XB,
I'm not
staying with anyone! I’m staying with myself!
I know I only got crumbs and in the late 80s, I sent them
enough money that covers all the crumbs they ever gave me.
The important enlightened information that I took back in a tray and I shared with everyone freely, so they too could help themselves and stop playing their part in the family dysfunction, but they chose not to pay attention to me, because to your mother and most people, unless you have a DR in front of your name or a Ph.D. at the end can possibly have anything of value to say and they rather keep paying attention and listen to charlatans with some stupid certificate/diploma that all they care about is getting money from them.
This enlightened information -- has more value than all the money in this world put together, even if only
a few see the value in it.
XF, lies just
as much if not more, constantly playing the heroine and the victim role, just like XE, and never takes responsibility for her part in the family dysfunction.
XD and XF all
their lives have been chasing and feeding illusions and the truth is they can
spend their money on whatever they want and give it to whoever they want and we
don't have to like it!
Yes, it's not
fair that XE is getting everything and taking my part also of my parents' property,
but I don't care anymore, it is what it is, they can have it all and put it
down the drain for all I care...
I make
enough for myself and I know I will be okay; I'm just staying here in my little
corner happy and free, away from everybody and their endless painful
reenactments and dramas.
When you said that your mother and XF should have not brought XE and me with them, you might be right, but XF and XD unconsciously needed dependent little children to use as poison containers to project and transfer all their repressed poison to alleviate their own unresolved childhood repression to temporarily and superficially feel better about themselves.
At the time, as a little child, I
didn't understand these psychological mechanisms and how people always need
available beings at their disposal to use for projection and transference effects...
If XD and XF were healthy, capable of authentic feelings, and able to see clearly and
brought us with them to the city to genuinely parent us and prepare us for a better future
-- when XD met your father -- and she decided to marry him --she and your father,
not us, should have temporally rented a place and then put the house in Praca
Sousa Caldas for sell and after it sold each take their own money and XD buy a
new house for us, and XF buys a new house for her and her husband. Because the
stability and the well-being of the children that they had committed themselves to
-- should have come first -- and the needs of two selfish adults that just gotten
married should have come second.
The way you
talked the other day sounded like, you were not born YET, and you had more
rights to the house in Praca Sousa Caldas that at the time was bought with XD, XF and some of my parents' money, they got from XP to allow him to build his house
in their property,
The truth is
when XD met your father and you were born, she didn't need us as much, because
your father and after were you born, you both became her number one poison
containers or scapegoats at her disposal to project and transfer all her repressed poison -- your mother's desire to give birth to you was to satisfy her unconscious
need to endless have a being available at her disposal to use as poison
container and now you need to liberate yourself from all the poison she and
your FATHER, your father had his own dose of unresolved childhood repression or
poison, that also was transferred into you when you were a defenseless infant
and little girl, and, if I were you I would let your mother be with whoever she
wants and if she gives all her money away, it's her problem...
And, I would
only focus on liberating myself from all the poison transferred into me in my
childhood and live my best life and refuse to get involved in any of my
mother's lies and family dramas, because your mother and them will never
change, they all deserve each other... I know it's hard to witness all their
craziness and so much money burned...
We have to
let them go -- if we want to be free ... It took me more than 40 years to totally
liberate myself from all the poison they transferred into me when I was a
defenseless little girl and let them all go... free at last!!!
Be careful
not to surround yourself with only YES people that agree with you all the time
and just tell you what you like to hear and never tell you what you need
to hear if you like to grow as a person and not become like your mother and at
end of the journey with plenty of money but lost in projections and
transferences... money alone doesn't save anyone.
Wish you
courage and strength
Freedom ain't free! It comes with a lot of losses. Stop fighting and walk away. Take time to mourn and heal. At the end of mourning, you feel so free and good that you never thought was possible.
Please don't make the fatal mistake of believing you can "control and change" a malignant narcissist by loving them more, by not doing what triggers them off.....they don't want to change because they like what they are. They want to destroy you, feed off you, deplete you and exhaust you! Cut your losses and walk away from malignant narcissists that's the only way to free and save yourself.
What's a scandal?! That's when the real state of affairs behind the scenes breaks through and
is exposed for everyone to see.
If you are free and healthy you can always make more money! Freedom isn't free!I see people connected all the time by fear, hatred, and by money, but seldom do I see people connected by love.
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