Since writing this blog exactly a year later, my ex-boss, who the property manager recruited to do her dirty work, killed himself in a standoff with the local police after robbing a bank on March 11, 2016, that, by coincidence, was my birthday! So, the property manager does have blood on her hands after all, because I know without a doubt, if she had not started this psychological warfare against me, he would still be alive – he was her collateral damage – when people start wars, someone always gets hurt or killed!!! I was her target to destroy, but when one of her helpers lost his mind and self-destructed, everyone involved became silent, and now it is a big cover-up that involves the FBI, the US Marshals, and the media. It's a shame he was not strong enough to stand up to do the right thing and let himself become a puppet of the property manager -- he paid a high price for it. Puppets never have a good ending. If it were me, the little woman to commit a crime, my name and face would have been splashed all over the news stations! And then all probably go on TV talking about how disturbed the little woman was -- to discredit me and my book -- and make a name for themselves by standing on my head. And all probably say that you need God in your life, my ex-boss was a Mormon, a man of God, but he was the one to lose his mind, but now is a big cover-up. I could see their dirty games and traps so clearly.
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A friend of mine who lives in the community where I used to work just published the novel Shakespeare's Conspirator. It’s very well written and very interesting! Sadly, the plight of many women has not changed much since William Shakespeare's time. If I were a man, would the sociopaths at my last job emotionally harass me for over six months after I published my book?!
Trying to make me lose it emotionally, so they could declare me mentally unstable and discredit my work. And try to put me, the little woman, in her "place". In every era have been women rebels challenging the status quo; trying to break the mold and free themselves to stand on their own two feet, and just like me, Amelia too, the main character in this novel, was trying to break the mold, free herself and stand on her own two feet. Job well done by Steve Weitzenkorn!
Steve Weitzenkorn: Thanks for your kind words, Sylvie.
Also, more info about this really fascinating woman lost to history, visit ShakespearesConspirator.com.
Monica Chelagat:"...Trying to make me lose it emotionally, so they could declare me mentally unstable and discredit my work! " Spot on, Sylvie Imelda Shene. Yeah, this, too, is a strategy. I will expose this here on FB as some ex-colleagues might be interested in how the systems work, and some may very well know the game. At the time, senior management requested two or three professional colleagues to 'discover my problems.' I met three, each one with a specialization in dealing with staff issues. I recall none were interested in my problem except to hurriedly advise me to meet the 'Institution's' staff counselor! I risked a diagnosis even with evidence of the sociopath's mobbing strategies and completely lost the confidence I had. I stop here!
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Yes, Monica Chelagat, with their very well-orchestrated and methodical smear campaign, was to see me dead, in a mental hospital, or in jail. They did everything to get me to lose it, and when nothing worked, they fired me over the phone via voicemail. I still have it saved in my phone if I decide to sue the board, the property manager, and the security company that employed me. They said in the voicemail not to report to work the next morning, that if I did, I would be escorted off the property; they treated me like a criminal, so I would act like a criminal! So they could put their hands on the little woman! They were hoping I would go there, make a scene, and do something crazy and then they could call the police on me. This was their last strategy! They were so emotionally blind that they couldn't see that I could see very clearly every trap they were putting in front of me to fall into. I am so sorry, Monica. You went through similar emotional harassment in the workplace.
