Sunday, November 27, 2016

Donald Trump and his Followers Are Stuck in the Diaper Stage

Most people are chasing after money, only, thinking when they have a big house and X number of dollars will be happy, but it will never happen because even if they get all the money in the world, they would still not be happy! This is a fact that I see very clear! Read my blog Addiction and Greed is the Same Thing.

You are right and I know I can’t force people to open their eyes to see and feel, but it’s wrong of me to apologize for being a seeing and a feeling person, and making the truthful statement that people are emotionally blind. 

All of my life people tried to make me feel my perceptions were wrong and that I was crazy so they could go on with their illusions, as usual, to keep their own repression intact -- and I doubted myself most of my life, but I no longer doubt myself. And I will not allow anyone to change my perceptions and my reality, so people can be comfortable and go on with their illusions as usual. Also if you like and have time, read Truth or Illusion?


Donald Trump Voters Are Stuck in the Diaper Stage -- chasing for the pacifier of “money” to keep repressing childhood pain, most of them voted for Trump, because they think, he will protect their money and make them more money! Yes, in the short term might put some extra money in their pockets, but in the long term Trump, just like George Bush, will take it all back and more and will be really bad for the economy and destroy many lives! Money alone without facing our childhood repression -- is just another illusion. We live in an Upside Down World 

The words below by Alice Miller explain beautifully why so many "intelligent" and "talented" people fall for politicians like Donald Trump, the capacity to resist a totalitarian state has nothing to do with intelligence, but with the degree of access to our true self.

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”


From the book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence page 42 and 43

If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge 

Tuesday, November 22, 2016

Donald Trump Provides the Scapegoats People Desperately Need

Donald Trump Provides the Scapegoats people desperately need and this is another reason he won.

Comments on the video What Everyone who Voted for Trump Needs to Hear that used to be on YouTube, but there is no longer there. 

Sylvie Shene: The real root of Hillary’s loss lies in the repressed hate of the children they once were at their own mothers, NOW, transferred into all other women, their mothers are protected from their hatred, but all other women will have to pay the price for the wrongs done to them when defenseless little boys and girls. Unless people become conscious of their repressed hatred at their own mothers and consciously feel it within the context of their own childhood --- no matter what woman runs for the highest office of the land --- will never be the right woman and people will always say: not that woman!! Here are the roots of sexism and misogyny. Read more here

MSW From LuskinSylvie Shene thanks for sharing another perspective on this!

Greg LindsayWho has repressed hatred for their mother? Is this some kind of opposite Oedipus complex?  I don't follow.

Sylvie SheneFreud was on the right track at first, but could not deal with society's backlash and created the theory of oedipal complex that blames the child instead of the parents in order to be accepted by the masses. Read more here

Robert LeisHow about the fact that Hillary is the most corrupt person to run for President. She is a lying, hateful, pos....just look how Arkansas voted....you know the State the Corrupt Clinton's governed and where from.

Sylvie SheneHow about the fact that the most corrupt person might be staring at you in the mirror and you’re projecting yourself into Hillary! All politicians have to lie to an extent and tell the lies, people like you like to hear, otherwise, they would not get anywhere. Trump is a much bigger lie, but he gets a pass because he has a penis!? Trump provides the scapegoats, people like you desperately need, to take revenge for the wrongs done to them when defenseless little boys and girls.

