Monday, December 19, 2016

Donald Trump Is Gaslighting America

What Donald Trump is doing to America, that's exactly what the sociopaths at my job of nine and half years did to me after I publish my book. They wanted to manipulate me to self-destruct, so they could declare me mentally unstable and discredit me and my book, to protect their own false images and go on with their projections, lies, and illusions as usual.

"There are people who sit on the sidelines and watch someone else being whipped. They could step in and demand that it stops. They have the power to do so. What do they do? Nothing. The narcissist depends on these weak-willed people. Abusing people isn't so much fun if it's only a party of two.
Not taking a stand to stop someone being hurt and bullied doesn't absolve you of guilt. On the contrary, you become an active participant, whether you consider yourself one or not. Enablers are guided by self-interest. They choose not to help the victim.

This is why enablers are not innocent. They have made a choice to support abuse." Read more here
The whole America is being gaslighted!

There is no hope for humanity. People that voted for Trump even if you are not an abuser per se with your vote silently you are choosing to support abuse.
"One might ask why the norms of political and presidential behavior don't hold the same kind of power to bring Trump's behavior into line, and I have a couple of possible answers for you.
Number one is that Trump explicitly ran as someone immune to social and political norms. I could not possibly list everything he did in the primary and general election that would've immediately disqualified any other candidate.

But number two is that the Republican party, in general, has spent the last eight years deliberately tearing down political norms in order to gain power, and have now clearly reached the conclusion that in any choice between upholding norms and increasing their power, they choose power. How else can one understand a party that claims to be for greater national security, but is absolutely fine with Russia meddling with our election as long as it helped their candidate? How else to interpret the decision to make the debt ceiling a political football? Or to prevent, for the first time in our nation's history, a sitting president from making a Supreme Court appointment during his term? Or a party which is fighting in North Carolina to overturn every avenue for the exercise of power by the duly elected Democratic governor before he takes office? These examples are all completely unprecedented, and these are just the ones I could list off the top of my head.

And, just as in an abusive relationship, this way of using and overturning norms leaves the victim in a double-bind. In an abusive relationship, the target is stuck with the choice to either comply with the abuser or look like they are the one in the wrong and face the resulting social blowback.
In this political scenario, the opposition party faces the choice of either putting up with the one-sided dissolution of norms and resulting power grab or has the option to join the fight by ignoring and overturning established norms to exercise their own power. The double-bind here is that it is strong institutions and norms that help prevent an autocrat from consolidating power, so overturning more norms, even if it brings temporary power for an opposition party, makes the future more precarious.

I don't have any great wisdom to share here about our way forward out of that double-bind, but I will say that we should be thoughtful about adding to the process of disintegrating our social and political norms and that I believe it is possible to defend them while not falling into Trump's trap. The first step, as with the example from the abusive relationship, is recognizing that it isn't an either/or, despite how the abuser is presenting it. Part of the abuser's manipulation is in making it seem like there are only two bad choices, and that the abuser's choice is the easier one in the moment. If you're able to break out of that framing, you can see the other options that exist." Read more here

If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge