I Wonder if Society will ever Wake up

Hi M,

I just sent the e-mail below to X and thought I would share it with you! I have a feeling it will trigger his repressed anger and might not want to talk to me anymore -- transferring into me -- his repressed anger -- instead of consciously feeling it within the context of his own childhood -- making me his scapegoat.  

We cannot ever resolve repressed anger by transferring it into scapegoats. The only way to resolve repressed anger is to consciously feel it within the context of our own childhood. 

This is where the whole world is stuck unconsciously and compulsively looking for scapegoats for transference effect to temporarily and superficially feel better. 

This is why Donald Trump succeeded in becoming president because he provided his followers with the scapegoats they desperately needed like (Mexicas/Emigrants/other minority groups) AND this is how all the dictators get into power -- Hilter gave the Germans the Jews to use as scapegoats... will society ever wake up to these psychological mechanisms and stop repeating  this insanity over and over again??? 

I hope you are having a  good weekend,

Sylvie

Hi X,

I hope you are having a good day and feeling better and you and XX enjoying the weekend.

On my blog today the blog post below is in the top ten of the most read blogs, so I reread it and I thought of you!

I know you resist seeing and feeling things within the context of your own childhood and you think that would not make any difference to do so, but it might improve the quality of life while you still on this Planet if you were able to get real. 

The Avoidance of Truth In Medicine and the Media

Instead of handling feelings by having an opportunity to talk about them, we are given medication to quieten their effects. Therapies have been around for a long time which allow patients to experience the early repressed feelings driving their symptoms, yet we never hear about them from the media. It is as though these findings are unimportant. 

Dr. Miller believes that one reason is because of the blame which the publicity would place on parents. Because of this taboo, many seeking help are not receiving it.

Even if empathetic physicians had the time to listen to their patients, most lack the understanding of the "language of emotions." Doctors have an unconscious fear of uncovering their own childhood hurts which keeps them from being as useful to their patients as they could be.

She believes that in order to heal what is needed is an inner confrontation of the early repressed abuse and the uncovering of the defenses encasing those memories. Miller believes that if physicians were at least interested in hearing about their patient's personal histories that this could help. Even recognition of one's own limitations and some knowledge of psychosomatic medicine can be of some benefit. The widespread knowledge of the reality of the childhood of most people should be incorporated in medical training. Currently, to the patient's detriment, this information is more or less completely ignored.

http://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/08/the-avoidance-of-truth-in-medicine-and.html

But we can't help another if he doesn't question anything about himself and he is forced to feel good.

The body has the last word.

The body never lies, It sticks to the facts.

“Inability to face up to the suffering undergone in childhood can be observed both in the form of religious obedience and in cynicism, irony, and other forms of self-alienation frequently masquerading as philosophy or literature.  But ultimately the body will rebel. Even if it can be temporarily pacified with the help of drugs, nicotine, or medicine, it usually has the last word, because it is quicker to see through self-deception than the mind, particularly if the mind has been trained to function as an alienated self. We may ignore or deride the messages of the body, but its rebellion demands to be heeded because its language is the authentic expression of our true selves and of the strength of our vitality.” From the book the “The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects ofHurtful parenting” by Alice Miller 

We Live in a World of Puppets and Puppeteers

Hi Sylvie

,

Was on my way to bed, and when closing the laptop, I saw your mail.

I thought of you once in while last days, hoping, that you are not suffering from more trouble with "bad" people targeting you...

thank you for explaining to me ...

I am confused, yes, very much... and i "wanted" it... somehow it feels, as I unconsciously but focused brought me to where I am.. 

Yes, like in this song, I still want to meet a heart, which can understand me and my trouble... but I know, this can't be... I must be born inside myself...

it is something about my relation to god... which is, of course, a very weird thing to write and think, because I have learned to think, that god isn't a useful vice versa for a child, for a human mind...to unreal... only replacement for not experienced true human love???

I am tired right now. 

Sylvie, thank you for not judging me and take good care...

HH

Dear HH,

How could I judge you or anyone else for that matter?!

I know how hard it is to face, understand and consciously feel the repressed emotions within the context of our own childhood.

I was fortunate by circumstances -- to have a job free to come and go as I pleased -- at the time my repression was triggered to the surface -- so I could take time off to do research work -- to figured it all out -- and thanks to finding Alice Miller’s books and website -- to help me understand what was happing to me and why?! And finally consciously feel all my feelings within the context of my childhood -- without hurting myself others or both.

