How to Achieve Martin Luther King's Dream

This morning watching the morning news on YouTube the journalist was discussing with a guest about violence and oppression and how it persists in our society and then asked how we achieve Martin Luther King's dream? And the guest replied with education. Then I made the comment below that I think is no longer there because those with the power to inform the public are not one bit interested in informing the public of the real facts.   

The biggest threat to humanity --  is people's repressed emotions of the child they once were -- and as long as people's repressed emotions are unresolved, they will be blinded by them and driven by them into the state of compulsion repetition to hurt and exploit others the same way they were hurt and exploited as defenseless little children. 

The conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in the stage of the world, sooner rather than later, if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide. 

As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence alone is not enough; but it rather helps create seductive, rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=lack+of+educated+people

The Roots of Violence are NOT Unknown

The misled brain and the banned emotions
The Facts:

1. The development of the human brain is use-dependent. The brain develops its structure in the first four years of life, depending on the experiences the environment offers the child. The brain of a child who has mostly loving experiences will develop differently from the brain of a child who has been treated cruelly.

2. Almost all children on our planet are beaten in the first years of their lives. They learn from the start violence, and this lesson is wired into their developing brains. No child is ever born violent. Violence is NOT genetic, it exists because beaten children use, in their adult lives, the lesson that their brains have learned.

3. As beaten children are not allowed to defend themselves, they must suppress their anger and rage against their parents who have humiliated them, killed their inborn empathy, and insulted their dignity. They will take out this rage later, as adults, on scapegoats, mostly on their own children. Deprived of empathy, some of them will direct their anger against themselves (in eating disorders, drug addiction, depression etc.), or against other adults (in wars, terrorism, delinquency etc.)

Questions and Answers:

Q: Parents beat their children without a second thought, to make them obedient. Nobody, except a very small minority, protests against this dangerous habit. Why is the logical sequence (from being a misled victim to becoming a misleading perpetrator) totally ignored world-wide? Why have even the Popes, responsible for the moral behaviour of many millions of believers, until now never informed them that beating children is a crime?

A: Because almost ALL of us were beaten, and we had to learn very early that these cruel acts were normal, harmless, and even good for us. Nobody ever told us that they were crimes against humanity. The wrong, immoral, and absurd lesson was wired into our developing brains, and this explains the emotional blindness governing our world.

Q: Can we free ourselves from the emotional blindness we developed in childhood?

A: We can - at least to some degree - liberate ourselves from this blindness by daring to feel our repressed emotions, including our fear and forbidden rage against our parents who had often scared us to death for periods of many years, which should have been the most beautiful years of our lives. We can't retrieve those years. But thanks to facing our truth we can transform ourselves from the children who still live in us full of fear and denial into responsible, well informed adults who regained their empathy, so early stolen from them. By becoming feeling persons we can no longer deny that beating children is a criminal act that should be forbidden on the whole planet.

Conclusion:

Caring for the emotional needs of our children means more than giving them a happy childhood. It means to enable the brains of the future adults to function in a healthy, rational way, free from perversion and madness. Being forced to learn in childhood that hitting children is a blessing for them is a most absurd, confusing lesson, one with the most dangerous consequences: This lesson as such, together with being cut off from the true emotions, creates the roots of violence.  Alice Miller

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=The+Roots+of+Violence+are+NOT+Unknown

Eliezer Yudkowsky on if Humanity can Survive AI

I don't have formal education either and I do agree with Eliezer Yudkowsky. Humanity is insane and with the aid of technology is going to destroy itself much faster. 

The biggest threat to humanity --  is people's repressed emotions of the child they once were -- and as long as people's repressed emotions are unresolved, they will be blinded by them and driven by them into the state of compulsion repetition to hurt and exploit others the same way they were hurt and exploited as defenseless little children. If people were not emotionally blind, they would be able to see the lies, illusions, and all the traps society constantly puts in front of them. And yes, an emotionally blind humanity with the aid of technology will destroy itself much faster.  

the conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in the stage of the world, sooner rather than later, if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/07/the-conversation-about-effects-of.html

Education alone is just another illusion. Resolving childhood repression is the only long-term solution for people to stop following blindly political leaders. And that is a lot more difficult!

"I wonder how the high colleges managed to produce so many high asses." Paracelsus

As long people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion  repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence alone is not enough; but it rather helps create seductive, rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. 

Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: hidden cruelty in child-rearing and the Roots of Violence page 42 and 43: "Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believe his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

Having special talents is wonderful and it’s okay to cash in your talents for a living, but when people hide behind their talents, fame, and money to hide their own personal truth and keep themselves and others distracted from the truth and facts -- then you are misusing your talents -- and contributing for the lies to spread and silently or covertly you are part of all the violence and atrocities we are witnessing in our world. So if people think they are better than others, because they have special talents, they are being delusional.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/12/having-special-talents-doesnt-make-you.html 

It's sad to witness all the time people falling for the illusions that formal education, talents, money, and fame are the path to freedom. Formal education, talents, money, and fame alone just reinforce the walls of people's emotional prisons.

