Passing
laws to protect children is the first step, but if they are not steps taken to
enforce them, they are only window dressing to help a country look good on
paper. I have wonder if society created a program that every time a child is
born, would get a visit once a week from an agency looking after the wellbeing
of the next generation and help every young mother face her own childhood
traumas and consciously help her feel her repressed emotions to prevent the
young mother from repeating or reenacting her traumas with her children and unconsciously
transferring her repressed emotions into her innocent children; if we did this,
we would change the world. These words by Alice Miller come to mind: “…today we
know too much about the lingering effects of violence against children to
silently tolerate this lack of information. We should know that the whole
society will pay the price for our blindness. A government of a civilized
country can no longer ignore this knowledge. You can't claim the right to play
with nuclear weapons on your territories, only because they belong to you. The
society's interests go before your pleasure and your habits. The government
must defend these interests. To call it thus "totalitarian" makes so
little sense as to insult the fire brigade in a burning house. Look around:
When children are small some parents reclaim the sacrosanct "right to
them" like to a property. But as soon as they become violent or drug
addicted and then emotionally inaccessible these parents are eager to grant their
rights to society. The children are no longer "our" children,
protected in the sacrosanct family, they become "social cases" and
the anonymous taxis-payers will have to pay for the prisons and hospitals these
once so eagerly disciplined teenagers will need. The new law must make people
aware of a very serious danger we so often oversee because we have learnt so
early to oversee it. In Norway and Sweden where this law has been adopted most
people already know that beating children teaches them short term obedience but
in the long run only violence and anxiety. Children become so as they are
treated. The theory that we are born with good or bad genes may be a modern
version of the old belief that the devil put his child in our cradle and that
we must make it sociable and noble with our vice or birch. We are born with
different talents, inclinations and temperaments but our urge to punish others
has not a genetical imprint. It is the result of being punished very early and
looking for scapegoats to the repressed rage. If it were not so we would need
an answer to the question why so many children were born with bad genes 30 - 40
years before Hitler's Reich to make his plans possible. This question shows the
limits of a genetical explanation of the Evil. Nobody is born evil, we produce
destructive people by the way we are treating them in childhood.
Addition
of 2004: In the whole discussion concerning the scandalous behaviour
US-Soldiers displayed in Iraq nobody ever used the word sexual abuse though it
was more than clear that the torturers used the same way of humiliating the
victims as they themselves once had experienced as helpless children on the
mercy of their perverse”
This blog was inspired by Steve Thomas Facebook post in the link below:
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10204996875991158&set=a.1189422065262.2029352.1519659475&type=1
https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10204996875991158&set=a.1189422065262.2029352.1519659475&type=1
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