The real world is not a safe place for a seeing and a feeling person. I have stated this before, and the fire I have walked through recently only confirms it: the modern workplace is a breeding ground for repression, projection, transference, and emotional violence. In today’s institutions, the people who effortlessly rise are rarely the most capable. Instead, they are the ones who have mastered the art of repression, denial, and blame-shifting to absolute perfection. They have buried their own feelings so deep that they no longer hear the screams of their own wounded child. And because they are entirely deaf to their own pain, they can step on others without a shred of guilt. They thrive in the corporate matrix because they have grown into full-blown sociopaths.
For the rare few who have done the brutal, liberating emotional work to free themselves from childhood repression, navigating these environments is like holding a double-edged sword. Emotional freedom makes you an instant target for malignant narcissists; your clarity acts as a mirror that reflects their deepest, unexamined imprisonment, and they will envy your freedom. However, that very same clarity is your ultimate armor.
Once a mind is truly free, it cannot be captured again. When you are no longer blinded by the repressed emotions of the child you once were, you see people’s patterns and predict their next moves long before they make them. You see the traps, and you refuse to step into the choreography.
The Mechanics of the Corporate Smear Campaign: DARVO
Recently, I became the target of two covert malignant narcissists in a group. The first was a charming, charismatic 26-year-old single mother; the second was a 22-year-old who replaced her. Both weaponized the exact same toxic playbook to try and get me fired: they made false reports, accusing me of the very behaviors and sabotages they themselves were committing.
This maneuver is a well-documented tactical phenomenon known as DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender), a concept pioneered by Dr. Jennifer J. Freyd. When a manipulator is exposed or fears losing control, they instinctively execute these three rigid steps to escape accountability:
Deny: They flatly refuse to accept responsibility or acknowledge reality, instantly deflecting blame.
Attack: They launch a vicious character assassination—a smear campaign—to ruin the reputation of the person speaking the truth, mobilizing "flying monkeys" to do their dirty work and destabilize the target.
Reverse Victim and Offender: They twist the narrative entirely, casting themselves as the fragile victims while painting the whistleblower as a malicious offender.
They weaponize projection. As Lucas Bean's recent psychological analysis perfectly articulated, every accusation is a confession. They accuse you first of what they are guilty of, so that when your evidence finally comes to light, your defense looks like mere retaliation to an emotionally blind audience.
The 26-year-old single mother who targeted me had a child at 17. One must ask the cold question: what kind of teenager thinks it is okay to bring a baby into this world, unless she subconsciously wants a human prop to exploit, hide behind, and use to manipulate others to fulfill her own unconscious needs? Her child's father is currently in prison. I have no doubt her psychological mind games helped put him there; he reacted blindly to her emotional abuse instead of walking away. Had he consciously felt his justified anger within the context of his own childhood—realizing she was merely a stand-in symbolizing a toxic caregiver from his past—he could have freed himself from ever falling into a malignant person's trap again.
Scapegoating: Voting for Your Own Destruction
The tragedy of the emotionally repressed is that they are entirely driven by forces they refuse to see. This young woman, surviving on food stamps and rental assistance, proudly voted for Donald Trump. When she told me she was voting for Trump. I responded: Really? But thought to myself: of course you are. Now, as his administration aggressively moves to gut the very social safety nets she depends on to survive, she is left blind to the reality of her choices.
Why do people consistently vote against their own self-interest? Because they are driven by a desperate, unresolved need to alleviate their childhood repression superficially. As I wrote many years ago in my post on Scapegoating, hatred can never be resolved by projecting it onto an external group. Trump won because he offered his followers the perfect, pre-packaged scapegoats—such as undocumented immigrants—to dump their repressed rage onto. They project their internal misery outward, blinded by the unresolved repressed hatred, completely unaware that the politicians they cheer for are dismantling the roofs over their heads.
The Ultimate Boundary: Standing in Evidence
The only way I survived these calculated attempts to destroy my livelihood was through radical emotional clarity and a simple, grounding strategy of protection:
Gather Cold Evidence: While they relied entirely on elaborate lies, gaslighting, and historical revisionism, I quietly collected texts, emails, and documentation.
Hold Strategic Silence: I refused to respond in anger. Anger is fuel for a narcissist and validates their false narrative to bystanders.
Present the Truth Once: I took the undeniable evidence to the people who matter, then I stopped.
As I shared with a reader years ago, we must never let others exploit our unresolved, repressed anger. If the people in power at a job are corrupt and refuse to look at objective evidence, it is an automatic sign to pack your bags and move on. You cannot force people to look at the evidence if they refuse to open their eyes.
Fortunately, those who mattered consisted of decent people who looked at the hard facts. Because my evidence and silence hallowed out their lies over time, their masks slipped, they fell directly into the traps they had set for me, and both of those malignant women are now gone.
The workplace remains the final arena where these predators can get close to me, and I look forward to retirement when I no longer have to be on the lookout. Until then, I stand fully in my freedom. Once you see the matrix of human repetition compulsion, you can never be tricked by the performance again. Autumn arrives with its own season, and truth never misses its harvest.
Yes, they don't want anyone to be more successful than they are. That's why they constantly target me; they live in fear of me becoming a best-selling author. But it is only a matter of time—even if it happens after I am gone.
No matter what happens, I am already far more successful than they will ever be, because I am emotionally free.
These words by Alice Miller, which I included in my book A Dance to Freedom, come to mind:
“It is only after it is liberated that the self begins to articulate, to grow, and to develop its creativity. Where there had been only fearful emptiness or equally frightening grandiose fantasies, an unexpected wealth of vitality is now discovered. This is not a homecoming, since this home has never before existed. It is the creatio
Once a person has grown into a full-blown malignant narcissist, they will never change. Get the f**k away from them.
Never react or argue with them—just walk away. Your reaction is exactly what they want, and it’s what gives them power. I have deep compassion for the wounded children they once were, but I have absolutely zero compassion for the monsters they have chosen to become as adults.
Yes, they want you to chase after them. The only person I ever chased in my life was my ex, for 10 long years, and I promised myself I would never do it again. Family or not, I don't care how charming, beautiful, or wealthy someone is—I am done chasing.
For 20 years, I waited patiently for a niece, hoping she would grow and find the courage to do her emotional work. The very first time I said "no" to her, she went full-blown nuclear and blocked me on all social media. A few months later, she unblocked me, fully expecting me to run after her. Instead, I blocked her right back. She will never be let back into my life. Once someone consciously chooses darkness over light, I’m done!
Her anger boiled down to the fact that I refused to join her in humiliating her aunt and cousin in a family Facebook group. She showed me she had zero respect for me. I no longer give second chances. Disrespect me once, and I am out forever. Life is just too short to waste on people who don't know how to respect you.
Exactly 💯
"If you want to know an amazing human being with supernatural levels of love, compassion, integrity, and fortitude...look no further than a survivor of Narcissistic Abuse. They have overcome obstacles that would destroy most, and are a living, breathing example that good does conquer evil." Jill Wise Narcissistic Abuse Recovery 622 Coaching
A disagreement with a toxic partner will turn into an argument, which turns into a bigger problem. A disagreement with a divine partner will turn into a conversation that will lead to changed behavior or a solution.
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