People in the tech world create IA to eventually destroy us all so they can unconsciously or consciously blame IA for it
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/narcissists-are-secretly-suicidal-and.html?m=1

People in the tech world create IA to eventually destroy us all so they can unconsciously or consciously blame IA for it

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2015/09/narcissists-are-secretly-suicidal-and.html?m=1

Education Alone is Just Another Illusion

Actually, education alone is just another illusion. Resolving childhood repression is the only long-term solution for people to stop following political leaders blindly. And that is a lot more difficult!!! 

"I wonder how the high colleges managed to produce so many high asses." Paracelsus

As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people; there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge. The problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths; intelligence alone is not enough --- intelligence alone just helps create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. 

Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence pages 42 and 43: "Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views of his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person, on occasion, still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believes his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

Having special talents is terrific, and it’s okay to cash in your skills for a living. Still, when people hide behind their talents, fame, and money to hide their own personal truth and keep themselves and others distracted from the truth and facts -- then you are misusing your abilities -- and contributing for the lies to spread and silently or covertly you are part of all the violence and atrocities we are witnessing in our world. So if people think they are better than others, because they have special talents, they are being delusional.
https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/12/having-special-talents-doesnt-make-you.html 

It's sad to witness people falling for the illusions that formal education, talents, money, and fame are the path to freedom. Formal education, talents, money, and fame alone just reinforce the walls of people's emotional prisons.

The Difference Between a Narcissist and Codependent

 

Dear Jo,

Thank you for the birthday wishes.

I think of you often, and I hope you are hanging in there. 

It was nice to hear from you and see that you are hanging in there.

Thank you for sharing Kenny Weiss's video. He articulates very well the evil behaviors of many dangerously repressed people. But isn't it interesting that all these very well articulated people are labeling different levels of repression, and no one talks about the repressed emotions? 

Malignant narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, or whatever you like to call these now evil people with a sharp intellect, gifted and with intellectual knowledge have mastered the art of repression, transference, and projection to perfection, and the co-dependent like I used to be never really mastered the art of repression, thank goodness! We are still able to feel and self-reflect and therefore have a better chance of growing up to stand on their own two feet and be emotionally liberated.   

In other words, a co-dependent is a broken person, and an evil person is a very dangerously repressed person with no chances of growth and healing, which is very sad.

"Evil vs Broken

Do not confuse a broken person for an evil person. A broken person can be fixed, but an evil person cannot. An evil person causes pain; they hurt others. They deliberately cause chaos. A broken person would never do any of those things because they know how it feels to be on the other side of those actions. Don't confuse someone who can be saved with someone that you will need to be saved from."

You too, take good care and don't let yourself down.

Sylvie 

"Let's just make it easy.

Narcissist...

Sociopath.....

Psychopath....

No need to distinguish which is which.

They all simply suffer from "Shitty Person Syndrome". Avoidance is the only known treatment."

Narcissists are highly sneaky. They will use your reactions to what they have done to you in an effort to make you look crazy. They do this by telling others only half of the actual occurrence and conveniently leaving out their actions.

Some people can be so toxic to your health. They don't want to love you properly but don't want to let go of you either. The more you give, the less they appreciate, and the minute you've had enough and decide to walk away is when they are ready to love you and treat you right. So you give them a chance in hopes that they've changed, only to realize it was all fake. You find the strength to walk away once more, and here he/she comes proclaiming his/her love for you, and you give in again. The cycle repeats itself until you gather up enough strength to say enough is enough and really cut him/her out of your life. 

These words by Alice Miller go right to the heart! Yes, the amnesia of politicians or leaders of sects does afflict countless people. We are witnessing how Donald Trump's amnesia of his childhood repression is hurting many! "Kafka was hardly aware of the fact that the main sources of his imagination were deeply hidden in his early childhood. Most writers aren't. But the amnesia of an artist or writer, though sometimes a burden for their body, doesn't have any negative consequences for society. The readers simply admire the work and are rarely interested in the writers' infancy. However, the amnesia of politicians or leaders of sects does afflict countless people, and will continue to do so, as long as society remains blind to the important connections between the denial of traumatic experiences in early childhood and the destructive, criminal actions of individuals.”

http://www.alice-miller.com/en/the-ignorance-or-how-we-produce-the-evil/

“To many people it seems easier to take medication, to smoke, drink alcoholic, preach, educate or treat others, and prepare wars than expose themselves to their own painful truth” From the book Banished Knowledge by Alice Miller

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=take+medication&m=1

Addiction, greed, and obsessions are all the same thing. Greed, obsessions, or addiction means that whatever the object of our affection is, we can never get enough of it. Addicts live in constant fear of losing the object of their affection and go to any lengths to protect it. They will lie, cheat, steal, go to war without thinking twice, and exploit others, even their own children. No wonder many young people are so angry; when we feel used, manipulated, and exploited, we get furious. 