Monica Chelagat: Wow, Sylvie, that was really dramatic. You handled this excellently well, thanks to your level of awareness to note what was building up against their deep level of ignorance/blindness, you survived them. You did not fall into the traps they collaborated in setting. Such experiences actually widen your awareness and deepen your consciousness. It is one of the gifts suffering gives to good people. The experience itself is no joke; it takes a lot of energy, opportunity, and money in the case one loses a job, it is more precious not to lose your integrity; it is not worth any money or career achievements on a job that really serves to earn money for a living. It is a challenge you won in the end and you learned something more. I was lucky I worked in a big institution, and my abusers were an insignificant number, but very dangerous to ruin anyone's life, as other people who do not know you well may believe them. I consider myself lucky because they had succeeded in destroying me (a constant attempt underneath using various instruments, the power of ruthless directors, abuse of performance reviews, etc.). I cannot imagine the disaster for myself and my poor family had they succeeded! They are heartless, poor people. Shame on them.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Yes, Monica Chelagat, it was very dramatic. Looking back, I still can't believe it how evil some people were at my last job. It was evil in its pure form. Unfortunately, this happens everywhere and mostly to women, and what is sad, is that usually is another woman that starts the emotional harassment towards other women, in this case, it was the property manager, that started it, a woman, in my own life, it’s usually, always a woman behind the scenes manipulating men and pulling the strings. It's sad, but everyone in this community has been her puppets; for over thirty years, she has worked there and has manipulated everyone to do exactly what she wants. It's very hard to prove emotional harassment because these people are very good at deceiving others with their very well methodically orchestrated smear campaigns, mind games, and manipulations. This experience has planted the seed for my next book; hopefully, it will not take as long to come to fruition. The title is going to be “Reenactment: A Dance with Lucifer” it’s going to be based on my experiences at my last job, how they showed me, how they were treated as small children and most sadly, how they treated their own children, and of course they reminded me of my own childhood drama and the pain I suffered as a small child by playing the roles of all my teachers and family members to a T! The president of the HOA, a retired doctor, a classic case of a passive-aggressive man, just like my father, played my father's role, it shows that money, education alone, and a degree in medicine don’t save a person from the chains of the repetition compulsion of doing to others what once was done to them as defenseless little children. The property manager, just like one of my sisters, mastered the art of manipulation to perfection. Members of the chair of security, landscape, and treasure, they played the role of my teachers, older sisters, and brothers. Of course, I will change all the names to protect their anonymity, but they themselves will know who exactly I am talking about. These words written by James Warren in his review of my book A Dance to Freedom come to mind: "Unless we confront our own intentions and the sometimes evil effects of those intentions on others, we will never 'leave the scene of the crime." We will continually act out our dysfunctions on others." They wanted to bring me to the scene of the crime and make me pay for their and their parents' crimes. I lost my job, but I will not be their scapegoat, and they will have to pay for their crimes sooner or later.
Most humans' souls have been murdered. There are laws against physical assault and physical murder, but soul stalking and soul murder are totally legal in our society.
The quote below describes Dr. Q, the president of the board, so well! He even makes the same facial expression! Yes, he is a child in an old body!
"One of the more frustrating passive-aggressive tactics to those on the receiving end is 'the silent treatment". The silent treatment is an abusive method of control, punishment, avoidance, or disempowerment (sometimes these four types overlap, sometimes not) that is a favorite tactic of narcissists, and especially those who have a hard time with impulse control, that is, those with more infantile tendencies."
I wish in the acknowledgments of my first book I had thanked some of the residents for their love and support and made it clear that I was very aware some of them, were just giving the illusion of love that could end at any moment and sure enough, my book burst their illusion of love and it ended overnight! I thought they would be able to keep up their illusion of love and facades and our working relationship would end someday on a good note. Still, after my book was published, they were not able to keep going with their facades and illusion of love, because they knew I could see through their facades and illusions. They became too uncomfortable with me that they started a campaign of emotional harassment in the hope I would self-destruct and I would end up dead, in a mental hospital or jail. They were pure evil. But that is to be explained in my next book. They would rather see me dead or destroyed than face their own lies and illusions and feel their own painful truths.
The quotes in the pictures below describe exactly what I went through at my last job.
I wish in the acknowledgments of my first book I had thanked some of the residents for their love and support and made it clear that I was very aware some of them, were just giving the illusion of love that could end at any moment and sure enough, my book burst their illusion of love and it ended overnight! I thought they would be able to keep up their illusion of love and facades and our working relationship would end someday on a good note. Still, after my book was published, they were not able to keep going with their facades and illusion of love, because they knew I could see through their facades and illusions. They became too uncomfortable with me that they started a campaign of emotional harassment in the hope I would self-destruct and I would end up dead, in a mental hospital or jail. They were pure evil. But that is to be explained in my next book. They would rather see me dead or destroyed than face their own lies and illusions and feel their own painful truths.
The quotes in the pictures below describe exactly what I went through at my last job.
"An offensive tactic of the narcissist is to use smear campaigns to malign, discredit, and reduce targets to inferior beings---to strip them of power by derogating their character. This tactic also divides and conquers by pitting people against a supposed 'foe'. Targets are stuck between a rock and a hard place, right where narcissists like them ing to be: Damned if they defend themselves and damned if they don't. This process is never accomplished by a single person, though. Smear Campaigns require a mob to finish the job the rumormonger started, and just like chickens in a coop, one hen is singled out and the others peck her to death. The originator, who selected the target for destruction, can sit back and enjoy the show while other hens commit an atrocity."
"One of their favorite tricks is bullying by proxy. Instead of attacking directly, they recruit a team of flying monkeys. These little primates take turns doing and saying obnoxious things in an effort to make a target come undone. Because so many hands are involved, a target can never lodge a complaint. If she tried, it would sound ridiculous, since she'd be pointing her finger at so many people. Anybody who heard this would, naturally, assume she was the one with the personality disorder, instead of taking a good look at the real culprit."
