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A friend of mine that lives in the community where I used to work, just published the novel Shakespeare's Conspirator. It’s very well written and very interesting! Sadly the plight of many women has not changed much since William Shakespeare's time, if I was a man, would the sociopaths at my last job emotionally harass me for over six months after I published my book?!
Trying to make me lose it emotionally, so they could declare me mentally unstable and discredit my work. And try to put me, the little woman, in her "place". In every era have been women rebels challenging the status quo; trying to break the mold and free themselves to stand on their own two feet, and just like me, Amelia too, the main character in this novel, was trying to break the mold, free herself and stand on her own two feet. Job well done by Steve Weitzenkorn!
Steve Weitzenkorn: Thanks for your kind words, Sylvie.
Also, more info about this really fascinating woman lost to history, visit ShakespearesConspirator.com.
Monica Chelagat:"...Trying to make me lose it emotionally, so they could declare me mentally unstable and discredit my work! ...." Spot on Sylvie Imelda Shene. Yeah, this too is a strategy. I will expose this here on FB as I have some ex-colleagues who might be interested in how the systems work and some may very well know the game. At the time two or three professional colleagues were requested by senior management to 'find out what my problems were,' I met three each one with their specialization in dealing with staff issues. I recall none were interested in my problem except to hurriedly advise me to meet the 'Institution's' staff counselor! I risked a diagnosis even with evidence of the sociopath's mobbing strategies and completely lost the confidence I had. I stop here!
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Yes, Monica Chelagat, with their very well orchestrated and methodical smear campaign was to see me dead, in a mental hospital or in jail. They did everything to get me to lose it and when nothing worked, they fired me over the phone via voicemail. I still have it saved in my phone in case I decide to sue the board, the property manager, and the security company that employed me. They said in the voicemail not to report to work the next morning that if I did I would be escorted off the property, they treated me like a criminal, so I would act like a criminal! So they could put their hands on the little woman! They were hoping I would go there make a scene and do something crazy and then they could call the police on me. This was their last strategy! They were so emotionally blind that they couldn't see that I could see very clearly every trap they were putting in front of me to fall into. I am so sorry, Monica, you too went through similar emotional harassment in the workplace.
Monica Chelagat: Wow Sylvie that was really dramatic. You handled this excellently well thanks to your level of awareness to note what was building up against their deep level of ignorance/blindness, you survived them and did not fall into the traps they collaborated in setting them. Such experiences actually widen your awareness and deepen your consciousness. It is one of the gifts suffering gives to good people. The experience itself is no joke, it takes a lot of energy, opportunity, and money in the case one loses a job but it is more precious not to lose your integrity, it is not worth any money or career achievements on a job that really serves to earn money for a living. It is a challenge you won in the end and learned something more. I was lucky I worked in a big institution and my abusers were an insignificant number but very dangerous to ruin anyone's life as other people who do not know you well may believe them. I consider myself lucky because had they succeeded in destroying me (a constant attempt underneath using various instruments, the power of ruthless directors, abuse of performance reviews, etc.). I cannot imagine the disaster for myself and my poor family had they succeeded! They are heartless poor people. Shame on them.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Yes, Monica Chelagat, it was very dramatic. Looking back I still can't believe it how evil some people were at my last job. It was evil in its pure form. Unfortunately, this happens everywhere and mostly to women, and what is sad, is that usually is another woman that starts the emotional harassment towards other women, in this case, it was the property manager, that started it, a woman, in my own life, it’s usually, always a woman behind the scenes manipulating men and pulling the strings. It's sad but everyone in this community has been her puppets; and for over thirty years, she has worked there have manipulated everyone to do exactly what she wants. It's very hard to prove emotional harassment because these people are very good at deceiving others with their very well methodically orchestrated smear campaigns, mind games, and manipulations. This experience has planted the seed for my next book and hopefully will not take as long to come to fruition. The title is going to be “Reenactment: A Dance with Lucifer” it’s going to be based on my experiences at my last job, how they showed me, how they were treated as small children and most sadly, how they treated their own children, and of course they reminded me of my own childhood drama and the pain I suffered as a small child by playing the roles of all my teachers and family members to a T! The president of the HOA, a retired doctor, a classic case of a passive-aggressive man, just like my father, played my father's role, it shows that money, education alone, and a degree in medicine don’t save a person from the chains of the repetition compulsion of doing to others what once was done to them as defenseless little children. The property manager just like one of my sisters mastered the art of manipulation to perfection, members of the chair of security, landscape, and treasure, they played the role of my teachers, older sisters, and brothers. Of course, I will change all the names to protect their anonymity, but they themselves will know who exactly I am talking about. These words written by James Warren in his review of my book A Dance to Freedom come to mind: "Unless we confront our own intentions and the sometimes evil effects of those intentions on others, we will never "leave the scene of the crime." We will continually act out our dysfunctions on others." They wanted to bring me to the scene of the crime and make me pay for their and their parent's crimes. I lost my job, but I will not be their scapegoat and they will have to pay for their crimes sooner or later.
Most humans' souls have been murdered. They are laws against physical assault and physical murder, but soul stalking and soul murder are totally legal in our society.
The quote below describes Dr. Q, the president of the board so well! He even makes the same facial expression! Yes, he is a child in an old body!!!