If I didn’t have this luxury -- I only had two other alternatives -- to kill myself and exit this world prematurely like many do -- or repress all my authentic feelings all over again and fake it like most people do in order to be able to work and survive.  Is no way I could have let myself feel all the overwhelming intense feelings of the child I once was and keep a job at the same time.

Repression helps us survive as children, but as adults will keep us prisoners of our childhood and vulnerable to be manipulated and exploited by sociopaths, psychopaths or malignant narcissists.

Many people don’t have this luxury like I had to be able to take time off work and be free to live through the repressed emotions of the child they once were. Some have this luxury to take time off from work to be in solitude and consciously experience the repressed emotions of the child they once were, but are too afraid to be alone with their repressed feelings and misuse their money to distract themselves and feed all kinds of perversions and addictions and are misled by charlatans that are very happy to exploit their repressed emotions to grab on and use as reins to gain control and power over them. We live in a world of puppets and puppeteers.  

I just wish sociopaths, psychopaths and malignant narcissists stopped targeting me and left me alone --  gave up on trying to bring me back into an emotional prison -- but I understand that nothing triggers their jealousy and hatred more than a seeing a truly happy and free person and are driven blindly by jealousy and hatred.   And to protect myself I have to keep long bridges from people and not cross it too often in order to enjoy my freedom and peace for the rest of my life.

You too take good care,

Sylvie

What Really Makes Narcissists Tick, “The characteristic subjective experience of narcissistic individuals is a sense of inner emptiness and meaninglessness that requires recurrent infusions of external confirmation of their importance and value. . . . When the environment fails to provide such evidence, narcissistic individuals feel depressed, ashamed, and envious of those who succeed in attaining the supplies that they lack.”

People Rather Kill Themselves, others or both than Face the Fears of Being Alone and Feel the pain to Become Real

Dear HH,

Thank you for sharing and translating the beautiful song Erkläre mir die Liebe by Philipp Poisel into English.

Explain "love" to me

Like two dogs under the sky, heading towards the night.
So lost and so different.  Do you know, what you really want???
When will you catch me from this darkness?
Tell me, where you are!

Please explain life to me,
I don't know, how it works.

Like two foxes in the polar sea, constantly heading for the night.
I haven't slept for a long time
Do you know, what you actually need?

When will you catch me, in this hot snow of july?
Two times summer, and back

Please, explain life to me
cause I don't know how it works.

Tell me about love.
I have never seen it.

When will you catch me.
In the hot snow of July?
Two times Sommer and back.

Tell me about your Life.
i have never seen you like this.

Tell me about love.
I have lost before i ever had it.

It describes beautifully most people’s and once my condition. Lost and searching for love all in the wrong places.

Love is within. And the only way to experience true love -- we must resolve our own childhood repression -- and after that love that’s all, there is – understanding equals to love -- but the path to resolving our childhood repression is not an easy path, and most people don’t have the space, courage, and strength to take. So far I only know me and Alice Miller to really have taken this path.

It took me more than 40 years all alone and thanks to the the books and the website of Alice Miller as my enlightened witness to arrive at this place and here I’m all alone because I don’t know anyone else that is truly on this path and have arrived at this place of true love, peace, and freedom.

Alice Miller was the only one I know that arrived at this place and took her also more than 40 years because, she, like me, was alone most of her journey and had to battle many sociopaths/psychopaths, even her own son. I’m pretty sure he is a full blown sociopath with a sharp intellect knowing exactly what to say to fool everyone, make them feel sorry for him and manipulate people to join him in his emotional prison -- because if he was real -- I have no doubt we would have communicated with each other by now -- he has no courage to consciously feel the repressed emotions of the child he once was -- and liberate himself -- he is too afraid to be alone in his emotional prison -- just like this proclaimed psychologist from the Netherlands -- Liliane Rombout or Olane Roos – whatever she calls herself now.

I still can’t believe it that this woman contacted me acting all understanding and saying all the rights things to gain my trust, but the moment I let her in and let her read my manuscript, she wasted no time looking for something in it that she could grab on to turn on me and play mind games with me -- to try to regress me into the emotional prison of my childhood -- to try to discredit me and my book.

She never saw me in my book or heard me, she just saw her own projections and what she wanted to see to use as tools for manipulation. And then when she was not able to regress me at the time, she sits 4 years with her critique full with her own projections and changes her name before publishing her critique. She never predicted that I would figure out that Liliane Rombout and Olane Roos is one and the same.

