Tuesday, July 14, 2015

The World Is Full of Enablers like Mrs. Cosby

Bill Cosby’s wife says accusers ‘consented’ to drugs and sex

“Camille still doesn’t believe that Bill provided drugs and had sex with women without their consent,” said a source employed by the Cosby family. “She’s well aware of his cheating, but she doesn’t believe that her husband is a rapist.”

The world is full of abusers and enablers like Mrs. Cosby. They lack courage; they rather destroy former victims than face their own painful truths. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom, page 75, 76 and 173 “The extremes to which people go to avoid facing the pain of their own truth — even though such a confrontation would set them free — will never cease to amaze me. “To many people,” Alice Miller says, “it seems easier to take medication, to smoke, drink alcohol..., preach, educate or treat others, and prepare wars than expose themselves to their own painful truth. …Society is on the side of the status quo, so be prepared. As Alice Miller writes in Free from Lies, going against the parents “is a source of major alarm for others …They will sometimes mobilize all the forces at their command to discredit the former victim and thus keep their own repression intact.” Look what happened to me at my last job, after I published my book. My book was a mirror to the abusers and the enablers, and they didn’t like their own reflections, so they mobilized all their forces at their command to destroy me and discredit me, they rather see me dead, in jail or in a mental hospital than face their own repression, lies, and illusions.

Quote of the day Posted by Melissa McEwan 
"It is not who Cosby is that accounts for our long silence. It is who we are: a culture that does not believe people who share stories of surviving sexual violence. Were Cosby an unremarkable man of modest means, we would still doubt allegations like these, because that is what we do. The rationales we offer for why we doubt survivors are varied: the accused is a legend, or religious, or has been nice to us. The survivors have any number of real or perceived flaws. What doesn't change is that when someone alleges rape, we immediately begin to grasp for reasons why that person is unbelievable."—Tope Fadiran, in a terrific piece for RH Reality Check.