Totally! She recruited a team of flying monkeys, taking turns doing her dirty work, and she got the new guy and the security company to finish the job she started. This is how cowards work! She is talented! We all know who the real culprit is!? The property manager!!!
"They say, "Misery loves Company" well I say, "Narcissists love to bring happy people down." What BETTER type of power trip to a narcissist's ego than to take a naturally happy person and by their own "amazing abilities" turn them into a shell of their former selves while walking off "wearing their skin"? You know that they WANT to see you laying on the sidewalk, crying out in pain because you're "nothing" without them; just as they told you (or insinuated many times)."
Yep! This was one of the big reasons I was a target by the sociopath who was the property manager at my last job, because I am a truly happy and free person, but she was not able to destroy me, and she didn't walk away wearing my skin. But instead, her true self was revealed.
Hurting and destroying others' lives is their pain-killing drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom, page 118: "... as long our pain remains repressed, we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us."
Hurting and destroying others' lives is their pain-killing drug. It's an addiction that keeps their own childhood repression intact. Just like I wrote in my book A Dance to Freedom, page 118: "... as long our pain remains repressed, we will unconsciously and compulsively do to others what was once done to us."
Monica Chelagat: There is a huge population quietly suffering from what you and I went through, but we cannot read all of it. Your second book with this theme will sell like a hot cake more than the first one, which may have a smaller public. A theme addressing adult abuse, which will be the basic account of your second book, is a subject that more people are sensitive to because they have their own memories. I am contemplating working on mine too because I have much to share with the many like-minded people.... and there are many. Many people are fortunately waking up, as I read a lot on the web and blogs. Keep the flame burning!
Regarding the inclusion of acknowledgment in your first, to thank some of the residents, etc., etc. There will come a time when you will need to reprint copies and can add what you need to in the second edition. I hope you will get the wider public to live on your books like Alice Miller did.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: Thank you, Monica Chelagat, for your very encouraging words.
In the article 5 Ways The Narcissist's Lack of Empathy also describes the property manager at my last job, she wanted me to be the bearer of her shame and blame. I have no doubt she blames me and says: "she brought on to herself!" But she picked the wrong target because I give it all back to her.
"TARGETS BECOME THE SCAPEGOAT AND BEARER OF THE NARCISSIST’S SHAME AND BLAME Those who haven’t seen this trait in action, need to understand that this trait makes the narcissist a danger to all of society, not just the victims they can easily blame for having... brought on their own abuse. When a healthy individual behaves badly towards another person, we experience a sense of guilt. If the person we harmed approaches us, we typically don’t deny it, but rather, listen and try to understand the nature of their feelings in order to accept some responsibility. Once we accept responsibility we feel remorseful and go about behaving differently to avoid doing something to another person that we care about, knowing that to do so, will cause them pain, and we are committed to not causing others pain. Narcissists do not experience the same responses. First, there is no guilt felt because the lack of separateness prevents the narcissist from acknowledging the reality that separate feelings could possibly exist. However, they aren’t deaf – and can hear the complaints. The complaints are deflected. The feelings are twisted and put back on the person speaking. The narcissist is absolved of responsibility and thus feels NO REMORSE. They look at any consequences incurred by the target as a result of THEIR OWN choices or behavior (blame/justification) and then go about behaving as if there is NOTHING to apologize for. This invalidation and acknowledgment of reality is a mind screw to the target. The blame and shame for having or causing the feeling is often internalized and the target begins to be the scapegoat of the narcissist’s inability to feel empathy. The narcissist will go on offending – with the expectation that there will be NO CONSEQUENCES. Our prisons are full of dangerous offenders with the same antisocial refusal to take responsibility for their actions and feel remorse."
Monica Chelagat: For over 30 years! I sometimes think friends and acquaintances will take me for a paranoia case when I say that my number one manipulator at the root of my problem in the institution did what she did for well over 30 years and God knows what morals she has passed on to her children. It is something much worse than racism, a dangerous figure in a crucial position in a taxpayer/public funded institution behaving as it was a family business. Pure evil Sylvie.
Sylvie Imelda Shene: I should have said: she manipulated most residents in the community because there were some residents over the years that didn’t feel good about the property manager. And in the nine and half years I worked there, they all expressed to me how unhappy they were with the property manager and the board, and they even tried to fire her years ago, but they were not able to because she had a powerful flock of residents and members of the board protecting her. It was sad, but for years the president of the board that appeared to be a strong and tough man, but he was totally her puppet doing exactly what she wanted. And I know many ex-residents that they became so fed-up with the property manager and the board that they sold their houses and moved out, promising themselves to never move into another HOA community again. Here are the words of an ex-resident that wrote to me in an e-mail: “…As for P [the property manager] and the psychos in S forget about them. I too have had major run-ins with her and she is out of control and in my opinion criminal. If we didn't have one foot out the door I'd go after her big time. May you have continued success and keep in touch for sure. And call me [by my first name] goofy.”
