When Sam Altman said he couldn’t imagine raising a newborn without ChatGPT, it wasn’t an isolated remark. It fits into a much larger and deeply troubling pattern among powerful men in technology:
the outsourcing of human experience itself.
What we are witnessing is not innovation—it is avoidance.
Surrogacy: Separation Disguised as Progress
Surrogacy is often framed as compassion, choice, or technological advancement. But when examined honestly—especially through Alice Miller’s work—it reveals something else entirely: the normalization of separation at the beginning of life.
For a newborn, separation from the birth mother is not abstract. It is not symbolic. It is biological and emotional trauma, registered in the nervous system long before language exists.
Alice Miller taught us that early separations and unmet needs do not disappear. They become buried—and later reenacted.
Surrogacy allows emotionally distant adults to have children without confronting pregnancy, bodily vulnerability, or emotional dependency. It removes the messiness of connection and replaces it with contractual control.
That should alarm us.
Sam Altman, Surrogacy, and Control Without Vulnerability
Altman’s reliance on ChatGPT for reassurance, combined with his embrace of surrogacy, fits the same emotional architecture:
avoid bodily dependence
avoid maternal vulnerability
avoid unmanageable emotion
replace presence with systems
This is not malicious. It is defensive.
But defenses, when scaled globally, become dangerous.
Elon Musk: Fatherhood Without Presence
Elon Musk has fathered many children, often through surrogacy. He speaks openly about population collapse, efficiency, and genetics—but rarely about emotional attunement, care, or presence.
Children, in his worldview, appear more as outputs than relationships.
This is not strength.
It is emotional dissociation wrapped in intellect and ambition.
Alice Miller warned us:
“The repressed story continues to try, again and again, to be heard.”
When leaders do not hear their own inner child, they recreate their story externally, unconsciously, and compulsively—through power, reproduction, and control.
Artificial Intelligence as the Final Buffer
AI now enters the same psychological function:
It reassures without demanding reciprocity
It answers without needing empathy
It comforts without requiring closeness
For emotionally repressed leaders, this is irresistible.
Why risk being present when you can consult a system?
Why feel helpless when you can optimize?
Why sit with uncertainty when you can generate answers?
But parenthood is not an information problem.
Leadership is not a systems problem.
Humanity is not an engineering challenge.
Emotionally Repressed Leadership Always Produces Cruelty
Alice Miller showed this repeatedly:
Unfelt pain does not disappear.
It moves downward.
From leaders → institutions
From institutions → policies
From policies → the most vulnerable
This is how we arrive at:
torture disguised as “law and order”
children separated from parents at borders
And all of it justified with calm language, statistics, and technology.
Why This Matters Now
We are allowing emotionally unexamined people to design:
And we are surprised when their solutions feel cold, inhuman, and cruel.
But this outcome was always predictable.
As Alice Miller wrote:
“It seems easier to prepare wars than to expose oneself to one’s own painful truth.”
Today, it seems easier to build AI empires and outsource reproduction than to face childhood grief.
A Different Definition of Leadership
True leadership would look very different:
tolerating emotional discomfort
facing helplessness without numbing
allowing grief instead of optimizing it away
protecting children from separation, not systematizing it
Emotionally mature leaders do not flee vulnerability.
They do not engineer substitutes for love.
They do not confuse control with care.
Conclusion
Surrogacy, AI dependence, and emotionally distant leadership are not separate phenomena.
They are expressions of the same core wound:
the refusal to feel.
Until those in power confront their own emotional history, they will continue to recreate it—on the world stage, at enormous human cost.
Technology will not save us from this.
Only truth will.
And truth, as Alice Miller taught us, begins in childhood.
To be truly awake means resolving childhood repression and breaking free from the emotional prison of our past. This is why the gatekeepers target me—because I have broken free. Once we resolve childhood repression, we clearly see the wicked games the gatekeepers play. And once a mind is truly free, it can never be captured again.
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