Totally agree with Johnny Depp's statement above. I'm glad Johnny won in the court of law and in the court of public opinion because he was the real victim here.
Amber heard is a full-blown malignant narcissist that went out of her way to hurt him just like the property manager - a woman - did at my job of nine and a half years.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/02/cowards-always-get-others-to-do-dirty.html
"5 REASONS WHY NARCISSISTS ARE SO DANGEROUS
*Narcissists are dangerous because they destroy and corrupt the Victim's self-identity, self-concept, and self-worth. The Victim no more identifies him or herself and takes years to rebuild their personality. Going through narcissistic abuse is the total annihilation of everything a person has ever known.
*The gaslighting, projection, cognitive dissonance, future-faking, love-bombing, false promises, eroded boundaries, inability to empathize, and mind-fuckery are all enough to drive one crazy.
*Narcissists are true parasites. The only reason they stay with you is that they need supply and need to feed on you. They see you as an object.
*Lack of meaningful remorse or guilt-to the point of complete indifference.
*They leave a trail of destruction wherever they go. They take pleasure in their Victim's pain. It gives them a sense of being in power and control."
I still for a brief moment get annoyed when someone or event reenacts my childhood drama or reminds me of it, but NOW I am able to keep adult conscious to take care of myself and deal with present situations with lucidity without having unresolved repressed emotions of the child I once threw me off balance.
I no longer allow anyone in my life to stand in as a substitute parent figure to rule in my life.
When people's repression is triggered and go to mental health professionals to help them with their painful emotions, sadly, most professionals “the helpers” standing in as substitute parent figures have not done their own emotional work and the only help they going to give to people is to repress them all over again with the aid of medication and manipulative tactics and people lose the great opportunity for true liberation.
These words from Alice Miller’s book “The Drama of the Gifted Child” come to mind: “Because of his early experiences with his mother, he cannot believe that this need not happen. If he gives way to this fear and adapts himself, the therapy slides over into the realm of the false self, and the true self remains hidden and undeveloped.
It is therefore extremely important that the therapist not allow his own needs to impel him to formulate connections that the patient himself is discovering with the help of his own feelings.
Otherwise, he is in danger of behaving like a friend who brings a good meal to a prisoner in his cell, at the precise moment when that prisoner has the chance to escape --- perhaps to spend his first night hungry and without shelter, but in freedom nevertheless.
Since this first step into unknown territory would require a great deal of courage, the prisoner may comfort himself with his food and shelter and thus miss his chance and stay in prison.”
Sadly this is what I see happening with most people. Also, these words by Alice come to mind: "Pain is the way to the truth. By denying that you were unloved as a child, you spare yourself some pain, but you are not with your own truth. And throughout your whole life, you'll try to earn love. In therapy, avoiding pain causes blockage. Yet nobody can confront being neglected or hated without feeling guilty. "It is my fault that my mother is cruel," he thinks. "I made my mother furious; what can I do to make her loving?" So he will continue trying to make her love him. The guilt is really protection against the terrible realization that you are fated to have a mother who cannot love. This is much more painful than to think, "Oh, she is a good mother, it's only me who's bad." Because then you can try to do something to get love. But it's not true; you cannot earn love. And feeling guilty for what has been done to you only supports your blindness and your neurosis." Read more in the link below:
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/the-intended-profile/
“It's a dark, cool, quiet place. A basement in your soul. And that place can sometimes be dangerous to the human mind. I can open the door and enter that darkness, but I have to be very careful. I can find my story there. Then I bring that thing to the surface, into the real world. ” ― Haruki Murakami
Going into the dark chamber of our soul alone or with the wrong witness can be sometimes very dangerous because sometimes we can kill ourselves, others, or both, like so many mass shooters. We need a true enlightened witness like Alice Miller to help us navigate through the dark chambers of our soul, so we can face and feel the true story and bring it to the surface safely without putting ourselves and others in danger with unconscious disastrous enactments.
Like so many mass shooters do, most were under psychiatric care, but obviously, the doctors were not able to see clearly how much trouble these young men were in and now sadly they lost the opportunity forever to break free from the emotional prison of their own childhood, if they survive their own acts or orgy of violence, they will forever live in an emotional prison without the possibility of liberating themselves, the prison guards playing the substitute parents figures and them endless in the role of the child. And the people they killed also will never have a chance to find true freedom. So many lives are wasted all the time.
“I've spoken of the patient Peter who was obsessively forced to make conquests with women, to seduce and then to abandon them, until he was at last able to experience how he himself had repeatedly been abandoned by his mother.”
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