I see clearly the games people play and I’m free from all people’s projections and I no longer allow anyone standing in symbolizing my childhood abusers to manipulate me to bring me back to the emotional prison of my childhood. Free at last!!!

Isn’t this a calculated move of a malignant narcissist or sociopath?!

Malignant narcissists and sociopaths in the mental health profession are the worst because they have mastered the art of manipulating people's repressed emotions to do exactly what they want -- they are the most deceiving and cause a lot of harm.

I guess she didn’t believe what I wrote in my book that I had consciously experienced and understood the repressed emotions of the child I once was within the context of my own childhood and no longer can they be used by sociopaths, psychopaths or malignant narcissists to grab on to use as reins to manipulate me and gain control over me to bring me back to an emotional prison.

I will still try to write to everyone that writes to me but from now on I will be very careful and not trust anyone that contacts me saying all the right things, because most likely -- they are not real -- it’s a lie. Just like Alice Miller wrote me in an e-mail: “I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats.

They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually they use unconsciously other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves they can become very mean.

I can only urge you to trust your feelings and do NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use others to getting free from the accumulated rage.”

 Obviously Liliane Rombout or Olane Roos, she still scared of the repressed emotions of the child she once was at her own mean mother, otherwise, would not have looked on the internet for someone she could target to project herself into and use as her scapegoat.

She broke the camel’s back and from now on I just want to be left alone to enjoy for the rest of my life my freedom and peace. It was a long journey!

But eventually, I still want to write and publish “Reenactment” for those searching for the whole naked truth about the real face of humanity, it is ugly, very ugly!!! I ask myself many times: is anything real out there?!

Thanks to writing and publishing A Dance to Freedom I got to see how ugly it really is!!! I always felt and suspected it -- that it was very ugly, but thanks to my book I got to see it really close -- staring it in the face -- at a very close range -- it was dangerous to be that close to evil, and now I have no doubt humanity is evil -- cancer. And the more I come to the conclusion that very few people out there are capable of being real and authentic.

I understand your fear of sharing your authentic feelings with people around you. Becoming real and authentic is very risky because most likely people around us will turn on us -- as you witnessed in my case -- we have to be strong enough to stand alone on our own two feet because most likely people will ostracize us and we find ourselves alone. Most people are fake, acting as if personality, and feel threatened by real liberated people because real authentic people trigger their fears of exposure and they will gather all forces at their command to destroy you so they can go on, as usual, acting as if personality and sell to the masses their lies and illusions.

I have learned nothing scares people more than facing and feeling their own painful truths that they rather kill themselves, others or both than face the fears of being alone and feel the pain to become real.

Wishing courage and strength,

Sylvie

Humanity has Become Evil - A Cancer

Hi E,

Thank you for writing!

I know how hard it is to get things taped. I want to make more videos, but it’s so hard to do good videos! I’m thinking about buying a teleprompter so I don’t have to memorize the text of what I like to say. 

To tell you the truth I’m kind of giving up on humanity and I don’t feel like trying anymore to reach those like me -- that feel all alone -- waiting to hear the truth that can set us free – like I once was.

I have put out there my testimony of the septs to take to free oneself and now those like me that want it, they have to do their part and dig hard and deep like I did to find the truth that can set us free, because the sociopaths and charlatans of this world will work very hard day and night to distract the masses and bury the real truth very deep and make it very difficult for people like me to find it.  Because if the real truth reached many people like me, their pretty lies and illusions would crumble like a house of cards and they would lose all their power over others.

This is why I keep getting target by sociopaths because they feel threatened by me and my book, so they want to break me to discredit me and my book. 

Liliane Rombout or Olane Roos – whatever she calls herself now -- the psychologist from the Netherlands that really broke the camel’s back. 

It’s unbelievable and I still can’t believe it that this woman contacted me acting all understanding and saying all the rights things to gain my trust, but the moment I let her in and let her read my manuscript, she wasted no time looking for something in it that she could grab on to turn on me and play mind games with me -- to try to regress me into the emotional prison of my childhood -- to discredit me and my book.

She never saw me in my book or heard me, she just saw her own projections and what she wanted to see to use as tools for manipulation. And then when she was not able to regress me at the time, she sits 4 years with her critique full with her own projections and changes her name before publishing her critique. She never predicted that I would figure out that Liliane Rombout and Olane Roos is one and the same.

I see clearly the games people play and I’m free from all people’s projections and I no longer allow anyone standing in symbolizing my childhood abusers to manipulate me to bring me back the emotional prison of my childhood. Free at last!!!