And here are the words of another resident who also wrote me in an e-mail expressing how outraged she felt about what they did to me: “This is outrageous! No one should receive this treatment. I forwarded to T my last response from L [the board president] --- I'll leave it up to the legal minds to try to sort out this mess, and I hope T doesn't give it up. I also told him I would like to form a coalition to try to have some influence on the job description for P's replacement. We'll see -- but some changes need to be made here. Good luck to you and keep me posted! X”
I might get all the e-mails from residents together and publish them all on my blog anonymously, of course, in order to protect their anonymity, because the property manager and the board found out one resident helped me get a job with another company and that she was a big support to me. They target her and tried to make her life difficult to make her pay for helping me because what they wanted was to see me on the sidewalk bleeding and dying slowly, pure evil, Monica.
To read more about my experiences with the mob of sociopaths or narcissists at my last job read my blog Experienced Knowledge
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Written in 2015 while under attack
“Until we make the unconscious conscious, it will direct our lives and we will call it fate.”
— Carl Jung
It’s all becoming so clear.
When you bring light into darkness—when you expose the truth behind emotional repression and toxic societal conditioning—you're bound to provoke resistance. I’ve long understood this intellectually, but now I’m living it viscerally. After publishing A Dance to Freedom, the emotional plague—the collective denial system—came after me with a vengeance.
Targeted for Telling the Truth
The mob I encountered at work wasn’t random. These people were deeply invested in their illusions. When my book came out—telling the truth about childhood repression, narcissistic parents, and the repetition compulsion—it threatened their fragile internal house of cards. And so, unconsciously, they united against me in a collective reenactment.
They made me the scapegoat. Just like in their childhoods. Just like I once was.
But this time, I see it. And I refuse to play the role.
The Emotional Plague in Action
What’s happening to me is a textbook reenactment. These individuals—driven by repressed wounds they can’t face—project their inner chaos onto others. Onto anyone who dares to show them a mirror.
They are not evil. But they are dangerously repressed. Because what is unconscious becomes compulsive—and compulsive behavior, fueled by fear and unacknowledged trauma, spreads like wildfire through social systems. It destroys truth-tellers.
This is how mobs form. Not just in politics, religion, or history—but in the mundane corners of daily life. Offices. Schools. Families.
Their Projection Is Not My Identity
I’ve had to work hard to stay grounded in my truth, to resist the pull of their projection. But I know who I am. I know what I’ve healed—and I know what they refuse to face.
They accused me of things I did not do. They twisted facts, spread rumors, manipulated others—all in service of maintaining their inner denial. It’s painful. But it’s also illuminating.
They need a scapegoat because they can’t face their own buried pain.
They need a “Lucifer” to point at, so they can avoid meeting their own inner darkness.
The Dance with Lucifer
That’s why I’m calling my next book Reenactment: A Dance with Lucifer.
Because that’s what this is—a dark, unconscious waltz with the disowned parts of the self, projected outward. Those who scapegoated me were dancing with their own shadow, but they were pretending it was me.
I see now that Lucifer is not a literal demon. It’s a symbol for the light-bringer—the one who illuminates what others refuse to see. And what happens to the light-bringer in a world addicted to darkness?
They are punished.
Staying Free
But I won’t go back into the emotional prison I escaped.
“Those who are free are hated by those still in chains.”
I didn’t write A Dance to Freedom to be liked. I wrote it to be honest. To offer a map to others still trapped in reenactments. To say: You are not crazy. Your pain is real. And you don’t have to live in it forever.
The mob’s hatred only confirms how deeply they are still trapped.
Not My Shame
Their rage, their cruelty, their lies—it’s not about me. It’s about their unresolved story. I just happened to become the canvas.
They are reenacting their childhood traumas. But I am not their mother. I am not the past. I am not the enemy.
I am free.
And I will continue to speak.
A Note to the Reader
If you have ever been scapegoated, mobbed, or targeted for speaking truth, know this:
It’s not your fault.
You are not alone.
And you are not who they say you are.
“The truth will set you free—but first, it will piss you off.”
— Gloria Steinem
Let it piss you off. Let it burn through the lies. Then walk forward, clear-eyed, and never let the mob steal your voice.
With love and solidarity,
Sylvie
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