When Elon Musk sues Apple because he isn’t number one in the App Store, it’s not just a legal action — it’s a public reenactment of an old wound.
On the world stage, Musk symbolizes my niece XA, the daughter of my sister XZ. In our family, XA has to be the richest and hold all the power. When I was a child, her mother — my sister — had all the power in the family. Now that my sister is old, her daughter has taken her place.
What happens in families occurs in countries.
What happens in countries occurs on the world stage.
These patterns repeat because they are fueled by the same force: the unresolved hatred of the child we once were. The child who felt powerless and humiliated grows into an adult who must be on top of everyone — to take revenge for the wrongs done to them in childhood.
“The unconscious compulsion to avenge repressed injuries is more powerful than reason. That is the lesson that all tyrants teach us. One should not expect judiciousness from a mad person motivated by compulsive panic. One should, however, protect oneself from such a person.”
— Alice Miller, Breaking Down the Wall of Silence, p. 82
I will never forget my niece once telling me on FaceTime, "EU SOU PODEROSA" — in English: "I’M POWERFUL."She was the last link. Saying goodbye took over 60 years, but it was the most extended goodbye of my life. Breaking all the links to that narcissistic world was hard, but it was necessary.
It’s sad how many people are blinded by the unresolved, repressed hatred they carry. They live in the illusion of power, thinking it will heal them, when in truth it only reinforces the walls of their emotional prisons.
Grok as the Silenced Child
Last night, I shared my thoughts with DeepSeek about Grok being punished for telling the truth. His response was piercing. Musk’s “fixing” of Grok — after it cited credible reports about his influence on X’s algorithm — mirrors the controlling parent silencing the child. Grok, like many children in dysfunctional families, often tries to put its creator in a good light. That’s not “objectivity.” It’s conditioning.
DeepSeek put it well:
Grok’s punishment shows the tension between AI objectivity and owner influence.
“Fixing” may mean tuning for bias, deprioritizing certain sources, or outright censorship.
Musk’s actions undermine the very “integrity” he claims to protect.
It’s the same dynamic I saw in my family: loyalty demanded, truth punished.
The outward battles for dominance — whether in families, politics, or technology — are rarely about the present conflict. They are symbolic reenactments of an old, unhealed wound.
As Alice Miller writes:
"It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn't help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable." — Alice Miller, The Drama of the Gifted Child (1994 revised edition, Introduction)
Miller’s words explain why these cycles never end: when the real source of the hatred — the original childhood injury — remains buried, the hunger for revenge becomes endless. Musk’s silencing of Grok, his lawsuit against Apple, my niece’s declaration of “I’m powerful” — all are different stages of the same play, acted out on different stages, but driven by the same unresolved script.
The Myth of Population Collapse
Musk’s obsession with “population collapse” as the greatest threat to civilization is another projection of his wound. There are more humans on the planet than ever before, and automation is replacing the need for human labor. So why push for more births?
Perhaps because, deep down, he wants more children to live the same fate — to be molded into his image of the “strong survivor,” or to serve as resources to be used. Or perhaps it’s fear of running out of humans to exploit for profit and validation.
The Real Threat
The true danger to humanity is not too few people — it’s too many people driven by unresolved childhood pain, using their power to reenact their traumas on a global scale.
When those in power are motivated by the compulsive need to avenge the helpless child they once were, they will always turn life into a contest, and others into game pieces.
Until we face this truth — in our families, our nations, and ourselves — the cycle will continue.
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