Wednesday, November 6, 2024

Repressed Unresolved Hatred is Very Dangerous

“We can disagree and still love each other unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist” - James Baldwin

Many people would rather shoot themselves in the foot and vote against themselves and vote for a demagogue than voting for a more qualified woman. 

Women are hated by both sexes, period. This is why it's hard to elect a woman for the highest office.

I have been the target of people's repressed hatred at their own mothers' or mothers' substitutes more times than I can count. 

Less qualified men demagogues win elections because they give their supporters the desperately needed scapegoats. 

Many people have mommy issues and are full of hatred. Their mothers are protected from their hatred, but they take revenge on all other women and other scapegoats.

They are driven by the dead hand of their own unresolved childhood repression to vote for demagogues.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/07/repressed-anger-is-very-dangerous.html?m=1

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/why-males-are-more-violent.html?m=1

“It is not true that evil, destructiveness,
and perversion inevitably form part of
human existence, no matter how often this
is maintained. But it is true that we are
daily producing more evil and, with it, an
ocean of suffering for millions that is
absolutely avoidable. When one day the
ignorance arising from childhood
repression is eliminated and humanity
has awakened, an end can be put to the
production of evil.”
— Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, p. 143

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/07/the-conversation-about-effects-of.html?m=1

"I designate as pessimistic the thought that we are far more dependent than our pride would like to admit on individual human beings (and not only on institutions!), for a single person can gain control over the masses if he learns to use to his own advantage the system under which they were raised. People who have been "pedagogically" manipulated as children are not aware as adults of all that can be done to them. Like the individual authoritarian father, leader figures, in whom the masses see their own father, actually embody the avenging child who needs the masses for his own purposes (of revenge). And this second form of dependence--the dependence of the "great leader" on his childhood, on the unpredictable nature of the unintegrated, enormous potential for hatred within him--is decidedly a very great danger." Taken from the book "For Own Good: Hidden cruelty in child-rearing and the roots of violence" by Alice Miller (page 243)

A Turkish proverb: When a clown moves into a palace, he doesn't become a king. The palace becomes a circus

Education alone is just another illusion. Resolving childhood repression is the only long-term solution for people to stop following blindly political leaders. And that is a lot more difficult!

"I wonder how the high colleges managed to produce so many high asses." Paracelsus

"A defenseless child that is tortured and at the same time forbidden to defend itself, to cry, to scream, to rage—to live. A child from whom only obedience and good behavior are expected. The only thing remaining to him, if he has talent, is to develop a dazzling intellect. Life escapes him daily. Abstract thought offers a chance of survival. In the meantime, the body seeks to express its terrible distress in other ways than tears and screams. It produces an endless catalogue of symptoms, in the hope that someone will finally sit up and take notice and perhaps ask the [question]: "What is causing you such distress?" (Alice Miller, on Nietzsche, from Breaking Down the Wall of Silence)

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/06/mad-scientists.html?m=1

As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence alone is not enough --- intelligence alone just helps create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. 

Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence pages 42 and 43: "Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." 

For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. 

Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believes his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

Having special talents is wonderful and it’s okay to cash in your talents for a living, but when people hide behind their talents, fame, and money to hide their own personal truth and keep themselves and others distracted from the truth and facts -- then you are misusing your talents -- and contributing for the lies to spread and silently or covertly you are part of all the violence and atrocities we are witnessing in our world. So if people think they are better than others, because they have special talents, they are being delusional.

"PITY THE NATION"

By Lawrence Ferlinghetti

Pity the nation whose people are sheep 
And whose shepherds mislead them 
Pity the nation whose leaders are liars 
Whose sages are silenced 
And whose bigots haunt the airwaves 
Pity the nation that raises not its voice 
Except to praise conquerers 
And acclaim the bully as hero 
And aims to rule the world 
By force and by torture 
Pity the nation that knows 
No other language but its own 
And no other culture but its own 
Pity the nation whose breath is money 
And sleeps the sleep of the too well fed 
Pity the nation oh pity the people who allow their rights to erode and their freedoms to be washed away 
My country, tears of thee 
Sweet land of liberty!

"Psychological abusers are attracted to what is going on within the person's life that is shiny, glamorous, or exciting, or successful, or dynamic, or vibrant," she told Business Insider. "That's what is attracting, kind of like a moth to a light, this kind of psychological perpetrators because they want to initially get something positive from that person."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2019/02/sociopaths-love-challenge.html?m=1




I wrote her two emails, one on her 40th birthday and another on her 41st birthday, but she never acknowledged them and ignored me. I understood she was too drunk on money to acknowledge my e-mails and now she is surprised our relationship ended. We grew apart that's all. Her priority is money and power and mine is being at peace and free. We are totally different people. 




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