Isn’t this a calculated move of a malignant narcissist or sociopath?!

Malignant narcissists and sociopaths in the mental health profession are the worst because they have mastered the art of manipulating people's repressed emotions to do exactly what they want -- they are the most deceiving and cause a lot of harm.

I guess she didn’t believe what I wrote in my book that I had consciously experienced and understood the repressed emotions of the child I once was within the context of my own childhood and no longer they can be used by sociopaths, psychopaths or malignant narcissists to grab on to use as reins to manipulate me and gain control over me to bring me back to an emotional prison.

I will still try to write to everyone that writes to me but from now on I will be very careful and not trust anyone that contacts me saying all the right things, because most likely -- they are not real -- it’s a lie. Just like Alice Miller wrote me in an e-mail: “I have learned over the years of my work on the internet that there are readers who SEEM to understand SOME of what I have written, at least intellectually, but they are still so afraid of their very cruel parents and of their repressed FEELINGS of rage towards them that they are constantly looking for scapegoats.

They thus live in a continual confusion pretending that they are healed and even offering help and empathy to others. But eventually they use unconsciously other people (even the ones who are quite friendly to them) as a poisonous container like their parents did to them, and if the offended people begin to defend themselves they can become very mean.

I can only urge you to trust your feelings and do NOT offer your empathy and interest to everybody just because they say they read and understood everything I have written. In most of the cases, it is a lie. To understand my books means to overcome the fear of one’s parents, to honestly feel the justified rage TOWARD THEM and to no longer use others to getting free from the accumulated rage.”

Obviously Liliane Rombout or Olane Roos, she still scared of the repressed emotions of the child she once was at her own mean mother, otherwise, would not have looked on the internet for someone she could target to project herself into and use as her scapegoat.

What Really Makes Narcissists Tick, “The characteristic subjective experience of narcissistic individuals is a sense of inner emptiness and meaninglessness that requires recurrent infusions of external confirmation of their importance and value. . . . When the environment fails to provide such evidence, narcissistic individuals feel depressed, ashamed, and envious of those who succeed in attaining the supplies that they lack.”

Every time there is a mass shooting or a celebrity commits suicide, they all talk about the importance of mental health and share the phone number for National Suicide Prevention Lifeline --   that all it does is to make themselves feel better and fool the masses that they care --- their lies and mind games is what pushes some people over the edge, because they are tired of performing and they no longer can live pretending and acting as if personality and they give up, killing themselves, others or both.

I’m done I just want to be left alone to enjoy for the rest of my life my freedom and peace. It was a long journey! 

I just wish sociopaths, psychopaths and malignant narcissists stopped targeting me and left me alone --  and gave up on trying to bring me back into an emotional prison -- but I understand that nothing triggers their jealousy and hatred more than a seeing a truly happy and free person and are driven blindly by jealousy and hatred.   And to protect myself I have to keep long bridges from people and not cross it too often in order to enjoy my freedom and peace for the rest of my life.

Eventually, I still want to write and publish “Reenactment” for those searching for the whole truth about the real face of humanity, it is ugly very ugly!!! And sometimes I think no one is real out there.

Thanks to writing and publishing A Dance to Freedom I got to see how ugly it really is!!! I always felt and suspected it -- that it was very ugly, but thanks to my book I got to see it really close staring it in the face at a very close range. it was dangerous to be that close to it, and now I have no doubt humanity is evil -- cancer. And the more I come to the conclusion that very few people out there are capable of being real and authentic.

Enough talking about humanity! Enjoy your weekend,

Sylvie

Talking About Mental Health -- Kate Spade

Ester Santos

2 hrs · 

YouTube·  Sylvie Imelda Shene, I LOOOOVE your personality on camera, you 're really really funny and interesting. I loved your presentation of yourself and I hope you win ...

https://www.facebook.com/ester.santos/posts/10209734078028696?comment_id=10209734210872017&notif_id=1528393847765169&notif_t=mentions_comment

Sylvie Imelda Shene Thank you, Ester Santos! I didn't hear from Big Brother producers, most likely, I trigger their own repressed fears, just like one of my readers in Germany, wrote to me: "n this context, I especially like the adjectives, which you chose to describe you, and your life’s motto, your life with your cats etc. :-))) it has the lightness, which the readers at BB might need to read/hear? Otherwise, they might be triggered, by mentioning childhood and Alice Miller and so on??? We know both, how fast people run if they are confronted with their pain and are not ready to face it... I am the best example of this...of course, this is how you are and what you think about life and there is no need to hide anyway."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2018/05/sylvie-shene-big-brother-audition-tapes.html

Ester Santos; They are probably still working on the selection process .. give them a call and ask them if they received your application... Best of luck to it

Sylvie Imelda Shene: They are done with the selection. The show starts June 27. 
I really didn't want to be away from my cats that long and be locked up in a house full of repressed people telling their true stories with their unconscious and compulsive reenactments. But I thought would be worth the shot to try to take to the masses the information that was helpful to me. 