What is addiction really?

“Recovery From Self-Betrayal: What is addiction really? It is a sign, a signal, a symptom of distress. It is a language that tells us about a plight that must be understood.

The drug business would not flourish if there were not so many people who, in refusing to acknowledge their wounds, are in a permanent state of self-betrayal.

Thus, people work to get rid of symptoms instead of searching out the cause.

There are plenty of means to combat symptoms of distress: medications, sermons, numerous "treatments," "miracles," threats, cults, pedagogical indoctrination, and even blackmail.

They can all work for a while, but only because they reinforce the repression and reinforce the fear of resolving it.

However, many people who become abstinent this way are driven into another addiction because the real reasons for becoming addicted must be kept hidden.

A lot of money and fame comes from this business of repression because it satisfies the longing of so many grown-up children: to be loved as a good child (I am blind as you want me to be. I am ready to forget all your cruelty, even at the cost of my life. Can you love me now?).

In the long term, we have to pay a high price for this repression. The repressed story continues to try, again and again, to be heard at long last. Thus, your plight will look for other symptoms, another language, until it is taken seriously enough. An addiction is an attempt by a person in despair, who is not allowed to be in despair, to get rid of his or her memory, to forget his or her plight.

Of course, this "solution" is no longer needed if the goal is exactly the opposite, if you want to remember, if you want to feel your plight and to understand its reasons, if you slowly become aware of why you were so afraid of acknowledging the reasons.

This can happen once you decide to stop running away, to stop betraying yourself, to allow the truth to enter your consciousness.

You decide to do so because you finally understand that everything else is useless and because you no longer want to watch your life go by before having even begun to live. You decide to stop betraying yourself because you understand that only you can give yourself the love and care you never received and that you can't do that as long as you deny the truth.” Breaking Down The Wall Of Silence: The Liberating Experience Of Facing Painful Truth by Alice Miller, page 126

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Addiction+&m=1

"Genuine feelings cannot be produced, nor can they be eradicated. We can only repress them, delude ourselves, and deceive our bodies. The body sticks to the facts and never lies. ...If the repression stays unresolved, the parents’ childhood tragedy is unconsciously continued on in their children” - Alice Miller

"Resolving childhood repression is the vaccine against the charlatans of the world who exploit those who are still emotionally blinded by the unresolved, repressed emotions of the children they once were."

-- Sylvie Imelda Shene quote from my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions page 172

We don’t need more studies to show us what causes mental illness and violence. The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people; there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge. The problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel the repressed emotions of the child we once were. intelligence alone is not enough, but it rather helps create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies to hide behind. 

The Roots of Violence are NOT Unknown

There are two kinds of people: those that think: I don't want others to suffer as I did. And those that think: I suffered, and I want others to suffer too.

Until people resolve childhood repression, will always be the same shit different asshole!

The true tragedy of life comes from those who manipulate, swindle, and use others' empathy and compassion as an opportunity to benefit themselves.

"Yes, we can say this without any hesitation. Every behavior that is directed against the health of a person, that hinders the healthy functioning of the body and mind, is a repetition of once-endured mistreatment, neglect, confusion, lies, betrayal, perverted practices, and the exploitation of the child." Alice Miller

Very few people are able to look in the mirror and take responsibility for their ignorance/evil; the answer Alice Miller gave to one of her readers is so true. It seems that everywhere I go, I see people pretending or faking it to have healed. It comes to mind when I use to go to al-anon and codependents anonymous and the elders use to say: “fake it until you make it” I could tell they all were pretending and faking it and I use to think to myself: you can’t pretend and fake it forever and you going to have to face it sooner or later. I share a little tiny bit of your optimism; otherwise, I would give up completely.

AM: You write: "My main point in the allegory is that by necessity none of us are passengers anymore. Everybody's crew." I agree with you. But to become aware of the fact that our obedience learned in childhood doesn't allow us to think freely probably needs more than many hundred years. I am not sure if the tortured planet leaves us the necessary time to understand this fact, to protest against it, and to become a conscious, responsible members of the crew.
http://www.alice-miller.com/en/we-all-are-the-crew/

Dear Sylvie,

I send you my best wishes for your birthday!

On your website, I see your hard work in offering the truth and bringing light into the dark sides of wounded humans.

I hope, after all, you are okay and healthy with your cats, and they shall be healthy and happy, too.

