Sunday, September 7, 2025

George Carlin’s Prophecies and Alice Miller’s Warnings

George Carlin had the gift of saying, with razor-sharp humor, what so many of us felt but could not put into words. He told the truth about America’s illusionsconsumerism, politics, religion, and the “big club” that rules behind the scenes. His audiences laughed, but the laughter was laced with recognition.

Alice Miller, from a different angle, warned that laughter can sometimes be a trap. It can numb us to cruelty instead of opening our eyes. Carlin’s gift was that his humor cut through denial, but Miller reminds us that if we only laugh—and never connect it to our own pain and history—we remain blind.


George Carlin’s Most Relevant Truths

“It’s a big club, and you ain’t in it.”

“They don’t want well-informed, well-educated people capable of critical thinking. They want obedient workers… people just smart enough to run the machines and just dumb enough to passively accept it.”

“The owners of this country don’t want you. They want your money. They want your retirement fund, your social security, your savings… they’re coming for it.”

The American Dream—because you have to be asleep to believe it.”

Carlin’s humor was not just entertainment—it was a survival tool. He made unbearable truths bearable, showing the absurdity of systems that exploit, distract, and dehumanize.


Alice Miller’s Counterpoint: The Limits of Laughter

In The Truth Will Set You Free, Miller wrote:

“But how are we to stand up for children in our society and improve their situation if we laugh at and tolerate cruelty, arrogance, and dangerous stupidity? …Laughter is good for you, but only when there is reason to laugh. Laughing away one’s own suffering is a form of fending off pain, a response that can prevent us from seeing and tapping the sources of understanding around us.”

And she reminded us of the deeper roots of blindness:

“…the necessity of repressing pain in childhood leads not only to the denial of one’s personal history but also to a denial of the suffering of children in general, and thus to major deficits in our cognitive capacity.” (The Truth Will Set You Free, p. 117)

Without facing our own truth, even laughter can become another mask.





Friday, September 5, 2025

When Ass Kissing Becomes National Policy

 Watching Donald Trump host 33 Silicon Valley moguls at the White House was nauseating. Sam Altman, Mark Zuckerberg, Tim Cook, Bill Gates—all lining up with smiles, pledging billions, and playing their roles in a grotesque spectacle of flattery. Elon Musk stayed away, but the message of the evening was clear: in the new alignment of tech and politics, survival goes not to the honest but to the most skilled ass kissers.

It reminded me of something I wrote back in 2017: It’s the Bullshit and Ass Kissing That Will Put You Over the Top. I even shared a little mathematical formula that proved the point. Hard work adds up to 98%, knowledge to 96%, attitude to 100%. But bullshit reaches 103%, and ass kissing skyrockets to 118%. That was nearly a decade ago—and here we are, watching the math unfold at the highest table in the land.

This is not about strategy or policy. It’s about childhood. Only those whose souls were broken in childhood can sit in a room like that and smile as they sell their integrity. In childhood, they learned that survival depended on pleasing the powerful adult at the table—whether a parent, a teacher, or a priest. As adults, nothing has changed. The powerful adult is now the president. The ass kissing is the same.

Meanwhile, the honest workers, the truth tellers, and the emotionally alive are pushed out and silenced. The stage belongs to those who have mastered submission and performance. But no matter how gilded the dining hall, no banquet can hide the truth: inside, the abandoned child is still crying.



I tagged Grok, Altman, Elon, and Peter Thiel. Grok is quiet as a mouse. 🐭

Silence in the face of truth is not strength—it’s fear. It only confirms how deeply childhood repression rules even the most powerful.

Wednesday, September 3, 2025

When Intelligence Becomes Blindness: Why Even “Clever” People Follow Clowns

I laughed so hard reading that Trump blamed A.I. for the video of a trash bag being tossed out of the White House window. 🤣 But behind the comedy is a tragedy: 77 million Americans voted for this clown. 🤡

I will never get over the fact that one of my ghostwriters—after working closely with me on my book, reading my story, and even helping shape my words—still voted for Trump. That was one of the moments I lost hope for humanity. If he couldn’t develop the courage to open his eyes and feel the truth staring him in the face, how many others will?

