Ricky Gervais is 100% Right

 

People Find Comfort in Crazy Theories

Like the reincarnation theory that gives an explanation for all their problems, to past lives, and in this way, they don't have to take responsibility for their actions in their lives. Anything else is better than facing their own painful truths and being in reality. Mental health is being in reality no matter how much it hurts.  We can't have mental health without facing and feeling our painful truths... Sadly most people rather go insane and kill and be killed than face their own painful truths. 

My oldest sister is going to be 90 years old soon, this coming June, and if she has not found the courage by NOW to open her eyes to see and face her painful truths, it will never happen. I just have to let her be, but this week I didn't have the patience to witness her take refuge in the reincarnation theory. I know I have to be detached and let her take comfort in her rationalizations, illusions, and theories, 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=past+lives

I bet my niece C will regret not letting her mother and her money go, and letting her mother be together with her sisters in their crazy theories and rationalizations. She has her mother's money, but also is stuck with her crazy mother and as her mother's age advances so does her insanity. I rather have my freedom! But some people rather have a lot of money and sell their souls than be free.

Freedom ain't free! It comes with a lot of losses.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=freedom++ain%27t+free

 

Masterpiece of Comedy

Ahead of its time! 

The last line its so perfect! "It is symbolic of his struggle against reality" 

We can't have mental health without facing and feeling our painful truths... Sadly most people rather go insane and kill and be killed than face their own painful truths. 

Dangerous ‘No-Kill’ Shelter Policies Exposed! Learn How They Harm Animals

I have been saying for a very long time that many organizations that supposedly help and care for animals are part of the problem. These people call themselves experts in the care of animals and proclaim to love them and to know what’s best for them, but all they do is create the illusion of love for animals and under the disguise of helping and caring, covertly are part of cruelty to animals and they prolong their suffering. I lost complete faith in organizations like the Arizona Humane Society and many of the people who proclaim to love animals. I know they know where the people in trouble are that need help and assistance, but they put their blinds on and they just go rescue the animals when the people get in trouble and the law gets involved and the cameras are on, then they do what should have been done long ago to prevent cruelty and suffering, in this way, they look good in front of the public’s eyes and manipulate the public to donate money to their organizations, but really secretly don’t care about the animals or anyone else’s suffering. They don’t fool me anymore. 

I'm glad to see that are other people to see this also.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/01/arizona-humane-society-unconsciously.html

An article in The New Yorker by bestselling novelist Jonathan Franzen is lifting the veil on how “no-kill” policies at animal shelters—even those funded by taxpayer money—are causing cats and dogs to suffer. As Franzen explains in the article, many shelters prioritize “save rates” over spay rates. Shelters are focused on keeping animals out of their facilities and out of their statistics, even if it means that they suffer and die on the streets. Click here to learn more, and please share this important information with others who care about animals."

A long-serving animal-control officer described a system intensely pressured to keep animals moving through it. “No Kill sounds great,” the officer said. “But it’s a myth." 

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/01/01/how-the-no-kill-movement-betrays-its-name

How ‘No-Kill’ Policies Are Harming Animals

As Franzen explains in the article, many shelters prioritize “save rates” over spay rates. Facilities are focused on keeping animals out of their euthanasia statistics even if it means that they suffer and die on the streets. But many shelters aren’t doing nearly enough—if anything—to prevent animals from being born into a world already bursting at the seams with unwanted ones and ending up homeless in the first place.

Some facilities warehouse dogs for weeks, months, or even years and turn away other animals. Many refuse to accept cats altogether, condemning them to abandonment on the streets as “community” cats—a particularly egregious policy, given a new study revealing that cats allowed to roam outdoors terrorize, maim, and kill more than 2,000 species of animals.

These “slow-kill” policies leave the most vulnerable animals with nowhere to go, leading to abandoned dogs and cats not only reproducing and creating even more unwanted animals but also suffering and/or dying of starvation, traumatic injuries, disease, or abuse. Facilities with “no-kill” policies enjoy positive public relations—advertising “90% save rates” that are misleading at best and dishonest at worst—while open-admission shelters, which never turn away animals in need (and are therefore most in need of funding), are vilified.

