Real Answers and Keys That's the Key for True Liberation

It took me more than 40 years and traveling around the world to find real answers and the keys to liberate myself. 

I took back to everyone in a tray these real answers and keys -- so they too could liberate themselves -- these real answers and keys are more valuable than all the money in this world put together! 

Now, it's up to them to find the courage, to stop fighting in their emotional prisons, and use the keys to open the doors of their emotional prisons, leave everything behind and those not YET ready or too far gone and incapable of leaving. 

Now, I think it is time for me to stop crossing this bridge and just enjoy my freedom for the rest of my life.

Some people, if they had everything taken away from them, and had to start life again at 46 years old, as I did, would rather kill and be killed than walk away, start over and be free!

Most people are full of illusions, and money by itself is the biggest illusion of them all...

Most people are too invested in lies and illusions. It's too painful to face the facts that they have deceived themselves their entire lives.

Most people are lost playing the roles assigned to them in childhood.

Lies and illusions cost a lot of money and souls.

Most people stay stuck forever in projections and transferences. 

About Transference

Tuesday October 14, 2008

At the beginning of our lives, we were, as very small children, totally dependent on our parents. And we believed, we HAD TO believe, that we were loved by them. Even when we were abused we couldn’t realize this. Then, after 4 years, we grew up and couldn’t avoid suffering from being rejected, hated and treated cruelly. But as dependent children, we still could not afford to FEEL this suffering, we were too small to deal with these feelings, thus we had to repress our rage, indignation, and our deep disappointment into our bodies. When we become adults, these repressed feelings stemming from the cruel treatment of our parents may come to the surface, but they are still connected with the small child’s fear of being punished for every sign of rebellion.

Should we as adults be treated in the same way as our parents treated us as children, many of us – especially if we have been through therapy – can become aware of the cruelty endured before. But the knowledge of the whole amount of cruelty can still rest repressed because the terror happened when we had not yet a name for it. For this reason, we need what we call “the transference”, hating, for instance, another person instead of our mother or father.

The transference is unavoidable if we were once abused children. It can also be highly confusing. But it can be liberating as well if we are ready to see it as a consequence of our early life. If we have summoned the courage to look our outraged, hateful YOUNG parents in the eyes, and to feel the fear of the small child we once were, then the misleading, confusing and defensive role of the transference disappears. We can then strive to feel the fear of the small baby, scared to death by the two big human beings holding our body and soul in their hands and doing or saying to us whatever they wanted, totally careless about our future, about what consequences their abuse might have on our lives. They acted like robots, directed by their own childhoods, unable of any kind of reflection whatsoever.

If we don’t want to become like them we must strive to SEE them as exactly as possible. We can use in this way the transference as a means for discovering the feelings of the small child that we once were and to deepen our understanding for him or her. At this moment the transference becomes our guide that will enable the small child in us to BELIEVE what their body KNEW it’s whole life but his mind could never believe: that so much evil and hatred can be directed towards a small, innocent child only because the parents have endured the same and have never questioned this. https://www.alice-miller.com/en/about-transference/

Translation of the words "I don't agree with you." I am a person that sticks to the facts and evidence, so when someone says to me: "I don't agree with you" it means that the person can’t handle facing the facts and evidence at the moment. Life is too short to waste hitting my head against walls! If necessary, I have learned to walk away from anyone that lacks the courage to open their eyes to see and feel. Free at last!