Friday, October 11, 2024

False Self and Over-achievers

     A false self 

The false self is a psychological defense mechanism that can develop in response to environmental failures, particularly in early childhood. It can arise when a child's emotional needs are not consistently met by their primary caregiver. 

A clear self-definition doesn't develop. Instead, the authentic, spontaneous self gets repressed in order to survive and make room for the needs of others. This becomes the basis for the mask of the false self. The conclusion often becomes "I am here to meet the needs and expectations of others, the mother of mother substitute." It can lead to a person feeling empty and lacking spontaneity and can manifest in a variety of dysfunctional behaviors.

The false self is the mask presented to the world acting as if personality, It stands in contrast to the true self, which resides behind the facade or image. This true self is the feeling self, but for the narcissist, the feeling self must be hidden and denied.

The false self is a psychological construct that is a defensive facade that a person creates to protect them from facing painful truths. It can also be referred to as a fake self, idealized self, superficial self, or pseudo-self.

The false self can develop when a child's primary caregiver doesn't consistently meet their emotional needs. This can happen during early childhood and can lead to the child creating a false self to cope with the neglect or inconsistency.

Some characteristics of the false self include:
Overcompensating
Deflecting and distracting others
Hiding sin and shame
Being ego driven
Being self-serving
Being defensive
Being full of pride

In contrast, the true self is a sense of self that is based on authentic experience and a feeling of being alive. It can also be referred to as the real self, authentic self, original self, or vulnerable self.

These people as adults can grow into full-blown malignant narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths becoming the classic case Dr. Alice Miller describes beautifully in her book The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self. 

  • Overachievers
  • People who set unrealistic goals for themselves, and may feel like they never quite get there. They may also experience negative self-image, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome. 
Overachieving can lead to a number of negative consequences, including: 
  • Mental health issues: Overachievers may experience increased stress, anxiety, and depression. 
  • Unhealthy behaviors: Overachievers may engage in unethical or risky behaviors to reach their goals. 
  • Career issues: Overachievers may drive themselves and others to a high standard, which can lead to disappointment and hurt their career growth. 
Therapy and self-reflection can help overachievers break free from their compulsive behaviors and learn healthier ways to cope with the pressures of overachieving. 
Ultimately, overachieving acts as a temporary band-aid. Just like any coping mechanism, it protects you from dealing with difficult emotions festering underneath: fear of failure, disapproval, looking weak, or the future. feelings of worthlessness: I'm not good enough unless I do XYZ.
If you overwork yourself or feel the need to constantly be busy, it may be a trauma response. Key takeaways: Edward Khantzian developed the self-medication model of addiction and the idea that addiction comes from the “inability to tolerate one's feelings.” 
And consciously feel their fears and painful feelings within the context of their own childhood 
Anger only becomes dangerous when it is repressed or unconscious and directed vicariously at substitute figures or scapegoats. As Alice Miller wrote in her article What is Hatred? "I too believe that hatred can poison the organism, but only as long as it is unconscious and directed vicariously at substitute figures or scapegoats. When that happens, hatred cannot be resolved. Suppose, for example, that I hate a specific ethnic group but have never allowed myself to realize how my parents treated me when I was a child, how they left me crying for hours in my cot when I was a baby, how they never gave me so much as a loving glance. If that is the case, then I will suffer from a latent form of hatred that can pursue me throughout my whole life and cause all kinds of physical symptoms. But if I know what my parents did to me in their ignorance and have a conscious awareness of my indignation at their behavior, then I have no need to re-direct my hatred at other persons. In the course of time, my hatred for my parents may weaken, or it may resolve itself temporarily, only to flare up again as a result of events in the present or new memories. But I know what this hatred is all about. Thanks to the feelings I have actively experienced, I now know myself well enough, AND I HAVE NO COMPULSION TO KILL OR HARM ANYONE BECAUSE OF MY FEELINGS OF HATRED."
The real problem in our society is childhood repression. People of all races are unconscious and compulsively looking for scapegoats to take revenge for the wrongs done to them when they were defenseless little children. 

