial braying noises that they hope will back you off. But they hope you’ll care. If you’ve got a conscience, they can manipulate it with their words without ever thinking about what their words mean.

We all get narcissistic. What, then, makes someone a narcissist? Decent people know that their narcissistic impulses are a problem they have to manage. Narcissists treat narcissism as the solution to all of their problems. And it works if we let them get away with it. Their mindless bullshitdozing can get so reliable that they seek conflict just so they can relive their triumph, their fake eternal winning streak.

No matter how you react, narcissists have a way of interpreting it as a win for them and a loss for you. If you walk away, you’re a quitter. If you get upset, you’re hypersensitive. If you curse them, you’re impolite. If you reason with them, you’re a sucker. If you get angry, you’re overreacting. Your every predictable response triggers a track off their mindless victory, broken-record soundtrack.

Once you’ve made a careful guess that you’re dealing with a narcissist, stop listening to their words as if they mean them. Concentrate only on relentlessly exposing their mindless mind game. Relentlessly. They’ll try to change the subject. Don’t let them lead you by the nose to the topics where they can win. You have one mission, exposing their bullshitdozing." Read more in the link below

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/jerkology/202212/how-to-outsmart-a-narcissist

[yes, my last boss is full of bullshitdozing! I do my best to expose their bullshidozing!]

Brilliant Albert Einstein Quotes!

 https://youtube.com/shorts/cZKbVQ7zvTI?feature=share

1. "There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”

2. "If you want your children to be intelligent, read them fairy tales. If you want them to be more intelligent, read them more fairy tales.”

3. "Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”

4. "Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value.”

5. "The most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. It is the fundamental emotion that stands at the cradle of true art and true science.”

6. "Gravitation is not responsible for people falling in love.”

7. "Never memorize something that you can look up.”

8. "Creativity is intelligence having fun.”

9. "Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.”

10. "Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.”

11. "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”

12. "It would be possible to describe everything scientifically, but it would make no sense; it would be without meaning, as if you described a Beethoven symphony as a variation of wave pressure.”

13. "A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy?”

14. "Blind belief in authority is the greatest enemy of truth.”

15. "Logic will get you from A to Z; imagination will get you everywhere.”

16. "The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it.”

17. "We all know that light travels faster than sound. That's why certain people appear bright until you hear them speak.”

18. "If we knew what it was we were doing, it would not be called research, would it?”

19. "I must be willing to give up what I am in order to become what I will be.”

20. "Everything must be made as simple as possible. But not simpler.”

21. "I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious.”

22. "The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existence. One cannot help but be in awe when he contemplates the mysteries of eternity, of life, of the marvelous structure of reality. It is enough if one tries merely to comprehend a little of this mystery each day."

23. "Love is a better master than duty.”

24. "The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”

25. "Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a very persistent one.”

26. "What is right is not always popular and what is popular is not always right.”

27. "It is not that I'm so smart. But I stay with the questions much longer.”

28. "The pursuit of truth and beauty is a sphere of activity in which we are permitted to remain children all our lives.”

29. "Once you can accept the universe as matter expanding into nothing that is something, wearing stripes with plaid comes easy.”

30. "You never fail until you stop trying.”

31. "I am enough of an artist to draw freely upon my imagination. Imagination is more important than knowledge. Knowledge is limited. Imagination encircles the world.”

32. "A clever person solves a problem. A wise person avoids it.”

33. "If I were not a physicist, I would probably be a musician. I often think in music. I live my daydreams in music. I see my life in terms of music.”

34. "Genius is 1% talent and 99% percent hard work...”

35. "A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”

36. "Black holes are where God divided by zero.”

37. "In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

38. "If A is a success in life, then A equals x plus y plus z. Work is x; y is play; and z is keeping your mouth shut.”

39. "Time is an illusion.”

40. "Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions.”

41. "If you can't explain it to a six year old, you don't understand it yourself.”

42. "The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.”

43. "When you trip over love, it is easy to get up. But when you fall in love, it is impossible to stand again.”

44. "Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.”