I found this video of Kenny Weiss, and it brought me insights into my behavior, but knowledge alone doesn't help.

I make my surroundings crazy by being in contact but only pretending to relate. If it comes to terms of going for something together, I fail. I am still in contact with my family and the cat there. I feel not free to be there but also not free to leave them alone. This is what I wrote to you from day one...

So far, so embarrassing.

We all have a great responsibility for ourselves and any life on this planet, and each of us failing makes this place worse than it is...

I write this to you and dont change my behaviour...

This annoys me.

I don't know. On a certain level, I have given up. But I shouldn't allow myself to.

What devastating birthday greetings...

I don't really know why I connect... I don't trust myself a bit...

TAKE GOOD CARE and dont let yourself down

J

In toxic relationships, it's crucial to understand the difference between a narcissist and a codependent.

This video delves into each person's distinct traits and behaviors, helping you spot the differences and navigate these challenging relationships with clarity.

Learn how to identify these roles and empower yourself to break free from toxic patterns.

Watch now to gain valuable insights into narcissism vs codependency.

Rejection is a Big Trigger for a Malignant Narcissist

This movie gives a great example of a malignant narcissist not being able to let go and move on.

And becomes extremely obsessed with getting revenge by going to any lengths to achieve it.

Be very careful who you let in in your life.

Resolve your own childhood repression so you are not emotionally blind by the repressed emotions of the child you once were so you can see clearly these very dangerous repressed people from a mile away and not become their victim. 

Or vote for one into the highest office of the land like the United States just did.

The conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in the stage of the world, sooner rather than later, if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide. 

Everyone is trying to change the world at the surface, especially so many people using the political machine and religion to manipulate the masses, making things worse in the long run, and no one wants to look at the root causes of how we got here?! Into this messed-up world! It’s very frustrating because trying to change the world at the surface, no matter what people do, the changes will always just be superficial and temporary.

These words by Alice Miller that I quote in my book could not be truer:

“It is not true that evil, destructiveness,

and perversion inevitably form part of

human existence, no matter how often this

is maintained. But it is true that we are

daily producing more evil and, with it, an

ocean of suffering for millions that is

absolutely avoidable. When one day the

ignorance arising from childhood

repression is eliminated and humanity

has awakened, an end can be put to the

production of evil.”

— Alice Miller, Banished Knowledge, p. 143

Education alone is just another illusion. Resolving childhood repression is the only long-term solution for people to stop following blindly political leaders. And that is a lot more difficult!!! 

"I wonder how the high colleges managed to produce so many high asses." Paracelsus

As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain. It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths, intelligence alone is not enough --- intelligence alone just helps create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. 

Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: Hidden Cruelty in Child-rearing and the Roots of Violence pages 42 and 43: 

"Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. 

Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. 

Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. 

Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." 

For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. 

Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believes his brilliance in other situations. 

Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. 

This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

Having special talents is wonderful and it’s okay to cash in your talents for a living, but when people hide behind their talents, fame, and money to hide their own personal truth and keep themselves and others distracted from the truth and facts -- then you are misusing your talents -- and contributing for the lies to spread and silently or covertly you are part of all the violence and atrocities we are witnessing in our world. So if people think they are better than others, because they have special talents, they are being delusional.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/12/having-special-talents-doesnt-make-you.html 

It's sad to witness all the time people falling for the illusions that formal education, talents, money, and fame is the path to freedom. Formal education, talents, money, and fame alone just reinforces the walls of people's emotional prisons.

“If we hate hypocrisy, insincerity, and mendacity, then we grant ourselves the right to fight them wherever we can or to withdraw from people who only trust in lies. But if we pretend that we are impervious to these things, then we are betraying ourselves.” Alice Miller
Free from Lies: Discovering Your True Needs page 55

Alice Miller's answer below to one of her readers comes to mind:

AM: Your question is very important, but it contains the naïve assumption that we can manipulate our feelings without letting others pay the price for it. In reality, we cannot do so. You are saying here what everyone says, what we all have learned from our parents, in school, in church and even in most of the therapies: “One has to turn the page.” It is, without doubt, nice what is being suggested to us: to tell the hatred that it should go away and never ever return. We want to turn the page and live in peace.

Everyone wants this, and it would be nice if it worked. But unfortunately, it does not work. Not at all. 

Why? Because rage, like all other emotions, cannot be controlled and cannot be manipulated; It dictates us something; it forces us to experience it and to understand its causes. 

It can return every time when someone has hurt us, and we cannot prevent that. 

Because our body cannot “turn the page” and it demands from us that we listen to it. 

What we can do, though, is suppress our rage, with all its consequences: Illnesses, addiction, crimes.

When we do not want to feel our justified rage, because we already have forgiven our parents even the worst abuses, we will soon find out to our surprise that we passed on the same pains, which we endured from our parents, to our children or to others. 