“A long-serving animal-control officer, who asked not to be identified, described to me a system intensely pressured by No Kill to keep animals moving through it—dangerous dogs and frightened feral cats being placed with unsuspecting adopters, abusive or psychologically disturbed people being given animals without even a basic background check, because there aren’t enough good homes for all the animals. ‘No Kill sounds great,’ the officer said. ‘But it’s a myth.’”

—Jonathan Franzen

Shelters Should Keep Their Doors Open to All Animals in Need

Animal shelters are meant to serve as safe havens. There should be no waiting lists, no admission fees, and no excuses to keep animals out.

If your local shelter has harmful policies and turns away animals, please speak up and encourage humane, responsible “socially conscious sheltering.” The basic steps are simple: Document your experiences, gather support, and make your case. Your involvement could make a world of difference to the companion animals in your community who need you the most.

https://www.peta.org/blog/jonathan-franzen-no-kill-new-yorker/?utm_source=peta::e-mail&utm_medium=alert&utm_campaign=1223::acom::peta::e-mail::283730::dangerous-no-kill-shelter-policies-exposed::::no-kill-blog

 Shelters are under extreme pressure by laypeople who are opposed to euthanasia under virtually any circumstances and at any cost. They harass and vilify shelter workers who make the difficult but compassionate decision to euthanize some animals in order to keep their doors open to every animal in need.

In response, an alarming number of shelters—in some cases, even taxpayer-funded ones—are choosing to operate like exclusive clubs or boutiques instead of refuges for animals in need. When shelters make it difficult for people to surrender animals, closing their doors and refusing to help, they leave animals with nowhere to turn. Many are abandoned on the streets, where they starve and die in agony of untreated diseases or injuries. Others remain in the hands of people who don’t want them and who may mistreat, neglect, or even kill them.

https://www.peta.org/features/shelter-refusing-animals/?en_txn7=blog::jonathan-%20franzen

Lisa Lange is a senior vice-president of People for the Ethical Treatment of Animals. Last year, when I recorded a short video for peta, urging people to keep their cats indoors, I’d been surprised to learn that the group opposes both No Kill policies and trap-neuter-return. “We’re opposed to outdoor cats, period,” Lange told me, at her home in Pasadena. “T.N.R. isn’t ‘better than nothing’—it’s worse than nothing. It doesn’t reduce the number of homeless cats, but it does normalize the idea that cats should be outdoors, and it turns a blind eye to their suffering. We see it every day in the diseased faces and broken bodies of feral cats. There is a fate worse than death.”

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/01/01/how-the-no-kill-movement-betrays-its-name

Critics of Best Friends are unimpressed with its stories (“It’s a lot easier to raise money on Save Them All than Spay Them All,” Lisa Lange, of peta, said), but neither of the Battistas struck me as venal or phony. I got the impression, instead, of true belief—militantly pure in Judah, more nuanced in Francis. Although their politics are generally liberal, and although No Kill doesn’t preclude some euthanasia, the imperative to “save them all” is reminiscent of the anti-abortion movement’s faith-based insistence on saving every unborn life, regardless of the circumstances. In its simplicity, the imperative also recalls the nostrums of progressives: “Open the borders,” “Defund the police.” The allure of simple prescriptions derives from an aversion to hard choices, and to the truth of human carelessness and cruelty. Everyone wants to tell their children a happy story: If we take a homeless cat to a shelter, it’s sure to find a loving home.
https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2024/01/01/how-the-no-kill-movement-betrays-its-name

These words by Alice Miller on abortion come to mind: 
"In disbelief, one asks oneself:  Is it possible that the people behind such actions really are so clueless?  Do they not know that no less than one hundred percent of all seriously abused children are unwanted?  Do they not know what that can lead to?  Do they not know that mistreatment is a parent’s way of taking revenge on the children they never wanted?  Shouldn’t the authorities do everything in their power, in the light of this information, to see to it that the only children who are born are wanted, planned for, and loved?  If they did, then we could put an end to the creation and continuation of evil in our world.  To force the role of a mother on a woman who does not wish to be a mother is an offense not just against her, but against the whole human community, because the child she brings into the world is likely to take criminal revenge for its birth, as do the many (mis)leaders threatening our lives.  All wars we ever had were the deeds of once unwanted, heinously mistreated children.  It is the right to lived life that we must protect wherever and whenever it is threatened. And it should never be sacrificed to an abstract idea.

