The intended Profile
“It's a dark, cool, quiet place. A basement in your soul. And that place can sometimes be dangerous to the human mind. I can open the door and enter that darkness, but I have to be very careful. I can find my story there. Then I bring that thing to the surface, into the real world. ” ― Haruki Murakami
Going into the dark chamber of our soul alone or with the wrong witness, it can be sometimes very dangerous, because sometimes we can kill ourselves, others, or both, like James Holmes did, and as many other mass shooters. We need a true enlightened witness like Alice Miller to help us navigate through the dark chambers of our soul, so we can face and feel the true story and bring it to the surface safely without putting ourselves and others in danger with unconscious, disastrous enactments.
James Holmes, like many other mass shooters, was under psychiatric care, but it was apparent that the doctors were not able to see clearly how much trouble these young men were in. Now, sadly, he lost the opportunity forever to break free from his childhood drama. Now the prison guards are playing the substitute parent figures, and he is in the role of the child for eternity, and the people he killed also will never have a chance to find true freedom. So many lives wasted.
Cheryl: Thanks for sharing so much, Sylvie. I've been wanting to add my own experience, but I've been conflicted about how much I want to share here. Your words, these and the ones above, bring greater clarity and understanding, particularly the "prisoner in the cell" metaphor.
Cheryl: Thanks for sharing so much, Sylvie. I've been wanting to add my own experience, but I've been conflicted about how much I want to share here. Your words, these and the ones above, bring greater clarity and understanding, particularly the "prisoner in the cell" metaphor.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: You're welcome, Cheryl. I am glad my posts bring you clarity and understanding.:-)
Sharon: Yes. Thank you, Sylvie.
Sharon: Yes. Thank you, Sylvie.
Sylvie: You are very welcome, Sharon.
Derek: "Excellent analysis."
Phd: "I would say what scared me is that I'm going to ultimately find out at the end of my life that I'm really not lovable, that I'm not worthy of being loved. That there's something fundamentally wrong with me." Demi Moore
Sylvie: Really, Phd, she wrote those words, that’s sad. She needs to figure out that she is the one who needs to give herself the love she never got from her own parents when she was a little girl, and now, only she can make up for this loss. Ashton Kutcher or anyone in the outside world can never make up for it.
Sylvie: Really, Phd, she wrote those words, that’s sad. She needs to figure out that she is the one who needs to give herself the love she never got from her own parents when she was a little girl, and now, only she can make up for this loss. Ashton Kutcher or anyone in the outside world can never make up for it.
Gayle: Quote is right on.
Sylvie: I know Gayle. I would not have written it if I were not sure it was true, as I have experienced it myself. Knowledge is experience; everything else is just information, and we know that most information out there is lies and misleading information.
Sharon: So true!
Sylvie: I know, Sharon.
Sharon: Too bad people don't get that. I was just listening to a woman the other day, blaming her soon-to-be ex for why she is suffering from PTSD and how he ruined her life and their daughter's life. I was thinking what a great opportunity it is for her to heal some old wounds.
Sylvie: I know, Sharon, it’s very sad that so few people get it. I, too, witness people constantly missing great opportunities at true liberation. Feeling the feelings of the child they once were in the right context is too tricky for most people, because they would have to stop idealizing their parents and question them. And unconsciously and compulsively, they keep looking for scapegoats to blame.
Sharon: I have to admit. I can still fall into the blame game. The good news is that it happens far less, and when I do, I pull myself out more quickly.
Sylvie: I know, Sharon, it’s very sad that so few people get it. I, too, witness people constantly missing great opportunities at true liberation. Feeling the feelings of the child they once were in the right context is too tricky for most people, because they would have to stop idealizing their parents and question them. And unconsciously and compulsively, they keep looking for scapegoats to blame.
Sharon: I have to admit. I can still fall into the blame game. The good news is that it happens far less, and when I do, I pull myself out more quickly.