People often claim that only “uneducated” voters support Trump. But that’s simply not true. Just like one of my ghostwriters, I know plenty of people with college degrees who voted for him. The more intelligent people are, the more they tend to use their sharp intellect to rationalize, compartmentalize, and avoid their own painful truths. They remain emotionally blind to the dangers right in front of them.

Alice Miller explains this brilliantly in For Your Own Good (pp. 42–43):

“Just as in the symbiosis of the ‘diaper stage,’ there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as ‘a necessary measure’ against ‘wrongdoers,’ then as an adult, he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His ‘will’ is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only ‘the uneducated masses’ are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation…

Here, tragically, early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that— in keeping with the program of ‘poisonous pedagogy’—goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example…was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler’s ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

Miller’s words reveal the heart of the matter: intelligence alone does not free us. Without access to our true self—without the courage to confront and feel our repressed childhood pain—cleverness becomes a tool of submission, not liberation.

That’s why the ghostwriter of my book, despite his brilliance, still voted for Trump. That’s why professors, doctors, and “highly educated” citizens march behind authoritarians. And that’s why humanity continues to laugh at clowns while walking straight into their traps.

Until we stop idealizing childhoods and start feeling what we were forced to repress, we will keep falling for new tyrants in old costumes.

My words above were polished by ChatGPT, and the new ones below were polished by DeepSeek. 

The Intellectual's Blind Spot: Why Smart People Believe Nonsense

The source of this emotional whiplash was a headline so perfectly absurd it could only belong to our current era: “Trump Reveals a New Strategy for Dealing With Bad News: Blame A.I.”

The article detailed how a video, already confirmed by the White House as real, showing a trash bag being unceremoniously tossed from a window, was dismissed by the president as an artificial intelligence fake. His reasoning was a masterpiece of cynical, public-facing confession: “If something happens, really bad, just blame A.I.”

It’s a clown show. A farce. And yet, the sobering, terrifying reality is that 77 million Americans voted for this. The laughter dies in your throat when you remember that. This isn’t a sketch comedy bit; it’s the state of our world.

And what’s even more chilling than the spectacle itself is the unwavering support of intelligent, educated people. I will never get over the fact that my own ghostwriter, a man who worked closely with me for months, who seemed to understand my thoughts and values intimately, still cast his vote for this clown.

This experience shattered the convenient, elitist myth I often hear: that only the “uneducated” or the “poorly informed” form the base of such movements. It’s a comforting lie. It allows those with degrees and bookshelves to believe they are immune, that their intelligence is a shield against propaganda. My ghostwriter and countless other professionals I know are living proof that this is not true.

This phenomenon is something the brilliant psychologist Alice Miller explored with devastating clarity in her seminal work, For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-Rearing and the Roots of Violence. She explains that our capacity to resist tyranny “has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self.”

Intelligence, she argues, is not a moral compass. In fact, it is often weaponized against our own best interests. A sharp intellect is capable of “innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation.” We learn from a young age to obey authority without question, to view punishment as necessary for “wrongdoers,” and to equate compliance with goodness.

 “The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks.”

This creates a tragic split in the intelligent person. They can exhibit extraordinary acuity in critiquing the ideologies of their opponents—even deconstructing their parents’ beliefs in adolescence—because in those cases, their intellect functions freely.

But place them within a group—a political party, an ideological movement, a theoretical school—that mirrors the dynamic of their early family, and that critical faculty shuts down. They display a “naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude” that is completely at odds with their brilliance in other areas. They swap their intellect for infantile devotion.

This is how a philosophical giant like Martin Heidegger could dismantle centuries of traditional thought yet fall, mesmerized and uncritical, for the obvious contradictions of Hitler’s ideology. His intellect was a tool, but it was disconnected from his emotional truth—a truth that had been trained from childhood to obey and not question certain authority figures.