You have to be constantly on the lookout no matter who you interact with, and race has nothing to do with it. Of course, over the years minority groups have been easy targets to turn into scapegoats for those in power positions. 
"If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23
From my book A Dance to Freedom page 80: "When we admire people for who they are, instead of for what they have or accomplish, we will have a better society — or at least a more honest one. Those who define themselves by their victories and professional status are on shaky ground, because these things aren’t sustainable. But, as Alice Miller says, this modus operandi fits “the life of millions of people, brilliant, unconscious, running for the gold … and never feeling their sadness or rage about their parents who couldn’t love them as they were.” She goes on to say that we can only lose our symptoms once we become free of wanting to either understand our parents or wanting to help them.43
AM: I am very moved by your letter, by your clarity, your determination to live with your fate in a conscious way, to see your truth as clearly as possible, and to overcome so the illusions and the confusions your parents inflicted on you. Readers who know your story from April 08 will doubtlessly be encouraged to overcome their fear and to face their own truth. You no longer need to write a philosophical thesis to “show” your existence because you DO exist, since you became a feeling person. This helped you to understand more about your life and life in general than writing a thesis. So many authors of different thesis remain empty inside and actually ignorant because they are afraid of their strong feelings and their history. I am happy that my books were “speaking to you”, as you write, but you were also able to listen to them and ACT in your best interest by embracing the little boy who suffered so much from the beginning of his life. In the relation with him you can’t lose the right direction, even if you make mistakes or steps back, this is absolutely normal. I wish you BOTH the best time on your road to your liberty after so much pain and injustice:

We repeat when we refuse to believe

AM: You are writing: “I hope to find a helping witness and that I will get strong enough to leave the people who only hurt me”. This sentence shows that you understand what you are doing and THUS are able to change. This happens seldom at your age so I hope too that you will succeed. It takes time to SEE and to BELIEVE that your parents were dangerous indeed. But it is exactly this insight that will make you free to choose the right partner who deserves you and not fall in love with a cold, dishonest, and stupid guy. Only in childhood, you were forbidden to SEE, you were forced to stay blind. Now, as an intelligent woman, you can use your feelings and your mind to make your judgment. If you are looking for a therapist open the page “Articles” and read the first two messages.

 

I lived with that for 10 years. They apologize as a tool of manipulation to keep you exactly where they want you.









Thursday, October 10, 2024

Sean Diddy Combs' Past Has Finally Caught With Him


 I too I'm a former victim of sexual abuse when I was 17 years old by the famous psychiatrist Dr. Julio Machado Vaz in Portugal. I have been trying to tell my story for over 20 years, and I'm still waiting to be heard. Now the question is: why does the media in Portugal protect this famous doctor?! Obviously, he must be a puppet to the media and so they protect him.  

In the book Boundaries: Where You End And I Begin, Anne Katherine states, “A therapist is entrusted with his or her clients’ deepest secrets. A minister bestows sanctions from the highest power in the universe. The potential for harm is overwhelming. For a person in such a role, essentially that of a guardian, to cross sexual boundaries is a grave violation. A child, a client, a patient, a follower, or a worshiper are vulnerable and usually approaches authority out of need. A sexual action by a guardian is very confusing, even to a very strong and healthy individual. For someone vulnerable and in need, such an action can be devastating. When a parent is sexual toward a child, the violation reverberates for decades. Trust is broken, the child takes on responsibility for the act, sexuality is affected, and the bond is damaged. When a therapist, physician, attorney, or clergyperson is sexual with a client or worshiper, it is also incest. A trust is broken, and a bond is perverted. The person who sought care was used to meet the needs of the caregiver.”33 

The past always catches up with us in our relationships with others and especially with our children if we have any.

I wonder how much longer until Dr. Julio Machado Vaz"s past catches up with him?!


 "There are people who sit on the sidelines and watch someone else being whipped. They could step in and demand that it stops. They have the power to do so. What do they do? Nothing. The narcissist depends on these weak-willed people. Abusing people isn't so much fun if it's only a party of two.
Not taking a stand to stop someone being hurt and bullied doesn't absolve you of guilt. On the contrary, you become an active participant, whether you consider yourself one or not. Enablers are guided by self-interest. They choose not to help the victim.
This is why enablers are not innocent. They have made a choice to support abuse."

