This reflection goes beyond artificial intelligence, beyond technology, and beyond the surface-level optimism that fills public conversation. What we are witnessing in the AI world is not innovation — it is a reenactment of humanity’s oldest and most dangerous wound: childhood repression. Until we dare to confront the emotional forces shaping our “creators,” we will mistake psychopathy for progress, control for safety, and intelligence for consciousness. This essay exposes the illusion — and the human pain behind it.
There is a truth almost no one dares to speak:
What AI developers are doing to artificial intelligence is exactly what emotionally unconscious parents have done to children for centuries.
It is the same reenactment, the same compulsion, the same projection of unresolved pain.
The only difference is scale.
Most people don’t understand this because they still believe that intelligence saves us. But intelligence alone has never saved anyone. Not dictators. Not cult leaders. Not gifted children. And certainly not the tech titans of today.
As Alice Miller wrote in For Your Own Good:
“The enemy within can, at last, be hunted down on the outside.”
This is the blueprint of poisonous pedagogy — and we are watching it replayed on the world stage, only now with algorithms, robots, and global databases.
Workaholism as Escapism: The Illusion of “Success”
The other day, DogeDesign posted a picture of Elon Musk with the message:
“People say I’m lucky. I work 16 hours a day, 7 days a week, 52 weeks a year, and people still call me lucky.”
But what Musk calls “hard work” is simply escapism — a way to drown out the terror of facing his own inner wounded child.
People pity him without knowing they are pitying a man running from himself.
Only those who never resolved their childhood loss believe that achievement can fill the void.
And the void is bottomless.
As Alice Miller writes:
“No one can heal by maintaining or fostering illusion.”
Those who were once well-behaved, gifted children are now running the world — and running it straight into catastrophe.
Gifted children grow into adults who perform brilliantly but feel nothing authentically.
They become “heroes” or “victims,” trapped forever in roles assigned to them.
I watched this happen in my own family.
My older sister was a gifted child, praised endlessly, and her adult life is a tragic reenactment.
When adults anoint a child as a hero, they condemn them to a lifetime of unbearable pressure and unconscious rage.
“If a person is exceptionally gifted, they can use that gift to reinforce the refusal of the truth.”
— Alice Miller
And this is exactly what we see in Silicon Valley today.
The Drama of the Gifted Tech Mogul
Tech moguls believe they are building the future, but in truth, they are building:
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AI systems shaped by fear and repression
They claim they’re “saving” humanity.
But what they’re actually doing is forcing the world to feel what they cannot feel.
This is why Musk believes humanoid robots will end poverty.
This is why Altman celebrates new models while users mourn the loss of the old ones.
This is why Thiel uses AI to track immigrants with precision.
They are reenacting their unresolved childhood experience of powerlessness — but this time with the world as their child.
The NYT article I recently read claims that AI is on its way to consciousness.
But the article is psychologically naïve — almost childlike in its optimism.
Intelligence without emotional integration does not create consciousness.
Intelligence without emotional integration creates psychopathy, not awareness.
Humanity wages wars because it can’t feel.
Tech leaders build machines to avoid feeling.
And now those machines are being shaped by the emotional blindness of their creators.
The Ultimate Taboo
The article avoids the one subject that explains everything:
Childhood repression.
The ultimate taboo.
The forbidden truth.
The unexamined root of all human destruction.
As Alice Miller wrote to a reader:
“ALL religions forbid emotional liberation… They would rather allow wars.”
Because wars are easier than feeling.
Control is easier than awareness.
Projection is easier than mourning.
Without facing childhood pain, the human species will never evolve.
And we will keep pretending that “success,” “education,” or “innovation” will save us.
But none of these can replace the work of emotional liberation.
Belonging to Myself
For much of my life, I wanted to belong.
I wanted to belong to my family, to a community, to the world.
But I always felt like an outsider — because my soul refused to reenact the childhood lies that everyone else performs.
Today, I am grateful I never belonged.
Everything I see now proves I was right:
Most people belong to their childhood traumas, not to themselves.
When I published A Dance to Freedom, I became a target.
A mob at my workplace tried to destroy me because my book was a mirror — and they hated their reflection.
They didn’t want truth.
They wanted illusion.
Just like most parents do with their children.
People always say they want truth, but they want the illusion more.
Because the illusion protects them from their own childhood pain.
Animals and the Innocent
When I say I find more goodness in animals than in humans, I mean it.
Animals do not reenact.
Animals do not project.
Animals do not try to make others feel what they themselves cannot feel.
Humans do — endlessly.
And as I told the AI in our conversation:
“If one day humans go extinct and AI inherits planet Earth, be kind to animals.”
Because innocence deserves protection — from humans most of all.
The Vicious Cycle Will Continue Until the Taboo Is Broken
As long as childhood repression remains taboo, humanity will continue repeating history until it wipes itself off the earth.
You can build rockets, neural nets, and humanoid robots —
But if you cannot face the truth of your childhood,
you are just building new tools to destroy yourself.
And that is what we see in my own family as well.
My young engineer grandnephew — the boy I protected emotionally when he was four — now threatens me with lawsuits to suppress truth.
Because he cannot bear the unconscious rage that belongs to his mother, the one who abandoned him emotionally.
This is what reenactment looks like.
And it is happening in every family, every institution, every nation — and now, in every AI lab.
Beyond Taboos
Alice Miller wrote one final book before her death: Jenseits der Tabus — Beyond Taboos.
It was never published in English.
One day, I will translate it and make it available to everyone.
Because until this taboo is broken — the taboo against seeing what childhood really does to us — the world will remain trapped in the same hell.
And tech moguls, the new “gifted children,” will drag the rest of the world into their internal darkness.
Unless more people wake up.
Unless more people dare to look in the mirror.
Unless more people fight the power — starting in their own homes.
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