I wish in the acknowledgments of my first book I had thanked some of the residents for their love and support and made it clear that I was very aware some of them, were just giving the illusion of love that could end at any moment and sure enough, my book burst their illusion of love and it ended overnight! I thought they would be able to keep up their illusion of love and facades and our working relationship would end someday on a good note, but after my book was published, they were not able to keep going with their facades and illusion of love, because they knew I could see through their facades and illusions and they became too uncomfortable with me that they started a campaign of emotional harassment in the hope I would self-destruct and I would end up dead, in a mental hospital or jail. They were pure evil. But that is to be explained in my next book. They would rather see me dead or destroyed than face their own lies and illusions and feel their own painful truths.
The attached quotes in the pictures below describe exactly what I went through in my last job.
Totally! She recruited a team of flying monkeys taking turns doing her dirty work and she got the new guy and the security company to finish the job she started, this is how cowards work! She is talented! We all know who the real culprit is!? The property manager!!!
Yep! This was one of the big reasons I was a target by the sociopath that was the property manager at my last job because I am a truly happy and free person, but she was not able to destroy me and she didn't walk away wearing my skin. But instead, her true self was revealed.
Monica Chelagat: There is a huge population quietly suffering from what you and I went through but we cannot read all. Your second book with this theme will sell like a hot cake more than the first one which may have a more reduced public. A theme addressing adult abuse which will be the basic account of your second book is a subject more people are sensitive to because they have a memory of their own. I am contemplating on working on mine too because I have a lot to share with the many like-minded people.... and they are many. Many people are fortunately waking up as I read a lot on the web and blogs. Keep the flame burning!
Regarding the inclusion of acknowledgment in your first to thank some of the residents etc. etc. There will come a time when you will need to reprint copies and can add what you need to in the second edition. I hope you will get the wide public to be able to live on your books like Alice Miller did.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Thank you, Monica Chelagat, for your very encouraging words.
In the article 5 Ways The Narcissist's Lack of Empathy also describes the property manager at my last job, she wanted me to be the bearer of her shame and blame. I have no doubt she blames me and says: "she brought on to herself!" But she picked the wrong target because I give it all back to her.
"TARGETS BECOME THE SCAPEGOAT AND BEARER OF THE NARCISSIST’S SHAME AND BLAME Those who haven’t seen this trait in action, need to understand that this trait makes the narcissist a danger to all of society, not just the victims they can easily blame for having... brought on their own abuse. When a healthy individual behaves badly towards another person, we experience a sense of guilt. If the person we harmed approaches us, we typically don’t deny it, but rather, listen and try to understand the nature of their feelings in order to accept some responsibility. Once we accept responsibility we feel remorseful and go about behaving differently to avoid doing something to another person that we care about, knowing that to do so, will cause them pain, and we are committed to not causing others pain. Narcissists do not experience the same responses. First, there is no guilt felt because the lack of separateness prevents the narcissist from acknowledging the reality that separate feelings could possibly exist. However, they aren’t deaf – and can hear the complaints. The complaints are deflected. The feelings are twisted and put back on the person speaking. The narcissist is absolved of responsibility and thus feels NO REMORSE. They look at any consequences incurred by the target as a result of THEIR OWN choices or behavior (blame/justification) and then go about behaving as if there is NOTHING to apologize for. This invalidation and acknowledgment of reality is a mind screw to the target. The blame and shame for having or causing the feeling is often internalized and the target begins to be the scapegoat of the narcissist’s inability to feel empathy. The narcissist will go on offending – with the expectation that there will be NO CONSEQUENCES. Our prisons are full of dangerous offenders with the same antisocial refusal to take responsibility for their actions and feel remorse."
Monica Chelagat: For over 30 years! I sometimes think friends and acquaintances will take me for a paranoia case when I say that my number one manipulator at the root of my problem in the institution did what she did for well over 30 years and God knows what morals she has passed on to her children. It is something much worse than racism, a dangerous figure in a crucial position in a taxpayer/public funded institution behaving as it was a family business. Pure evil Sylvie.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: I should have said: she manipulated most residents in the community because there were some residents over the years that didn’t feel good about the property manager. And in the nine and half years I worked there, they all expressed to me how unhappy they were with the property manager and the board, and they even tried to fire her years ago, but they were not able to because she had a powerful flock of residents and members of the board protecting her. It was sad, but for years the president of the board that appeared to be a strong and tough man, but he was totally her puppet doing exactly what she wanted. And I know many ex-residents that they became so fed-up with the property manager and the board that they sold their houses and moved out, promising themselves to never move into another HOA community again. Here are the words of an ex-resident that wrote to me in an e-mail: “…As for P [the property manager] and the psychos in S forget about them. I too have had major run-ins with her and she is out of control and in my opinion criminal. If we didn't have one foot out the door I'd go after her big time. May you have continued success and keep in touch for sure. And call me [by my first name] goofy.”
And here are the words of another resident that also wrote me in an e-mail expressing how outrageous she felt of what they did to me: “This is outrageous! No one should receive this treatment. I forwarded to T my last response from L [the board president] --- I'll leave it up to the legal minds to try to sort out this mess and I hope T doesn't give it up. I also told him I would like to form a coalition to try to have some influence in the job description for P's replacement. We'll see -- but some changes need to be made here. Good luck to you and keep me posted! X”
I might get all the e-mails from residents together and publish them all on my blog anonymously of course, in order to protect their anonymity because the property manager and the board found out one resident helped me get a job with another company and that she was a big support to me, and they target her and tried to make her life difficult to make her pay for helping me because what they wanted was to see me on the sidewalk bleeding and dying slowly, pure evil, Monica.
To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge
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