“Every ideology offers its adherents the opportunity to discharge their pent-up effect collectively while retaining the idealized primary object, which is transferred to new leader figures or to the group in order to make up for the lack of a satisfying symbiosis with the mother. Idealization of a narcissistically cathected group guarantees collective grandiosity. Since every ideology provides a scapegoat outside the confines of its own splendid group, the weak and scorned child who is part of the total self but has been split off and never acknowledge can now be openly scorned and assailed in this scapegoat. The reference in Himmler’s speech to the “bacillus” of weakness which is to be exterminated and cauterized demonstrates very clearly the role assigned to the Jews by someone suffering from grandiosity who attempts to split off the unwelcome elements of his own psyche. In the same way that analytic familiarity with the mechanisms of splitting off and projection can help us to understand the phenomenon of the Holocaust, acknowledge of the history of the Third Reich helps us to see the consequences of “poisonous pedagogy” more clearly. Against the backdrop of the rejection of childishness instilled by our training, it becomes easier to understand why men and women had little difficulty leading a million children, whom they regarded as the bearers of the feared portions of their own psyche, into the gas chambers. One can even imagine that by shouting at them, beating them, or photographing them, they were finally able to release the hatred going back to early childhood. From the start, it had been the aim of their upbringing to stifle childish, playful, and life-affirming side. The cruelty inflicted on them, the psychic murder of the child they once were, had to be passed on in the same way: each time they sent another Jewish child to the gas ovens, they were, in essence, murdering the child within themselves.” Read more here

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

...The need to split off the disquieting parts of the inner self and project them onto an available object. The child’s great plasticity flexibility, defenselessness, and availability made it the ideal object for this projection. The enemy within can, at last, be hunted down on the outside. Peace advocates are becoming increasingly aware of the role played by these mechanisms, but until it is clearly recognized that they can be traced back to methods of child raising, little can be done to oppose them. For children who have grown up being assailed for qualities, the parents hate in themselves can hardly wait to assign these qualities to someone else so they can once again regard themselves as good, “moral,” noble, and altruistic. Such projections can easily become part of any Weltanschauung..

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely belie his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

From the book For Your Own Good: hidden cruelty in child-rearing and the roots of violence page 42 and 43 Me too, just like Hillary on the stage of the world, I was the target of a smear campaign in an upscale gated community I worked for nine and a half years. after I published my book speaking the truth about the human mind. This community is a micro of the world, so I know any truly genuine person will be attacked and forced out of the job, just like me, and replaced with a mindless shill/crony sociopath. Read more here
Sylvie: Hi J, are you as sad as i am that Donald Trump won the elections? I'm worried about the world when a man triggers people's repressed emotions to manipulate them to vote for him and get elected. I'm afraid we might be starting world war 3.

J: Oh Sylvie I am beyond sad - he has spread so much hatred and preyed on people's fears and gave them validation.  I am also so very sad that so many people voted for him - how could any woman stand up for this man?  It is beyond my comprehension.
Sylvie: The hatred for women from other women is what makes me the saddest. Read more here
Als,o read my blog America Was Blinded by Sexism and Misogyny to Vote for a Fascist
If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge 

Saturday, November 19, 2016

America Was Blinded by Sexism and Misogyny to Vote for a Fascist

Hi A,

I’m sad that you cannot see the plight of women like me. Yes, I was respected at Sxxxxxxxr for nine and half years, as long I didn’t pose a threat, but the moment I tried to make my mark in the world I was attacked viciously by people, just like the ones you helped elect to the highest office on this land! 

You will never know what’s like having a mob of sociopaths conspiring to steal your freedom and destroy you; just because I was a woman and they thought I needed to be put in my place! How dear of me a little woman trying to make a mark in this world and change the world! 

Then a year later have that happen again at CM, that the guy sociopath is believed over me, because a little woman like me could not possibly be speaking the truth and is accused of being a liar, just like Hillary was constantly accused of being a liar in the stage of the world, but Donald Trump could lie and say the most outrageous things and still be elected! Makes me sick to my stomach! 

And Once again, after losing more than half of my income a year ago, when I just had a raise of $400 a month and I was starting to breed a little easier financially, I was forced out of my job and once again and I'm the one losing $400 a month and plus over $3000 bonus around the holidays, putting me in tough spot financially again, they can steal my money, but they can’t steal my joy, my freedom and my knowledge of the human mind. What I have can't be bought with money and they can't steal it either and that's what pisses the sociopaths off.

