Open letter to Martin Miller

Dear Martin Miller,

I hope my letter finds you well. I wrote the letter below to you a long time ago, but I never send it to you, it came to my attention that you reached out to B. R. and I am concerned, because I know this woman is still a wolf in sheep's clothing and will exploit you like she exploited your mother and the same way she was exploited as a little child in order to advance herself and not have to face and consciously experience the painful repressed emotions of the child she once was within the context of her own childhood.

Your mother’s books saved my life and I resolved my repression with the assistance of her books and website as you can see in my letter to you below.

The words B.R. wrote to her followers are not genuine, but a game strategy for her, playing the victim card to take credibility from your mother and advance herself.

Dear Martin Miller,

I hope my letter finds you well. I have wanted to write you for the longest time, but for some reason, I felt shy, maybe because I don’t know you well, writing to your mother was easy, because I felt like I knew her and we both understood each other a 100%.

I read the interview you gave to Spiegel. First of all, I am so sorry your mother was not, yet, strong enough when you were little to stand up to your father and protect you. It makes me sad that some people like Daniel Mackler, I don’t know if you have heard of him and others like him that try to make a name for themselves by stepping on your mother’s head and using her as their scapegoat or poisonous container. 

They took your words out of context and create a smokescreen to unconsciously or consciously confuse your mother’s readers and block her books from reaching more people like me, that their lives are hanging on the ballot to hear the whole truth from someone else, like I was all my life, they create this smokescreen so they don’t have to face and feel their own painful repressed emotions and the fears of the child they once were within the context of their own childhood. 

And also, that, they can bring attention to their books and get new members for their cults by using disconnected half-truths, some, taken from your mother’s books to hook people in, but in reality are filled with hidden morality, poisonous pedagogy, guilt-inducing to manipulate and control the emotionally blind people in our society that, unfortunately, is the majority and use their followers like a drug to keep their fears and painful feelings at bay, but they cannot fool someone that have felt their fears and repressed emotions of the child they once were in the right context. and therefore have removed the blinds and are able to see clearly and cannot any longer be deceived by others wearing sheep's clothing but remain wolves inside, proclaiming their love for children and wanting to stop child abuse, taking the ultimate cause, but unconsciously they are contributing for the vicious circle of child abuse to continue by using disconnected half-truths or very well-articulated seductive lies coated with bits of disconnected half-truths, they have memorized like parrots to deceive themselves and others perpetuating theirs and their followers' childhood drama where they play the role of the substitute parents and the followers playing the role of the child. 

These words your mother wrote in her book “For Your Own Good” could not be truer: “Conditioning and manipulation of others are always weapons and instruments in the hands of those in power even if these weapons are disguised with the terms education and therapeutic treatment. Since one's use and abuse of power over others usually have the function of holding one's own feelings of helplessness in check--which means the exercise of power is often unconsciously motivated--rational arguments can do nothing to impede this process.”

Nothing can anyone ever say take away from the pioneering, courageous, and honest work your mother did. She was a true heroine. As Alice Miller shared in her article, “The Longest Journey” published on her website: “It has taken me all my life to allow myself to be what I am and to listen to what my inner self is telling me, more and more directly, without waiting for permission from others or currying approval from people symbolizing my parents.” 

It took her all of her life, but she did it and exposed the lies and hypocrisy of society. My experience has been the same as your mother’s. A reader of your mother wrote to her saying: “Books do not help to break open the prisons, it is true, but there are books that give us the courage to rattle at the prison gates with new courage. Your book is such a one to me.” 

--- That is exactly how your mother’s books are to me. It has taken me, too, all my life, but thanks to your mother’s books as my enlightened witness I was able to gather new and tougher courage to remove the invisible shackles and break free from the emotional prison I was born into.

Before your mother’s passing, I had the privilege to exchange many e-mails with her, three of them of which she published on her website. You can read all the e-mails exchanged between me and your mother, if you like, on the link below: 
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/02/correspondence-with-alice-miller.html

Sincerely,

Sylvie Imelda Shene

Also, read my blogs in the links below:
Letter to P About Martin Miller's book
Then Pain of a Mother
In Most Cases is a Lie
Don’t let Others Exploit your Repressed Anger to do Harm
Psychoanalysis and most therapies hinders people’s liberation and autonomy