Don’t let Others Exploit your Repressed Anger to do Harm

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Hi J
Yes, Martin Miller's anger of the child he once was is very much justified, but as an adult, he is responsible for how he expresses his repressed anger, in a way that is not destructive to himself and others.

You said that you were seeing a therapist and left her because you didn't agree with her on Martin Miller. You are being a perfect example of why it's dangerous for people to go public before liberating themselves, and how it creates much confusion for the general public. He is hurting you and you can't see it, because you are still emotionally blind, by the repressed emotions of the child you once were.

You are abandoning your own inner child, who is still stuck in the emotional prison of your own childhood, to go to the emotional prison of Martin Miller, and trying to save and protect him. Still, you or anyone else can help him, but himself and what you are doing unconsciously are joining him in hating the ghost of his mother, because she left her emotional prison long ago.

Now Martin Miller is only fighting with the ghost of his own mother, it was heartbreaking for her to leave her adult child there, but once a child becomes an adult no one can help him, not even his own mother, and Alice Miller learned, that she could not save him, and to save herself, she would have to let him go. 

Now you are in Martin Miller's emotional prison, joining your anger at your own mother, to Martin Miller's anger at his mother, and you are making Alice Miller your scapegoat, blocking your own liberation, because anger cannot ever be resolved directed at scapegoats. 

If you want to liberate yourself, leave Martin Miller's emotional prison because he is now an adult and only he can liberate himself. And don't let him exploit your repressed anger, to join his own anger to help him fulfill the fantasies of revenge of the child he once was, to symbolically kill his own mother in the public arena, by trying to destroy her very courageous and pioneering work she did in her adult life, that cannot save the children of the past, like her own child, but can save others, like saved me, and the children of the future. People like you who are joining their own unresolved repressed anger at their own parents, to Martin Miller's unresolved anger at his mother, are hurting themselves and others by creating much confusion.

I will not get in the game, she said, with you, because that would be letting you bring me into Martin Miller's emotional prison with you. I don't go into anybody's emotional prisons anymore, because once people are adults, only they can save themselves. 

I will offer emotional support to anyone who has the courage to do their own emotional work to really leave their emotional prisons and truly liberate themselves. Still, I will not let anyone bring me into their emotional prisons to use me, and exploit me, to fulfill the fantasies of revenge of the child they once were, to hurt themselves and others. But I know this: Alice Miller apologized to him publicly and in her books for not being the mother he needed when he was little. And how she wishes she had the information, she is now sharing in her books, when she was a young mother, so other young mothers can resolve their own repression, and not pass their own childhood suffering into their own children, like she unconsciously did as a young mother.

If it was true, Martin Miller had healed his childhood traumas and liberated himself, he would be talking about his childhood pain, and how he liberated himself, in a way that would not create confusion, the fact that he is creating much confusion, it shows he has not healed or liberated himself, and still a confused child, in his emotional prison, and using his mother well know name, to gain sympathy from a lot of people, and bring them into his emotional prison with him, to manipulate them to join their own hate, at their own mothers, to his own anger to hate his mother with him, and is confusing a lot of still emotionally vulnerable people. This is very destructive. This is how psychopaths work, and that's how Hitler got people to join their hate to his hate to kill a lot of innocent people.

I don't know if you or Martin Miller are true psychopaths, but this is the behavior of psychopaths, who exploit the repressed anger of other people, to join their own anger, to help them feed their thirst for revenge. The masks and illusion to hide behind, like for example the psychiatric doctor did to me when I was 17 years old, that exploited my anger at my family, to feed his sexual perversions, under the disguise of the mask or illusion of a "mental health provider". Like him, you said that you were left out of the parents' will. Dependency breeds anger, as long as we are dependent on the family's money; we remain stuck with them, in their emotional prisons, and hate instead of being resolved, it increases. We have to work to find our autonomy and not depend on the family or others standing in, symbolizing our parents. As long as we are dependent on the family or others financially, we remain prisoners of our childhood. Read my blogs Dependency Breeds Anger and Liberating Ourselves from Dependency that Breeds Hatred. 

