Listening to Joe Navarro and reading his article below brought a person who was once close to me to mind. Only her and her mother's wounds count. Constantly keeping score. In constant competition to be the most of everything, the richest, the most prominent victim, the most perfect, etc. She continually compares how the wrongs done to her are much worse than those done to others. I'm so glad she is out of my life now; I have an ocean and a continent between us.
"What is a wound collector? In essence, these are individuals who go out of their way to collect social slights, historical grievances, injustices, unfair or disparate treatment, or wrongs—whether real or imagined (Dangerous Personalities, 2014 Rodale Publishing).
They don’t forgive or forget, and they don’t move on. They wallow in the actual or often perceived transgressions of others and they allow sentiments of animosity and vengeance to percolate and froth at the surface by their constant and attentive nurturing of those perceived wounds. As you can imagine, in an imperfect world where there are real injustices, where people make mistakes, and stupid things are said and done, the wound collector never has to go far to feel victimized.
Why do we call these “wounds” and not something else? Some have referred to these individuals as grievance or injustice collectors. These terms don’t do justice to the morbid pathology at work here any more than to call someone who suffers from bulimia or anorexia “food averse.” The illness that underpins the thinking and behavior of these individuals is psychological wounding." Read the whole article in the link below:
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