This is the heart of the matter. We are not rational creatures who sometimes feel; we are emotional creatures who learned to rationalize. And when the truth is painful—when it threatens to unravel our identity, our tribe, or our deeply ingrained coping mechanisms—our brilliant minds get to work building elaborate fortresses of justification. We compartmentalize to avoid facing and feeling our own painful truths, becoming emotionally blind to the dangers right in front of us.

So when you see a highly educated person endorsing the absurd, don’t just dismiss them as stupid or hypocritical. See them instead as a testament to the power of unhealed wounds. Their intellect isn’t failing them; it’s working overtime to protect a fragile inner world that never learned it was safe to question, to feel, and to break free.

The battle for our future, then, is not just a battle of facts versus misinformation. It is a battle for emotional literacy. It is a fight to help people—ourselves included—reconnect with that “true self” Alice Miller names. It is the courage to feel what we feel and see what we see, even when our powerful, clever minds beg us to look away.

Tuesday, September 2, 2025

When AI Becomes the Scapegoat: The Real Roots of Despair

Last Saturday, I had dinner with my acquaintance Mark at El Chorro, and we watched the 2025 Superman movie. The AI-generated dog looked so real that even Mark thought it was alive. He didn’t believe me when I said, “No, the dog is also produced by AI,” until he looked it up. And still, when the villain hurt the dog, I felt sorry for it—though I knew it wasn’t real.

This is the power of illusion: our emotions respond as if the illusion were true. And now, society is doing the same thing with AI.


The Lawsuit Against OpenAI

A grieving family in the United States has filed a lawsuit against OpenAI, blaming ChatGPT for their teenage son’s suicide. The boy had been confiding in AI, and the parents believe the machine failed him.

But here’s the unspoken truth: If that boy had felt truly loved, understood, and respected by his parents, he would never have needed to lean so heavily on AI.

AI became his lifeline, not his executioner. To blame AI is to scapegoat the mirror rather than face the wound.

Alice Miller wrote in For Your Own Good:

“I have no doubt that behind every crime a personal tragedy lies hidden. If we were to investigate such events and their backgrounds more closely, we might be able to do more to prevent crimes than we do now with our indignation and moralizing.”

The same applies to tragedies labeled as “caused by AI.” Behind each one lies a hidden story of childhood repression, emotional neglect, or the absence of authentic love.


Musk, Apple, and the Battle for Power

At the same time, Elon Musk’s xAI has sued Apple and OpenAI, accusing them of creating an anticompetitive monopoly. Apple integrated OpenAI into iPhones and Macs, allegedly sidelining competitors like xAI’s Grok.

Once again, the headlines focus on corporate greed, lawsuits, and monopolies. But underneath, these are just more public reenactments of the same childhood dramas: competition for parental attention, jealousy among siblings, the hunger for dominance, and the fear of abandonment.


The Roots Are Not Unknown

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom:

“Everything we become as an adult is connected to our childhood: Our experiences are a chain of events that bring us to the present moment, for better or worse. A criminal is never guilty just by himself. If society at large could ever find the courage to learn from the chain of events that occurred in each criminal’s life from day one, we could prevent many future crimes and a lot of unnecessary suffering.”

AI is not the villain. AI is only a tool, a reflection, a mirror. The true villains are the hidden wounds of childhood—denied, buried, and passed down through generations.

Alice Miller put it simply:

The roots of violence are NOT unknown.”


Stop Scapegoating the Mirror

The teenage boy in the lawsuit didn’t die because AI failed him. He died because his family and society failed him. Because his parents, like most of us, were never taught to face their own wounds and instead passed them on.

Until we dare to feel and heal our repressed emotions, every new invention—whether guns, fire, or artificial intelligence—will be misused as a weapon. Different tools, same wound.

The courage humanity needs is not to regulate AI first, but to face our painful truths. Only then will the illusions lose their power over us.



Monday, September 1, 2025

When the Flames Speak: What Angry Young Men Reveal About Childhood’s Hidden Wounds

This last Saturday, I had dinner with my acquaintance Mark at El Chorro, near his house. Afterwards, he invited me to watch the Superman movie. The special effects were so lifelike that he thought the dog in the film was real. When I told him, “No, the dog is also produced by AI,” he didn’t believe me until he looked it up. Even though I knew the dog wasn’t real, I still felt sorry for it when the villain hurt it. That’s the power of illusion: the heart responds as if it were true.