Every time I read stories like the one of Kate Spade. I wonder if my book reached them would have helped them find peace before dying. 

And even if they chose to prematurely exit from this fxcked world, they could do it in a peaceful way, not in such a violent way. 

Hanging oneself is so violent that it just shows the desperation of the child she once was. By the way, I met a few times her brother in law, David Spade at the topless bar in Phoenix where I dance for 18 years! I was not impressed with him, he had an aura of arrogance and superiority, so I didn't waste much of my time talking to him and I walked away from him pretty quickly. 

Everyone talks about the importance of mental health, but to have true mental health we need the truth, the real truth based on facts and evidence, and not on alternative facts... but most people really don't care about mental health -- if they did, they would be more concerned -- about taking to the masses the truth that can set people free and not confuse them with lies and misleading information that keeps people lost in a labyrinth that drives some people completely insane. And they only see a way out of this labyrinth through suicide. But I can't find anyone to help me take this important enlightening information to the masses. 

Truth based on facts scares most people, so I'm not surprised the BB producers shied away from me.

"Kate suffered from depression and anxiety for many years. She was actively seeking help and working closely with her doctors to treat her disease, one that takes far too many lives. We were in touch with her the night before and she sounded happy. There was no indication and no warning that she would do this. It was a complete shock. And it clearly wasn’t her. There were personal demons she was battling."

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2018/06/06/style/andy-spade-statement.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur 

Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom page 136, 137 and 138

"When you feel like you can’t solve your problems on your own, and when a parade of gurus, therapists, and self-proclaimed self-help experts let you down, then depression is likely to hit you hard if it hasn’t already done so. It’s kind of like what happens when you fall off a diet and end up feeling like a complete failure when you eat more than you’ve ever eaten in your life. And that’s exactly what happened to me in a major way when I realized there was nothing in the world I could do to hang onto Marty, no matter how much I tried to

follow the advice of my fellow Al-Anoners. I had been vulnerable to depression all my life because of
my repressed childhood emotions, and I’ve come to understand Alice Miller’s simple formula:

Depression = Self-deception

As long as we deceive ourselves by buying into whatever lies and illusions we use as coping mechanisms — from the idealization of our parents to the cloth of love offered by 12- step groups to the quick-fix, rosy promises of positive thinking — there’s a good chance that we’ll pay for it with depression, or even worse, like the self-help suicide couple I mentioned in Chapter 5.

This is as true in the United States as it is in Portugal, England, China, Brazil, Russia or any other place inhabited by human beings. For me, one of the best things about Alice Miller’s teachings is that they transcend all racial, class and cultural boundaries. Trauma impacts the entire human family, and unless it’s properly dealt with, it can lead to tragedy no matter who we are. All children, no matter where they live, have such a strong need for love that they have no choice but to cling to an illusion if the real thing isn’t readily available. How could it be possible for a child, who’s totally dependent on his parents for survival, to see the painful truth of their incapacity to love him? A child can never say to her parents, “I don’t feel loved by you guys so I’m getting a job and moving out of here.” Children often have no choice but to deny their truth, repress their painful feelings and develop false selves in the vain hope that they can somehow earn their parents’ love. I’ve learned that we can’t get love where there is none in the first place, no matter what we do. Every adult in the world has the capacity to give up these illusions and free themselves from the chains of depression that result from emotional repression. Unfortunately, most adults do the opposite. They cling to the false hope of illusions, only to let current events trigger depressive episodes whose root causes are the lingering pains of childhood that haven’t been dealt with. Everything we become as an adult is connected to our childhood: Our experiences are a chain of events that bring us to the present moment, for better or worse. A criminal is never guilty just by himself. If society at large could ever find the courage to learn from the chain of events that occurred in each criminal’s life from day one, we could prevent many future crimes and a lot of unnecessary suffering. 