45. "Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.”

46. "The best way to cheer yourself is to cheer somebody else up.”

47. "Any fool can know. The point is to understand.”

48. "Science without religion is lame, religion without science is blind.”

49. "When you are courting a nice girl an hour seems like a second. When you sit on a red-hot cinder a second seems like an hour. That's relativity.”

50. "I speak to everyone in the same way, whether he is the garbage man or the president of the university.”

My Face when someone tries to manipulate me

 

My face when another person tries to manipulate me, but I have already been through many sociopaths, malignant narcissists, assholes, or whatever you like to call these malignant people. I have faced and resolved my childhood repression and, therefore, my emotions cannot ever again be manipulated. 

This is not my first rodeo.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/03/this-aint-my-first-rodeo.html?m=1

There will come a time when you cross that bridge and realize that they are a liar, a fraud, and a rather pathetic individual who failed to mature emotionally. And when you get to that place, blow the hell out of that bridge so it can never be crossed again.

For the narcissistic abuser the words, compromise, resolution, apology, or remorse do not exist. Their sole purpose is to win. They see you trying to discuss the relationship as a competition, which they have to win. Their trophy is your life and soul. Their grand prize is control.

Pay attention when people react with anger and hostility to your boundaries. You have found the edge where their respect for you ends.

People have to pretend you're a bad person so they don't feel guilty about the things they did to you. God forbid they be accountable for their bullshit.

A narcissist will tell you exactly how they are mistreating you by accusing you of their actions.

"Narcissistic Abuse Cycle

The narcissistic abuse cycle refers to an abusive pattern of behavior that characterizes the relationships of people with narcissistic traits. It involves first idealizing a person, then devaluing them, repeating the cycle, and eventually discarding them when they are of no further use."

https://www.verywellmind.com/narcissistic-abuse-cycle-stages-impact-and-coping-6363187#:~:text=The%20narcissistic%20abuse%20cycle%20refers,are%20of%20no%20further%20use.

Unless you have felt the extreme, intense, and excruciating pain of mental and physical abuse, please do not sit in judgment over me. Don't tell me to simply move on and get over it when I am being attacked by a sadistic and malicious individual after escaping the abuse. Please understand that even after you leave; they attack and use every means possible to destroy you. From the outside looking in you will never understand, but from the inside looking out, I owe you no explanation, I will continue to speak out against abusers and manipulators of the truth. Ultimately that is what sets me free.

THE SMALLER YOUR CIRCLE IS, THE FEWER SNAKES AND RATS YOU HAVE TO WORRY

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No Empathy -- A narcissist will demonstrate a significant lack of empathy. A lack of empathy is one of the most defining characteristics of a narcissist. He/She cannot put themselves in another person's shoes or understand the other person's feelings. The narcissist did not develop this ability as they were growing up. Do not expect that he/she will develop empathy as an adult.

Narcissistic abuse can kill you! I am not talking about domestic violence and the risks involved with physical abuse. I am talking about the torture to your mind and soul.

It can kill you. It can drive you to a point of feeling as if ending your life is the only solution

Narcissists have secret lives. They lie effortlessly. They are two-faced - appearing with a perfect public image that most people believe. In the shadows, when no one is looking, they do tremendous damage to family, friends, and those who work with them. 

"The thing victims need to understand is that narcissists don't think like normal people, they have different agendas. A narcissist's goals are things like controlling you, getting their narcissistic supply, or anything that feeds their dysfunctional appetite. So while you are trying to have a conversation with them about, let's say, the problems in your relationship, they are doing things like stonewalling (ignoring you, or looking at you with that blank stare, and saying nothing at all.) or diverting your attention, and manipulating the conversation a different way. You have to understand, They don't want to talk about the relationship. They don't want to take responsibility for their part in anything, and they definitely don't want to work things out. They want to continue to do what they want, without repercussions. You have to clearly understand, they don't want the same things you do. That is why they play games, manipulate, lie, and do everything else they do, it's a way to divert responsibility, keep control, and make you feel unimportant and unworthy. That is why none of it ever made sense to you, they have a completely different agenda. One you don't know about or ever agreed to." -Maria Consiglio

Let's get something straight! If you hurt people and lie to cover up your abuse, If talking about your actions is strictly forbidden, If you lie pathologically about those you blame for what you do onto others, If you share information meant to educate others about what you do, pretending that you're a victim, You're actually a Hypocrite, a troll, AND A COWARDLY MALIGNANT NARCISSIST!

