Education alone doesn’t save people from the chains of compulsion repetition

Hi J, I am so sorry for your experience with this “professional” it’s very frustrating when the experts spread lies and the public believe them because they have a PhD after their name. Every time I hear spanking is good for children and not damaging, I just want to let out a big scream that is how much it upsets me when I hear this lie. I visited her site, but I just could not read her well-articulated pretty lies. I share your frustration, but we cannot force someone to open their eyes to see and feel if they don’t want to open their eyes to see and feel and my experience has taught me that the educated are usually the ones with their eyes closed and use their intellect and rationalizations to cement their eyes shut to hide the facts from themselves and others and as we know cement is very hard to soften, so is nothing we can do to help them see how destructive they are, but feel for the children they affect and hurt and only we can do is just keep on trying to warn others of the lies of these so called “experts or helpers” are spreading under the disguise of education and help. These words by Alice Miller come to mind, because education and intelligence alone does not save people, but it rather helps create very seductive pretty lies and the chains of repetition compulsion continues endless. This mother with a degree in psychology proves that when she became a mother have the compulsion to spank her baby boy just like once she was spanked when she was a defenseless little girl and her education did not save her. “Poisonous Pedagogy -- The pedagogical conviction that one must bring a child into line from the outset has its origin in the need to split off the disquieting parts of the inner self and project them onto an available object. The child’s great plasticity flexibility, defenselessness, and availability made it the ideal object for this projection. The enemy within can at last be hunted down on the outside. Peace advocates are becoming increasingly aware of the role played by these mechanisms, but until it is clearly recognized that they can be traced back to methods of child raising, little can be done to oppose them. For children who have grown up being assailed for qualities the parents hate in themselves can hardly wait to assign these qualities to someone else so they can once again regard themselves as good, “moral,” noble, and altruistic. Such projections can easily become part of any Weltanschauung. “Alice Miller

Also these words Alice wrote to one of her readers came to mind: “AM: Thank you so much for your brave and insightful statement. You are right, unwanted children are usually mistreated. But there exist as a rule also a huge amount of people who were "wanted" indeed, but only for playing the role of the victims that their parents needed to be able to take revenge on. They were wanted to give their parents what the parents never had gotten from their own parents: love, adoration, attention and so many other things. Otherwise, why would so many people have five or more children when they have no time for them? Why do they adopt children if their body refuses to give them what they apparently "want?”
The never acknowledged, never felt pain of their childhood calls for being avenged. They go to church, they pray, they honor their parents, forgive them everything – and they mistreat their children at home, often in a very cruel way, AS IF THIS WERE THE MOST NATURAL THING, because they learned this so early. Their children learn this perverted behavior, also very early, and will later do the same; and so this perverse behavior continues for millennia. Unless people are willing to SEE the perversion of their parents and are ready to consciously refuse to imitate it.
You are not being "sickeningly sarcastic," you only dared to speak out the truth that most people are afraid of seeing or talking about.”

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