...Children who are lectured to, learn how to lecture; if they are admonished, they learn how to admonish; if scolded, they learn how to scold; if ridiculed, they learn how to ridicule; if humiliated, they learn how to humiliate; if their psyche is killed, they will learn how to kill--the only question is who will be killed: oneself, others, or both." -- Alice Miller
"If a person is especially gifted, they can use that gift to reinforce the refusal of the truth and keep it away from themselves and others. ...The reason why I believe resilience theory is dangerous is that it is liable to reduce rather than increase the number of Enlightened Witnesses. If innate resilience were enough to resolve the severe consequences of traumatization, the empathy of Enlightened Witnesses would be unnecessary. Indifference to child abuse is already widespread enough, there is certainly no need to reinforce it.." Alice Miller
Poisonous pedagogy is a phrase I use to refer to the kind of parenting and education aimed at breaking a child’s will and making that child into an obedient subject by means of overt or covert coercion, manipulation, and emotional blackmail.— Alice Miller, The Truth Will Set You Free
There is a good deal else that would not exist without “poisonous pedagogy.” It would be inconceivable, for example, for politicians mouthing empty cliches to attain the highest positions of power by democratic means. But since voters, who as children would normally have been capable of seeing through these cliches with the aid of their feelings, were specifically forbidden to do so in their early years, they lose this ability as adults. The capacity to experience the strong feelings of childhood and puberty (which are so often stifled by child-rearing methods, beatings, or even drugs) could provide the individual with an important means of orientation with which he or she could easily determine whether politicians are speaking from genuine experience or are merely parroting time-worn platitudes for the sake of manipulating voters. Our whole system of raising and educating children provides the power-hungry with a ready-made railway network they can use to reach the destination of their choice. They need only push the buttons that parents and educators have already installed.— Alice Miller, Thou Shalt Not Be Aware
Greene's work purports to be a historical analysis of power dynamics, but it reads more like a glorification of the most heinous acts in human history. Each chapter contains a "law" designed to help the reader achieve power, but in reality, they merely encourage ruthless ambition and the trampling of others. This book revels in the misery of others, showing no regard for ethics or the consequences of one's actions.
While Greene attempts to provide historical examples to justify his laws, the cherry-picking and manipulation of historical events only serve to distort the truth. He conveniently omits the countless instances where empathy, collaboration, and integrity have resulted in positive outcomes, instead choosing to focus on instances of treachery and manipulation. This selective interpretation of history reinforces a cynical and nihilistic perspective on human relationships.
Furthermore, "The 48 Laws of Power" lacks any meaningful moral compass. It advocates for the undermining of trust, the exploitation of vulnerabilities, and the pursuit of power at any cost. The book promotes a world where kindness and compassion are seen as weaknesses and encourages individuals to view their fellow human beings as mere pawns in a never-ending power struggle. It disregards the inherent value of human dignity and fosters an environment of paranoia and mistrust.
In addition to its reprehensible content, the writing style of this book is pretentious and overly verbose. Greene's prose is dense and convoluted, making it an arduous and laborious read. The constant barrage of historical anecdotes and obscure references only serves to obfuscate the lack of substance behind his arguments. The book seems to revel in its own perceived intellectual superiority, but in reality, it offers nothing more than a shallow and misguided perspective on power dynamics.
"The 48 Laws of Power" is a dangerous book that should be approached with extreme caution. Its toxic and manipulative principles undermine the very fabric of human relationships, corroding trust, and encouraging a relentless pursuit of power without regard for the well-being of others. It is an affront to morality, compassion, and genuine human connection. I strongly discourage anyone from wasting their time on this morally bankrupt and repugnant piece of literature."
Sometimes Reality can be a hard pill to swallow. But the truth is that Reality isn't the enemy. It can end up teaching us, guiding us and even saving us. Radical acceptance is a part of that reality where we accept the Narcissist for who or what they are and take the necessary steps to protect ourselves.
When it comes to Narcissists they prefer to choose their delusions over Reality because Reality offends them. Reality is hostile and threatens to destroy their Fantasy world. And they are not prepared to let go of the false stories they tell themselves. Reality = Truth and Narcissists Hate the Truth.
THE NARCISSIST'S RESISTANCE TO REALITY ISN'T ABOUT YOU- IT'S ABOUT THEIR FEAR OF WHAT THE TRUTH WILL REVEAL.
Covert Narcissists Say one thing and do another. They're big talkers that most of the time Never follow through. Big Red Flag
SOMETIMES IT'S IMPORTANT TO BE ALONE. IT GIVES YOU ROOM TO HEAL, GROW, AND REASSESS YOUR LIFE AND RELATIONSHIPS.
Resolve your childhood repression and you will no longer be attracted to them. "Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans [or malignant narcissists] of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were."
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