Malignant narcissists know exactly what to say to keep you hooked and to keep you exactly where they want you to be. They have mastered the art of manipulation to perfection. They instinctively know exactly what to say, write, and do to get the action or reaction, to fit their agenda. With malignant narcissists, it is always about them and what they want, and they will lie, cheat, and steal to manipulate an individual to achieve their desired outcome. All this effort is to feed their ego and desire to feel powerful and in control.

At its very best, a relationship with a narcissist is an unfortunate tragedy that will change your mind body, and soul. At best, a narcissist is an atrocity capable of crimes against humanity. We're lucky to have made it out alive. The existence of such an evil being is unfathomable until you meet one. Then it's fuckin' scary...And now you know. You'll forever be picking your jaw up off the floor...

The narcissist doesn't want your love, they don't know what love is. They want your admiration and your obedience as a player in their fake make-believe world.

Formal education is how “Talking heads” or” parrots” are formed! “This is how many “experts” and "authorities" are formed! Idiot with diploma and degree and proud of it!”
"I think the worst thing for a school is primarily working with fear-based methods, the obligation by force and artificial authority. Such procedures destroy the good feelings, sincerity, and confidence of students. Produce submissive subjects." Albert Einstein 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/05/education-alone-is-just-another-illusion.html

It’s so sad when people are lost in projections and attack their own projections on other people.

Treating symptoms is a very profitable business – so let’s make it clear – if you are focusing on a symptom of society’s problems -- instead of the root cause --childhood repression – then you are nothing but an opportunist and a charlatan.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/04/alice-miller-most-significant-thinker.html

Gurus and Cults Leaders How They Function

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/08/gurus-and-cults-leaders-how-they.html

I wish everyone on this planet could experience life without the repressed emotions of the child they once were

And then we wonder why the world is messed up?! Because those in charge that are supposed to care for and protect the voiceless and defenseless are the abusers themselves.

Careful in confusing judgment with discernment, all who smile are not friendly. Mindfully breathing and looking them in their eyes without words, let's one know who is who. There's no hiding from the mind's eye. See?" ~ Al Bailey

Yes, I was targeted by pure evil after I published my book in the workplace not once but twice. Most people cannot imagine it. Too difficult for many to believe. These evil people are masters at tricking, illusion, and disguise on every level. Masters molding the perception of others. Since I published my book has been a constant dance with Lucifer in the workplace. Lucky that I got out alive and with my integrity intact.

If you only follow the money, you will never have enough, no matter how much money you have. Follow your heart and you will always have enough money to live. Of course, people without a heart will always just follow the money and they are doomed.

When a narcissist cry is always because all they can think about is how they've been wronged, how they've been hurt. The tears they shed are always for themselves.

The narcissist feels self-pity, they don't feel empathy.  Empathy requires us to consider someone else's feelings. Narcissists only consider their feelings. Only they deserve the best and only care about themselves and no one else. Their selfishness is disgusting.

I will never be silent and I will speak up against abusers and manipulators of the truth until the day I die. And that's what keeps me free!!!

Yes, Alice Miller tells it like it is, based on facts and evidence, but very few people want to hear it and everyone just wants to change the world without looking at the root causes -- without dealing with the root causes everything we do will just be a superficial and temporary fix --- and this is why humanity remain endless stuck going from one extreme to the other.

“We don't yet know, above all, what the world might be like if children were to grow up without being subjected to humiliation -- if parents would respect them and take them seriously as people.” ~ Alice Miller

"Writing is utter solitude, the descent into the cold abyss of oneself." - Franz Kafka