This ain’t my first rodeo

 

Gets easier the second time around! 

The characters changed a little bit but the play is exactly the same.
Now, for the most part, all I have to do is copy and paste to express myself. I don't have to write much new stuff. 

"ABUSE BY PROXY

is when the narcissist gets other people to abuse you. That way the narcissist gets to abuse you but indirectly through the flying monkeys who might reject you or make you feel not good enough.

Maybe they'll shame you or put you in a bad situation, maybe they'll extract information from you or maybe they'll even tell you that you're crazy. Abuse by proxy allows the narcissist to look clean, appearing to not be involved, when really they've orchestrated it all."

Yes, I have seen this play being played before. I know who the director is that orchestrated it all. And I have to be on the lookout for all the flying monkeys he sends my way. 
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/cowards-always-get-others-to-do-dirty.html

All malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths love to play the victim card and make appear their real victims as the abusers, but when their targets are able to see clearly the games they play and articulate the real situation of what really is taking place; the targets of the malignant narcissists cease of becoming a victim. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/stalking-soul.html?m=1

 

Totally! Since my emotional liberation, I have less and less tolerance for liars, passive-aggressive nonsense, and the dramas toxic narcissists create.  

"The Discard Phase 

The Discard phase is the worst. This is when they no longer need you, and have other people and situations in place to fill their needs. Man, the monster comes out. They treat you like you are nothing? and worthless. They can't even be bothered with explaining things to you. They treat you like you are a bother. And when you tell them you sense something is wrong, they will literally tell you, you are crazy, while, at the same time, they are walking out the door. There is something so broken inside these people. I can't stress enough how dangerous and disordered they are. They take everything from you, milking you till you got nothing left, and then they throw you away like garbage, and they can't even be bothered to explain or talk to you. You are not even worth that... They are disgusting human beings. No one should ever be treated that way. It's inhumane. And trust me they think they are great people, and have done nothing wrong. That's how sick this pathology is... Just remember it is not you. Don't take on their crap, they are sick individuals..."  -Maria Consiglio

"Please understand this,

Narcissists are severely emotionally stunted, underdeveloped adults. Regardless of however high mentally functioning they appear to be, they have the emotional intelligence of an angry, irrational young child."

I know, narcissists are stuck in childhood and diaper stage acting as if personalities pretending to be all grown up and good people but are wolves in sheep's clothing. 

The words below by Alice Miller explain beautifully why so many "intelligent" and "talented" people fall for politicians like Donald Trump and PUTIN the capacity to resist a totalitarian state has nothing to do with intelligence, but with the degree of access to our true self.

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda.

Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. 

Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self.

Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation.

Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. 

Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence page 42 and 43