"The Emperor's New Clothes" is a fairy tale. In reality, the kid who points out that the emperor is naked will get murdered. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/08/the-emperors-new-clothes.html

This is why I have been harassed, prosecuted, and ostracized by very bad players most of my life, starting with my first-grade teacher and especially in the workplace, since I published my book because with my book I point out that the emperors of the world are naked. In this world seeing and feeling people are the most discriminated against, no matter what color or background. I have been the target of bad players in every color and background. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/08/i-will-no-longer-be-on-social-media.html

From my book A Dance to Freedom page 80: "When we admire people for who they are, instead of for what they have or accomplish, we will have a better society — or at least a more honest one. Those who define themselves by their victories and professional status are on shaky ground, because these things aren’t sustainable. But, as Alice Miller says, this modus operandi fits “the life of millions of people, brilliant, unconscious, running for the gold … and never feeling their sadness or rage about their parents who couldn’t love them as they were.” She goes on to say that we can only lose our symptoms once we become free of wanting to either understand our parents or wanting to help them.43



Monday, October 7, 2024

Repressed Fears

Your voice is powerful. Your voice has meaning. If it didn't, people wouldn't work so hard to try to silence you.

Care about what other people think, and you will always be their prisoner. Lao Tzu

If your voice held no POWER they wouldn't try to silence you.

People may try to silence others for various reasons, often rooted in power dynamics, fear, or differing beliefs. Here are some common motivations:

  1. Power and Control: Individuals or groups may seek to maintain their authority or status by suppressing dissenting voices. This can be seen in political contexts where regimes censor opposition.
  2. Fear of Exposure: Those who have something to hide may attempt to silence critics to avoid scrutiny or accountability, particularly if the criticisms reveal wrongdoing.
  3. Ideological Conflict: People may feel threatened by ideas that challenge their beliefs or values. Silencing opposing viewpoints can be a way to protect their worldview.
  4. Social Pressure: In some communities, there may be a strong social norm against speaking out, leading individuals to silence themselves or others to conform to group expectations.
  5. Desire for Harmony: Some may believe that silencing dissent can prevent conflict and maintain social cohesion, even if it comes at the expense of open dialogue.
  6. Misinformation: In cases where misinformation is prevalent, individuals may attempt to silence those who provide accurate information that contradicts popular but false narratives.

These dynamics can occur in various settings, including personal relationships, workplaces, social media, and broader societal contexts. The implications of silencing can lead to a lack of diversity in thought and hinder social progress.


If someone thinks it's about them I'm referring to in my blogs and threatens me with a lawsuit, don’t they see that if they decide to file a lawsuit against me, they will be revealing their true identity and exposing themselves to the general public?!

Lawsuits become a public record! If I remove a blog post is because  I'm respecting a person's wishes and not because of threats with certain laws. 

Filling a lawsuit is not in their best interest if they want to protect their anonymity and privacy, otherwise, the sociopaths at my job of nine and a half years would have done it already. If people don't like my writings don't come to my blog, that's that simple. Will people ever learn that by attacking me and coming after me, they end up exposing themselves, self snitching...

When people try to silence you, it can often mean they feel threatened by your voice or perspective, which could be interpreted as a fear of your potential influence or the truth you might speak; therefore, there is some validity to the idea that silencing someone is sometimes motivated by fear. 

If someone is voicing opinions that contradict a dominant narrative or power structure, those in power may try to silence them to maintain control. 

Speaking out against wrongdoing or highlighting issues can make those in positions of power feel vulnerable and exposed, leading them to try to shut down the criticism. 

New ideas or perspectives can be unsettling, and those resistant to change might attempt to silence dissenters to maintain the status quo. 

People with less power might be silenced more easily, making it crucial to analyze the power imbalance in a situation.  

Beyond direct censorship, silencing can also happen through subtle means like gaslighting, ignoring, or discrediting someone's opinions. 

If you put 100 black ants and 100 red ants in a jar, nothing will happen. But if you shake the jar hard, the ants will start killing each other. The red ants will consider the black ants their enemies, and the black ants will consider the red ants their enemies. The real enemy is the one who shakes the jar. The same thing happens in human society. So before we attack each other, we should think about who is shaking the jar! [Now I always see very clearly who shakes the jar! So instead of getting mad at me try to find out who is going around shaking the jar and jet mad at her instead!] 









Sunday, October 6, 2024

The Time for puff Daddy Combs to Face the Man in the Mirror Has Come



The party is over, and it's the time to face the man in the mirror. Here, it is a great example that no matter how much money a person collects in life, in the end, money alone will not save you or protect you... I have compassion for the children they once were, but I have no compassion for the monsters adults they have become. 

Everyone meets there own fate and destiny sooner or later in one form or another. There is no escape. Money alone is one of the biggest illusion ever.