....Nothing will make us more depressed than believing in lies and illusions. I suffered from depression for years because I tried to believe the lies people were telling me, first from my family and then from those who stood in as substitute parents, namely Marty and the members of the 12-step cult I was a part of. I suffered from depression because I kept allowing others to fool me with their lies and very seductive illusions."

Sylvie Imelda Shene: I just read CNN's Anthony Bourdain also committed suicide by hanging.

Ahmed Telli: Sylvie Imelda Shene i hope someone like you try to help me to cure that depression .. i couldn't dream of anything anymore ... i just live for nothing .. i don't know why i reach that side of life ... why i can't learn ... why i can't do what other younger person want to do .... what happening to me ???

Sylvie Imelda Shene Depression is caused by repressing our authentic feelings. 
As Alice Miller wrote to one of her readers: "You are on the path to understand more than your psychiatrist. The lack of serotonin has a cause, and this cause lies of course in your tragic childhood but antidepressants will cover up your history. The knowledge of this story (an important part of your life) is a REAL key to your health. Your depression seems to ask you to face what happened to you THEN. You can leave a place only if you know where you have been. But you ARE STILL in your childhood WITHOUT KNOWING it. I hope that reading my last book will help you to make the right decision. Read also the article on Depression and the FAQ list on my website and you can write to us THEN."
https://www.alice-miller.com/en/is-there-a-cure-for-depression/
And below is the link to Alice Miller's article about depression that everyone in our society should read:
https://www.alice-miller.com/en/depression-compulsive-self-deception/

Ahmed Telli: Sylvie Imelda Shene when I see one person in the universe understand me .... that's enough for me ... really thank you, Sister, I wish all your dreams will be true ... and you live the happiest life ever with all you love

Sylvie Imelda Shene Thank you, Ahmed Telli. I wish you the same. This letter someone wrote to Alice Miller about suicide is very enlightening: 

" Dear Alice Miller,

a few days ago, a friend of mine committed suicide.

Although me and other close friends were devastated, none of us were overly surprised. She was a very troubled person and had been so for most of her adult life. She was deeply alone and her personality was so damaged that she was unable to have a normal life. She was only 25 years of age.

When I told some of my other acquaintances that a friend of mine had killed herself, this was the most common answer:

“Ah, depression is such a nasty illness.”

I was absolutely aghast at such lack of understanding.
‘Depression’?! Is that all it boils down to? Was she not a person, with a life, and feelings, and needs, and especially UNMET needs? Are we going to simply call it ‘depression’ and shrug it off?! When the reasons why she was so miserable were so obvious and so deep?

I do not and will never believe that depression is an “illness”, like a cold, that an otherwise healthy person suddenly “gets”. The way people perceive depression nowadays is truly sickening, and I think that this whole “illness” concept is so popular because it lets people get away from their duties and responsibilities: you often hear things such as: “Ah, we did everything for her, but when depression strikes, there’s little you can do”. Certainly not our fault, then. Certainly not her parent’s. Certainly not anything’s. What a load of rubbish.
Where has our humanity gone? Have we all lost our ability to empathize with people’s pain and needs? Have we all become so hypnotized by the biochemical, psychiatric terms that dominate psychology today that we have learned to ignore the reality of the person’s emotions and the more glaring signs?

The truth is that none of us wants to face the reality of our pain and our failures, grieve, and start over. Because it’s long, it’s complicated, and it hurts. It’s much quicker and easier to blame an inanimate molecule and call it “chemical imbalance”. Yeah, sure! But even so, how did your brain get in that kind of mess? By chance perhaps?! I doubt it. This whole line of reasoning is a gross, disrespectful and tactless disregard for the pain and terror that victims suffered. If we are so blind to these feelings in other people (and ourselves!), none of the heinous crimes that I hear about daily will surprise me again.

To sum up, people can think what they want. But after all the pain I witnessed in my friend, the loneliness, the tales of abandonment and alienation, I WILL NOT HAVE ANYBODY SAY THAT MY FRIEND COMMITTED SUICIDE BECAUSE SHE HAD A CHEMICAL IMBALANCE. I will not tolerate anybody who thinks this, and I will always fight this cowardly view.
It would be like if I shot them with a gun, and said that the fault of their injury is not mine, it’s the bullet’s.

Sincerely,

D.A.

(PS I give you permission to publish this if you desire.)

AM: You are absolutely right, and I can understand how you feel. We are publishing´your letter, it may encourage others to trust their feelings, which they were forced to ignore very early and which they still ignore even if they could be free to no longer ignore them." 
https://www.alice-miller.com/en/about-depression/

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