The journey to healing begins with creating a safe place

You can't heal in the same environment that traumatized you or made you sick. This is because these environments are unsafe and triggering, and your wounds won't heal if they're not given the space to breathe and regenerate.

You will likely continue to be hurt unless you break the cycle and remove yourself from the situation or environment where you were hurt. It's not an easy road to healing or emotional freedom, even when you remove yourself from the situation.

One of the most difficult experiences in life is that unless you break the cycle and remove yourself from a situation or environment where you have been hurt, you will most likely continue to be hurt.

Turning the page is extremely difficult because it implies understanding and accepting that letting go of someone means that while they may have been a part of your history, they do not have to be a part of your destiny. Murakami once said, "Pain is unavoidable, but suffering is optional." And the longer you stay in a situation where you are the one who is getting hurt, the more difficult it is to heal and the more you suffer.

So, as Sartre, the existentialist philosopher, put it, life isn't just what others do to you; it's what you do with what others do to you. And the sooner you realize this, the sooner you can start healing. It's difficult to heal where you got sick.

The journey to healing begins with creating a safe place.

Also, healing or emotional freedom is not possible without knowing your history and where you have been.

For true healing to happen, we must have conscious access to our own personal truth.

“We cannot really love if we are forbidden to know our truth, the truth about our parents and caregivers as well as about ourselves. We can only try to behave as if we were loving, but this hypocritical behavior is the opposite of love. It is confusing and deceptive, and it produces much helpless rage in the deceived person. This rage must be repressed in the presence of the pretended “love,” especially if one is dependent, as a child is, on the person who is masquerading in this illusion of love.” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 23

“It is precisely because a child’s feelings are so strong that they cannot be repressed without serious consequences. The stronger a prisoner is, the thicker the prison walls have to be, and unfortunately, these walls also impede or completely prevent later emotional growth. “Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self) Page 58

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