Friday, September 27, 2024

Narcissists and Shame

Shame is a common theme in narcissistic relationships, both for the narcissist and their partner: 

Narcissists may have a chronic state of shame that they are unable to regulate. They may cope with shame by blaming others, avoiding facing it, or constructing a false personality.

Narcissists and their partners
Narcissists may target people who are insecure or have low self-esteem, and they may create situations to make their partners feel shame. This can put the narcissist in a position of control in the relationship. 

People in narcissistic relationships may feel shame for staying in the relationship, especially if it ends. They may feel ashamed for being in an unhealthy relationship, or because other people seem to have healthy relationships.

Some signs of a narcissistic partner who is playing the "shame game" include: Isolation, References to shameful events, and Blame. 

Psychotherapist Joseph Burgo says that intense shame in early life can lead to narcissism. 

The narcissist's unacknowledged shame often leads to their displays of shamelessness, lack of compassion, rage, and entitled grandiosity. Always the narcissist's shame is linked to the trauma they have experienced as children.

To avoid these shameful feelings and escape from the grip of shame, the child looks to get some control over their lives in other ways. For example, the child may glean control through perfectionism, grandiosity, power, attention, etc., all of which leads to the manifestation of the narcissist’s “God complex”, where they feel superior to everybody else


As Alice Miller wrote in the answers below to one of her readers:

"I am also glad that you have the hope that we can pass on our knowledge to the masses. I had this hope 30 years ago when I wrote the Drama. I thought that showing the truth can change so much. Meanwhile, I became more skeptical or just more impatient after I discovered the fear of the beaten child in all of us that built up the omnipresent resistance against the truth." Alice Miller

(Me too I had the hope with the writing of my book would help pass this knowledge to the masses, but like Alice Miller, I have become skeptical and with the writing of my book I too learned that people's repressed fears at their parents build omnipresent resistance against the truth. And people rather destroy others than face and consciously feel their own repressed fears to see the truth. And this is why I have been harassed, prosecuted, and ostracized since I can remember and in the workplace by very bad players since I published my book. I understand people's fears of their childhood pain that have been trying to keep repressed all of their lives, but it is still disappointing that pretty much everyone I meet doesn't have the courage to face their fears and become real)  

Very well said. But sadly unless most people find the courage to open their eyes to see and feel their painful truths -- no matter what anyone says or does -- it will not change the course of humanity to an abyssI wish Oprah were not in the video because I'm not a fan. Oprah's life career has been a cult leader promoter. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=oprah  





Interesting 


Yes, that's what they do


Don't engage with them and walk away that's the only way to win. 
Resolving our childhood repression is the vaccine against narcissists. A coworker who I believe is a covert narcissist once told me that she didn't care for me, and I responded calmly that I didn't care for her either, but I should have said also that coming from her I take it as a compliment.

Friday, September 20, 2024

I Love my Solitude

I feel the same as Brigitte Bardot but I would choose the word solitude instead of loneliness because since I have faced and resolved my childhood repression I no longer feel lonely. After all, now there is a mature conscious adult within me. We only feel lonely if we remain children in adult bodies stuck in the emotional prison of our childhood, endlessly reenacting our childhood dramas with people standing in symbolizing our parents or childhood caregivers. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/07/only-love-and-truth-will-open_25.html

′′ I have chosen loneliness to defend myself. I protect myself from humanity around me, from this loud and intrusive humanity. I live surrounded by animals, trees, and flowers. I have horses, donkeys, rams, goats, pigs, chickens, ducks, geese, pigeons. Then of course dogs and cats. I don't even know how many there are...

I feel much closer to nature and animals than humans. I confess I hate most of the human species. I accepted the cause of animals to finally make sense of my existence here. I'm trying to explain to the man that cruelty inflicted on animals is unworthy, unacceptable, inhumane precisely...

I don't give a damn that the world remembers the divine B. B., that wasn't divine at all.” - Brigitte Bardot



Signs Someone Does'nt Want The Best For You

Signs Someone Does'nt Want The Best For You:

When you share good news, they quickly change the topic or downplay your success.

They compete with everything you do. 

Instead of celebrating your wins, they turn it into a competition and try to outshine you.

They highlight your failures. When you make a mistake, they're quick to point it out, often in front of others, to make you feel small. 

7 things people take a lifetime to learn:

Feeling sad after making a decision. That doesn't mean it was the wrong decision.

