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 “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live.” ovo je za jos naprednije... zavrsni stepen

What does not contain real love must contain an illusion. Real love is eternally present. Only illusions come and go. We get deeply hurt when we mistake an illusion for real love. What do you contain - an illusion or real love?

“We cannot really love if we are forbidden to know our truth, the truth about our parents and caregivers as well as about ourselves. We can only try to behave as if we were loving, but this hypocritical behavior is the opposite of love. It is confusing and deceptive, and it produces much helpless rage in the deceived person. This rage must be repressed in the presence of the pretended “love,” especially if one is dependent, as a child is, on the person who is masquerading in this illusion of love.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The search for the True Self) Page 23

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/07/most-peoples-love-is-nothing-but-farce.html?m=1

"Many people have fallen victim to the manipulative behaviors of a covert narcissist without realizing what has happened until they are already in emotional pain. Overt narcissists are so much easier to see coming as they are what you might expect - loud, obnoxious, and arrogant. 

It is not unusual for people to find themselves in long-term relationships with covert narcissists only to be hurt by a sense of a lack of partnership or reciprocity in the relationship." DR. MELANIE CABRERA, PSY

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Covert+narcissists+&m=1

Yes, we can say this without any hesitation. Every behavior that is directed against the health of a person, that hinders the healthy functioning of the body and mind, is a repetition of once-endured mistreatment, neglect, confusion, lies, betrayal, perverted practices, and the exploitation of the child. Alice Miller