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Friday, February 28, 2025
Narcissists Want You Begging
Yep!
"What drives someone to beg for love from a person who seems incapable of giving it? To understand this complex dynamic, we need to dive deep into the murky waters of narcissistic personality disorder and the intricate web of manipulation that narcissists weave around their victims.
Narcissistic personality disorder isn’t just about being self-centered or vain. It’s a serious mental health condition characterized by an inflated sense of self-importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, and a lack of empathy for others.
But here’s the kicker:
Beneath that grandiose exterior often lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
The Narcissist’s Hunger: Control and Admiration
At the heart of narcissistic behavior is an insatiable hunger for control and admiration.
It’s like a bottomless pit that can never be filled, no matter how much praise or attention is thrown into it. This need for constant validation is what drives many of the manipulative tactics that narcissists employ in their relationships.
When someone begs a narcissist for love or attention, it’s like hitting the jackpot for the narcissist’s ego. It feeds directly into their sense of superiority and importance. After all, if someone is willing to plead and grovel for their affection, they must be pretty special, right?
This narcissistic, attention-seeking behavior creates a power dynamic that’s heavily skewed in the narcissist’s favor.
Imagine a seesaw where one person is always up in the air, while the other remains firmly planted on the ground. That’s what the relationship with a narcissist often feels like. They hold all the power, doling out affection and attention like a miser counting coins, while their partner is left scrambling to stay in their good graces.
But here’s the thing: this imbalance isn’t accidental. It’s a carefully crafted situation designed to keep the narcissist in control and their partner off-balance. By creating an environment where their partner feels the need to beg for love and attention, the narcissist ensures that they remain the center of the relationship universe.
The Puppet Master’s Toolkit: Tactics to Encourage Begging
So, how do narcissists create this toxic dynamic? They have a whole arsenal of manipulative tactics at their disposal, each designed to keep their partner in a state of emotional turmoil and dependency. Let’s take a closer look at some of these strategies:
1. The Silent Treatment and Emotional Withdrawal: This is the narcissist’s version of putting someone in the doghouse, but it’s far more sinister. By withdrawing emotionally or giving their partner the cold shoulder, they create a sense of panic and desperation. The victim is left wondering what they did wrong and how they can fix it, often resorting to begging for forgiveness or attention.
2. Intermittent Reinforcement and Trauma Bonding: This is like a twisted version of gambling. The narcissist will occasionally throw their partner a bone – a kind word, a moment of affection – just often enough to keep them hooked. This creates a powerful emotional bond, similar to the one between captor and hostage, that can be incredibly difficult to break.
3. Gaslighting and Manipulation of Reality: Ever feel like you’re going crazy in a relationship? That’s often the result of gaslighting, a tactic where the narcissist denies or distorts reality to make their partner doubt their own perceptions. This can leave the victim feeling confused and dependent on the narcissist for validation of their experiences.
4. Threats of Abandonment or Punishment: These can be subtle or overt, but they’re always designed to keep the partner in line. The fear of losing the relationship or facing the narcissist’s wrath can drive someone to beg for forgiveness or another chance, even when they’ve done nothing wrong."
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No, we don't own anything. It's all borrowed and temporary. We really live on borrowed time!
I have been saying this for a very long time. That's why I don't chase after money! I follow my heart! Follow your heart, and you will always have enough money to live. Follow the cash only, and you will never have enough. Money addiction is one of the most destructive addictions ever.
The words below were written to a narcissist who was once close to me and who went into a narcissistic rage because she didn't like me telling her that fighting over money is not worth it. She blocked me on social media and then unblocked me in the hope that I would chase after her. But I don't chase after people. I walk away, and I don't look back.
“I already know that! It's better to let go. I have learned that it's not worth fighting over money! At the end of our journey where we go, we can't take our money with us anyway! What we leave behind, someone else will get to use our money for good or bad, and we will not have a say in it by then!!! The reality is, as long your mother is alive, she's entitled to give her money to whomever she wants, and we don't have to like it! Unless she is declared mentally insane, she can do with her money whatever she wants...”
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