 

Not everyone is capable of thinking in real, concrete terms.  Many seek refuge in religious beliefs.  In their weakness, they place their trust in “relics,” awaiting salvation at the hands of one stronger than themselves.  Anyone who claims to be a strong and knowledgeable authority for such people, and to be acting on their behalf, has the duty to be conscious of the appropriate facts.  If they aren’t, if they ignore or neglect that duty, claiming instead that their palpable lack of information and their abstract conceptions of “life” are sanctioned by God and practiced in the name of humanity, they are acting against life, by misusing the weakness and trust of the faithful and dangerously confusing them.  The injunction against abortion goes even further:  Consciously or unconsciously, it represents support for cruelty against children and active complicity in the creation of unwanted existences, existences that can easily become a liability for the community at large.

 

When I see the passion with which Catholic priests - men childless by choice - fight against abortion, I can’t help asking what it is that motivates them.  Is it a desire to prove that unlived life, as perhaps their own destinies suggest, is more important and more valuable than lived life?  Was that, perhaps, how the parents of those passionately committed to stopping abortion thought, though they expressed it in different ways?  Or is it a case of seeing to it that others share the same fate as oneself?  Both are possible.  Both are dangerous, when people are driven to blind and destructive actions by the dead hand of their own repression.

 

It is, in fact, not surprising to find that those who are both victims and apologist for the use of violence and severity against children are often those who most passionately proclaim their love of the unborn child, i.e., the kernel of life.  Abortion can, indeed, be seen as the most powerful symbol of the psychic annihilation and mutilation practiced since time immemorial on children.  But to combat this evil merely at the symbolic level deflects us from the reality we should not evade for a moment longer:  the reality of the abused and humiliated child, which, as a result of its disavowed and unresolved injuries, will insidiously become, either openly or aided by hypocrisy, a danger to society.

 

It is above all the children already born that have a right to life - a right to coexistence with adults in a world in which, with or without the help of the church, violence against children has been unequivocally outlawed.  Until such legislation exists, talk of “the right to life” remains not only a mockery of humanity but a contribution to its destruction." 
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/01/protecting-life-after-birth.html

 

Two Forms of Mental Illness

"Two forms of mental illness: the profound psychopathology of political "leaders." And the delusional (and cowardly) psychiatrists--who claim that an individual has to be "on the couch" in order to be diagnosed."

Most psychologists and psychiatrics are nothing than scared little children afraid to speak the naked truth and are a bunch of cowards!

I Bet You Think About Me (Taylor's Version)

This song by Taylor Swift brings to mind my EX, With this song she describes also beautifully my ex and me to a T. I didn't write a song about him but I wrote a book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions...

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2023/02/happy-valentines-day.html?m=1

3 a.m. and I'm still awake, I'll bet you're just fine

Fast asleep in your city that's better than mine

And the girl in your bed has a fine pedigree

And I'll bet your friends tell you she's better than me, huh

Well, I tried to fit in with your upper-crust circles

Yeah, they let me sit in back when we were in love

Oh, they sit around talkin' 'bout the meaning of life

And the book that just saved 'em that I hadn't heard of

But now that we're done and it's over

I bet you couldn't believe

When you realized I'm harder to forget than I was to leave

And I bet you think about me

You grew up in a silver-spoon, gated community

Glamorous, shiny, bright Beverly Hills

I was raised on a farm, no, it wasn't a mansion

Just livin' room dancin' and kitchen table bills

But you know what they say, you can't help who you fall for

And you and I fell like an early spring snow

But reality crept in, you said we're too different

You laughed at my dreams, rolled your eyes at my jokes

Mr. Superior Thinkin'

Do you have all the space that you need?

I don't have to be your shrink to know that you'll never be happy

And I bet you think about me

I bet you think about me

Yes, I bet you think about me

Oh, block it all out

The voices so loud sayin', "Why did you let her go?"

Does it make you feel sad

That the love that you're lookin' for

Is the love that you had?