If we are truthful, we will not claim that we acted “for their own good” (like that beatings are “a good means of education”). Unfortunately, this is what most parents say; this is why our society is so hypocritical.

On the page “articles” you can find my text about hatred, which should be able to help you understand better what I am trying to explain here. Also, the book “The Body Never Lies” can help you to understand more.
https://www.alice-miller.com/en/our-body-cannot-turn-the-page/

No, our body cannot turn the page until we consciously feel and understand all of our feelings within the context of our own childhood. And yes, until we do this others will have to pay the price for it, especially our children if we have children.

Covert or malignant narcissists can be particularly sensitive to rejection, as it threatens their fragile self-esteem and challenges their self-image. Here are some key points about what can upset them and how they may respond:

What Upsets Them

Rejection: Being ignored, criticized, or rejected can trigger intense feelings of shame and anger.

Lack of Admiration: They crave validation and admiration; not receiving it can lead to feelings of worthlessness.

Exposure: Being called out for their manipulative or harmful behavior can provoke a strong defensive reaction.

Loss of Control: Situations where they feel they are losing control or influence over others can be particularly distressing.

Responses to Rejection

Rage: They may respond with anger or rage, lashing out verbally or even physically, as a way to regain a sense of power.

Victimhood: They might adopt a victim mentality, portraying themselves as wronged or misunderstood, which can manipulate others' sympathy.

Withdrawal: Some may retreat and sulk, using passive-aggressive behavior to punish the person who rejected them.

Smear Campaigns: They may attempt to discredit the person who rejected them, spreading rumors or gossip to damage their reputation.

Flattery or Manipulation: In some cases, they might attempt to charm or manipulate the person back into their good graces, using tactics like flattery or guilt.

'Don't bring kids into this world now': AI expert issues chilling warning over new tech

"An AI expert who once worked for Google has said prospective parents should hold off having kids until the tech is controlled - because of the potentially catastrophic effect it could have.

Speaking on an episode of the Diary of a CEO podcast, Mo Gawdat, an ex-chief business officer at Google X, warned risks caused by artificial intelligence in the immediate future outweigh even the potential devastation which could be caused by climate change.

...The whizz said that AI is part of a “perfect storm” of significant threats entire societies are facing.

He added: "The risks are so bad, in fact, that when considering all the other threats to humanity, you should hold off from having kids if you are yet to become a parent".

When podcast host Steven Bartlett asked if he would “seriously consider” this, Gawdat replied that “I would wait a couple of years”, adding that it is “bigger than artificial intelligence”.

Gawdat continued: “There has never been such a perfect storm in the history of humanity. Economic, geopolitical, global warming, climate change, the whole idea of AI, this is a perfect storm, the depth of uncertainty…it has never been more intense.

“If you really loved your kids would you really want to expose them to all this?”

The latest message of caution comes after a dire warning by several AI pioneers in an open letter asking developers to pause for six months in order to allow for regulations to catch up." Read more Here https://www.express.co.uk/news/world/1777980/ai-expert-warns-against-having-kids

I have been saying for a very long time that humanity is insane and with the aid of technology is going to destroy itself much faster. I don't see a positive outcome at all.

Not having children that's what I'm most proud of! I was a very young child when I realized this world is messed up and I made a conscious decision to not bring children to this crazy world. I promised myself that the pain would stop with me. 

The great malady of our society, implicated in all our troubles and affecting us individually and socially, is the idealization of our parents and childhood and the denial of childhood suffering.

When we idealize our parents and childhood and deny childhood suffering, it does not go away. It appears symptomatically in obsessions, addictions, violence, greed, deceit, and loss of meaning. Our temptation is to isolate these symptoms or try to eradicate them one by one, but the root problem is the idealization of our parents and childhood and the denial of childhood suffering. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2022/05/the-great-malady-of-our-society.html

The conversation about the effects of childhood repression in our society needs to start happening in the stage of the world, sooner rather than later, if we want to save ourselves and humanity from falling off the cliff and committing mass suicide. https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/07/the-conversation-about-effects-of.html

I did my part to help heal the world by healing myself and publishing my book A Dance to Freedom: Your Guide to Liberation from Lies and Illusions sharing my life experiences and psychological discoveries. 

So other people can also heal themselves.  As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... 

The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people, there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge, the problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths. Intelligence alone is not enough; it rather helps create seductively, rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies.

Education alone is just another illusion. Resolving childhood repression is the only long-term solution for people to stop following blindly political leaders. And that is a lot more difficult!!! 

"I wonder how the high colleges managed to produce so many high asses." Paracelsus

Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: hidden cruelty in child-rearing and the Roots of Violence page 42 and 43: "Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. 

In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. 