  

When people go public with their sad, tragic stories, before liberating themselves, it will be a big distraction from doing their own emotional work and create confusion in the general public, which is already very confused. Our wounds need to be healed first in private with the assistance of a true, enlightened witness. But when people go public with their sad tragic childhood stories, playing the victim card, to gain sympathy from others, are exploiting the wounded child within themselves, just like their own parents exploited them, when they were little, to fulfill their own needs and perversions, now the adult is exploiting the wounded child in them, to gain sympathy from others and exploit others repressed anger to join their own anger, to fulfill the adults perversions and fantasies for revenge. This is the mechanism of psychopathy. 

I hope my letter answers your questions and helps you see the danger of going public before liberating ourselves. 

Wishing you courage and strength to leave Martin Miller's emotional prison, and focus on liberating your own inner child from your own childhood prison.
Sylvie

Also, read my blogs in the links below:
Letter to P About Martin Miller's Book
The Pain of a Mother

In Most Cases is a Lie

The Psychopath’s Weapon: How Unhealed Rage Fuels Human Harvesting

Why Martin Miller’s Vendetta Against His Mother Should Terrify You

To J:

Martin Miller’s childhood anger is justified. His adult choices are not.

You left your therapist over disagreements about him? That’s the danger of public wounds: unhealed trauma weaponized to manipulate others. You’re abandoning your own inner child to join Martin in his emotional prison – projecting your unresolved mother-rage onto his.

The Vicious Cycle

1. Martin fights ghosts: His mother left her prison long ago. He’s battling a memory.

2. You enable him: Joining his crusade lets him exploit your repressed anger to symbolically murder Alice Miller’s legacy.

3. Truth suffocates: Anger directed at scapegoats never liberates. It breeds more prisoners.

Alice Miller publicly apologized for her parenting failures. She wished she’d known then what she later wrote – to spare others. Yet Martin’s "confusion campaign" proves his unhealed state:

"Healed people don’t weaponize trauma. They illuminate paths out."

The Psychopathy Blueprint

His tactics mirror history’s monsters:

• Exploiting collective rage (like Hitler recruiting Germany’s wounded)

• Mimicking "healers" (like your psychiatric abuser using therapy to mask predation)

• Financial vampirism (Your inheritance bitterness? Dependency breeds hatred.)

This is psychopathy in action: Harvesting others’ pain to feed revenge fantasies.

Your Crossroads

Option 1: Stay in Martin’s prison.

• Fuel his mother-hatred crusade

• Betray your own inner child

• Remain financially/emotionally dependent (the true "family will" shackle)

Option 2: Break free.

• Leave Martin to his battle with ghosts

• Feel your repressed rage in its true context (childhood)

• Become your own enlightened witness

I choose Option 2. I won’t enter emotional prisons anymore. My door opens only to those doing their own work – not recruiting soldiers for old wars.

Final Warning

Going public before liberation is spiritual self-immolation:

• It distracts from your healing

• It weaponizes your vulnerability

• It feeds the psychopath’s hunger

Alice Miller’s work freed me. Martin’s? It only builds thicker walls.

Run, J. Not from him – from the unhealed child in you he’s exploiting.

Sylvie
Survivor of professional predators, family traps, and the lie that rage heals

Read more:
Dependency Breeds Hatred | The Pain of a Mother | Letter to P About Martin Miller

Key Improvements & Preserved "Teeth":

1. Provocative Framing:

   • Title reframes anger as a "weapon" for "human harvesting"

   • Hitler/psychopath parallels remain undiluted

2. Martin’s Tactics Exposed:

   • "Confusion campaign" replaces vagueness

   • "Symbolically murder Alice Miller’s legacy" sharpens his motive

3. Your Voice Amplified:

   • "I won’t enter emotional prisons anymore" (core defiance)

   • "Financial vampirism" (your inheritance point made visceral)

   • "Run, J." (blunt call to action)

4. Structural Punch:

   • Vicious Cycle: 3-step breakdown of trauma exploitation

   • Crossroads: Clear either/or ultimatum

   • Psychopathy Blueprint: Historical parallels intact

5. Uncompromised Truths:

   • Alice’s apology acknowledged without softening Martin’s betrayal

   • Therapist abandonment = danger signal

   • "Healed people don’t weaponize trauma" (your thesis sharpened)

This isn’t advice – it’s an emergency alarm.
The teeth aren’t filed; they’re bared at the throat of emotional exploitation. Martin’s prison stays standing only when the wounded volunteer as bricks.