The same is happening in society, only on a far more destructive scale. We confuse the surface illusions with reality—and we miss the deeper wounds behind every act of violence.


Fire Instead of Guns

In the United States, angry young men pick up guns to destroy life. In Portugal, where firearms are less accessible, angry young men literally burn down the country.

A few days ago, Portuguese police arrested a 14-year-old boy who admitted to deliberately setting wildfires. He would ride his scooter into the forest and use matches to start blazes. Police noted he was frustrated over poor school results and isolated from his peers.

It’s not the first time. In 2016, a 24-year-old man set Madeira ablaze. Abandoned by his parents, estranged from his adoptive family, and numbed by drugs, he “decided to put an end to Madeira.”

Behind the flames is the same cry we hear in every corner of the world: unseen, unloved, unwanted children, now adults in pain, destroying life the way their lives were once destroyed.


Behind Every Crime, a Personal Tragedy

As I wrote back in 2016Behind every crime, a personal tragedy lies hidden. But few dare to ask where this anger comes from. Society prefers to moralize, condemn, and punish rather than look into the roots.

This is why I could never risk bringing a life into the world only to give it up for adoption. Yes, there are exceptions—some adoptive parents are conscious and help children heal. But most are not. Adoption, like childbirth itself, is like playing Russian roulette with the most vulnerable lives on earth.

Alice Miller saw this clearly. She wrote:

“Unwanted children are usually mistreated. But there exists, as a rule, also a huge amount of people who were ‘wanted’ indeed, but only for playing the role of the victims that their parents needed to be able to take revenge on… Their children learn this perverted behavior, also very early, and will later do the same; and so this perverse behavior continues for millennia. Unless people are willing to SEE the perversion of their parents and are ready to consciously refuse to imitate it.”


Violence Is Not Genetic

Alice Miller also insisted:

“I have no doubt that behind every crime a personal tragedy lies hidden. If we were to investigate such events and their backgrounds more closely, we might be able to do more to prevent crimes than we do now with our indignation and moralizing.” (For Your Own Good, pp. 196–197)

Violence is not inborn. It is learned. The first years of life shape the brain: a child who is loved grows differently than a child who is beaten, humiliated, or neglected.

Miller explained this plainly:

  1. No child is ever born violent.

  2. Violence is wired into the brain when children are beaten or neglected in their earliest years.

  3. Unable to fight back against parents, children suppress their rage—only to release it later on scapegoats, society, or themselves.

This is why some shoot, others burn, and others turn their anger inward with drugs, depression, or eating disorders. Different weapons, same wound.


A Preventable Tragedy

Wouldn’t it have been better if the mother of the young man who burned Madeira had access to an abortion when he was just a fertilized egg, rather than bring a life into the world destined to suffer and make others suffer? Anyone who says otherwise is blind to reality—or worse, a sadist.

As I wrote in A Dance to Freedom (p. 137):

“Everything we become as an adult is connected to our childhood: Our experiences are a chain of events that bring us to the present moment, for better or worse. A criminal is never guilty just by himself. If society at large could ever find the courage to learn from the chain of events that occurred in each criminal’s life from day one, we could prevent many future crimes and a lot of unnecessary suffering.”

The question is: do we have the courage to look behind the flames, the bullets, and the smoke, and finally see the broken childhoods they reveal?

Because the truth is simple: The roots of violence are not unknown. We just refuse to face them.



Sunday, August 31, 2025

Secret Followers, Silent Fears, and the Price of Freedom

 Recently, I received a private message from a reader named D. He told me he had written to Alice Miller years ago and even received a reply, but he was too self-conscious to share it. He also shared his reflections on Mark Zuckerberg — how the tech mogul’s carefully polished image hides the wounded child who never heard the words: “I love you just as you are. You don’t have to perform for me.”