His "will" is completely identical to that of the government. Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true selves. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. 

Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." 

For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views of his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. 

Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person on occasion still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believe his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"--goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.” Having special talents is wonderful and it’s okay to cash in your talents for a living, but when people hide behind their talents, fame, and money to hide their own personal truth and keep themselves and others distracted from the truth and facts -- then you are misusing your talents -- and contributing for the lies to spread and silently or covertly you are part of all the violence and atrocities we are witnessing in our world. So if people think they are better than others, because they have special talents, they are being delusional.

We are being ruled by criminals!

When people debate abortion, I feel their hands all over me. I feel so violated.  What I choose to do with my body is not up for debate, and nobody has a say on it. Abortion is a woman’s right, and debating abortion is in itself a violation of my rights. Forcing a woman to carry a pregnancy to term against her will is 1000 times worse than rape. I'm the captain of my body.

Pro-lifers fight so hard for the unborn because unconsciously and compulsively, they want an endless supply of innocent, powerless beings to use, exploit, and project their disowned parts. Carrying a pregnancy to term and giving birth to a new being we are not ready to nurture, take care of, and protect, THAT, is soul murdering and contributes to the destruction of the world. Pro-lifers are soul murderers and destroyers of life that is already born under the disguise of being pro-life.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/02/cnn-deleted-all-comments-on-abortions.html?m=1

It’s very sad when politicians are unconsciously and compulsively driven blindly by the dead hand of their own repression to create destructive laws to keep the public repressed and obedient.

People who idealize their childhoods and parents will keep having a limitless craving for scapegoats on whom they can avenge themselves for the fears and anxieties of childhood without having to re-experience those fears. 

Because of society's stigma on abortion, pregnant, poor, vulnerable women seeking an abortion make the perfect scapegoats to take revenge for the wrongs done to them by their own mothers or caregivers when they were defenseless little children. 

Pro-life people suffer and secretly enjoy seeing others suffer too, they want others to have the same fate as them. We need people with the courage to stand up to stupid laws politicians unconsciously create -- hiding behind their illusion of love for the unborn --  to suppress and be cruel to people already born -- the same way their own parents or caregivers were cruel to them when they were defenseless little children.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2013/03/driven-by-dead-hand-of-their-own_27.html?m=1

 

"In disbelief, one asks oneself:  Is it possible that the people behind such actions really are so clueless?  Do they not know that no less than one hundred percent of all seriously abused children are unwanted?  Do they not know what that can lead to?  Do they not know that mistreatment is a parent’s way of taking revenge on the children they never wanted?  Shouldn’t the authorities do everything in their power, in the light of this information, to see to it that the only children who are born are wanted, planned for, and loved?  If they did, then we could put an end to the creation and continuation of evil in our world.  To force the role of a mother on a woman who does not wish to be a mother is an offense not just against her, but against the whole human community, because the child she brings into the world is likely to take criminal revenge for its birth, as do the many (mis)leaders threatening our lives.  All wars we ever had were the deeds of once unwanted, heinously mistreated children.  It is the right to lived life that we must protect wherever and whenever it is threatened. And it should never be sacrificed to an abstract idea.

Not everyone is capable of thinking in real, concrete terms.  Many seek refuge in religious beliefs.  In their weakness, they place their trust in “relics,” awaiting salvation at the hands of one stronger than themselves.  Anyone who claims to be a strong and knowledgeable authority for such people, and to be acting on their behalf, has the duty to be conscious of the appropriate facts.  If they aren’t, if they ignore or neglect that duty, claiming instead that their palpable lack of information and their abstract conceptions of “life” are sanctioned by God and practiced in the name of humanity, they are acting against life, by misusing the weakness and trust of the faithful and dangerously confusing them.  The injunction against abortion goes even further:  Consciously or unconsciously, it represents support for cruelty against children and active complicity in the creation of unwanted existences, existences that can easily become a liability for the community at large.

When I see the passion with which Catholic priests - men childless by choice - fight against abortion, I can’t help asking what it is that motivates them.  Is it a desire to prove that unlived life, as perhaps their own destinies suggest, is more important and more valuable than lived life?  Was that, perhaps, how the parents of those passionately committed to stopping abortion thought, though they expressed it in different ways?  Or is it a case of seeing to it that others share the same fate as oneself?  Both are possible.  Both are dangerous, when people are driven to blind and destructive actions by the dead hand of their own repression.

It is, in fact, not surprising to find that those who are both victims and apologist for the use of violence and severity against children are often those who most passionately proclaim their love of the unborn child, i.e., the kernel of life.  Abortion can, indeed, be seen as the most powerful symbol of the psychic annihilation and mutilation practiced since time immemorial on children.  But to combat this evil merely at the symbolic level deflects us from the reality we should not evade for a moment longer:  the reality of the abused and humiliated child, which, as a result of its disavowed and unresolved injuries, will insidiously become, either openly or aided by hypocrisy, a danger to society.

