This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse, these are facts, Violence is not genetic, it’s learned.
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Yes, they just care if they can use us for whatever they want from us.
Yep! I'm done with these types of people, family or not.
For a few narcissists in my life, I went from grade "A" supply to backup supply. I'm done with these types of people. The moment I get a red flag, they might have grown into full-blown malignant narcissists, I check out.
Yes, engaging with them is a total waste of time.
No, you can't! Don't waste years of your life trying to help them like I did. Run as far as you can from these vindictive, evil people.
Remove them from your life and go live your best life.
Big mistake!
Yep! People need to wake up. It's about power and enriching themselves.
Listening to Joe Navarro and reading his article below brought a person who was once close to me to mind. Only her and her mother's wounds count. Constantly keeping score. In constant competition to be the most of everything, the richest, the most prominent victim, the most perfect, etc. She continually compares how the wrongs done to her are much worse than those done to others. I'm so glad she is out of my life now; I have an ocean and a continent between us.
"What is a wound collector? In essence, these are individuals who go out of their way to collect social slights, historical grievances, injustices, unfair or disparate treatment, or wrongs—whether real or imagined (Dangerous Personalities, 2014 Rodale Publishing).
They don’t forgive or forget, and they don’t move on. They wallow in the actual or often perceived transgressions of others and they allow sentiments of animosity and vengeance to percolate and froth at the surface by their constant and attentive nurturing of those perceived wounds. As you can imagine, in an imperfect world where there are real injustices, where people make mistakes, and stupid things are said and done, the wound collector never has to go far to feel victimized.
Why do we call these “wounds” and not something else? Some have referred to these individuals as grievance or injustice collectors. These terms don’t do justice to the morbid pathology at work here any more than to call someone who suffers from bulimia or anorexia “food averse.” The illness that underpins the thinking and behavior of these individuals is psychological wounding." Read the whole article in the link below:
"Manipulated from day one." After my ex left, I promised myself I would never again allow another person to come into my life to manipulate me like that! Have been free for 25 years!
I'm sure fraud exists, but this administration is the ultimate fraud.... wake up!
That's how professional criminals hide their own epic crimes by pointing their fingers at the minor infractions of others.
I have been the target of this dirty game by professional criminals many times in the workplace. They tried very hard to get me to make mistakes so they could focus on my small infractions to hide their real crimes. But they were not able to get anything on me, and their crimes came to light, but they all became silent, and there was a big cover-up.
Based on the search results, there are significant concerns and allegations regarding Elon Musk and his Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE) accessing sensitive government data, including personal information of Americans. Here’s a summary of the key points:
1. **Access to Social Security Data**:
Elon Musk’s DOGE has reportedly sought access to the Social Security Administration’s (SSA) internal data repository, which contains extensive personal information such as Social Security numbers, medical records, bank information, and earnings records. This has raised alarms among advocates and lawmakers, who warn that such access could lead to privacy breaches, identity theft, and potential misuse of data.
2. **IRS Taxpayer Data**:
DOGE has also requested access to the IRS’s Integrated Data Retrieval System (IDRS), which holds sensitive taxpayer information, including Social Security numbers, bank account details, and income records. Critics argue that granting such access to political operatives could be dangerous and violate privacy laws.
3. **Legal Challenges and Privacy Concerns**:
Multiple lawsuits have been filed alleging that DOGE’s actions violate the Privacy Act of 1974, which regulates how federal agencies collect, use, and share personal information. Critics argue that DOGE’s access to sensitive data poses risks of identity theft, fraud, and political targeting.
4. **Resignations and Pushback**:
Michelle King, the acting head of the SSA, resigned after refusing to grant DOGE access to the agency’s sensitive data. This has been described as a "canary in a coal mine" moment, highlighting the potential dangers of unchecked access to personal information.
5. **Judicial Interventions**:
Some courts have temporarily blocked DOGE’s access to sensitive data, such as the Treasury Department’s payment system, which handles Social Security benefits and tax refunds. However, other rulings have allowed DOGE to proceed with accessing data at certain agencies.
6. **Political and Public Backlash**:
Democratic lawmakers, advocacy groups, and privacy experts have expressed strong opposition to DOGE’s activities, warning that they could lead to misuse of personal data and disruption of essential government services like Social Security and Medicare.
In conclusion, while there is no definitive evidence that Elon Musk is "stealing" personal information, his DOGE initiative has gained access to highly sensitive government data, raising serious concerns about privacy, security, and potential misuse. Legal challenges and public backlash continue to mount as critics seek to limit DOGE’s reach and protect Americans’ personal information.