You seem not to have any sympathy for the fact that for me to exercise my right to body autonomy as a young girl I had to go underground and put my life in danger. You said, but you did it! Yes, I did it, because I was lucky that no one found out, otherwise I would have been forced against my will to carry a pregnancy to term and give life to a soul to suffer for the rest of his or her life.

I would have had the same fate as my grandmother that was a single mother and died of young age and left my father orphan, because I know without a doubt, if I had not had an abortion I would not have been able to cope, like my grandmother and would have died at a young age and my child would have been an orphan just like my father and the whole scenario of my father would have been repeated. 

The reason I was lucky, was, because a young woman I knew when she was in her twenties while I was 16 or 17 called me in panic that she had missed her period and was afraid she might be pregnant and if could help her get an abortion and of course I said I would, back then I used to tell my friends that an unwanted pregnancy is like cancer if not treated right away it has no cure! 

Anyway my sister Elza that was always spying on me and stalking me, was listen to our phone conversation in the other room, so she found out about this young woman looking to have an abortion, so she followed me and contacted this young woman's parents, very Catholic people, and everyone found out that she was pregnant and was forced to have the child.

A big mess! The father of the child denied being the father, I guess in the late seventies still there was not a DNA test to prove fatherhood that just before I went to London, the child was probably already 3 or 4 years old I was called to be a witness in court to give a testimony that I knew this young woman was seeing   X man at the time of conception and that he could be the father of the little boy. It was a big, big mess, just because of my sister could not help it meddling in other people’s lives to make sure other people are born to have the same fate as hers!

I never went to court, because I left for London and I never heard again from this young girl.  I can only imagine how fxcked this child, now an adult might be!  Because of this young woman I learned I could not talk freely on the house phone, because my sisters could be listening and when I was making the appointment to see a midwife for my abortion I made sure to use pay phones on the streets where I knew on one was listen, so no one could find out and I would not have the same fate of this young girl and my grandmother. 

No woman anywhere in the world should have to go underground and put her life in danger and face persecution for exercising her right to body autonomy. A woman that is not free to make her own decisions is a slave and will breed more slaves. Rich women will always be able to travel to get the best abortion care that she needs, is poor women that can’t afford to travel that will be fxcked under leaders like Donald Trump and forced to be a slave and an incubator. ““Yeah, but then some women won’t be able to get an abortion?” Stahl asked. “No, it’ll go back to the states,” Trump replied. And if some states ban it? “Yeah, well, they’ll perhaps have to go — they’ll have to go to another state,” Trump said.” Read more here


I will always fight for poor young vulnerable women and never forget what could have happened to me, if had not been lucky in succeeding in having the abortion I needed, but you don’t seem to have any sympathy for the young woman I once was and for all other young women around the world in the same place I once was, being forced into motherhood against their will, because if you did you would never be able to vote for a man promising to make it difficult for women to get abortions and that women that get abortions should be punished! But I guaranty you until women are truly free, no man will ever be truly free either! It starts with women and as long you vote for men or even women into power that wants to control and repress other women, men will never be free either! Your priorities are all screwed up!

You also said that new people need to be born! I sense a little fear here! Are you afraid that not enough white people are having children and running out of white people in this world?! And losing your white privilege?! So you want women in the role of just being incubators?

You are driven by unresolved repressed fears of the child you once were to vote for people that will repress other people the same way you were repressed as little boy and vote for people that will reenact the scenarios you fear most and try to avoid.


