This blog is about learning to understand all of our feelings and learning to consciously face, feel and experience all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood.
Everything we become and happens to us is connected to childhood. Not every victim becomes an abuser, but every abuser was once a victim of abuse, these are facts, Violence is not genetic, it’s learned.
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Sunday, March 2, 2025
Abusive Relationship
Yep! That's what they do! But I don't fxcking care. I survived the smear campaign of her mother when I was a teenager and dependent! It sure will not have an effect on me NOW that I'm an autonomous, independent, conscious adult standing on my own two feet. Interesting! He is a Russian asset.
I try to guide people to develop the courage to face their fears and resolve their childhood repression. But many learned to repress their fears with their parents or childhood caregivers, and unconsciously and compulsively, as adults, they try to transfer those fears to others by making threats when people don't behave to their liking. That's what DT is doing!
"Those children who are beaten will, in turn, give beatings, those who are intimidated will be intimidating, those who are humiliated will impose humiliation, and those whose souls are murdered will murder.
...Children who are lectured to, learn how to lecture; if they are admonished, they learn how to admonish; if scolded, they learn how to scold; if ridiculed, they learn how to ridicule; if humiliated, they learn how to humiliate; if their psyche is killed, they will learn how to kill--the only question is who will be killed: oneself, others, or both." -- Alice Miller's above excerpt from Pedagogy Fills the Needs of Parents, Not of Children.
From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence by Alice Miller
Yes, once you give your power away, it is very hard to get it back.
What happens in families, happens in countries, and what happens in countries occurs in the stage of the world. Narcissism is an epidemic. People in power positions are a mirror of the people that support them,
Most people fear the most is not the darkness, but the light. In the darkness, they can carry on with all their dirty tricks.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that involves manipulating someone into questioning their own reality. It can happen in relationships, the workplace, or between public figures and the people they serve.
How it works
The abuser denies facts, situations, or the victim's feelings and needs
The abuser questions the victim's memory or perception of events
The abuser trivializes the victim's needs or feelings
The abuser pretends to have forgotten what happened
Effects
The victim may doubt their thoughts, memories, and behaviors
The victim may become emotionally frazzled and dependent on the abuser
The victim may become confused, anxious, isolated, and depressed
How to deal with it
Trust your instincts and feelings
Seek therapy, preferably from someone with a domestic violence background
Reach out to an advocate
Tips for recognizing gaslighting
Become familiar with examples of gaslighting
Learn how to look for the signs of gaslighting in a relationship.
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