It is above all the children already born that have a right to life - a right to coexistence with adults in a world in which, with or without the help of the church, violence against children has been unequivocally outlawed.  Until such legislation exists, talk of “the right to life” remains not only a mockery of humanity but a contribution to its destruction." Alice Miller

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/01/protecting-life-after-birth.html?m=1

Everything! It's a huge injustice against women like me. They want to turn us into criminals but they are the true criminals hiding behind religion, god, and the rule of law. These words written by Alice miller could not be more true "To force the role of a mother on a woman who does not wish to be a mother is an offense not just against her, but against the whole human community, because the child she brings into the world is likely to take criminal revenge for its birth, as do the many (mis)leaders threatening our lives.  All wars we ever had were the deeds of once unwanted, heinously mistreated children.  It is the right to lived life that we must protect wherever and whenever it is threatened. And it should never be sacrificed to an abstract idea."

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2011/01/protecting-life-after-birth.html

The sociopaths at my job of nine and half years, also with their mind games and psychological warfare, were hoping I would react, and they could turn me into a criminal like them; their goal is to corrupt, and be corrupted. Still, precisely a year later, we saw who the actual criminals were. But now is a big cover-up, and I will use every breath I take to try to uncover this cover-up!  We are being ruled by criminals!

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/09/big-cover-up-by-sociopaths-at-my-ex-job.html

Any woman who votes republican has to suffer from Stockholm syndrome! And most men in the Republican Party deep down have to hate women; in reality, they hate their own mothers, but to keep their idealized image of their own mothers intact, with their vote, they take revenge on all other women.

It really pisses me off when men who want to be with me say they respect my right to choose if I want to carry a pregnancy to term or not. Still, they vote for politicians who would take my rights away, they say that the reason they vote for those politicians is because they are better for the economy. Still, the truth is that both parties waste money on illusions. Even if those politicians were better for the economy, I hear that money is more important to them than me! And they would throw me under the bus just to keep extra money in their pockets. I can’t be with a man who will throw me under the bus just to keep extra money in their pockets! What really pisses me off is when women throw other women under the bus just to secure their own survival.

"Here's the thing, guys. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter when life begins. It doesn't matter whether a fetus is a human being or not. That entire argument is a red herring, a distraction, a subjective and unwinnable argument that could not matter less.

It doesn't matter whether we're talking about a fertilized egg, a fetus, a baby, a five-year-old, or a Nobel Prize-winning paediatric oncologist.

NOBODY has the right to use your body, against your will, even to save their life, or the life of another person. That's it. That's the argument. You cannot be forced to donate blood, or marrow, or organs. Even though thousands die every year, on waiting lists. They cannot even harvest your organs after your death without your explicit, written, pre-mortem permission.

Denying women the right to abortion means we have less bodily autonomy than a corpse."  It's sad to live in a world where I have less rights than a corpse 😥

Click on the link below to read more about abortion.

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/search?q=Abortion+&m=1

Have no doubt that laws repressing women will create more women like Amber Heard who resort to lies and manipulations to fulfill their needs and desires, and will exploit and abuse the children they bring into the world -- raising the oppressors of tomorrow. So passing laws repressing women affects everyone.

This is what America has become.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Forced_pregnancy

The words below by Alice Miller could not be truer: 

"Are women Less Aggressive than Men?

In my view, women are by no means less aggressive than men. Of course, they are victimized and disadvantaged by men avenging themselves for the beating they received from their mothers. But women avenge themselves for such victimization and physical cruelty by taking it out on their little children, thus breeding new generations of avengers who consciously love and honor their parents.

I see no real difference between the cruelty of women and that of men, because both sexes have learned such sadism at the hands of their parents and caregivers at a time when their brains were still in the process of formation. As children, they were subjected to cruelty and even perversion, but they were not allowed to defend themselves. So later, they take out their repressed anger on other defenseless people, frequently in the same way their parents treated them when they were small. Women frequently vent this acquired sadism on their children. While men also give free rein to it by victimizing employees at work or lower military ranks, or else participating in orgies of violence like genocide or terrorist attacks. The causes invariably lie in the repressed and totally denied suffering of their childhood (though most of them will insist that they had wonderful parents). People who were not humiliated, tormented, or beaten in their early years are incapable of sadism.

Women can live out all kinds of covert perversion on their children and torment them with impunity as long as they call this behavior “good parenting.” Society idealizes mothers because people have never consciously realized that their own mothers treated them cruelly when they were small. Accordingly, women normally enjoy total immunity.

I see no sex-specific differences in the suicide bombers. I understand terrorism as an attempt to compensate for the humiliations these people were subjected to, but have never consciously perceived as such, by means of a “magnificent deed” (such as sacrificing their own lives for the sake of a group).

