It should be exactly the same outrage. Just like people should be outraged about the sexual abuse of young women in Portugal by the prestigious Dr. Julio Machado Vaz. But no one is paying attention, especially the media.
Monica Chelagat Sylvie There are a couple of reasons. 1) The lack of empathy and consequently interest from journalists and media in general. 2) Child abuse tends to be seen as an 'individual' problem and not collective. 3) An animal has no concious father, mother or community to defend itself no matter how old and no beastly/natural power will save them from the human technology. A human child is expected to have many alternatives to be saved. 4) Most humans are so damaged they have lost empathy towards their own species not to mention parents towards their own children take the hard pedagogic and cruel traditional practices parents and communities directly perform on their own children. I know passionate animalists totally indifferent to human children and humans in general unless they need them personally for their own 'use'. or ego.
Bert Boonstra · Friends with Heleen Bos
So much pain is being done to our children. And it is ignored by most of us. I think we all have a mutual responsibility to recognize this in our society. If we truly love our children by letting them help develop themself into their own fantastic individuals I am convinced that the world would be a much nicer place to be. With respect to all living creatures.
Sylvie Imelda Shene I agree with you Monica. Look what happened to me at my last job… as long they thought I was good for their image, they were all nice to me, but the moment they thought I could ruined their image and triggered their fears of being seen as they real are, they rather destroy me than face their own painful truths, but by coming after me they exposed themselves and they showed everyone how malicious they were. The community where I worked is just a micro of the rest of the world. Sadly it happens everywhere.
The media only pays attention to the very extreme cases of child abuse, but ignore the plight of almost every child in our society that is subjected to ordinary abuse every day under the disguise of “upbringing” and “discipline”. For the media to recognize this ordinary abuse, they would have to face their own childhood repression and question their own parents. And that’s the last thing they want to do. The repressed fears of the child they once were at their parents can stay with person for the rest of their lives. This is why it’s so hard to demolish the media’s wall of silence. Just as Alice Miller wrote in her website:
"Humiliations, spankings and beatings, slaps in the face, betrayal, sexual exploitation, derision, neglect, etc. are all forms of mistreatment, because they injure the integrity and dignity of a child, even if their consequences are not visible right away. However, as adults, most abused children will suffer, and let others suffer, from these injuries. This dynamic of violence can deform some victims into hangmen who take revenge even on whole nations and become willing executors to dictators as unutterably appalling as Hitler and other cruel leaders. Beaten children very early on assimilate the violence they endured, which they may glorify and apply later as parents, in believing that they deserved the punishment and were beaten out of love. They don't know that the only reason for the punishments they have ( or in retrospect, had) to endure is the fact that their parents themselves endured and learned violence without being able to question it. Later, the adults, once abused children, beat their own children and often feel grateful to their parents who mistreated them when they were small and defenseless.
This is why society's ignorance remains so immovable and parents continue to produce severe pain and destructivity - in all "goodwill", in every generation. Most people tolerate this blindly because the origins of human violence in childhood have been and are still being ignored worldwide. Almost all small children are smacked during the first three years of life when they begin to walk and to touch objects which may not be touched. This happens at exactly the time when the human brain builds up its structure and should thus learn kindness, truthfulness, and love but never, never cruelty and lies. Fortunately, there are many mistreated children who find "helping witnesses" and can feel loved by them." Alice Miller
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