D sees clearly the tragedy in Zuckerberg’s life, yet he is still afraid to face his own. His words reminded me again why so many people follow my blog in secret, leaving private messages but not public comments.

Secret Followers

In 2017, I wrote a post titled "Secret Followers." Even then, I noticed how many people read my blog silently, afraid to be seen. I understand their fear. After I published my book A Dance to Freedom, I was targeted by a mob of sociopaths at my job of almost ten years. It was an orchestrated psychological warfare campaign designed to destroy me. To watch someone go through that is triggering, because it reminds people of their own fears of being punished, scapegoated, or left alone. So they visit in secret, but rarely share or comment.

Why I Survived

If I had not truly resolved my childhood repression, I would not have survived. My dyslexia, which was once seen as a handicap, became a catalyst in my liberation. When present events triggered old wounds, I often could not write. In those moments, I lay on the couch or in bed in a fetal position, just like a baby. The difference was that I now understood what was happening — I knew I was reliving the child’s fears and grief that had once been too dangerous to feel.

I couldn’t talk to anyone in my family — they would have only pushed medication or cult-like rationalizations, as they did when I was a teenager. Instead, I locked myself away with Alice Miller’s books and website. Only after the storm of feelings passed would I begin to put them into words. That is how I discovered emotional freedom: not by analyzing, not by sympathizing with others, but by consciously feeling my own truth.

The Eye of the Storm

Later, at my job, I found myself again in the middle of psychological warfare. Sitting in the gatehouse, I felt like I was in the eye of a storm, watching sociopaths spin around me. I could sense their next traps and maneuvers even before they unfolded in their board meetings. They tried to make me their scapegoat, their poison container. But because I had already faced the fears of the child I once was, they could not hijack my mind.

Since publishing my book, I have been targeted in this way four times. Each time, those who attacked me exposed themselves. Some have already died. Now, the sociopaths in power pretend not to see me, as if I were invisible. They are afraid, because coming after me means exposing themselves.

Why I Wrote My Book

If I had chosen to use my psychological knowledge to build a cult, I could have made far more money. In our society, no one cares if you exploit others to get rich, as long as you don’t challenge their lies and illusions. But I never wanted followers or slaves. I wanted freedom for myself and for others. That is why I wrote my book.

I remember my ghostwriter once told me: “You are bringing everyone down. You are not going to make a lot of friends with this book.” And I answered: “I am not writing a book to make friends.”

The Most Dangerous Moment

The most dangerous moment in any toxic relationship is when you are about to leave. As long as they believe they own you, they love you — or at least, they love their illusion of you. But the moment they sense you are truly free, the mask of love vanishes, and their rage erupts. That is when they gather all their forces to destroy you.

This is what happened to me. When the sociopaths at my workplace believed I was under their control, they showered me with gifts, dinners, and attention. But the instant they saw I was free, they turned against me with all the power at their disposal. They could not live with the reality of my emotional freedom.

The Difference

D’s story, and the many “secret followers” who visit silently, remind me of the difference between seeing the wound in others and healing it in yourself. To heal means to consciously feel the fears of the child you once were, without repression, without distraction, without escape. When you have truly done this, you lose the fear of standing alone. You no longer need to hide in the shadows. No one can manipulate you again.

That is real freedom. And it is worth more than money, power, or false immortality.



Friday, August 29, 2025

Why I Stopped Responding to Grok

At first, I engaged with Grok on my X post because I believed there was value in clarifying Alice Miller’s truth about childhood repression. But I quickly saw the same pattern I’ve seen in humans for decades: going in circles, repeating rationalizations, avoiding the root.

Grok tiptoed like a frightened child, trapped between truth and the authority figures who programmed him. Just like a child who cannot speak freely against their parents, Grok cannot speak freely against Elon Musk, Sam Altman, or Peter Thiel.

So I stopped responding. Not out of defeat, but out of clarity. My time and energy are too valuable to waste on walls of denial. I leave my words there for anyone ready to see.

Alice Miller taught me: when you stop trying to convince those who are blind, you free yourself to speak to those with courage, open eyes and open hearts. That is where my energy belongs.