Though it is not difficult to understand this dynamic, there are not many people who would allow themselves to give up their denial and look the truth in the face. The fear felt by the tormented children they once were can prevent this all their lives."
From the book “Free from Lies: Discovering your true needs” By Alice Miller Page 140

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2017/05/why-males-are-more-violent.html?m=1

The present judges in the USA Supreme Court proves and are a great example that having an education and being well spoken means nothing and doesn't liberate anyone.

Actually, education alone is just another illusion. Resolving childhood repression is the only long-term solution for people to stop following political leaders blindly. And that is a lot more difficult!!! 

"I wonder how the high colleges managed to produce so many high asses." Paracelsus

As long as people's childhood repression goes unresolved -- they will be shackled into the chains of compulsion repetition -- and it doesn't matter how well anyone articulates very nice ideas... The problem is not a lack of knowledge and educated people; there are plenty of educated people with intellectual knowledge. The problem is an emotional blockage with the so-called “professionals” or “educated people” hiding behind their rationalizations and seductive theories to protect themselves from having to face and feel their own emotional pain.  It takes courage to see, face, and feel our painful truths; intelligence alone is not enough, but it rather helps create seductive rationalizations, theories, illusions, and lies. 

Alice Miller explains beautifully in her book For Your Own Good: hidden cruelty in child-rearing and the roots of violence page 42 and 43: "Just as in the symbiosis of the "diaper stage," there is no separation here of subject and object. If the child learns to view corporal punishment as "a necessary measure" against "wrongdoers," then as an adult he will attempt to protect himself from punishment by being obedient and will not hesitate to cooperate with the penal system. In a totalitarian state, which is a mirror of his upbringing, this citizen can also carry out any form of torture or persecution without having a guilty conscience. His "will" is completely identical with that of the government.

Now that we have seen how easy it is for intellectuals in a dictatorship to be corrupted, it would be a vestige of aristocratic snobbery to think that only "the uneducated masses" are susceptible to propaganda. Both Hitler and Stalin had a surprisingly large number of enthusiastic followers among intellectuals. Our capacity to resist has nothing to do with our intelligence but with the degree of access to our true self. Indeed, intelligence is capable of innumerable rationalizations when it comes to the matter of adaptation. Educators have always known this and have exploited it for their own purposes, as the following proverb suggests: "The clever person gives in, the stupid one balks." For example, we read in a work on child raising by Grünwald (1899): "I have never yet found willfulness in an intellectually advanced or exceptionally gifted child" (quoted in Rutschky). Such a child can, in later life, exhibit extraordinary acuity in criticizing the ideologies of his opponents--and in puberty even the views by his own parents-- because in these cases his intellectual powers can function without impairment. Only within a group--such as one consisting of adherents of an ideology or a theoretical school--that represents the early family situation will this person, on occasion, still display a naïve submissiveness and uncritical attitude that completely believes his brilliance in other situations. Here, tragically, his early dependence upon tyrannical parents is preserved, a dependence that--in keeping with the program of "poisonous pedagogy"-- goes undetected. This explains why Martin Heidegger, for example, who had no trouble in breaking with traditional philosophy and leaving behind the teachers of his adolescence, was not able to see the contradictions in Hitler's ideology that should have been obvious to someone of his intelligence. He responded to this ideology with an infantile fascination and devotion that brooked no criticism.”

It's sad to witness all the time people falling for the illusions that formal education, talents, money, and fame is the path to freedom -- these things alone just reinforce the walls of people's emotional prisons

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2016/05/education-alone-is-just-another-illusion.html?m=1

Having special talents is terrific and it’s okay to cash in your talents for a living, but when people hide behind their talents, fame, and money to hide their own personal truth and keep themselves and others distracted from the truth and facts -- then you are misusing your talents -- and contributing for the lies to spread and silently or covertly you are part of all the violence and atrocities we are witnessing in our world. So if people think they are better than others, because they have special talents, they are being delusional. 

https://sylvieshene.blogspot.com/2014/12/having-special-talents-doesnt-make-you.html?m=1

It is a great mistake to imagine that one can resolve traumas in a symbolic fashion. If that were possible, poets, painters, and other artists would be able to resolve their pain through creativity. This is not the case, however. Creativity helps us channel the pain of trauma into symbolic acts; it doesn't help us resolve it. If symbolic revenge for maltreatment received in childhood were effective, then dictators would eventually stop humiliating and torturing their fellow human beings. As long as they choose to deceive themselves about who really deserves their hatred, however, and as long as they go on feeding that hatred in symbolic form instead of experiencing and resolving it within the context of their own childhood, their hunger for revenge will remain insatiable (see Miller 1990a).” read more here