Based on the search results, there are significant concerns and allegations regarding Elon Musk and his Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE) accessing sensitive government data, including personal information of Americans. Here’s a summary of the key points:
1. **Access to Social Security Data**:
Elon Musk’s DOGE has reportedly sought access to the Social Security Administration’s (SSA) internal data repository, which contains extensive personal information such as Social Security numbers, medical records, bank information, and earnings records. This has raised alarms among advocates and lawmakers, who warn that such access could lead to privacy breaches, identity theft, and potential misuse of data.
2. **IRS Taxpayer Data**:
DOGE has also requested access to the IRS’s Integrated Data Retrieval System (IDRS), which holds sensitive taxpayer information, including Social Security numbers, bank account details, and income records. Critics argue that granting such access to political operatives could be dangerous and violate privacy laws.
3. **Legal Challenges and Privacy Concerns**:
Multiple lawsuits have been filed alleging that DOGE’s actions violate the Privacy Act of 1974, which regulates how federal agencies collect, use, and share personal information. Critics argue that DOGE’s access to sensitive data poses risks of identity theft, fraud, and political targeting.
4. **Resignations and Pushback**:
LMichelle King, the acting head of the SSA, resigned after refusing to grant DOGE access to the agency’s sensitive data. This has been described as a "canary in a coal mine" moment, highlighting the potential dangers of unchecked access to personal information.
5. **Judicial Interventions**:
Some courts have temporarily blocked DOGE’s access to sensitive data, such as the Treasury Department’s payment system, which handles Social Security benefits and tax refunds. However, other rulings have allowed DOGE to proceed with accessing data at certain agencies.
6. **Political and Public Backlash**:
Democratic lawmakers, advocacy groups, and privacy experts have expressed strong opposition to DOGE’s activities, warning that they could lead to misuse of personal data and disruption of essential government services like Social Security and Medicare.
In conclusion, while there is no definitive evidence that Elon Musk is "stealing" personal information, his DOGE initiative has gained access to highly sensitive government data, raising serious concerns about privacy, security, and potential misuse. Legal challenges and public backlash continue to mount as critics seek to limit DOGE’s reach and protect Americans’ personal information.
Yep, it's the same drama with different actors. That's why I'm happily single now. People unconsciously and compulsively reenact their childhood dramas with people standing in, symbolizing their parents or childhood caregivers. Just like I wrote in the Foreword of my book A Dance to Freedom and signed by Petra Helm."Sylvie Imelda Shene can see what happened to people as small children. She can also predict their futures. She’s not psychic or clairvoyant, but she knows that people unconsciously and compulsively tell the true and traumatic stories of their childhoods by repeating, reenacting, and recreating them in the present moment." https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/07/a-dance-to-freedom-your-guide-to.html
That's where I am. It's better to be alone. And to know that you are alone rather than wake up next to someone and, nevertheless, be alone.
Yep! Don't trust secretive people; they lie by omission. I know someone close to me who accuses those around her of being liars, and she doesn't recognize that she is even more deceiving because she lies by omission.
A "lie by omission" means deliberately leaving out crucial information when communicating, thus creating a misleading impression or causing someone to believe something untrue, even though no outright false statement was made; essentially, it's a form of deception through withholding key details.
Key points about lying by omission:
Intentional act:
It's not just forgetting to mention something but actively choosing to omit important information.
Distorted perception:
By leaving out key facts, the listener is left with a skewed understanding of the situation.
Contrast with "lying by commission":
While lying by commission is directly stating a falsehood, lying by omission is misleading through silence.
"Every time you excuse the abusive behavior of your toxic family members or try to convince yourself, "They didn't mean it," you sacrifice a piece of yourself.
You end up tolerating mistreatment and blaming yourself for their inability to change. The longer you hold onto the illusion, the more of yourself you sacrifice."
Yes, playing games, in the end, everyone loses. Walk away. That's how you win!
That's how they control! They transfer their unresolved repressed fears into their employees to keep them under their control and exploit them to get richer and have an endless supply of scapegoats or poisonous containers to use for transference effect.
They think they are powerful, but behind that rigid mask is a scared little child who has never grown up. Fxck the narcissist!