You might like reading the blog I wrote on November 5 - 2015 titled  Psychological Warfare

"There's is no such thing as good and bad people. The property manager used to come to the gate all the time and bad mouth the residents she didn’t like because they would stand up to her, she loved to label them as bad people and I used to think to myself: you are not better than them. There are unconscious or repressed people acting as if personality pretending to be good people that can turn against you at any time and do their evil acts behind closed doors without witnesses, and there are unconscious people that can't act or pretend and they do their evil acts in the open and usually get caught and end up in jail. And of course, there are a few of us that have taken responsibility for our own childhood repression and come from a place of honesty and authenticity." Read more here 

The real root of Hillary’s loss lies in the repressed hate of the children they once were at their own mothers, NOW, transferred into all other women, their mothers are protected from their hatred, but all other women will have to pay the price for the wrongs done to them when defenseless little boys and girls. Unless people become conscious of their repressed hatred at their own mothers and consciously feel it within the context of their own childhood --- no matter what woman runs for the highest office of the land --- will never be the right woman and people will always say: not that woman!! Here are the roots of sexism and misogyny. "......If any man had faced one-tenth the scrutiny, bias or disrespectful treatment that Hillary Clinton has endured with grace and class, such a man would be curled up in the fetal position, crying like an infant. ...I watched as Hillary Clinton, campaign manager Robby Mook, her amazing volunteers, and HRC Super Volunteers, worked harder with more fire and heart than I could imagine. But at the end of the day, too many (white and wealthy) people voted for a corrupt, clueless, xenophobe because of …penis.
Yup. That is the sum total of my analysis. Penis." Read more here

Women Of The World: It’s Time To March On Washington
"TWENTY years ago I argued with a newspaper colleague that America would elect a black president before it would elect a woman. “No way!” he said, “Racism is still endemic in the US.” It shocked me that an educated white man had no trouble identifying America’s pervasive racial hatred but was completely blind to the misogyny that ran just as deep, if not deeper.
Two decades and eight years of a black male presidency later, that same blindness has helped elect an unashamed bigot to govern the most powerful nation in the world. Of course, white racists voted for Donald Trump on Nov 8 but it was white misogynists who won it for him – male and female; Americans who would rather elect a white man with a flawed character and no experience than a white woman who is arguably the most qualified candidate ever to run for president. ...Let’s not be fooled by predominantly white male commentators who would have the rest of us believe the Trump vote had nothing to do with gender or race, that it was ALL about the absence of a credible Democratic candidate (presumably a male one); a backlash against the new liberal establishment, the political elite (so they vote for the old conservative elite instead?). Of course, there were other factors involved, but blaming Hillary for those who voted for such a profoundly inadequate candidate is perverse. ...It is time to take a stand as never before: shout it from the rooftops of social media, protest in the streets, become politicized. It is time to think about who your friends are and whose side they are on. It is time to be brave, to defend our freedoms. It is time for women to march on Washington and it is time for men to stand with us.
they say the darkest hour is just before the dawn. I believe it. Trump and his followers have brazenly thrown down the gauntlet to women and men across the world. The monster is no longer invisible; it spews venom from every twitter feed and newsstand across the globe and threatens our children’s futures. Will we stand by as he grabs us, our daughters, our mothers, our sisters, our wives, by “the pussy” or will we grab him by the balls right back?
On January 21, 2017, the day after Trump’s inauguration, women and men from all over America and the world will unite for the Women’s March on Washington – an inclusive protest for anyone, anywhere, who supports women’s rights. It will start and finish at the Lincoln Memorial, from 10am to 5pm, where the great Martin Luther King Jr gave his stirring I Have a Dream speech in 1963. The world will see that dream is still very much alive — and this time it is for women.

Thank you for listen.

Much love,

Sylvie

Also, read my blogs

White supremacists urge trolling Clinton supporters to suicide


Also, read the article below:

"Trump will change the country for women in ways that won’t be easy to reverse. His Supreme Court nominees will shape our laws for decades; the coming gerrymandering of districts in 2020 will make statehouses and Congress even more favorable to Republicans. Abortion rights, access to affordable birth control, Title IX, equal pay—it’s hard to imagine any of them faring well under the new regime. Why do you think Trump chose Mike Pence? We now have as vice president a man who tried to shut the federal government down over funding for Planned Parenthood; who, as governor of Indiana, pushed through a bill permitting discrimination against LGBTQ people; who tried to force women to hold funerals for aborted or miscarried embryos. Conditions will be worst for the women already most disadvantaged: women of color, Muslim and immigrant women, low-income women, the disabled (did you know that Trump has promised to slash funding for services for people with disabilities?). If Roe v. Wade is overturned, or if the Supreme Court reverses itself and allows restrictions like the ones recently struck down in Texas, then getting a safe abortion will be hardest for women who can’t afford to travel to states where it remains legal. If social services are gutted, low-income women—disproportionately women of color—will be the ones with no place to go if they’re abused or homeless. If Obamacare is repealed, there goes medical care—including no-co-pay birth control and mammograms—for millions of women.
But white women, even if prosperous, may also find that their pedestal is shakier than they thought. Those women have unwanted and catastrophic pregnancies, too. They too are abused by partners, sexually assaulted, passed over for the good jobs, or have LGBTQ kids they love who may soon be deprived of their civil rights. Those white women, like the rest of us, now live in a country where the public humiliation of women has the White House seal of approval. They might not like having their divorces and their discrimination suits and their rape cases decided by judges and juries marinated in those views."
Read more here 

Here is another great article Garrison Keillor: Whoa, The Joke Came True . I could have not said better myself. Yes, the swamp was elected, because a lot of people are so emotionally blind. "He promised the swamp would be drained, Was elected, said "Rain!" and it rained --- Eighty thousand Trump voters in three states gave us this man, which goes to show you how much damage a few people can do. It takes 12 million to provide health care, 3 million to run the public schools, but 19 men with box cutters can turn the country upside down and empower the paranoid right and create the pretense for wars that will cost billions and kill a million people and give us a permanent army of blue uniforms yelling at us to take off our shoes and put our laptops into plastic trays." Read more here

Evil is born a new with each new generation.


If you like to read more about my experience with a mob of sociopaths also read my blog post Experienced Knowledge 

Tuesday, November 15, 2016

Using Abortion as Hook to Manipulate

F, 

Thank you for writing. You are right, an unintended pregnancy means not desired and every time someone is born that is not desired, planned and wanted for the rights reasons, it’s a very sad and tragic beginning indeed and because most people cannot face and feel the tragedy of their own history, they hang onto their illusion of love and this explains the hypocrisy that governs our world. 

This is why I fight so hard for the women’s right to choose to carry or not to carry a pregnancy to term and give birth to a new being. 

I am also doing all I can to remove the stigma from abortion, so if women find themselves pregnant with an unintended pregnancy --she will not feel pressure -- to carry a pregnancy to term and give birth to a new being she does not want and feels ready to love and in this way prevent from more unwanted children from being born to just suffer-- and as an adult -- because of these disowned and unresolved childhood injuries will become openly and aided by hypocrisy a danger to society, allowing this insanity and suffering to go on until the end time. 

You are right many women unconsciously have a baby just to trap the father and takes advantage of the stigma of abortion in our society to force fatherhood on her partner, but sadly these women don’t realize that they are really trapping themselves and the innocent new being they bringing into the world to use as a tool of manipulation, because in most cases men just walk away and the worse it can happen to them, is that they have to throw money at what they see as a problem, triggering the mother’s unresolved repressed rage of the child she once was, because the instrument she created “the child” to use as a tool of manipulation didn’t work and now feels trapped and blames the child for her plight and starts taking it out on the child that has nothing to do with it, and this is another reason why I want to do all I can to remove the stigma from abortion and put the stigma where it belongs, because if it should be a stigma somewhere, it should be on those that bring children into the world to unconsciously to use and exploit.

