Sylvie Imelda Shene shared a memory from August 8, 2014.
- Sylvie Imelda Shene, Of course, she didn't understand. The repressed fears of the child she once was at the parents of being abandoned and rejected, now, transferred into the narcissists or sociopaths. As a child she could not have survived without her parents, but now as an adult, she could have survived without the narcissists or sociopaths, but instead she let her unresolved repressed fears silence her and stand with the narcissists or sociopaths to protect her from having to face and consciously experience those fears within the context of her own childhood.
- Sylvie Imelda Shene Yes, it’s cowardice and sad. It was very sad to witness. She sent me another card in the mail and when she got back at the end of the summer, she came to the gate saying: I bet you get a lot of compliments from everyone on your book!!! She didn't understand the depths of my book, but she knew I have written something good, truthful and profound. I tried to explain to her that my book was triggering people’s own childhood repression and taking it out on me, trying to make me their scapegoat and making the workplace hostile for me, that they rather destroy me than face their own painful truths. She wanted to hold on to her illusion and fantasies that the property manager was a good person and all the residents in the community are all good people and she didn't want to believe me. She didn't want to face the fact that a lot of people act just as if personality, pretending to be good people, but in fact are wolves in sheep’s clothing. And when all went down, she had no courage and like a scared little child that needs the parents’ approval, NOW, also needs the narcissists or sociopaths’ and their flocks’ approval and it was more important to her than make a stand for what is right. She was witnessing the psychological lynching of a person and stayed silent in the crowd letting it happening. They go to church and they pray, but then they have no problems mistreating their own children at home and other people in the workplace. Only a few residents called me apologizing for what the narcissists or sociopaths did to me and only about three or four had the courage to call and e-mail the narcissists or sociopaths letting them know what they did was wrong. And one got on the phone and called a friend to help me get another job right away with another company. This quote by Martin Luther King Jr come to mind:
- Sylvie Imelda Shene And here is the one card I got from a resident after the attempted psychological lynching went down, thanking me for my friendly greeting over the years and that they missed me. A few others called me or emailed me to thank me for my friendly service over the years also.
- Sylvie Imelda Shene And here is the card from the same residents in the last comment sent me after they read my book. A few more residents complimented me orally on my book, but most gave me the silent treatment and the narcissists or sociopaths started plotting the psychological lynching to destroy me:
Yep! Their goal is to feed of you until they suck you dry and then they discard you like a used object. Randomly they will give you the illusion of love to keep you hooked and to keep you exactly where they want you to be, playing the role of the scapegoat for transference effect, to temporarily and superficially alleviate their own childhood repression, so they don’t have to consciously feel their repressed feelings within the context of their own childhood in order to protect their “loving parents” or parents substitutes.