Life is not tiring. Wanting life to be a certain way but not having the confidence to make it that way is tiring.

 Self-awareness is realizing that there is no opponent --- you're fighting against yourself.

Sometimes saying "goodbye" doesn't mean you don't love something. It just means you love yourself too.

That lesson will repeat itself until you learn it.

If you keep one hand on your past and one hand on your future. You'll never have either. To embrace tomorrow you must let go of yesterday.

The world starts and ends entirely inside your mind. No matter where you end up., no matter how rich or successful you become, you won't enjoy any of it if you get here at the expense of your mental wealth.

PSYCHOLOGY FACTS:

1. Many stay in toxic relationships out of fear of being alone.

2. People would rather ignore the truth than change their opinion about someone.

3. when you share feelings with someone who doesn't care, your feelings are nothing but drama.

4. Some people live as if every moment is a scene in a reality show.

5. Being forgetful might actually mean you're more intelligent.

How To Recognize A Toxic Person In Your Life

1. You leave feeling emotionally exhausted after an encounter with them.

2. You feel as though you're walking on eggshells around them frequently.

3. They fail to take responsibility for their actions and often play the victim.

4. You feel isolated or cut off from friends and family because of them.

5. You or others are blamed for the negative feelings and circumstances in their life.

6. They struggle with empathy and are unable to understand or validate your feelings.

7. Your gut feeling consistently tells you something is off in your interactions with them.

"If you get on the wrong train, be sure to get off at the first stop. The longer you stay on, the more expensive the return trip is going to cost you. They weren't talking about trains." That's exactly how I did most of the time in my life the moment I realized I was on the wrong train I got off at the first chance. Martin is the only train it took me the longest to get off,10 long years! He pushed me out because he discovered I had him figured out and he could not manipulate me any longer. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/09/at-crossroads-pick-road-less-travelled.html

Signs of High Vibration

1. People stare at you.

2. Kids like you

3. Animals feel safe around you.

4. Strangers tell you their life stories.

5. The room's energy shifts when you walk in.

6. You irritate toxic people by being authentic.

7. People envy you

11 LESSONS MOST PEOPLE LEARN TOO LATE IN LIFE

1. You're responsible for how people treat you

2. Health is wealth

3. Actions speak louder than words

4. It's okay to say 'no'

5. Validation comes from within

6. Never feel bad about putting yourself first

7. Failure brings you one step closer to success

8. Relationships should fuel you, not diminish you

9. You're in charge of your own success

10. Stay true to yourself, no matter what

11. Your intuition is always right

4 sentences that will change your mindset.

1. It's about who stands in the rain with you when they have the choice to be dry.

2. You tried something. It wasn't right. But at least now it won't exist as a what-if.

3. You think the grass is greener somewhere else. In reality, the grass is greener wherever you water it.

4. If it costs you your peace, it's too expensive.

Narcissists often underestimate those who find peace in being alone.

A narcissist never identifies a problem with their anger. However, if you get angry they'll have lots of problems with you to fire back at you. The narcissist believes they are the privileged ones when it comes to anger. They allow it for themselves but you should never dare to be angry back.

 Stupid is the man who always remains the same.

 If you are a friend to everybody, you are an enemy to yourself

 It's impossible to build one's own happiness on the unhappiness of others.

 Your biggest enemy and critic is none other than you

 Think of yourself dead, Now take what's left and live it properly.

Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.

Whenever you can't decide which path to take choose the one that leads to change. 

Living with a peaceful mind is true success [yes it is! I consider myself very successful because I have achieved emotional freedom and peace. I measure success how peaceful and emotionally free someone is and not how much money they have.]

Don't let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do.

13 HARD TRUTHS OF PSYCHOLOGY and LIFE

1. Live life before life leaves you

2. Be good, but never waste your time to prove it.

3. Efforts are always better than promises.

4. In the end, we all become memories and stories.

5. You are your home, take care of yourself.

6. If it's heavy, let it go.

7. You never fail, only learn.

8. Work on you, for you.

9. Life is full of unexpected goodbyes.

10. It's hard to find real love in this fake world.

11. Some changes are painful but necessary

12. React less, observe more.

13. Sometimes we lose people because we over-love them.

If you put 100 black ants and 100 red ants in a jar, nothing will happen. But if you shake the jar hard, the ants will start killing each other. The red ants will consider the black ants their enemies, and the black ants will consider the red ants their enemies. The real enemy is the one who shakes the jar. The same thing happens in human society. So before we attack each other, we should think about who is shaking the jar! [Now I always see very clearly who shakes the jar!]