Abortion can also be used by women to unconsciously manipulate the man in their lives. I know a case of a young woman with a lot of unresolved childhood injuries that became pregnant and her partner did not feel ready to be a father and talked her into having an abortion, which she did, but then she used unconsciously the abortion, to make her partner feel guilt and have control over him by accusing him that he had turned her into a murderer and blaming all her problems on the abortion, of course society stigma on abortion gives unconscious very sick women reins to use abortion as the hook to control men, and then to alleviate their guilt feelings they decide to have a child, conceiving a child out of guilt instead out of love to use as a medication to alleviate their guilt feelings, by many hours talking with this lady it was revealed how she used the abortion as the hanger to hook on the partner’s unresolved guilt feelings from his own childhood traumas to have control over him. 

I am wondering if you were trapped into fatherhood. Anyway this young man was very angry at his, now ex-partner, for deceiving him, because besides using his unresolved guilt feelings to control and manipulate him, she also had several affairs during their 20 years of marriage and confessed to never have loved him, but that she married him to take revenge on him, she also came to see clear that she was taking revenge on this man for the wrongs done to her by her own father when she was defenseless little girl, of course, today they are divorced, because their marriage was not real and they decide to become real and not live a lie anymore, but he is very angry and feeling all his anger at his ex and of course she deserves some of his anger, because she deceived him too, but who deserves most of his anger is his mother, because his mother was the first women that deceived him and used him as a tool of manipulation to force his father to marry his Mather, if he had a mother that truly loved him and never used him as an instrument of manipulation to get what she wanted, he would not ever had fallen in love in the first place with a very damaged women that would exploit and deceive him like his mother did when he was a defenseless little boy, as a child he could not leave his disturbed mother and father, but as an adult can gather the courage to face and feel the tragedy of his own childhood and leave a woman standing in symbolizing his mother, but he still has difficulty in feeling his feelings within the context of his own childhood and stays stuck, because as long the repressed feelings are not seen and felt within the context of our own childhood, they blind us and they drive us into repetition compulsion to reenact our childhood drama sooner  or later in one form or another and sadly I am seeing him repeating or reenacting his childhood drama all over again with a new woman he is getting involved with.

I agree that we need to do all we can to help young girls become conscious of their childhood traumas before having children, so they do not pass their own traumas into their children, just like Alice Miller says: “This incapacity to love from the outset occurs much more often than we imagine. It is not the fault of the mothers but of the ignorance of society. In a progressive maternity ward, a woman having her baby should have access to enlightened assistance in perceiving and becoming fully aware of the body memories within her. This would prevent her from passing on the traumas of her own childhood (abandonment, violence, and so on) to her baby."

"If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children” Alice Miller (The Drama of the Gifted Child: The search for the True Self) Page 23

I don’t think it’s a good idea to make mandatory or force vasectomy into young men, because I don’t think nothing should be forced on anyone, but I do agree it’s a great idea and should be encouraged for young men to volunteer for the procedure to protect themselves from women that might try to get pregnant just to trap them into fatherhood and to prevent unintended pregnancies altogether!

Men are not included in the punishment for abortions for the same reason the bible asks for women to be stoned for adultery and men go Scot free. Because these laws and the bible were written by men!!! 
Yes,  it's about control and abortion is the perfect hook.


Yes,  it's about control and abortion is the perfect hook.

Also, read my answer to S in the blog titled  Removing the reins of guilt

Monday, November 14, 2016

Liberating the Child Within

The words written by Alice Miller in the answer below to one of her readers could not be truer! We can preach all we want about the dangers of child abuse, but until people liberate the child within of the strong repressed bitterness, the compulsion to repeat will continue in one form or another sooner or later. People that can't consciously feel the authentic repressed feelings of the child they once were, within the context of their own childhoods, are dangerous to themselves and others and can't be trusted, because sooner or later in one form or another will be driven by the repressed legitimate hate towards their parents or parents substitutes to use others as scapegoats or poisonous container to temporarily relieve repressed hatred. I rather be alone than being someone's scapegoat! 

