Thank you for writing.
I hope you
are able to let go of the people around you and just focus on developing two
healthy legs to stand on. The reality of life is that we must learn to be
alone. Leave XB alone, she is obsessed with the illusion of money. Money alone
is one of the greatest illusions of all time. Money is to serve us and not be a
slave to money... right now it seems XB is a slave to money...
Good evening!
Thank you very much for the message. It's so real and in fact, the money
"blinds" some people to the point of going crazy. In fact, there are
people we really need to get away from... They hurt us so badly, they hurt a
lot.
I'm so sorry
to hear about your difficulties. I'm also sorry you don't have a stable family
to give you assistance.
I hope you
can find professional assistance to help you...
Yes, it's
very important to get away from toxic people family or not family...
It's very
sad that XB all the time she spent with me and all the enlightened information I
shared with her, she didn't apply it to help herself and help her grow into a mature conscious adult.
And find the
courage to stand on her own two feet to free herself from the emotional prison
she was born in.
But instead
uses the enlightened information she got from me to have an advantage in the
games people play to feel superior to others and powerful --- and plays mind games with those stuck in an emotional prison
with her...
It’s very
sad she doesn't find the courage to free herself but instead tries to control
everything and everyone around her -- holding tight -- like a drowning person
-- not seeing that sooner or later in one form or another, they will all drown
together and no amount of money will save them.
Money alone
saves no one! We have to find the courage to let go and learn to stand alone on
our own two feet...
Glad to hear
that in spite of your difficulties, you find the will to live.
Hello, First
of all, I am very grateful for the wise words and advice she gave me, as well
as the clarifications. I don't know how
or why, but all of a sudden she distorted everything for a long time. And yes,
you're right, she plays... I also helped her by giving her advice and
strength but that's okay, it's no use…
I’m glad to
hear XB give you some useful advice. She gathered a lot of intellectual
knowledge from me. It's just a shame she has not been able to apply it in her own
life when she is triggered. XB distorted everything because she is still blind
by the unresolved repressed emotions of the child she once was and is not able
to consciously feel and understand her emotions within the context of her
childhood.
But instead is lost in projections and transferring her
emotions into scapegoats like me, XF, and XF's daughter. Money is XB’s biggest trigger because she
finds herself entitled to her mother’s money just like XF does. She is not much different than XF that just
wants money! XF, we don’t know what she does with so much money and XB just
wants to hoard a lot of money in the bank but both have money issues
nevertheless! They all have money
issues! XC included! No matter how much money they have it’s never enough and they
always want more like an addict is addicted to heroin, always wants more, never satisfied!
XB if she
wanted to be free, she needed to let go of her mother and her money…
Let go of
those around you and focus on developing two healthy legs to stand alone…
You might
like reading my blogs on how to use our triggers productively!
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/10/using-our-triggers-constructively.html
These words
Alice Miller wrote to me come truer every day: “Thank you for your thoughtful
letter I agree with you that there is a difference between the powerless,
legitimate rage of a desperate child that reacts to the cruelty of their
parents and the rage of the adult who is attacking others out of denial of
their history by imitating the behavior of own parents from the position of
"power" (even grandiosity). The first rage (of the child) should be
felt and expressed in therapy, it can be then RESOLVED. The second one (of the
adult), directed toward scapegoats, can NEVER be resolved (see dictators). If
therapists see it as an endpoint of their therapies and don’t enable the
patients to confront the early parents and the feelings of that time they do
much HARM to them. Staying trapped in the hatred toward scapegoats can't be the
successful end of a therapy. I hope that you can continue your work if you have
this difference in mind and can also explain it in your forum.”
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/scapegoating.html
Addiction
and greed are the same things. Greed or
addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get
enough of it. Addicts live in constant
fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect
it. They will lie, cheat, steal, go to
war without thinking twice, and exploit others even their own children. No wonder so many young people are so angry;
for when we feel used and exploited we get angry.
What is
addiction really?
“Recovery
From Self-Betrayal: What is addiction really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom
of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be
understood.
The drug business would not flourish if there were not so many people who, in refusing to acknowledge their wounds, are in a permanent state of self-betrayal.
Thus, people
work to get rid of symptoms instead of searching out the cause.
There are
plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous
"treatments," "miracles," threats, cults, pedagogical
indoctrination, and even blackmail.
They can all
work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce
the fear of resolving it.
However,
many people who become abstinent this way are driven into another addiction
because the real reasons for becoming addicted must be kept hidden.
A lot of
money and fame comes from this business of repression because it satisfies the
longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child (I am blind
as you want me to be. I am ready to forget all your cruelty, even at the cost
of my life. Can you love me now?).
In the long
term, we have to pay a high price for this repression. The repressed story
continues to try, again and again, to be heard at long last. Thus your plight
will look for other symptoms, another language, until it is taken seriously
enough. An addiction is an attempt by a person in despair, who is not allowed
to be in despair, to get rid of his or her memory, to forget his or her plight.
Of course,
this "solution" is no longer needed if the goal is exactly the
opposite, if you want to remember, if you want to feel your plight and to
understand its reasons, if you slowly become aware of why you were so afraid of
acknowledging the reasons.
This can
happen once you decide to stop running away, to stop betraying yourself, to
allow the truth to enter your consciousness.
You decide
to do so because you finally understand that everything else is useless and
because you no longer want to watch your life go by before having even begun to
live. You decide to stop betraying yourself because you understand that only
you can give yourself the love and care you never received and that you can't
do that as long as you deny the truth.” Breaking Down The Wall Of Silence: The
Liberating Experience Of Facing Painful Truth by Alice Miller, page 126
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/04/addiction-and-greed-is-same-thing.html
Very good text, I thank you very much for sharing. In fact, I don't think they have
a cure. It's been many years. I've always believed in M well but it's not
really worth it. On top of that, they're hurting others and anyone who helps is
still seen as the bad guy and "the crazy ones", there is, the
scapegoat
Wishing you
peace and serenity and of course, most importantly good health
Yes, they
don't have a cure because they lack courage and, therefore, are in constant
need of scapegoats to transfer their unresolved repressed emotions to
temporarily and superficially alleviate their own childhood repression...Here
are a couple of good blogs about transference.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/07/someone-reenacted-his-childhood-drama.html
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2021/11/lost-in-projections-and-transferences.html
Glad you
understand this psychological mechanism... I agree our physical and mental
health is the most important. Take good care of yourself
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