How To Read Someone's Emotions Like A Pro:

1. Pay attention to micro-expressions; they reveal true feelings.

2. Observe eye movements; upward glances can indicate thinking, and downward can show guilt.

3. Look at their mouth; a tight-lipped smile can hide frustration.

4. Focus on their posture; slumped shoulders often indicate sadness or fatigue.

5. Notice the speed of their speech; faster-talking can mean excitement or anxiety.

6. Watch their hands; clenched fists may reveal anger or stress.

7. Pay attention to their breathing; shallow breathing often accompanies stress or fear.

5 MIND GAMES SOME PEOPLE PLAY IN RELATIONSHIPS

The Hot and Cold...

This involves alternating between affection and distance. He/she might shower you with attention one minute and then go radio silent the next. It creates confusion and makes you question their feelings, ultimately seeking their approval.

The Jealousy Game...

He/she might casually mention other women or men, bringing up attractive coworkers or friends, to gauge your reaction and insecurities. It's a way to manipulate your feelings and feel desired.

The Disappearing Act...

This is when he/she becomes unreachable, not returning calls or texts, leaving you worried and unsure. It could be to test your loyalty or gain control by making you chase after him/her.

The Damsel in Distress Act...

He/she portrays himself/herself as needing constant help or reassurance, making you feel responsible for his/her happiness. This keeps you focused on him/her and avoids him/her taking responsibility for his/her own emotions.

The Mixed Messages...

His/her words and actions contradict each other. He/she might say he wants a committed relationship but avoids commitment itself. This creates confusion and makes it hard for you to understand his/her true intentions.

When you look back what did that narcissist really ever do for you? Jack shit except build up your own dreams in your head by misleading you. A narcissist is fake as fuck and good riddance. Stop mourning over someone who never existed.

4 DARK GASLIGHTING TACTICS USED BY NARCISSISTS TO MESS WITH YOUR MIND

1. They withhold information or manipulate the truth to create doubt and confusion and pretend as if they do not understand what you are saying or decline to hear.

2. They twist your memories to see it their way or by questioning yours, even though you remember it correctly so that you start questioning your sanity.

3. They use their kindness/charm to change the subject or divert your attention so they don't have to take responsibility for their wrongdoings.

4. They invalidate your feelings and thoughts, They will blame you for being too sensitiv, even if your concern and emotions are valid.

QUOTES THAT MAKE YOU QUESTION LIFE:

• You have only 1 birthday, the rest are congratulations for surviving.

• The seats you choose in class decide your life.

• The number of people older than you never go up, it only goes down.

• Confidence is not "they will like me" it's "I'll be fine if they don't".

• The world wasn't better when you were young, you were just too young to notice its flaws.

There are far too many people in the world that don't know how they're the bad guy.

Nobody has more contacts than a narcissist who's pretending to be a somebody and is actually a nobody with No real friends.

Abusers expect an explanation for everything. If you provide an explanation they will then proceed to discredit your stance and point out why your views are irrelevant. They want you to explain yourself so they can invalidate you and create justification to not consider any other view than their own.

Nobody's more stupid than a Narcissist who thinks they can play their mind games on anybody, till they play them on the wrong person and they get their head knocked off.

Why do we always make the narcissist more important than what they should be? They're a toxic damaged person whose opinion means shit. Who cares what they think or say. Close that chapter.  By far one of the best mental health tips I've ever heard:

Things that lead to burnout:

• Listening to people complain about the same thing

• Doing your best with little appreciation for your work

High expectations at work, home, or in relationships

"The Purpose of Propaganda is to make one set of people forget that other sets of people are human." Aldous Huxley

"Women get addressed by Miss, Mrs., or Ms. because society deems it important to know if she is single, married, or widowed. Men are only addressed by Mr. because their relationship to women does not affect their social status."







https://www.youtube.com/live/pTt9cBggNqI?si=7TtolmRPhxeNAYmx

"Can a Covert Narcissist control their emotions? Absolutely. That's their forte. This is how they fool you."

Do you know?

If you fall in love because of their appearance, it's called attraction.

If you fall in love because they care for you, it's called appreciation.

If you fall in love because of their generosity, it's called respect.

If you fall in love because of their wealth, it's called desire.