While not always outwardly apparent, narcissists often live in fear, primarily fearing rejection, exposure of their true self, and the loss of their carefully constructed image, which stems from a deep-seated insecurity about their self-worth and a vulnerability to feeling inadequate or unlovable.
Key points about narcissists and fear:
Fear of rejection:
This is often considered the narcissist's greatest fear, as it threatens their inflated sense of self and can trigger feelings of worthlessness.
Fear of exposure:
Covert narcissists especially fear the moment their facade is broken, revealing their perceived flaws to others.
Fear of criticism:
Narcissists are highly sensitive to criticism, even minor negative feedback, which can be perceived as a personal attack.
Fear of losing control:
They often use manipulation tactics to maintain control over situations and people, as losing control can trigger anxiety.
Yep!
Yes, they have a malicious intent. It's all about control and having power over you.
Yes, I have survived more than once! I know they are enraged, and it drives them mad. They all can kiss my a$$.
Yes, only when it serves them. No, they are no relationship material.
Yes, they go from bad to worse.
Congratulations to this young man for finding the courage to open his eyes to see and feel. Yes, don't let others exploit your unresolved repressed anger.
Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence, pages 42 and 43: "Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical to that of the government.
Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but the degree of access to our true selves. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks."
Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but the degree of access to our true selves. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks."
For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty, even the views of his own parents-- because, in these cases, his intellectual powers can function without impairment.
Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person, on occasion, still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believes his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”
demagogue /ˈdeməˌɡäɡ/
noun
- a political leader who seeks support by appealing to the desires and prejudices of ordinary people rather than by using rational arguments."a gifted demagogue with particular skill in manipulating the press"
verb
US
- rhetorically exploit (an issue) for political purposes in a way calculated to appeal to the desires and prejudices of ordinary people."he seems more interested in demagoguing the issue in media interviews than in dialogue."
I had one recently make a false report, but it all blew up in her face. And now she's gone and I'm still standing.
Empathy without boundaries is self-destruction. Unconditional love doesn't mean unconditional tolerance. You gotta train your boundaries to be stronger than your soft heart and your mind to be stronger than your feelings. Otherwise, you'll be drained. So be kind and take no shit.
"A lie can travel halfway around the world before the truth can get its boots on!"
Real Evil is not something that everyone can recognize.
Real Evil is the one that can manipulate 95% of the people into believing that it's a victim and can provoke these 95% to destroy those 5% who can see and understand its reality.
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