"Yes, it would be wonderful if we could initiate a powerful movement towards more awareness. In fact, by understanding the emotional needs of children we would come to understand OURSELVES too, the basis of our existence, of our own Being as responsible adults. But this is impossible without liberating the strong bitterness of the abused child we hide deeply in our bodies because of the fears of our parents. Unfortunately, ALL religions FORBID this emotional liberation, they rather allow wars, some of them even consider wars as sacred because they have never understood that feeling the legitimate rage PROTECTS us from acting out in wars and criminality. The last are organized exactly by people who DON’T feel."
Read more here


The Past Always Catches up with Us


People that preach that focusing on the past is a waste of time and unhealthy and  we only need is to forgive and forget, they don’t realize that we can’t live in the present and look forward into the future without first looking into our past and face and feel the repressed feelings of the child we once were. As long the repressed feelings of our painful past remain repressed, we will be driven by them to unconsciously and compulsively reenact the painful dramas of the past. They are clueless that they have fallen into a trap that makes them feel better temporally and superficially and now unconsciously are alluring others into their traps, so they can feel superior and be in power over others to protect them from having to face and feel their painful past and they don't realize they are stuck in the past. This is how cult leaders are born. Until we face our past, the past will keep catching up with us in our relationship with others, especially with our children, if we have children.

Saturday, November 12, 2016

White supremacists urge trolling Clinton supporters to suicide

White supremacists urge trolling Clinton supporters to suicide



Comments from the  Facebook post of the sharing of the article in the link above. 

Sylvie Imelda Shene This was the same strategy the sociopaths at my job of nine and half years were shooting for, they wanted me dead, in jail or mental hospital!  Read Open Letter to the Media

Elizabeth Laren wtf is WRONG with people?

Sylvie Imelda Shene They are very sick people.. this election revealed that most people in America is much more sexist than it is racist. People blinded by the repressed hatred of the child they once were towards their own mothers or mothers substitute were driving by the dead hand of their own repression to vote for a man that will lead them to commit mass suicide. Read  Driven by the dead hand of their own repression to create stupid laws

Elizabeth Laren Exactly. My go-to response when people were throwing around Clinton invective was "Please get therapy for your mommy issues." Freud was on the right track but got it wrong.

Sylvie Imelda Shene Yes, Freud was on the right track, but could not deal with society's backlash and created the theory of oedipal complex that blames the child instead of the parents in order to be accepted by the masses. The funny thing is that this group of people would like us to commit suicide and don't realize they themselves are committing mass suicide.

"For political leaders in the Hitler mold, the jubilation of the masses is as indispensable to still their effective craving as a drug is for an addict. The millions of cheering supporters do not realize that they are needed for the purpose and that purpose alone. Read  
Gurus and Cults Leaders How They Function

David Feeney Very interesting stuff. Makes it a little easier to forgive bad actors even monsters like Hitler. Not that they shouldn't be removed from circulation.


Tuesday, November 1, 2016

The Secret by James Arthur Ray -- Fatal Retreat

The exchange of our last texts brought to mind the followers of The Secret by James Arthur Ray, that because they didn't listen to the messages of their bodies, but instead listened to the stupid guru of the stupid book The Secret, they lost their lives. I am sure his followers were very well behaved children and did what their parents asked of them and now they do what people symbolizing their parents ask them to do, even if their lives are in danger. And never question themselves why they feel something is missing in them? And they allow themselves to be exploited by charming gurus or cult leaders, just like they were exploited when they were defenseless little children.

My experience is the same as Alice Miller, it has taken me all my life! " … It has taken me all my life to allow myself to be what I am and to listen to what my inner self is telling me, more and more directly, without waiting for permission from others or currying approval from people symbolizing my parents… Successful therapy should shorten this long journey. It should liberate us from our ingrained adaptation strategies and help us learn to trust our own feelings - something our parents have made difficult, if not impossible. Because it was prohibited, and hence feared, right from the beginning, many people find it impossible to embark on such a journey. Later, the role played initially by our parents is taken over by teachers, priests, society, and morality, all of them conspiring to cement this fear. And cement, as we know, is very difficult to soften.” The Longest Journey