Yes, that's precisely what they do. Fxck the narcissist
The lies hiding behind science are the most misleading. Negative thoughts and emotions start to subside and leave our bodies once they are understood and consciously felt within the context of our own childhood. Otherwise, you are just repressing them with the aid of affirmations, and people will endlessly continue looking unconsciously and compulsively for scapegoats or poisonous containers to exploit and use for transference effect. This is one of the reasons DT got elected: because he provides his followers with the scapegoats they desperately need.
“It is not true that evil, destructiveness, and perversion inevitably form part of human existence, no matter how often this is maintained. But it is true that we are daily producing more evil and, with it, an ocean of suffering for millions that is absolutely avoidable. When one day the ignorance arising from childhood repression is eliminated, and humanity has awakened, an end can be put to the production of evil.” — Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, p. 143
The geeks are going to screw everyone. Evil is born anew with every new generation, and with the aid of technology, they are going to cause a lot more harm to society on a scale never seen before.
Elon Musk is a genius but is also an idiot. He is emotionally blinded by the repressed emotions of the child he once was. He gives evidence that intelligence and money alone don't save anyone from their emotional prisons.
Remember, we are living under nuclear threat because of a fxcking genius! The world doesn't need more geniuses. What the world needs most is people with the courage to face the fears of resolving childhood repression.
Once a person has grown into a full-blown malignant narcissist or evil, they are intentionally using their manipulative tactics to keep you hooked and stuck with them in their emotional prisons. They know precisely what they are doing. No, they don't learn from experience; they just keep playing their wicked games until they die. Run 🏃♂️ from these people as far as you can.
I grew up in Portugal surrounded by people with NPD. In 1981, I escaped to London when I was 22 and then to the US when I turned 25 years old. In the US, I got involved with a very charismatic and charming young man. His off-and-on love bomb kept me hooked for 10 long years. I have been free since the year 2000. Coming to accept that people try to undermine you, sabotage you, and try to destroy you is done intentionally and on purpose is hard to come to terms with. But once you accept evil people really exist, you never again ignore red flags, and never again, these people can manipulate you with their wicked mind games.
I came to learn how malignant narcissists or pure evil people really exist after I published my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions, and how much they hate the existence of people they can't control and manipulate. Since the publication of my book in 2014, I have been the target in the workplace of 4 psychological warfare. Once they know you see them as they really are and not how they like you to see them, you get a target on your back and they will gather all the forces at their command to try to destroy you. And it gave me proof that it was done intentionally.
Yes, they try to punish me for refusing to play the role they like me to play in their twisted dramas.
But the beauty of being an autonomous, free adult able to stand alone on my own two feet is that I can walk away and never look back. Now, when I'm the target of psychological warfare, I know right away who the director that starts it all is.
Walk away, don't react. Your reactions are what they want, and that's what gives them power.
"How Does Reactive Abuse Work?
Reactive abuse is an in-the-moment reaction to mistreatment from another person. When a victim reacts, the abuser uses this reaction to impart further abuse in the form of blame-shifting. The abuser will transform into a victim themselves in an attempt to make the victim view the situation in a different way and believe a different reality from the one that’s actually being lived. In this way, reactive abuse is often seen as a form of gaslighting, which is the emotional manipulation of a victim.
Why do Narcissists Use Reactive Abuse?
Ultimately, abusers tend to see reactive abuse as a ‘get out of jail free’ card. It acts as a form of justification for the behaviors that they exhibit towards another person. They know that they are abusive, but they use a person’s reactions as a valid reason for those behaviors. In many cases, an abuser will exaggerate the extent of the victim’s reaction, minimizing their own behaviors to make them appear victimized.
The real ‘value’ in reactive abuse for abusers comes in the fact that it can prevent many victims from coming forward, speaking up, and asking for help. Victims begin to believe that they are, in fact, to blame. This can make them scared to seek help, fearing authorities will believe the abuser and create consequences for the victim. Over time, victims begin to feel more and more trapped in a relationship. They feel they cannot leave and may start to form trauma bonds with their abuser."
Yes, narcissism is all about creating illusions to deceive, control, and manipulate.
Narcissists want money to have power over others.
Narcissists don't respect anyone! But they want others to respect them.
Exactly! I was captive for 10 long years. I have been free for 25 years.
Run from these people as far as you can.
Yes, many narcissists love a challenge. That's why I became a target of malignant narcissists after I published my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions.
I agree. If people grow in different directions and don't share the same values, just walk away. Life is too short to waste with people who don't grow with you and just want to pull you back into their emotional prisons. It doesn't matter if they have NPD or not.