Now you're out in the world, searchin' for your soul

Scared not to be hip, scared to get old

Chasing make-believe status, last time you felt free

Was when none of that shit mattered 'cause you were with me

But now that we're done, and it's over

I bet it's hard to believe

But it turned out I'm harder to forget than I was to leave

Then, yeah, I bet you think about me

I bet you think about me

Yes, I bet you think about me

I bet you think about me when you're out

At your cool indie music concerts every week

I bet you think about me in your house

With your organic shoes and your million-dollar couch

I bet you think about me when you say

"Oh my God, she's insane, she wrote a song about me"

I bet you think about me

Marty still is in his emotional prison regretting leaving me and has the illusion he could have made it work with me -- if he had stayed with me -- but the truth is -- without resolving his childhood repression -- he will never be happy -- alone or with anyone else.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2020/09/at-crossroads-pick-road-less-travelled.html?m=1

The #1 Emotion Driving a Narcissist’s Mean Streak

A defining feature of narcissism is the ability to create a false positive persona. We refer to it as the False Self, which arises from a narcissist’s inclination to live inside their own Alternate Reality. Most narcissists know it is in their vested interest to attempt to appear pleasant, supportive, and coordinated, so they can make attempts to appear more congenial than they really are. But the foundational elements of narcissism are so contrary to relational and personal maturity, that they cannot maintain the façade indefinitely. This is especially true when difficulties inevitably arise.

Beneath the surface of narcissism are all sorts of features that run counter to healthy relationship connections, so it is only a matter of time when the false positives will collapse and a mean streak will emerge. Narcissists are so self-absorbed that they cannot contain their proclivities toward harshness. Being fair-weather companions only, when trials or differences emerge so does their contentiousness. It’s what they do.

There are multiple emotions at the base of narcissism that fuel their meanness. Insecurity, fear, anger, and haughtiness come to mind. But the primary emotion that propels them into meanness is vengeance. Feeling entitled, narcissists see you as a potential giver of narcissistic supply. They want you to remind them of the many ways they are special and when you do not, there is a price to pay. Mere differences between you and the narcissist can be enough to trigger the notion: “You’ll be sorry for ever going up against me.”

It is essential for you to understand how the identifying ingredients of narcissism predispose these individuals to become mean and vengeful.

Keep in mind:

Their lack of empathy makes it easy for narcissists to dehumanize you. They care little about what you think or feel, and when you show yourself to be different, they have no willingness to consider your distinctions.

Their need for control leads them to think of you as a subordinate. You will never be their equal, so if you insinuate a desire for equal consideration, you will be “put in your place.”

The belief in their superiority excuses their ongoing condescension. Narcissists view you as an ill-informed, unenlightened menace who needs to remember who is in charge.

The narcissist’s fear of your independence results in their inclination to criticize. They have an agenda, a script that you are supposed to follow, and they will enforce that agenda when necessary.

Their chronic defensiveness creates a natural distrust toward you. They are mean because they assume negative motives from you.

A narcissist’s willingness to exploit causes them to see you only in terms of your utility. You are merely a tool to be used.

Their propensity toward keeping secrets puts them in an adversarial position against you. They want no one probing their personal initiatives and priorities.

Craving admiration, narcissists are naturally inclined to think of your desire for respect as a competing desire. Therefore, they feel justified in showing you dishonor. You are a detriment to their ego needs.

How to handle their vengeance

The very nature of narcissism sets up the potential for vengeance, which then sets up mean reactions. As far as the narcissist is concerned, you will never measure up. Criticism is justified. You can be replaced. Your differences will lead to a loss of favor. Their anger and contempt are your fault.

Naturally, when a mean narcissist seeks vengeance, you want to defend yourself, and you can get sucked into a “why-are-you-doing-this” discussion. But let’s acknowledge that such a reaction will not help your cause. Remember, before you ever showed up in the narcissist’s life, that person was already inclined toward meanness and vengeance. It’s built into their psyche.

That being the case, know who you are and how you wish to conduct your life. This becomes the foundation for your own relationship boundaries. Know that no one deserves to be treated with contempt and disdain, including you. Seek your own separate path. Apply consequences and stipulations where possible. Expose yourself to people who can and will accept you as you are.

Narcissists do not know how to relate to your humanity because they have never been able to come to terms with their own frailties and dysfunctions. While it is pitiable that they are so developmentally stunted, you need not become anyone’s doormat.

~Les Carter, Ph.D.

https://survivingnarcissism.tv/the-1-emotion-driving-a-narcissists-mean-streak/